Now I Become Myself: How Deep Grace Heals Our Shame and Restores Our True Self

by Ken Shigematsu

Becoming who you were before the world told you who you had to be.

You're not alone when it comes to experiencing shame or fear of not being enough. Shame isn't felt only by those who have gone through failure or trauma or been told they'll never amount to anything. Many people—even those who are considered successful—struggle with a sense that they are deficient or inadequate.

Drawing on a rich variety of personal experience, Scripture, spiritual formation classics, psychology, and relational neuroscience; award-winning author and pastor Ken Shigematsu shows how a deep, experiential encounter with the love of God can heal us of our shame, make us whole again, and inspire us to fulfill our purpose by making a faithful contribution to the world.

Now I Become Myself will help

Break free of an unhealthy self-image and from jealousy of others' achievements.Discover how beauty and spiritual joy can help you overcome the unhealthy shame you're clinging to.Create space in your life to draw close to Jesus and deepen your sense of God's boundless love for you.Written with pastoral compassion and understanding, Shigematsu's stories and teachings will uplift you and help you break free from the feeling of not being enough so that you can find rest in the security of God's grace.

Each chapter concludes with a prayer exercise intended to nurture your relationship with the God who formed you in love and created you in beauty.

Genres: Christian, Spirituality, Faith, Christian Living, Nonfiction, Religion, Psychology

200 pages, Kindle Edition

Published May 16, 2023

About the author

Ken Shigematsu is the Senior Pastor of Tenth Church in Vancouver, BC, one of the largest and most diverse city-center churches in Canada. He is the recipient of the Queen Elizabeth Diamond Jubilee Medal awarded to Canadians in recognition for their outstanding contribution to the country. Before entering pastoral ministry, he worked for the Sony Corporation in Tokyo and draws on both eastern and western perspectives in writing and speaking. Ken lives in Vancouver with his wife, Sakiko, and their son, Joey.

Reviews

[Brother Brandon · Rating 3 out of 5]

I got to read this with two brothers and God really used this book to speak to each of us. Our discussions were very rich and healing.

I admire Pastor Ken's humility and transparency (in sharing his struggles and sin) and story-telling (so many unbelievable and emotional stories that really highlighted God's power in human weakness).
I did, however, find his use of arguments from science and psychology to be somewhat strange at a few points (e.g. at one point he said that he let someone be generous to him because he remembered that it would allow them to experience a seratonin and dopamine release or something like that lol!!!—was he joking? idk!!). But I wouldn't want to discourage others from reading this book—besides, those psyc ideas were pretty interesting, even if I wouldn't use them the way he did.

If you wrestle with the question, "Why do I still struggle with experiencing God's love?" or "Why do I still carry shame and a low view of myself even though I 'accepted' Christ?" this book will be a good place to begin.

[Caleb Stober · Rating 5 out of 5]

"After the Japanese-British novelist Kazuo Ishiguro won the Nobel Prize in literature, he said: "All I know is that I've wasted all these years looking for something. A sort of trophy I'd get if I really, really did enough to deserve it. But I don't want the trophy anymore. I want something else. Something warm and sheltering, something I can turn to regardless of what I do, regardless of who I become. Something that will just always be there like tomorrow's sky.""

I really enjoyed this book--it felt like sitting down with Ken over a cup of coffee and just getting to learn from his life and insights. I was both comforted and convicted in reading this, which to me is a great combination.

Given his background and life experience, Ken has got a bit more worth saying on the topic of shame than many in a Western context. For instance, one of the early observations he makes is that "some shame can be redemptive. The possibility of facing shame can curb our tendency to do something wrong, because we don't want to experience a loss of social standing." The book is not about redemptive shame, but that he even makes the distinction separates Shigematsu from the plethora of "all shame bad" people who must run in fear from large portions of the Bible.

This book, however, is about toxic shame: "the feeling that we are fundamentally flawed and therefore unworthy." And you'd be surprised at how just deeply the roots run. Shigematsu does a great job balancing insight from the realm of psychology with Christian worldview stemming both from scripture and tradition, and makes it all very easy to access with a plethora of stories, some of which are very vulnerable of him to share.

Each chapter ends with prayer exercises, reflection questions and study guide questions, which really communicate Ken's care for the reader and turns the book (if you will let it) into a really good practical starting point for dealing with your shame.

Again, I really enjoyed this book, and am planning on going back through it to let some of the deeper points sink in all the deeper.

"When we live, move and become who we were created to be as the body of Christ, we can live as the countenance of Christ to the world--and our faces will be radiant, without any shadow of shame, and we will boldly declare, "Now I become myself."

[Jenn · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this as a devotional over the last six months and I wanted to savor it as I read it. Such a beautiful book on shame and joy and the transformational love of Jesus.

[Anna Hughes · Rating 5 out of 5]

Honestly this felt like a John Mark Comer meets Curt Thompson book and I was absolutely here for it. The author makes very complex issues digestible and gives practical next steps and processing questions to go with each chapter. If shame/guilt/performance/doubting God’s love for you/doubting the calling He has given you, are things you struggle with… order this one now! You won’t regret it.

[Caleb Otto · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book! Would recommend.

[Emily · Rating 1 out of 5]

This is a short book written by a Canadian pastor, and is designed as a devotional guide. Each chapter is followed by exercises and questions. A friend suggested it to me. I must admit to being deeply disappointed and longing for my $25 back. This book exemplifies what is wrong with legacy Christian publishing--it platforms unqualified writers who are good at patching together bits from pop psychology and throwing in a few Bible verses for flourish. This author has neither prowess with Biblical texts nor any psychological qualifications, yet writes with implied spiritual and scientific authority on the complex topic of shame. Please allow me to sketch out why he is not a reliable guide on this subject.

Here is the list of major issues, with details provided below.

1. Misdiagnoses the roots of "trait shame" and implies that this problem is universal (it is not) and can be solved with books like his (citation please).
2. Misuses Scripture, mostly as cherries on top of each chapter, or in brackets at the end of a sentence without regard to their original contexts. Often uses The Passion Translation, which is a creative rewrite of the Bible that all serious scholars reject as anything like a translation.
3. For those who wish to remain within Christian orthodoxy, Shigamatsu's main inspirations are solidly New Age (eg: Merton). His titular thesis revolves around the New Age idea of the false self versus the true self, which has been co-opted by the contemplative prayer movement since the 1960s. New Age practices guide his chapter reflections and prayer suggestions. The reader deserves to know this, and would typically not expect this from Zondervan. Shigamatsu weaves these sources in as if they were normative Christian teachers outside the contemplative community. They are not.


The book begins with an impressive array of endorsements from neon names. The reader would be well-informed to know that many of the endorsers appear within the text of the book as people the author praises or uses as examples for his work. It would be fun to make a bingo card with the names of all his endorsers, then find them praised within the body of the text as one reads the book. This smacks of nepotism to me, but it might just be the author's own insecurity, which emerges as an inadvertent theme throughout.

The book is marketed as a fusion of theology and psychology, but I found both lacking. While Shigamatsu has advanced degrees, he seems unable to perform literature searches on shame. Instead, he quotes from pop psychology books and cites classic studies that will be new to few educated readers. At critical junctures, his assertions lack citation altogether. As a theology major without psychology training, he understandably misidentifies the core causes of "trait shame". While he nods briefly toward the importance of secure attachment, his understanding of it is very nascent. His life narrative points strongly toward insecure attachment (and abuse) and resultant narcissistic/antisocial personality traits, yet he holds his story up as an example of how even well-loved children can be insecure. One of the biggest inadvertent themes in the book is how much the author craves and idolizes success. In many ways, this book seems to be a mantra to himself on why it isn't the most important thing in the world--but there is such a soul danger in, well, being successful selling books that tell others success is not important. It is commonly understood that childhood trauma OFTEN drives the world's most "successful" people, yet the author expresses continual amazement that the rich and famous could ever feel anything but wonderful. Having fortified us with the examples of his own life and theirs, he concludes that "all of us struggle at some level with feeling that we are not good enough". This is actually true primarily for folks with insecure attachment. So we begin the book by misdiagnosing the problem, and the rest is downhill.

Shigamatsu wastes no time in admitting to a problem with lust and pornography--a detail that I find disturbing to read on page 2 of a devotional book, and which is revisited multiple times. He would do well to read anything by Jay Stringer to deal with the roots of his problems rather than sharing them as hat-tips to his manliness or as proof of his relatability. Stop normalizing the sex trade, Zondervan.

In keeping with the low accountability standards in Christian publishing, Shigamatu's work is littered with what I like to call foreshortened testimonies. The classic "Brian was a criminal and then he found Jesus and NOW HE IS A PASTOR" testimony that no one actually believes anymore. Or at least, they know enough to stay clear of Pastor Brian.

In the first few chapters, Shigamatsu leads the reader on a helter-skelter exploration of shame, which suddenly morphs into guilt, which suddenly morphs into attachment problems. He does not define his terms with clarity and seems to misunderstand the distinctions among them. His examples are highly problematic--he equates the "shame" of physical disability with the "shame" of illicit sex (does he mean the shame of being a rapist? it is not clear) and the "shame" that supposedly drove the 9/11 terrorists to act. He spends significant time quoting a source who blames the victims of 9/11 for having shamed the terrorists into acting.

Shigamatsu is enamoured with science and longs to sound technical. He never misses an opportunity to call someone a "neuro-" expert and no example is complete without reference to "nerve endings" or "neurotransmitters", though these terms do nothing to substantiate his talking points. Saying that most people feel good when they are generous is not less valid than saying they get a dopamine rush. He uses frequent sleight-of-hand to make himself sound authoritative in an area where he knows no more than the rest of us do, thanks to Brene Brown's latest book.

Theologically, he is all over the map again. He says Adam and Eve were without shame *before the fall*. Then says Lucifer/the serpent induced shame in Adam and Eve before they ate the fruit...oh wait, that was before the fall. He equates the serpent with Lucifer (did he not take any Old Testament courses in seminary?) and says Lucifer felt "shame" in heaven with God. But I thought God's presence eliminated shame?

To Shigamatsu's credit, some of the final chapters (7-10) have devotional value. These seem to be the chapters in which he is no longer trying to be scientifically impressive and writes more from his heart. They are still littered with the New Age concept of the false self, but one can stay within orthodoxy and still benefit from his exploration of limit-setting, beauty, and joy. These would make for good sermons, I think.

It is only when we stop buying books like this that publishers will understand that authors will have to have something unique to say before landing a book contract. And it is only when the church stops fawning over pastors generally that the ministerial office will stop attracting people who are still so insecure as to think pop stars enviable. And Zondervan needs to be held accountable for publishing New Age teachings to readers unawares--it is deceptive marketing practice.

[Sam · Rating 5 out of 5]

Hurt people hurt others. Shamed people shame others. We pass on what we have received.

We will only know that we are enough when we experience the deep grace of God which covers our shame, makes us whole and calls forth our true self.

Even as we are turning away, we are longing to experience connection and belonging, to find someone who despite our shame will love us and say, I am here and I am not going anywhere.

In prayer: Let something that makes you feel ashamed rise to the surface, some part of your life where you don’t feel like you are enough, or about yourself that you don’t like or even hate. Imagine Jesus that like the Father, is running toward you. Imagine him covering you with his robe, and placing his ring on your finger. Listen to him declare that he wants to host a feast in your honor. Now invite him to speak words of love, affection and blessing over you.

We tend to think that if we change God will love us, but if we let God love us, we will change. In the presence of perfect love, fear (not being enough, rejection) will be cast out, and our true self with shine forth.

The things we are unconscious of, our implicit memories often have more power over us that our explicit memories.

John Bradshaw, As infants we need to hear or sense someone saying to us. I’m so glad you’re here. Welcome to the world. Giving and receiving words of affirmation.

Growing our receptive affect. These affirmations can help us practice and develop the receptive affect. The capacity to receive words of affirmation or praise. They might lower their heads and say no. Or it might bounce off their chest instead of sinking deep inside. When we receive affirmations we can practice stretching the receptive container inside us, these drops of honey, can come in the form of uplifting words or a loving gaze or reassuring touch. “I’m gonna tell you how I feel about you.”

Curt Thompson says, It takes less than 3 seconds for shame to form in our brain, but 30-90 seconds for an affirmation to form.

The God who works all things in our life for good. We can also find freedom by confessing to someone who is a relative stranger. Auburn Sandstrom shares: I was curled up in a fetal position on a dirty floor in a cluttered apartment. I’m in horrible withdrawal from a drug addiction. I have a little piece of paper, dilapidated from folding and unfolding it. I can still make out the phone number. I’m in a state of bald terror. My husband is out and trying to get the drugs we needed. Right behind me sleeping in the bedroom is my baby boy. I wasn’t going to get “mother of the year” award. In fact, at the age of 29 I was failing at a lot of things. So I decided to get clean. I was soon going to lose the most precious thing I had in my life, that baby boy. I was so desperate. I wanted to make use of that phone number. It was something my mother had sent me. She said, This is a Christian counselor. Maybe sometime you could call this person. It was 2:00 am in the morning. I punched in the numbers. I heard a man say, Hello? Hi, I got this number from my mother. Do you think you could maybe talk to me? He said, Yes, yes, of course, what’s going on. I told him I was scared and that my marriage had gotten pretty bad. Before long I started telling him other truths, like, I might have a drug problem. This man just sat with me and listened and had such a kindness and gentleness. Tell me more. Oh, that must hurt very much. He stayed up with me the whole night just being there until the sun rose. By then I was feeling calm, the raw panic had passed. I was feeling okay. I was very grateful and so I said, I really appreciate you and what you’ve done for me tonight. How long have you been a Christian counselor? There was a long pause and he said, Auburn, please don’t hang up. I’m so afraid to tell you this. You’ve got the wrong number. I’m not a therapist, but Ive really enjoyed talking with you. I didn't’ hang up. I never got his name. I never spoke to him again. But the next day I discovered there was this unconditional love, and that some of it was for me. And it also became possible as a teetotaling, single parent to raise up that precious baby boy who graduated from Princeton with honors. In the deepest blackest night of despair if you can get just one pinhole of light, all of grace rushes in.

NT Wright argues, Our primary emphasis as Christians should be restoring the image of God in us.rather than obeying rules. We don’t need to emphasize obeying rules because, as the Spirit fills us we will naturally grow in holiness and wholeness. As we are filled with the life and love of God, the divine image is restored in us, and we will grow more like God, more whole, more holy, more beautiful. Just as those who eat well become physically healthier and can absorb nutritious food more readily, when we grow more whole our receptive capacity for God expands and divine holiness and beauty are restored within us. We emerge out of the shadows of sin and shame and into our true self.

A prayer: I consent to the work of the Holy Spirt. I let go of my desire for security and pleasure, for affection and esteem, for power and control.

Shame involves left brain activities, self-analysis, critique and condemnation which are primarily left brain activities. When we are exposed to beauty the right hemisphere of our brain becomes more active, and the left side, grows quiet, leaving shame with less room to work.

The power of paying attention. Neuroscience research confirms that we become like the objects we pay attention to. If we meditate on a “god” we perceive as racist, judgmental, and misogynist, we activate the parts of our brain that generate anger, fear, and we will become angrier and more judgmental. Where attention goes, neural firing flows, and neural connection grows.

[Mechthild]

A Great Book about Honor and Shame
Ken Shigematsu of Japanese origin is Senior Pastor in Vancouver, Canada, and author of two award-winning books. With "Now I Become Myself. How Deep Grace Heals Our Shame and Restores Our True Self" he presents his third book published by Zondervan Reflective. In his book he touches topics such as "The Fear of Not Being Good Enough", "Encountering the Love of God", "Overcoming Envy", or "Choosing Joy". Due to his background he is very knowledgeable about shame and gives an insight that can rarely be found in Western cultures. I really appreciated his honesty that starts already on the first page. He shows that also "accomplished" people are insecure and feel shame. Shigematsu uses quotes by people like Thomas Merton, Desmond Tutu, Craig Groeschel to introduce the topics of the chapters. Every chapter is concluded with a prayer exercise that includes a reflection and Study Guide Question (this are helpful for individual and group studies).
Shigematsu's goal for the book can be found in a quote from Brené Brown: "While a temporary state of shame can inspire life change and may have a social benefit, my focus in this book is to help us overcome our unhealthy trait shame—the feeling that we are fundamentally flawed and therefore unworthy" (p. 7). A statement by Shigematsu that touched me very much can be found at the end of the first chapter: "We will only know that we are enough when we experience the deep grace of God, which covers our shame, makes us whole, and calls forth our true self" (p. 13). This is not the only time that I have read this book. I highly recommend it to readers who deal with shame and those who want to have a deeper understanding of shame and God's answer to it.
The complimentary copy of this book was provided by the publisher through NetGalley free of charge. I was under no obligation to offer a positive review. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own.
#NowIBecomeMyself #Netgalley

[Carla Gray · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book, for several reasons. For instance, this book is beautifully written and relatable. Each chapter has great illustrative stories throughout and ends with practical help to guide through prayerful exercises, a time of reflection, and a few study questions. As a person who likes random and interesting facts, Ken offers just enough to pique my interest and help me bring additional resources and Scripture verses to mind to really let the material resonate. In just one example of many, he mentions how our brains are hardwired towards a negative operating system and we have to actively work towards changing that to help ourselves embrace God’s love and renew our minds (my paraphrased version). That one sentence led me to the footnote which led me to my local library’s website and the downloading of a book to learn more about that topic. Needless to say, this book has now been embedded in my operating system / implicit memory as a positive experience and gives me warm fuzzies when I think about the book. The only downside / things I didn’t enjoy about this book were the references to the Enneagram and a Richard Rohr quote. I’m not a fan that stuff, and thankfully, Ken did not focus too much on those more New Age types of spiritual practices and instead relied mostly on Holy Scripture and science to back up his points.

[Anita Chan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ken's book is inspiring, liberating and well written!

Having been struggling with shame since childhood to adulthood, I completely resonate with how shame can toxically impact us. The sense of "not being good enough", "not measuring up" constantly drives me to perform and achieve to validate my worthiness. I just land on endless exhausting cycles. As Ken unfolds in-depth how the deep love and grace of God heal us from shame and restore our original glory, it is truly comforting and liberating! As we gaze on the beauty of His love and grace which washes away our shame, we are transformed to the "true self" that God intended us to be and live in true freedom.

I appreciate Ken's vulnerability and authenticity of sharing his personal experience and incorporating various resources in the book. The prayer exercises in each chapter are powerful and transformative.

[Edna Bisnar · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ken writes about shame, humankind’s feeling of “not enoughness” and God’s grace that heals this shame. He has the ability to unpack it with examples from his own lived experiences, those of his personal connections, and research. He shows acute awareness of man’s need for attention, validation, and love. Written with clarity, sensitivity, touches of levity, and practicality (helpful prayer exercises, reflections, and thought provoking questions), this book tells us what shame is, why it is, and how we can be healed from it as we make our way to finding our true selves. I will explore the book further and hope to do it with a small group. It is a good companion book on a transformation journey to wholeness.

Edna B.

[Therese · Rating 4 out of 5]

A book that is filled with insightful reflections and practical advice on how to become the best version of oneself. One of the key takeaways from the book is the concept of "soul care". Shigematsu argues that our souls, like our bodies and minds, need regular care and attention if we are to live fully and thrive as individuals. He encourages readers to cultivate spiritual practices like prayer, reflection, and meditation to nourish their souls and stay grounded amidst life's challenges. Shigematsu's poignant reflections and practical advice provide a roadmap for anyone looking to deepen their spiritual practice and live with greater clarity and intention.

[Craig Pagens · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ken's newest book is deeply moving, personal, and pastoral. It's my favourite among the three he's written so far.. Drawing on biblical, psychological, and personal sources Ken shares about the impacts of shame and how we can be healed through God's grace and love. I appreciated how practical the book was as well. Gratitude, sabbath, embracing our limits, and prayer are among the practical ways we can enter more deeply into God's grace. Ken's book reveals an invitation to allow God to break through our shame, and enter into a life that joyful, unburdened, and deeply restorative.

[Doug Rumbold · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a biblical counselor employed at a church now for 17 years, I see a fair bit of shame and its deep impact. This little book helps one to confront their own shame but not in learning more information about shame sort of way. Here Shigematsu encourages you to reflect our shared experience of shame regardless of its source. He pastorally guides you through Scripture's answer in Christ and provides practices of prayer and reflection to sustain the freedom one will walk in as one reads and applies its content.

[Heidi McLaughlin · Rating 5 out of 5]

Shame becomes part of our identity and we don’t even realize we carry it. It’s shocking and surprising how shame sabotages us from being seen, fully known and finding our true self. Ken Shigematsu’s vulnerability and honesty keep the reader engaged to find those wonderful and awakening places of healing. Ken helps us find our full potential and then discover the pathway of joy. What a great book. I believe every human being should read this book to discover what magnificent masterpieces God created when He created us.

[M · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a very timely read for where I am in life right now. What a perfect gift that Ken Shigematsu has given us - to reflect on our own journey and bask in God’s love for us.
It is an easy read in that the style is elevated but conversational. I would recommend to space out the reading to leave room for appropriate amount of self-reflection

I am recommending this book to be our summer book club book.

[Jim · Rating 5 out of 5]

Here is another helpful word from Pastor Ken Shigematsu. He has packed a lot into this short, easy to read book. But, for me, here is the take away and the book review—He claims me, He loves me and He is pleased with me. That is who God is for me. Thanks, Ken for making that so abundantly clear from the words of Scripture in Luke 3:22. Now, my prayer is that God will keep those words front and center for me all the time and use those words to focus me. JIM

[Jake Steiskal · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wow wow wow. What a book. So simple, practical, healing, and full of encouragement to enter into further healing. An easy 200 page read that I read in one sitting. There’s a bunch of deeply pastoral stories alongside psychological studies and findings to really paint a picture of the pervasiveness of shame and how we find healing through Jesus’ love of in the midst of the deepest pains. Highly recommend it.

[Tim Meier · Rating 5 out of 5]

A beautiful and helpful book drawing on Biblical truth, psychology and lessons learned from spiritual direction and counseling, I feel encouraged and invited into greater freedom from shame. Highly practical and powerful, I would recommend doing a chapter a day and slowly soak through this book rather than checking it off the list. Grateful for Ken and his wisdom.

[Tessa Poyner · Rating 5 out of 5]

A beautiful blend of theology and psychology. Practical and attainable path forward toward a life with Jesus. The stories shared well articulated the heart behind the message and make you feel less alone. This book is a gift.

*I enjoyed reading one chapter every morning and taking time each day to engage the prayer exercise in my morning time in scripture and solitude!

[Kara Koester · Rating 3 out of 5]

I really, really wanted to love this book! Maybe it's because I've done a lot of work around shame that I found it rather basic. That said the author is very relatable and includes helpful exercises,
reflections, and study guide questions at the end of each chapter. Would be perfect for leading a group of people that are unaware of the dynamics of shame.

[Dennis Ticen · Rating 5 out of 5]

I first heard Ken Shigematsu speak at a conference a few years ago, and was impressed with his knowledge and his pastoral ability to care for others in wise ways. That same spirit shines through this book, which combines solid theology with neuroscience and just good spiritual direction. This book will encourage you and spur you on to better live the life God called you to live. Ken’s transparency and willingness to share his own life elevates this book above others of its kind.

[Rie Collett · Rating 5 out of 5]

Not only is this book full of fascinating insights into how we can see ourselves and become the person God wants us to be, but it's also full of practical exercises, helpful questions for reflection and prompts that led me to experience prayer in new ways.

[Josmar Gil · Rating 5 out of 5]

An absolute beast of a book- I was deeply moved by the thought of someone taking enough time and research in order to set the captives free through this. The prayer of Examen changed the way I approach my day and caused me to see how deeply loved I really am, and Now I become myself.

[David · Rating 3 out of 5]

A helpful reflection on shame, both positive and negative impacts of it, but ultimately becoming oneself by experiencing God’s grace fully.
Ken includes many practical stories and spiritual practices along the way.

[Mary Grace Bautista · Rating 5 out of 5]

Now I become myself

One of the books that I will re-echo all the days of my life. There is so much to process but I thank God that I could take each step in gratitude and so much gladness for this brilliant work.

[Evan Peters · Rating 4 out of 5]

Profoundly one of my favorite books, I have a read. A beautiful intersection from the perspective of attachment and psychological assessment with the healing power of grace, joy, and beauty.

[Julie · Rating 4 out of 5]

I’d give it a 4.5 if I could. I especially loved the last chapter on joy!

[Beverly · Rating 4 out of 5]

Read along with a friend and it was just the way I needed to go through this book, chapter by chapter. I will hold onto this book and come back to exercises as needed.

[Wendy Simmons · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is excellent! I loved the reflections and practices at the end of each chapter and the vulnerability and the author in Grace filled way!