Not your average enemies-to-lovers.
In the IPB series, Ruby Dixon asks the question, “What if there was a symbiotic parasite that made characters go absolutely nuts with lust for each other?” And in the first few books, her characters pretty easily accept resonance, even if they are not initially keen on their partner, and eventually fall madly in love. It’s a fun device. However, books 5 and 6 ask the serious question “What if this resonance is unwanted? Where does choice fit in when characters are biologically compelled to be together?” I really respect Dixon for digging into these somber questions as the series progresses, addressing potential gaps and problems with the world-building; it shows depth as an author. I am interested to see how she continues to interrogate resonance in the next books.
Similar to Barbarian’s Prize, this is not a light and fluffy book and confronts abuse and trauma topics. However, like all the IPB books, it is thoughtful and really well executed. Despite the heavy subject matter, Barbarian’s Mate is still addictive, enjoyable, and well worth reading (though I think some people will probably find the plot pacing and characters’ actions really annoying).
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Leading up to Barbarian’s Mate, Josie and Haeden seem to fight at every opportunity. Haeden acts disapproving, condescending, and overprotective towards Josie. This causes otherwise always happy and optimistic Josie to despise and defy him, believing that Haeden is misogynistic jerk who hates her specifically.
Haeden is a widower amongst the sa-khui. Years ago, he resonated to (meaning “a symbiotic parasite determined that he was biologically compatible with”) a mate but their resonance was notably never consummated before her death. Haeden, understandably, has never gotten over it. What we also learn later is that this pairing was not mutually desired. So, Haeden carries baggage both from his mate’s rejection and her untimely death.
Since her arrival on his planet, Haeden feels drawn to Josie and it terrifies him. The human girls seem so weak and fragile. Haeden finds the idea of becoming emotionally attached to someone so mortal is unbearable. Instead of confronting his fears, he lashes out, acting like a domineering jerk.
Josie is the most cheerful of the abducted Earth girls who crash-landed on the ice planet. Josie and Haeden are very much sunshine/grump energy. Despite surviving abuse and assault – both on Earth and on the alien captors’ ship – Josie trusts that the best is yet to come. She is the last Earth girl to resonate and prays for the day when she will be paired with her perfect mate and have lots of babies. Josie’s dreams of loving abundantly and being loved just as fervently in return.
When Josie finally resonates to Haeden, she could not be more disappointed. Her existing impression of Haeden combined with numerous unfortunate interactions after resonance reinforce Josie’s conviction that Haeden hates her. After everything Josie’s been through, she refuses to ever again be forced into intimacy with someone who hates her or to bring a child into a world where it will not be loved absolutely. So Josie resists resonance. For months. Until ignoring the biological imperative becomes so intense that both Josie and Haeden are weak and physically unwell. Josie finally becomes convinced that removing and replacing their khui (parasite) is the only option—that doing so will untie her from Haeden and allow her to resonate to a new mate. Though he doubts the plan’s success, Haeden agrees to help.
When Haeden resonates to Josie, he is terrified. Once again, Haeden has been given the precious opportunity to have a mate, and she turns out to be—as he perceives it—exceptionally perishable. In spite of his fears, Haeden is actually thrilled by the resonance and ready to embrace Josie as his mate. Unfortunately, he is incredibly awkward with women and severely puts his foot in his mouth every time he talks to Josie. Haeden is heartbroken when Josie rejects him but respects her space, all the while hoping that eventually she will come around. When Josie proposes having their khui surgically removed, Haeden is devastated. Though Josie might find a new mate if her plan works, for Haeden it means losing another mate, the hope of children—losing Josie. Nevertheless, he is willing to give it all up if it means Josie will be happy again.
Josie and Haeden set off for the “Elder’s Cave” where they hope the surgery machine will be able to remove their khui. When it turns out that the surgery machine is broken, rather than giving in to resonance, Josie leaves. Completely abandons the tribe to survive on her own in the wilderness, something none of the other humans have dared to do. And this is when the book truly starts to get interesting. Over the remainder, Josie and Haeden independently confront their past trauma and their perceptions of one another all while facing new “Not-Hoth” dangers.
There are a lot of things I think will bother a lot of people about this book: the miscommunication/lack of communication trope, Josie and Haeden fighting resonance for such a long time (especially in an erotica series), Josie’s fixation on an unfeasible, selfish, and poorly-thought-out plan. But even though these things are annoying, they are also realistic and understandable given the characters’ backgrounds. The hurdles Josie and Haeden have to overcome make their eventual love all the more satisfying.
I love that Dixon’s romances are not (well, not entirely) written just for the characters to have sex. She takes time to develop her characters and unpack their trauma. Moreover, she incorporates choice into a world with predetermined biological mating imperatives. Maybe there could be more active non-relationship/sequel-bait-related drama, but even so the series is totally captivating and consciously designed. Barbarian’s Mate is another great installation 👍👍