تئوری انتخاب برای والدین و نوجوانان

by William Glasser, علی صاحبی (Translator)

ویلیام گلسر مدعیست که اگر والدین این کتاب را به دقت بخوانند، درک عمیق‌تری از سازوکار رفتار فرزندشان به دست خواهند آورد و در سایه این درک عمیق، و کاربردی می‌توانند رابطه بهتری با آن‌ها برقرار کرده و از فرایند و موهبت فرزندپروری لذت ببرند.

اساس این کتاب بر یک تئوری منسجم است و سپس با فهم مبانی اصلی رفتار کودک و نوجوان در سراسر کتاب، دکتر ویلیام گلسر بر راز و رمز اصلی پرورش فرزند بدون دردسر و چالش های پی در پی و فرساینده که معمولاً والدین و نوجوانان تجربه می کنند، تأکید می کند.

در تمام فصول کتاب آموزه اصلی تئوری انتخاب به والدین گوشزد شده است. اگر آموزه های کتاب به کار گرفته شود به طور حتم از کیفیت رابطه با عزیزانمان بسیار خرسند خواهیم بود.

Genres: Psychology, Parenting, Nonfiction

308 pages, Paperback

First published July 1, 2003

Reviews

[Joy · Rating 3 out of 5]

I love the idea of Choice Theory and applying it to teens. The book did leave me with a lot of questions such as when do you start using Choice Theory. Obviously, you cannot allow younger children to make all choices for themselves. What things do you look for in your child's personality to know they are ready for this?
Also, a lot of the examples used in the book were, frankly, shocking. They are actual examples from Dr. Glasser's practice, but also things I hope I am lucky enough to avoid in my children: anorexia, extreme acting out and jail, etc. I actually skipped some of the chapters.

I would have liked more examples of using Choice Theory with issues that the majority of parents deal with: back-talking, not allowing teens to go to parties where there is no adult supervision when their friends are going, etc.

It's a really great concept for adult relationships.

[Deb · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'm not sure I agree with everything Glasser recommends in this book, but there are certainly some ideas worth considering when it comes to relationships between parents and their teenagers/young adult children.

[Jeatherhane Reads · Rating 3 out of 5]

There are some important insights in this book, but over all it is too general and broad.

[Kate Turner · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very simple and easy to implement, filled with plenty of examples of parents unlearning the habits that push children and teenagers away.

[Jehlish]

Some ok ideas for establishing trust, but a disturbing anti-medication stance that could be harmful to some people.

[Nadya · Rating 3 out of 5]

The book was good but not impressive. I share Dr. Glasser's view that more problems with teenagers stem from too much control rather than a lack of it. Still, I think he could have worked on his tone more so he does not appear talking down to parents as if they are uneducated novices lost in life.

My favorite quote: "Your life is much more like what happens when, as you approach the traffic light, it turns yellow. There is no certain right or wrong action in that situation."

[Jo · Rating 5 out of 5]

An excellent, practical, readable book by William Glasser, MD on using Choice Theory with teenagers. Glasser developed the Choice Theory, which rejects the convention external control method (leading to common power struggles among parents and teens) in favor of eschewing the 7 deadly sins (criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing and rewarding to control) in favor of creating an environment of trust and self-control. The book employs terrific case studies to illustrate a huge paradigm shift, and one that totally changes what parents think of as "common sense".

[Mohammad Balouchi · Rating 4 out of 5]

البته که نظریه انتخاب یک نظریه کاربردی و خیلی خوبی هست ولی ظاهرا با فراگیری اصول اولیه این نظریه، مابقی جزئیات آن نیاز به دانستن ندارد!