hey. hello. hi. tis i, the frenchiest fry. i don’t remember the last time i reviewed a book, and i’m not going to check. HOWEVER — the raven cycle saga has meant everything to me. the raven cycle is still and will most likely forever be, my favorite series of all time. the dreamer trilogy i have much more complicated feelings about, but that’s a conversation for another time. all that is to say, i owe it to these books to give them my informal formal goodbye. so, without further ado, here is my very, very disorganized 2 am musings on greywaren.
i would like to start with a disclaimer: i don’t ever get personal on here. i only have like five people from my real life on here, and i don’t like sharing stuff on the internet. but i’m an emotional wreck right now and i feel like it, so here we go.
i discovered the raven boys shortly after turning fifteen and shortly after developing an eating disorder. late summer/early fall 2019 was spent starving myself and binging the raven cycle books, then immediately listening to the audiobooks. i got into an analysis podcast about it, and i listened to that religiously too. covid hit and i was reading fanfiction, and i was looking at fanart, and i had a raven cycle blog. i fell into the deepest depression of my life fall 2020. one night, after spending hours staring at the night sky in the freezing cold, i stumbled inside and eating disordered myself into numbness. hunched over my empty cereal bowl, i put on the dream thieves audiobook to drown it all out. the scene that started playing was the one towards the end, when opal asks ronan “why do you hate you?” and ronan lynch tells her: “i don’t”
i don’t.
i felt hope for the first time in a long, long time.
april 2021, i was clutching that same book while my mom drove me to my first ed treatment appointment. after the appointment, i spent the rest of the day curled up on the couch with ronan lynch. i came to that same part.
“why do you hate you?”
“i don’t”
again. hope.
call down the hawk happened at the height of my illness, mister impossible happened only weeks after starting recovery. now, fall 2022, greywaren is out and i have read it, and i no longer refer to my eating disorder in the present tense. if we’re being technical, i consider myself recovered now for as long as i’d been sick when i first read the raven cycle. these books bookended the biggest challenge of my life. they got me through the worst, truly.
okay, now that that’s out of the way: the dreamer trilogy still doesn’t feel like the raven cycle. and that’s okay. it could never be her, quite honestly. still, there are multiple parts i love (the adam/ronan parts and the coming of age arc, namely), and even some that resonate harder with me than the raven cycle themes.
the dreamer trilogy is mainly about that weird stage between high-school and adulthood. you know the one, you’re not a teen, not an adult? i was fifteen when call down the hawk came out, so this originally went over my head. but i’m eighteen now, a freshman in college. i felt for ronan. i felt for him hard. i always do, which is the uncanny thing. ronan and i were self-destructive and devastated at the same time. i watched him heal with wonder: could i do the same? i did. and now we’re growing up together. there’s this whole millennial thing about harry potter and growing up, like they grew up with harry throughout the series. i was very young when those books came out, but i think i grew up with ronan lynch. not out of adolescence, like harry. but into adulthood.
as for greywaren specifically, it was absolutely mind-bending. i think i understand what happened (im currently functioning on minimal brain space) but i’ll definitely have to reread it. and yeah, while i did love all the ronan and declan scenes, i did have a few issues that restrain me from a five star rating:
- i’m still not crazy invested in hennessy or jordan. i like them okay, but as side characters. their chapters bored me in this book, if i’m being honest. i love jordan and declan though. truly, maggie stiefvater invented romance.
- similarly, i never did care about carmen or liliana. not really much else to say about them, except their chapters still read like chores i have to do to earn ronan and declan.
- bryde is still meh tbh.
- i’m a little more disappointed about matthew’s arc though. ronan grew up and discovered who he was. declan found love and peace and finally allowed himself to grieve his father. matthew, on the other hand, never really fulfilled himself as character. i kept waiting for him to strike me, but i’m still kinda indifferent? again, declan was spectacularly developed, and ronan is forever my darling, so i guess one lynch brother had to fall flat.
- as happy as i was about gansey and blue’s appearance, i have to say, a part of me is still devastated about noah. he really is gone, isn’t he? i didn’t expect him to be mentioned. but it still hurts.
- there are few things that were like ???? for instance, adam breaks up with ronan for, like, a single day. and then he comes crawling back and delivers the best monologue on adam parrish ever and it’s my favorite scene in the book. it still felt like unnecessary conflict though.
- also mor and the new fenian? tf were they doing at the barns at the end? is ronan lynch really just like. okay with two people masquerading with his parents’ faces around his house??? why were they even there in the first place????
- also, the whole ronan-and-adam-are-lost-in-the-ether-forever-oh-no was bullshit, didn’t believe it for a second, pissed me off. (matthew, on the other hand, i did actually think was gone for good at the end. he wasn’t, but maggie got me there.)
- ok wait. so i do actually have a bone to pick. changing topics completely, but seriously maggie. wtf??? why the hell would she change the whole ronan/niall dynamic last minute? why!!! okay so apparently declan was always niall’s actual favorite son, niall only gave ronan more attention because he wanted ronan to feel loved so ronan didn’t destroy the world, yada yada. i’m fine with ronan not being the one to find out the dirt on his dad. he already came to terms with him and his death and his grief in the raven cycle. declan had an absolutely incredible, gut-wrenching arch about just that.
but niall allegedly pretending to love ronan best gave me pause. it isn’t fair, to be honest. ronan’s character introduction in the raven boys is about how he loved his dad more than his brothers did. it’s heavily implied throughout the series that niall loved ronan the most too. that’s special. it’s maybe not fair, but i think it is sacred. why couldn’t maggie just have let ronan have that? i know she came up with that on the spot when she decided to maximize the emotional punch with declan. she really said “do you know what would throw the readers for a loop? taking this relationship that’s been established as one thing over a decade and saying it’s FAKE lmao! wait! that’s not enough! niall was actually chill with straight up murdering baby ronan! plot twist, right? niall only let ronan live because DECLAN’S, NIALL’s ALWAYS-FAVORITE, loved him. nice.”
no. no, actually i hate that so much. ronan doesn’t find out about this, and i hope to god he never does. can you imagine how horrifically crushing that would be? i know declan got the niall plot in this book, but damn maggie. that was uncalled for.
now for the positives, because boy. i felt them strongly.
- first of all, maggie delivered. ronan and declan finally hugged it out, guys. the lynch brothers became friends again. that was it, that was the trilogy. if the raven cycle is about friendship, the dreamer trilogy is about brotherhood. and maggie brought down the whole damn city.
- also, i didn’t think i could ever say this but . . . niall lynch didn’t actually do anything wrong, did he? he just loved his kids and didn’t understand anything ever on any day at any time. all this time we were lead to believe he was a terrible person, when he wasn’t. he wasn’t. just like ronan convinced the readers throughout the raven cycle that declan was terrible, declan convinced us the same thing about niall. it’s the damn unreliable narrators for me, bro.
- maggie also got me good when she was like “hey, wedding :)” and i was like “PYNCH WEDDING????” and then it was predictably declan and jordan. but THEN—
- the epilogue !!!!!!!!! was so good it made me physically ill. like, i might actually vomit. seriously. everyone got the happy ending they deserved. we saw all our old favorites, hell, even maura, calla, and freaking gwenllian made an appearance. henry and his mother were there. blue and gansey were there, and gansey and ronan had one last of those conversations that’s made the raven cycle so, so special to me. gansey raised ronan to adulthood. ronan acknowledged a change in gansey we never really got to see on page, but it was there. declan’s wedding gift. niall fucking lynch, you guys. niall fucking lynch. he got us all in the end.
and finally. the last few paragraphs. just when i thought it was over, it happened. ronan and adam. a ring. a happy ending.
thank you, maggie stiefvater. thank you blue and gansey. thank you noah. thank you adam parrish and ronan lynch.
thank you for everything.