Assertiveness Training: How to Stand Up for Yourself, Boost Your Confidence, and Improve Assertive Communication Skills

by Chase Hill

Have you spent the better portion of your life physically and mentally unable to strive for what you really want , passively riding the waves as they come? Are you constantly considerate of others’ feelings, having made too many compromises in the past that have left you feeling unfulfilled and empty? You may currently be facing an unsettling internal conflict, wondering how you can assert yourself and express your genuine thoughts, needs, and opinions without being aggressive or disliked by those around you. Your generosity and kindness are indeed a double-edged sword – they may feel like your weaknesses, but you need to realize that they are also two of your most admirable strengths. Only then will you be able to find real balance in your life. Being assertive isn't synonymous with being aggressive or unfriendly – it is very much possible to be confident and firm all while being polite and kind . True assertiveness, rooted in a real inner desire to build relationships instead of destroying them , is a rare and precious commodity among people nowadays. The mere fact that you're striving for it shows off your undeniable strength and ability to transform and evolve as a human being. There's no reason to be held back by discomfort and fear anymore – with the right training, your timid nature will undoubtedly subside, making room for the assertive person you've always longed to be. In Assertiveness Training , you will

Genres: Self Help

190 pages, Hardcover

Published August 22, 2021

Reviews

[Magda · Rating 2 out of 5]

Basic

Next time I’m asked from a coworker to do some of their work I’ll say: no thanks

[Ananta Govinda · Rating 5 out of 5]

Chase Hill has a great way making of making you open your eyes and see what you have been doing wrong. The book did help with my confidence, however, I still have a long way to go. He suggests ways in which you can change the way you perceive yourself, in order to make others treat you with respect.
Personally, I’ve always let people push me around, in my social life, as well as in my work life, and I’ve never been confident enough to put a stop to it, in a firm, but gentle way. The book acts only as a guide, it won’t magically change your whole personality and make you achieve your goals. You still have to work for it. You have to become uncomfortable and make it your new normal, if you want the training in this book to work. The book will guide you on how to break a vicious circle.

If you have problems in your day-to-day life and if you have low self-esteem, pick up this book and give it a try.

[Katie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Having not read other books on the topic I did find this very interesting, very informative and I related to many points discussed. The book covered passiveness, assertiveness and aggressiveness in a balanced way and provided good advice for a range of situations. The language throughout was firm but gentle and encouraging. Each chapter was consice so it was easy to take away the key points.

I haven't put into practice any of the ways to be more assertive yet but I highlighted a lot of points in the book to come back to.

I would recommend this book if you want to be more assertive in different parts of your life.

[Berat Onur Ersen · Rating 4 out of 5]

A very easy and beneficial read for soft hearted people and people pleasers.

If you cannot say "No" when you have to or if you don't want to do when someone wants something from you that you cannot deliver, then this is the book you shall read.

Many tactics and behaviors recommended in this book are targeting to transform you into someone with a strong personality, and character boundaries that no one can ever try to pass.

[Helfren · Rating 3 out of 5]

How to be assertive, how to be more firm and how to actually say no when you want to say no.

A lot of things I learned in this book and one of them is most likely how to stand your ground against oppositions even when the structure is against you. Sometimes the person you have to be firm is not your enemies but mostly friend in disguise. So, you have to at times delay, or use the phrase, let me get back to you, to gather yourself and really compose a concrete yes or concrete no.

[Andy Manning · Rating 5 out of 5]

Assertiveness Training is a fantastic guide for anyone looking to speak up and set boundaries without guilt. The narrator’s clear delivery makes complex concepts easy to understand, and the exercises are actionable in everyday life. I appreciated the balance of theory and practice, which helped me feel more confident in professional and personal situations. Highly recommended for self-improvement listeners!

[Jennifer Rickard · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good Advice

I consider myself an introvert and this book has given me some practical tips on how to respond to difficult situations and guidance on some self exploration techniques. I know this will be a book I re-read multiple times because there is so much information to absorb.

[Cami · Rating 2 out of 5]

“Assertiveness is the ability to stand up for yourself or other people in a calm, positive way without being aggressive or upsetting others. Assertive people express their thoughts and feelings in an appropriate and respectful manner.”

[Samantha Christiansen · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book gives many examples and tips to assist anyone in being assertive. I hope that the appropriate 21-day challenge will help me gain a better understanding of my feelings and not to feel bad when standing my ground in telling someone no.

[Saleh Sulaiman Al Omar · Rating 4 out of 5]

By reading this book, I learned how I can improve my assertiveness skills. I will apply the advice in my daily life

[Charlie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Super informative and useful. Maybe I could read it back one more time.

[AUSTIN LEE · Rating 5 out of 5]

There are plenty of practical solutions. Good read

[GypsySoulFireYoga · Rating 3 out of 5]

Same old, same old. Know your boundaries and enforce them, keep a journal, keep a self compliment and gratitude log etc.

[Neha Sharma · Rating 4 out of 5]

Practical, simply written and useful in day-to-day life.

[Nick Nordstrom · Rating 4 out of 5]

Helpful, but nothing groundbreaking. Good examples and plans for integration into the real world. but not enough in the way of prep and goal-keeping / tracking.

[Madalina · Rating 3 out of 5]

Useful book on how to learn how to say “no” without feeling guilty and the other offended. Among other advices that you resonate with.

[Amy Sue · Rating 4 out of 5]

Insightful, helped me recognize how to express my feelings in a constructive manner.

[Bojan Avramovic · Rating 3 out of 5]

Prosecno. Povrsno. Minimalno korisno.

[Alex Mihov · Rating 4 out of 5]

It was OK.

[Maria · Rating 5 out of 5]

A real gem. Practical, but not preachy. Easy to read, but at the same time it gives you things to think about more deeply. While reading the book and trying to practice with the techniques given in the book in my own life, I felt like the author was walking next to me the whole time during this journey, and I personally loved that.