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The Book of Pet Love and Loss: Words of Comfort and Wisdom from Remarkable People

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A powerful collection of quotations by writers, leaders, and legends on the pain of losing a pet and overcoming grief.

An animal’s love is deep, uncomplicated, unconditional, and forgiving. “Affection without ambivalence” is how Sigmund Freud described the connection. “No matter how awful the day, or how awful I am behaving at any given moment, George doesn’t care,” writes journalist John Dickerson. “He finds me smoldering in my chair and dashes to my lap.” Our lives are intricately intertwined with our pets, and together, over time, we establish rituals that are as steady as a metronome. It’s no wonder the grief is crushing when they depart—even those who’ve had time to prepare describe feeling stunned, devastated, and cracked in two.

“We were a bit broken up over the death of our black Persian cat,” crime novelist Raymond Chandler confessed. “When I say a bit broken up, I am being conventional. For us it was a tragedy.” Nobel Prize–winning author V. S. Naipaul described the experience as “calamitous,” and writer May Sarton called it a “volcanic eruption of woe.” Poet Emily Dickinson was so bereft she asked for “Carlo died,” she announced in a letter to her friend Thomas Wentworth Higginson in 1866. “Would you instruct me now?”

The Book of Pet Love and Loss is a collection of quotations—poignant thoughts and memories discovered in letters, journals, diaries, memoirs, and other original sources—from beloved cultural figures who understood this singular experience so deeply, they felt compelled to write about it. This book dignifies the profound connection we share with our animal companions, but it also provides solace as mourners document their heartache over the loss of their cats, dogs, rabbits, birds, and other animals—even, in the case of Pablo Neruda, a mongoose. Their comforting and wise words are what every animal lover needs on this journey of heartbreak and healing.

235 pages, Kindle Edition

Published June 13, 2023

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1,371 reviews8,180 followers
November 4, 2023
This was the book I needed when Mel died

One day while at work, my co-worker burst into tears. She started sobbing at her desk, explaining that her beloved dog, Charlie, had died.

What can you tell someone whose whole world has stopped spinning?

Things will get better? Um their unconditional friend is dead and never coming back. How is it going to get better?


When I was 21, I was strolling along the Shiawassee County Animal Shelter when I heard a cute little kitten calling out to me.

I picked him up and he instantly curled inside my coat, purring, happy.

We were inseparable.

He saw me through some very difficult periods in life. When I lived in an apartment, he would start meowing with excitement anytime he heard anyone arriving through the community door. He was so loud that I wondered if anyone has ever filed a complaint about cat noise.

Melville was such a personality. He hated being picked up—he loathed it. But he slept beside me every night. I would call out, “Melly! Time for bed!” He would then trot back to the room, right next to me, as though he had an invisible leash.

People who visited my home would say, “I hate cats! Except this one!” Then, they would point to Melville who was offering up his belly, begging for pets, purring, and acting as though I didn’t just spend all day adoring him.

After ten beautiful years together, Mel started lingering in my lap. He had a serious illness until one day he passed.

Saying I was destroyed would be the understatement of the year. I felt like Melville was an extension of my soul, and the best part of me. Death is one of the only things truly final. He wasn’t coming back, and I didn’t know how it would get any better.

My life stopped, but everyone else was going around as though his life didn’t matter.

I did look for a book about pet grief and found nothing. Yes, there is that rainbow bridge poem, but it felt more like an email chain letter to me.

The Book of Pet Love & Loss will now be my go-to book for anyone suffering from the loss of their furry family member. It has quotes from lots of famous people and really captures the beauty of pet ownership and the process of grieving the loss.

A big caveat though: Sometimes you will need to seek out help. I was crying every single day from the moment I was awake until the moment I went to sleep. My counselor helped me to see Melville’s entire life instead of just the miserable end. It is completely OK to seek professional help.

*A big thank you to Simon & Schuster for a free copy of this book in exchange for my fair and honest review.

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630 reviews728 followers
April 12, 2023

My beloved toy maltese passed away almost a year ago. Although I have owned dogs continuously since I was twelve, this loss cut especially deep. Weighing about five pounds, Peanut was the first small dog I ever owned that I could pick up and cuddle with. I was his person, and his favorite thing to do was lay on me while I relaxed in my recliner reading. His beauty was unrivaled, his love for me complete. I've listened to podcasts for pet bereavement and skimmed a couple of books on the subject, but understood the stages of grief and was just looking for some commiseration, I suppose.

This book was the outgrowth of the author looking for the same balm after the loss of her cat Snowflake in 2012. She reached for "small portions of literary nourishment that would provide solace and perspective without requiring sustained concentration". She culled together musings from famous cultural figures such as Fred Rogers (Mr. Rogers Neighborhood), James Stewart, Ann Patchett, Raymond Chandler, Charles Schultz (of PEANUTS fame), Fiona Apple, Amy Tan, Billie Holiday, Helen Keller, Liberace, Keith Richards, Patti Smith, Oprah Winfrey- and many, many more- regarding their thoughts of grief following the death of their pet. There are also many photos of said celebrities with their pets, and some pages are just enlarged quotes from these cultural figures that are quite touching, profound- and so relatable. I found myself wistfully smiling and tearing up in kinship with these people who I never met mourning and saluting their pets, and it made me feel less alone in my grief. This was a lovely book and a great resource for people who don't want to read something cold and clinical outlining the stages of grief, but something very human and relatable as if commiserating among friends.

Thank you to the publisher Simon and Schuster for providing an advance reader copy via NetGalley.
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1,624 reviews446 followers
July 16, 2023
This makes a nice gift for someone who has just lost a pet. Quotations and vignettes from famous people who lost a best friend.
Profile Image for Olivia Caple.
312 reviews
June 23, 2023
Of course I cried multiple times reading this. I have tried to find books/writing that adequately explains my pain for so long, and that would hopefully make me feel less insane and hopeless. This book did just that. It was hard hitting and I deeply connected with it. I would say that Bader’s aim of creating a book in which people can turn to in the toughest of times for comfort has been met. There is definitely a lack of such books in publishing, and I’m just glad that this exists. I will be turning back to this text whenever I need it; which I’m sure I will.
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406 reviews
September 7, 2023
Thank you to Simon and Schuster for sending this book to me. This one is out and available now.

I received this book from the publisher and immediately set it aside. I just wasn’t ready for it I had no need for it currently but little did I know, in only a month or two it would bring me so much comfort after we lost Lucy. When someone understands how hard it is to lose a pet, it’s the only thing that can really help you in these dark moments of grief. This book is full of quotes and stories from people who have loved and lost pets. It really helped me to be able to relate and to have some beautiful words to keep me company. I highly recommend this to anyone going through a loss of a pet. Sometimes it’s alienating when others don’t really get it, but you are not alone and this book really helps cement that.
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71 reviews25 followers
January 15, 2025
On December 27th, 2024, I lost my beloved furry friend, Mila, and as you can imagine it was devastating. After this event, I began searching for books that addressed pet loss and grief and I found this one.

I enjoyed this book because it spotlights people who have understood that animals are not objects; they are living beings that feel and think, that are intelligent, and once they come into our lives become part of our family, of us.

Mila is not the first animal loss I've gone through, but it felt like the first one. The pain, the sadness, unease, and distress are unbearable and feel like brand new emotions.

The stories and quotes in this book are beautiful and conforting, I felt understood and that's something we all need in these tough times.
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59 reviews
May 8, 2024
Read this in less than 24 hours. Shoutout to Lizzie Monk for sending me this 🥹 Such important perspectives and provided a lot of healing for losing a beloved pet. ❤️‍🩹
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50 reviews
December 16, 2023
This book can easily be read in one sitting, but I've read a little each day like a devotional since my dog passed away. This is exactly the book I needed; famous figures putting my feelings about grief much more eloquently than I ever could! It's reflective and comforting. I plan on gifting this book in the future and reaching for it again myself.
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107 reviews6 followers
August 8, 2023
If you loved and lost a pet this book will give you some comfort - it did for me! To read all the different stories about famous ppl and their pets and to see all the photos , read all the quotes … to know that people out there are feeling as strongly about their pets as you do is a comfort in itself 🥰 thank you SimonBooks for the free gift! I really consider buying this book for everyone who will lose a pet they dearly loved … thank you to Simon & Schuster for the free review copy!
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652 reviews6 followers
August 23, 2023
Cleary feeling sentimental when I picked this up from the library. Fast paced book filled with quotes on the beauty of pets and short stories from celebrities and their most special companions.
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1,736 reviews30 followers
January 12, 2023
I’m not one who seeks out a sad book. And I am especially not one who can read a sad book about animals. I’m an empath and an animal lover. There’s not much more upsetting than thinking about losing a pet. So, normally I can’t picture picking up a book on the subject. But I have lost two this year. I have lost my Divya, our bottle baby, only months ago. I have lost my JB just days ago. I am grieving. This book appeared on Netgalley this morning and it felt like a sign, maybe this book will help.

Do I feel less sad after reading this? No. But I feel understood. I think that’s the whole point of this book. The entire book is about people whose pets really, truly mattered to them. They were family members and best friends. They were confidants. They made people laugh and love. They made life better. During the happy parts of this book, I laughed. During the sad parts, I cried. I’m lucky to have people in my life who understand how deep the loss of a pet is felt. Not everyone is lucky enough to have that compassion.

If you’re going through this and it would help to see decades worth of people feeling the way you feel, this book will be a help to you I think. Read it with a box of tissues handy.

I think Jackson Galaxy’s quotes were most reflective of my feelings but I saw myself in all of these quotes.

I got to read an early ebook edition from NetGalley. I started reading this and finished it all within a couple hours of starting.
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326 reviews15 followers
March 9, 2023
I received this ARC from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

I really enjoyed this one. It's a book about the love of pets, more than loss, to me. Yes, loss is there, but the love shines brighter than the sorry. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in mourning pets (cats) that have been gone for 40 years.
If you consider your pets a family member (not "like' a family member), you will enjoy this book.

Make sure a box of tissues is nearby!
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768 reviews11 followers
January 15, 2023
Having just lost my almost 17 year old cat, I knew that this would be a tough, but helpful read. Although it was difficult, it was a comforting read to learn about other people's loves and losses, and how important their pet was to their life. Well-written, and deeply comforting for me.

Thank you Netgalley and Simon & Schuster for giving me the opportunity to read and review this ARC!
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2,304 reviews26 followers
June 30, 2023
The Book of Pet Love and Loss

This wasn’t quite what I was expecting just losing my Minnie but it was interesting see how so many different people have grieved over their pets.
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18 reviews
January 3, 2024
Today marks exactly a month since I said goodbye to my beloved little corgi who was by my side for over 12 years. Losing her has been the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through, and I know the pain will never truly go away, but I was able to find so much comfort in this book full of quotes and stories about the beauty of sharing your life with a pet and dealing with the inevitable loss that all pet owners have to experience at some point.

I’ve learned over the past month just how lonely grieving a pet can feel, despite having an abundance of support around you. The world keeps moving, everyone around you keeps living, but you’re stuck trying to figure out how to go on when an extension of your soul is gone. It’s going to be hard to navigate these emotions for a long time, but this book truly helped me feel less alone in my grief. Reading the words of others who have beautifully explained the nuances of what I’ve been feeling helped my grieving mind feel seen.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who has recently lost a pet. It even has a spot on the first page for you to dedicate the book in loving memory to your baby. I will always cherish this book and will definitely be keeping it nearby so I can flip through it when I’m missing my girl.
Profile Image for Emma Hancock.
62 reviews
November 8, 2023
A beautiful anthology from many different prolific voices, from authors to musicians to artists, who come together for one reason: they loved an animal. Dogs and cats to horses and birds, and many more. All these people have loved an animal and are sharing their experience from life to death. Realizing you're not the only one who has gone through this, and will not be the last. A book I can see myself going back to over and over.
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48 reviews11 followers
March 3, 2024
What sadness my husband and I feel now that our beautiful Nova Scotia Duck Tolling Retriever has passed on. We immediately picked up some pet loss books to read and found the stories and writings in this book to be of comfort. Nothing will replace our beloved Daisy Mae but time is a great healer. "When you lose a dog, you not only lose the animal that has been your friend, you also lose a connection to the person you have been." Jennifer Finney Boylan
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29 reviews
April 28, 2024
This is a beautiful book that has supported and comforted me over the past month following the loss of my beloved dog Sadie. Anyone who loves any animal will sadly someday face the pain and grief of their passing, as their time with us is so short. This book was a soothing balm as I processed the unexpected death of my pup. Reading about the experience of loss from many well known figures was comforting and reminded me of both the love and loss we all share as animal lovers. I recommend this book for a reader who has lost a beloved pet, or to share with a friend or family member grieving this huge loss.
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132 reviews
February 22, 2024
"They say if you're lucky you'll get one really great dog in your life. Other dogs may do their jobs in their own unique and perfectly wonderful ways, but there will always be that dog that no dog will replace, the dog that will make you cry even when it's been gone for more years than it could have ever lived."
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155 reviews1 follower
November 12, 2024
Cried a lot. This was necessary to my healing journey & ill come back to it.
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41 reviews
January 21, 2024
“They say, if you’re lucky, you’ll get one really great dog in your life. Other dogs may do their jobs in their own unique and perfectly wonderful ways, but there will always be that dog that no dog will ever replace.”

It’s been easy to feel like I’ve been “overreacting” to how hard losing my dog has been. It’s been 7 months and the grief is still overwhelming most days. This book made me feel so much less alone in my feelings. I felt deeply seen and validated. Everyone’s journey is different. Definitely recommend for when you’re trying to find a way to put your feelings into words. 🫶🏻
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31 reviews13 followers
May 19, 2024
Wonderful, comforting and poetic
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61 reviews2 followers
February 22, 2025
We lost our 4rs old kitty Ziggy a week ago. I still miss her horribly. This book has really helped me with my sadness.
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22 reviews
November 26, 2023
A much needed read. It's amazing how our pets have such an impact on our lives, no matter how big or small.
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858 reviews127 followers
January 31, 2023
Losing a pet is hard. Grieving the loss of pet is just as hard too. The bond between a pet and owner is unlike any other relationship. This book was a helpful guide and comforting to read at a time of a recent pet loss of my cat of 22 years. This book had wonderful quotations of memories and thoughtful moments people had with their pets. It included some famous celebrities and them talking about their pet. I loved hearing their stories of their pet and the special memories they remembered. It helped me in reflecting on my own personal life journey. Beautifully written this book for pet lovers. Many thanks to Simon & Schuster and NetGalley for the eARC. All opinions expressed in this review are my own.
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19 reviews4 followers
February 23, 2023
A truly beautiful collection of works from all different backgrounds that evoke deep emotional connections. Any reader young or old will gain a new perspective about their loyal, furry companions.
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1,918 reviews479 followers
July 18, 2023
When our housetrained pet Dutch rabbit became ill we took her to the University of Pennsylvania Small Animal Clinic. Weighing only five pounds, they couldn’t take much blood at a time for testing. She became so ill, we had to give up and euthanize her.

The next day at work, I cried so much they sent me home. Puzzled. Because it was a rabbit, after all. What was the big deal?

But Nasturtium had personality. She ran to greet us when we came home. She spent hours on our lap, gritting her teeth in contentment, eyes closed, as we stroked her silky ears. And she literally was living on love for weeks as her liver was destroyed by hepatitis.

Since then, we have lost two dachshunds and four Shiba Inus.

I still miss our last two Shibas. They spent their early years as puppy mill breeders. Kamikaze was so comical and brash, and shy Suki loved a good roll on her back. As they aged, they became dependent on each other. Suki helped blind Kamikaze find the water bowl and the way to the door. They cuddled together at night next to my bed.

I can’t bring myself to adopt another animal. I can’t face another death. With my childhood friend Pepper, the dog who taught me about the love of a pet, I have lost seven friends over my seven decades.

Sara Bader wrote The Book of Pet Love & Loss because she knew she needed this book. So do many of us who have experienced the special love of a companion animal and the grief of their loss.

Bader collected quotations and wrote stories about famous people and their pets, collected in chapters that address the seasons of our pet relationships: love and companionship, watching our friends decline, loss, and grief. She shares the stories of people and their pets, like Helen Keller and Fred Rogers, Anne Patchett and John Steinbeck.

I learned the Amy Sedaris had a pet rabbit! And that Anton Chekhov had dachshunds running through the rooms and digging in the yard. Dean Koontz wrote about the uncomplaining acceptance of suffering in dogs, their graceful acceptance of death that he saw as a role model. The day after Trixie died, he was unable to write a word. May Sarton was so grieved she forgot to pay the vet. Jane Goodall was devastated by her childhood dog’s death; Rusty was a part of her, she wrote.

The time comes to find another pet. It never gets easier, but as Jackson Galaxy wrote, “Well, of course not; I would hope not, anyway. If it did, it would mean that it wasn’t the companion that died, but something inside us along the way.”

Stories comfort us with the knowledge that we are not alone in our experiences. This special book will comfort many.

Thanks to Simon & Shuster for a free book.
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