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Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women's Sexual Fantasies
Previously published as In the Garden of Desire, this groundbreaking book describes common fantasy roles for women; illuminates the diverse functions of women's sexual fantasies, from stimulating orgasm to improving self-image; helps women discover their own fantasy styles; and offers straightforward advice for when and how to talk about fantasies with a lover.
304 pages, Paperback
First published January 30, 2001
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April 13, 2010
Enlightening!
July 7, 2025
I learned so much!!
January 29, 2023
- Women often have fantasies they feel guilty off: they often believe their body and mind are detached of each other. However, people's fantasies are often tied to their past trauma. As a person unties and accepts their past trauma, their fantasies often change
- Women often can reach climate with their fantasy alone without the help of external stimulant (different than men)
- For women who "don't" fantasize, author noted that it's often because their past trauma or their misunderstanding of what fantasy is (a women's fantasy doesn't even need to involve sex)
- Male sexual fantasies are often stereotypical and one dimensional, whereas women's involves emotion, story lines, role playing and such and can rarely be described within one sentences
- Five most popular fantasies for men: different sexual positions, woman as aggressor, oral sex, sex with a new female partner (young and beautiful), sex on the beach
- Women's fantasies falls within 2 types: scripted (follows a plot line) or unscripted (follows merely on emotional and sexual energy the woman is feeling at the time)
- 6 most popular women's sexual fantasies categories:
-- Pretty maiden (her beauty is worshipped by others)
-- Victim (rape, forced entry etc)
-- Wild Woman (Free for all (guys))
-- Dominatrix (Use her sexuality as a lure and pick whoever she wants)
-- Beloved (love at first sight, passionate love, forbidden romance)
-- Voyeur (Observer)
- When women blame themselves for something, self-punishment through sexual fantasy can give her the thrill of the punishment
- Women often can reach climate with their fantasy alone without the help of external stimulant (different than men)
- For women who "don't" fantasize, author noted that it's often because their past trauma or their misunderstanding of what fantasy is (a women's fantasy doesn't even need to involve sex)
- Male sexual fantasies are often stereotypical and one dimensional, whereas women's involves emotion, story lines, role playing and such and can rarely be described within one sentences
- Five most popular fantasies for men: different sexual positions, woman as aggressor, oral sex, sex with a new female partner (young and beautiful), sex on the beach
- Women's fantasies falls within 2 types: scripted (follows a plot line) or unscripted (follows merely on emotional and sexual energy the woman is feeling at the time)
- 6 most popular women's sexual fantasies categories:
-- Pretty maiden (her beauty is worshipped by others)
-- Victim (rape, forced entry etc)
-- Wild Woman (Free for all (guys))
-- Dominatrix (Use her sexuality as a lure and pick whoever she wants)
-- Beloved (love at first sight, passionate love, forbidden romance)
-- Voyeur (Observer)
- When women blame themselves for something, self-punishment through sexual fantasy can give her the thrill of the punishment
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