Practicing Presence: A Mother's Guide to Savoring Life through the Photos You're Already Taking

by Joy Prouty, J.J. Heller (Foreword)

Your camera isn't a distraction--it's your portal to presence

As a mother, life often feels like it is passing by in a blur. You take countless pictures trying to freeze time and capture the memories, but in looking back find you barely even remember experiencing the moments. But what if there were a way to preserve your family's story while also becoming fully present within it?

Combining the science of memory preservation with photography principles, professional photographer Joy Prouty shows you how to exit survival mode and enter the present moment through the photos you're already taking. With the camera as your magnifying glass for meaning, you'll learn to let go of perfect pictures, embody self-compassion, and rewire your brain to experience more joy in the memories you are making right now. Through human stories, poetic motherly wisdom, and gorgeous full-color photographs, Practicing Presence is your invitation to show up to the practice of fully living.

Genres: Parenting, Photography, Nonfiction

237 pages, Kindle Edition

Published August 22, 2023

Reviews

[Maryssa Boyd · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is one of my new favorite books of all time. I felt like Joy Prouty wrote this book specifically for me. No book has resonated with me quite so deeply as a creative, mom, and wonder-seeker.

I cried multiple times throughout reading this book. The photos, poems, and stories Prouty shares touch the soul, and come together in an artful masterpiece. Laced with wisdom and practical application, this book is one I will be thinking about for a long time.

So often I feel guilty for the large quantity of photos I take as a mom. This book felt like a gentle invitation to lean into the weightiness of the moment, to give my creative eye permission to feel the beauty of the here and now and capture it in a photo. I was encouraged to, more than just capture the moment, live through the moment, modeling to my child what it looks like to be present to joy.

What a gift this book is. I would absolutely love to add it to my personal collection and return to it often.

[Jess · Rating 5 out of 5]

Joy has gifted us with a gorgeous book. Perfect for anyone looking to be more present, soak in more of life, and feel a new sense of worth in themselves. There are so many beautiful gems inside of this book and I am so glad to have the physical copy in addition to having been granted the privilege of the digital advance copy from the publisher and netgalley. This will be a great addition to any mom’s shelves and would also make a wonderful gift.

[Christy · Rating 3 out of 5]

I would give it 3.5 stars.
Very beautiful, there are little practical tidbits I’ve gleaned that have already altered my perspective/made me look differently at how I take pictures of my kids.
very ‘feelings’ inspired/driven which is what I tend to be very bad at diving into, so maybe that’s a pro and a con? It feels like there’s a missing piece in her message, some incompleteness there.

[Rachel Sedlacek · Rating 4 out of 5]

I listened to this on audiobook while PMS-ing and cried in public more than once :’)

[Carissa Mennen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Can’t fully endorse her theology but if you’re looking for a book that makes you feel seen, encouraged, and empowered as a mother who struggles to be present, it’s nearly flawless.

[Conrade Yap · Rating 4 out of 5]

It is a familiar sight. At a restaurant, before eating the food on the plate, people would bring out their phones to snap a picture. They would then post it on social media to tell the world about what they are eating. Almost everybody has a smartphone these days. Many have more than one due to the rapid technology upgrades and device depreciation. Instead of snapping the picture, posting it, and forgetting it, how about learning to take time to let the photos help us appreciate the little things in life? Not only can that provide a sense of relief in an emotionally fast-paced world, but it also offers some rest and respite for the body to heal. Using the camera as the main tool to capture meaningful moments, author Joy Prouty shares her journey of photography and how the photos enable her to savor life and affirm relationships. She shows us that we do not need to photoshop, crop, or manipulate faces just to appear perfect instead of real. She applies this orientation to herself by taking pictures as they are instead of posed. Take pictures without judgment. Any picture taken would then be considered one that contains something worth remembering. Authentic vs. artificial. Real vs. Posed. Actual vs. Perfect. In all of these, Prouty convincingly argues for the former. In fact, it is the unposed, imperfect, and candid snapshots that enable us to remember and tell our stories of loved ones. Part One is a personal story about her journey through discovering the importance of being present. Using personal interactions with her children, readers can share Prouty's experiences with childlike imagination, discover the true meaning of joy, and empathize with difficult moments in life. She even takes issue with her own name (Joy) as she reflects upon her melancholic disposition. One intriguing assertion is how "mothers are the memory makers." Part Two looks at the nitty-gritty of how to practice the art of presence. Using the camera as a key tool to create memories, Prouty encourages us to develop a habit of attentiveness to those precious moments in life. A picture taken is evidence that something there is worth our time and attention. She gives us a 4-step presence principle as follows;

1) Slow down and breathe
2) Set an intention and write it everywhere
3) Engage in a sensory-rich moment
4) Focus and take a picture

Part Three is where the practice deals with inner spirituality with awareness of our true worth. Prouty takes us through various tenets of self-awareness and development. Practices like taking our own photographs toward self-validation without critiquing them. Using the presence principle, she helps us apply this to cultivating compassion; acknowledging beauty; welcoming light; seeking to strengthen our foundations; knowing our bodies; recognizing our strengths; leaving behind a legacy; and being mindful of our creativity. These and many more help us practice true presence.

My Thoughts
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This is a unique book that highlights three key areas: Be Present; Be Real; and Be Thankful. Firstly, we are reminded to take time to be present for the more important things in life. We live in a fast-paced world. Phrases like "I'm busy," "I've not enough time," and "I need a vacation," are becoming commonplace among colleagues, acquaintances, friends, and family. Sometimes, even after taking a long vacation, one might even say they need a vacation to recover from the vacation! Parenting has many challenges which might explain why there are so many couples reluctant to have children, or for that matter, more children. Here, Prouty shows us how we can reclaim childlike imagination to learn to take time and enjoy the moment. Parents will know how time flies. Before they can realize it, children will have grown up and if their younger selves are not photographed, they might be lost forever.

Secondly, we need to cultivate greater authenticity beginning with ourselves. In our efforts to take the perfect shot, the taking of photographs can often mask our real selves. Social media is full of people who Instagram their best looks even when they do not particularly feel that great. I like the chapter about "Letting Go of Perfect Pictures." Prouty notes that far too many people are taking perfect pictures because they are too conscious of what other people think. The trouble is that when that happens, we become slaves to the opinions of others. If we truly desire authenticity, we need to free ourselves from the burden of trying to please everybody else. Learning to flee from the fear of shame is essential.

Thirdly, it is a reminder for us to be thankful for who we are. I appreciate how Prouty uses the ubiquitous camera and applies its use to the cultivation of personal spirituality. Call it the spiritual side of photography. With nearly half the book dedicated to the practice of being present to self virtues, this book feels like a self-help book. In particular, I appreciate the poetry at the end of each chapter that helps us be thankful. Thanks to Prouty, taking photographs will never be the same again.

Rating: 4 stars out of 5.

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This book has been provided courtesy of Baker Books via NetGalley without requiring a positive review. All opinions offered above are mine unless otherwise stated or implied.

[Markie · Rating 4 out of 5]

"Practicing Presence" by Joy Prouty is a heartfelt and insightful guide for mothers seeking to savor the precious moments of family life through photography. This book offers a unique perspective on using the camera as a tool to not only preserve memories but also to cultivate mindfulness and be fully present in the present moment.

As a mother, it's common to feel like life is passing by in a whirlwind, and the desire to capture every moment through photographs can sometimes lead to a disconnect from the actual experience. Joy Prouty, a professional photographer, presents a refreshing approach that combines the science of memory preservation with photography principles to help mothers find a balance between preserving memories and truly experiencing them.

The book gently guides mothers out of the mode of merely surviving and urges them to embrace the present moment with their families. Rather than striving for perfect pictures, Prouty encourages self-compassion and an appreciation for the imperfect yet authentic moments that make up the family's story.

Through her expertise as a photographer, Joy Prouty teaches readers how to use their cameras as tools to magnify the meaning in the moments they capture. By approaching photography with mindfulness, mothers can find a deeper sense of joy and fulfillment in the memories they create.

"Practicing Presence" is more than just a photography guide; it is a heartfelt and poetic exploration of motherhood and the profound connection that can be cultivated through the art of photography. The book is beautifully illustrated with full-color photographs, enhancing the reader's understanding and appreciation of the concepts presented.

Joy Prouty shares human stories and motherly wisdom throughout the book, making it relatable and inspiring for mothers of all walks of life. Her writing style is engaging, warm, and inviting, making it easy for readers to connect with her message.

Ultimately, "Practicing Presence" is an invitation for mothers to be fully present in their family's journey, cherishing the moments they capture through photography and finding joy in the everyday experiences of motherhood. It offers valuable insights and practical tips for embracing the art of mindful photography and cultivating a deeper appreciation for the beauty of life's fleeting moments.

In conclusion, Joy Prouty's "Practicing Presence" is a heartwarming and empowering read that beautifully weaves together the art of photography, mindfulness, and the essence of motherhood. It's a book that will resonate with mothers looking to create meaningful connections with their families and savor the richness of life through the lens of their camera.






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[Brandi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Joy Proutry, author of Practicing Presence, A Mother’s Guide to Savoring the Life Through the Photos You’re Already Taking, has shared her insights and examples to slowing down, capturing life, as is, and enjoying the moment. A couple of her points in the intro really stood out and spoke to me: “By taking a picture, we declare an anthem of hope: something here is worth remembering. Practicing presence through mindful photography was gently rewiring my brain for self-compassion, joy, and peace. Paint the spirit.” Basically, let go of what pictures are supposed to look like and embrace what they capture.

The book is broken into several sections: Why Becoming Present Feels So Hard, Practicing the Art of Presence, Coming Home to Yourself in the Present. Poignant poems in-between the chapters to capture the essence of the message.

I think it is important to note that this book is part autobiography, part inspirational encouragement and part “how-to.” Some “how-to” instructions and exercises are included, but they are descriptive and written out in an explanation. This is not a step by step, visual tutorial. This is really about you practicing with the tool you have (be it phone or actual camera), getting to know it and being willing to just practice in the moment. There is a lot of encouragement to let go of expectations for the perfect picture and being at peace with the moment you do capture. Additionally, exercises are included to assist you in being present in various moments and allowing yourself to fully capture that moment, unedited. I loved that at the end there is a blessing for practicing presence is included at the end. Mothers are doing their very best, day to day, and don’t need the additional guilt or worry that it is passing us by. We truly can be present in the moment and embrace each moment as we encounter them. God’s grace is sufficient.

I received a complimentary copy from the publisher via NetGalley and all opinions expressed are solely my own, freely given.

[Sharyn Moore · Rating 5 out of 5]

Practicing Presence!
How timely is this book? Not being a mother, I still consider in this time of the unknowns that abound in this world, our country, our present and the future, how one can approach raising, loving and educating children, as a team of mothers and fathers, family members, friends, and neighbors all encouraging and holding on together.
Being Present in every way is thoughtful , physically and emotionally, with words, wisdom, and self care.
Joy Prouty has approached practicing presence with her own research, deep attention to her family, and workshops for mothers who will pass it on to their spouses and friends.
Practicing Presence
is enhanced by creating memories as well- and photography from its conception made the world see, remember and reflect on where we might wish to change the future for the better.
Joy’s photography is the other side of her voice, her vision to see and capture the beauty and the harder times to find a wiser, more thoughtful and hopeful path to those being nurtured now, to become our future generations.
I was informed and inspired by the stories told, the portraits that are words in their own.
Get this book for yourself and others and be drawn in to practicing presence- something for everyone to consider.

[Elizabeth Mayberry · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 Stars: Not exactly what I was expecting. A lot more memoir and a lot less photography. It came across a bit more "find all you need in yourself" than "find yourself in Christ" at the end which I didn't love. Joy has walked through a lot of grief/ darkness and photography has helped her find the light and hope - this was the main premise of this book. There were a couple photography tips at the beginning that I put into practice which was my favorite part. Ironically, I wish there was more about motherhood and photography? It was more introspective than either of these things. I enjoyed all the photos of hers that she included but wish she commented on each of them instead of just a couple of them. I didn't love the calls to action at the end, but really did love the poems (they were an unexpected gift!) So overall, 3 or 4 stars but mostly just not what I was expecting ... but not terrible. Seeing Ann Voskamp in the acknowledgements makes sense because the language was very flowery and definitely written in a similar emotional writing style. At least it is a very pretty book to have on the shelves!

[Jess · Rating 3 out of 5]

I have mixed feelings about this book. On one hand, it is absolutely beautiful in words and photographs. I don’t think I’ve ever underlined a book so much and been so moved in so many ways by the variety of ideas presented. Parts one and two (Why Becoming Present Feels So Hard and Practicing the Art of Presence) have great chapters and are more how I imagined the book to be. Part three (almost 2/3 of the book and titled Coming Home to Yourself in the Present) is very… abstract. There were still beautiful quotes and ideas but I was not able to connect with  the subject matter or make sense of what, exactly, she was trying to say. I couldn’t even summarize it and I just finished reading the book. I would suggest getting this from the library to see if it’s something that speaks to you.
I was given a copy of this book via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review, though I also purchased a physical copy for myself.

[Danielle Douthit · Rating 4 out of 5]

If you know me, you know I love being a mom.
I also love taking pictures.
I really, really love taking candids of my family.

This book, Practicing Presence, only further enforced the meaning behind my love of doing so & gave me a different perspective. I have often felt I was alone in the way pictures make me feel so deeply connected to (and empathetic towards) the subjects & have at times felt guilty for having my phone (because I don’t have a legit camera) out to capture moments that are meaningful for me. However, I don’t feel guilty. I know I can take pictures & still be present in the moment.
Thank you @netgalley, @joyprouty, & @readbakerbooks for sending an ARC copy of this book for review consideration. All opinions are my own. #netgalley #practicingpresence #goodreads #bookstagram

[Joy Marker · Rating 5 out of 5]

Living a creative life, does not require one to be an artist. Living fully present in the moments does not mean you are avoiding the responsibilities of life. Practicing Presence is a book takes you into a better understanding of how life is not an either/or option but rather an acceptance of what is and allowing yourself to be vulnerable and honest.

This book is written from a perspective of a mom with children at home, but the message applies to anyone wishing to live fully present, live a creative life and capture all the ordinary moments.

[Daniel Murphy · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book is definitely written for mothers … something I am certainly not and never will be. However, I enjoyed the book! Prouty is a gifted, professional photographer who shares her experiences of using photo taking to help her overcome challenges. She talks about art, practical camera techniques, principles for photography in everyday life, and perhaps most of all she provides authentic encourage to mothers.

[Ty Bjorklund · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is fantastic. It is not just for photographers, but any creatives and really mothers that just need the reminder of the importance of presence in their life. Her reference to application and how to do this in the monotony of motherhood is just so refreshing and a beautiful reminder. Her work throughout the book is also astounding and beautiful and is perfect to sit on a coffee table as well.

[Brittany Gunter · Rating 2 out of 5]

I liked the first half of this book but I just couldn't get into part 2. Too many new age references especially for a book labeled as Christian. I like the idea of slowing down and being more present and using our camera as a tool to focus on the beauty of our lives but all the renewing our minds with light and manifestation talk was too much for me and I didn't finish.

[Ashley · Rating 5 out of 5]

Vulnerable, creative and curious. Thank you Joy for inviting others in for a glimpse of your journey. As a professional photographer and mother this book resonated in ways I didn't know I needed, I found it encouraging and it also made me feel a little squirmy and uncomfortable at times, pushing me to pursue more, not to settle.

[Katie Troh · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is lovely! It's tagged as "Christian" but I think it's a bit misleading. You don't need to be Christian to enjoy this book & I think labeling it as such may actually deter people from reading something potentially great for them. It's pertinent for our time & I'm grateful to have it.

[Clancy · Rating 5 out of 5]

What a lovely book - I loved the message, the photographs- I am inspired. Thank you Joy Prouty

[Jamie Polivka · Rating 5 out of 5]

Beautiful beautiful book.

[mairead! · Rating 5 out of 5]

“Joy in motherhood is not meant to be a crumb.”

[Cassey Ballinger · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such a beautiful human, photographer and writer. Loved every ounce of this book 💕

[Holly Bray · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was beauty at every turn. From the photographs to the poetry, Joy Prouty has given us a gift and charge to be our authentic selves, in whatever way that looks for us. Just lovely.

[Areej Kiwan · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a piece of fine art ..

[Valerie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Beautiful and inspiring book to really get you excited about being present and photographing that experience. I’m excited to use the ideas in my new years goals!

[Hannah · Rating 2 out of 5]

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[Christy · Rating 3 out of 5]

It's not badly written and the information is not bad, but not everyone needs to write a book. This could have easily been a podcast discussion or a blog post.

[Jennifer Floyd · Rating 5 out of 5]

for any mother looking to capture the raw beauty of childhood, this is a must-read. it's one I pull off the shelf often when my personal memory keeping is in a slump.

[Veronika Hortt · Rating 3 out of 5]

I’m a big fan of Joy Prouty and have been following her work in photography from 10 years. Her book is just so raw, genuine and so tender. She opens up a window to her heart for the reader to look through and she shares the high and the lows of her life. If you see her beautiful work you would think her life is so perfect and magical, but in her book she opens up about her personal struggles. I couldn’t help but just appreciate hearing about her journey all while holding your hand and telling you that the good and bad in your life is all picture worthy, deep, and beautiful. She encourages mothers to document with photos the tender moments we experience as we raise our families and to also hang on for the hard times which also need photos so you can look back and draw strength from it. Documenting everything helps you share the beauty of life so that one day your children (and your grandchildren) can see it and treasure your and their family story.