In Brian Mendler's newest book, published in 2022, he provides strategies for working with "That One Kid." The one who can make life miserable for the other 25. This book focuses on that one. You will find many of the ideas and strategies fit all kids. But my goal is to help you succeed with the one nobody else in your building can reach.
-Discover the best strategy to succeed with oppositional defiant kids.
-Learn the number one motivation killer of kids in school.
-Understand exactly why kids misbehave and specific strategies for changing their behavior.
-Master my four-step process for preventing power struggles.
-Learn the two most powerful defusing words in the English language.
-Discover a specific phrase guaranteed to prevent problem behaviors.
-There are two times it is ok to remove a student from class. Learn exactly what to say so they want to return.
-Eliminate student complaints that things aren't fair, once and for all.
It’s clear that this book was written by an upper level administrator, and a lot of the advice given feels a bit out of tune with the current state of education. The large theme is that good student-teacher relationships solve EVERY problem with behavior when that just isn’t the reality. I have a few notes and takeaways from this book that I’ll try out in my classroom but this cannot be the end-all be-all to that “one kid.”
The book “That One Kid” provided many ideas and strategies for a teacher to use in the classroom when dealing with extremely challenging students. He provided mini personal stories and stories from other teachers, showing how they implemented strategies and how the students reacted. This was a good read. It should’ve been a quick read, but it took me a while to get through the 130 pages in the book.
You may be a teacher and for those teachers this is a must read. If you are anyone else that spends time around kids this is a must read. If you think you could help in a school or community center or church this is a must read. And parents you should read it too.