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The 10 Commandments of Marriage: The Do's and Don'ts for a Lifelong Covenant
In words that are profound, often humorous, but always biblical, Ed Young draws from decades of counseling couples to provide ten commandments for a lifelong marriage that sizzles. God wants your marriage to be nothing short of incredible. And it could all begin with this amazing book.
240 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2003
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H. Edwin Young
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Dr. H. Edwin Young was born and raised in Laurel, Mississippi and accepted Jesus Christ as his Savior at the age of 12. While in college at the University of Alabama , he felt led by God to become a pastor, and transferred to Mississippi College to continue his education. Dr. Young's preparation for the ministry continued at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary in Wake Forest, North Carolina.
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Dr. H. Edwin Young was born and raised in Laurel, Mississippi and accepted Jesus Christ as his Savior at the age of 12. While in college at the University of Alabama , he felt led by God to become a pastor, and transferred to Mississippi College to continue his education. Dr. Young's preparation for the ministry continued at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary in Wake Forest, North Carolina.
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August 21, 2011
Read through this book with my wife. It contains so many little things that you tend to overlook. It's filled with plenty of cheesiness at times, but the overall depth you can gain from it by opening up to your spouse is worth it.
One of the few good marriage books I've read.
One of the few good marriage books I've read.
September 5, 2012
I learned a few things about marriage with this book. I have been reading it for years (off and on). This is a nice book that will teach you what to do in different situtations on marriage.
March 12, 2016
My thanks to NetGalley and Moody Publishers for an eARC copy of this book to read and review.
The following is my interpretation of this book. The author did NOT say this, it is all from my brain and thoughts from what I read.
Basically, if you and your spouse are not both Christians and are not both trying to work on a fabulous marriage, it isn't going to work.
BUT, divorce isn't a viable option.
Again, these are conclusions I drew from this book, it wasn't stated directly by the author.
However, since the whole point of this book is to strengthen a marriage via a Christian bent, this is not going to be a useful book for most people. It makes no mention of when divorce really should be the only answer: unevenly yoked, abuse, repeated adultery that will never change.
True story, my aunt found out her husband was cheating on her, she confronted him about it. His reply? "Yes, and when I come home from being with one of them, you will have dinner waiting on the table for me." He became an ex shortly after that.
I mean, what do you do with that? When one person in the marriage loves their addiction/sickness/something else, more than you, where do you go from there?
This book assumes you are both trying to work on the marriage, not that one person is trying and the other could give two darns.
Which I guess is helpful, because if you are in a dying/dead relationship, this book will sincerely drive it home to you. And make you feel guilty for the divorce, ESPECIALLY if both of the parties involved are "Christian". I use the quotes, because I have heard horror stories where both parties claimed to be Christian and one was most certainly NOT, yet they beat the other one over the head with how good they were and how lousy the spouse was.
This book isn't a bad one, it is well written, with plenty of real life examples and a decent suggested reading and notes section in the back. It is just for a very specific audience, so I'm not sure how helpful overall it is.
Again, not a bad book, but one which I would be very hesitant to recommend unless I knew the person to whom I was recommending it VERY well and knew it would fit their situation.
Three stars.
The following is my interpretation of this book. The author did NOT say this, it is all from my brain and thoughts from what I read.
Basically, if you and your spouse are not both Christians and are not both trying to work on a fabulous marriage, it isn't going to work.
BUT, divorce isn't a viable option.
Again, these are conclusions I drew from this book, it wasn't stated directly by the author.
However, since the whole point of this book is to strengthen a marriage via a Christian bent, this is not going to be a useful book for most people. It makes no mention of when divorce really should be the only answer: unevenly yoked, abuse, repeated adultery that will never change.
True story, my aunt found out her husband was cheating on her, she confronted him about it. His reply? "Yes, and when I come home from being with one of them, you will have dinner waiting on the table for me." He became an ex shortly after that.
I mean, what do you do with that? When one person in the marriage loves their addiction/sickness/something else, more than you, where do you go from there?
This book assumes you are both trying to work on the marriage, not that one person is trying and the other could give two darns.
Which I guess is helpful, because if you are in a dying/dead relationship, this book will sincerely drive it home to you. And make you feel guilty for the divorce, ESPECIALLY if both of the parties involved are "Christian". I use the quotes, because I have heard horror stories where both parties claimed to be Christian and one was most certainly NOT, yet they beat the other one over the head with how good they were and how lousy the spouse was.
This book isn't a bad one, it is well written, with plenty of real life examples and a decent suggested reading and notes section in the back. It is just for a very specific audience, so I'm not sure how helpful overall it is.
Again, not a bad book, but one which I would be very hesitant to recommend unless I knew the person to whom I was recommending it VERY well and knew it would fit their situation.
Three stars.
May 3, 2008
I thought it was just going to be another cheesy marriage book, but my wife and I read it together and loved it. It started a lot of needed conversation, but in a fun way.
May 27, 2009
Studying this book in Sunday School Class
March 3, 2023
Husband bought this on a whim, and we both read it. I found it to be difficult to follow — messages were lost in a sea of metaphors and opinions. This read more like a lengthy blog post than a helpful book. While there were some interesting lines scattered throughout, I don’t think this book was a good use of my time.
February 21, 2023
Definitivamente el matrimonio es un trabajo en equipo que se construye diariamente con determinación, compromiso, unidad y disciplina. Pero sobre todo en constante comunión con el diseñador, pues solo él sabe cómo amar adecuadamente.
June 16, 2020
Simple pero con buenos principios
December 11, 2020
There are a lot of great truths & tips for marriage in this book. Like all books (other than the Bible) it isn't perfect but I still think it was pretty good.
October 28, 2008
Of all the marriage books I've read since getting engaged and married, I have to say, this was one of the weakest.
If you're looking for a good discussion starter for a group setting, I recommend this. But if you're looking to "go deep" into having and living a Christian marriage, this is not the book for you. Ed Young took the material straight from a sermon series that was obviously meant for a large, generic audience.
2 out of 5.
If you're looking for a good discussion starter for a group setting, I recommend this. But if you're looking to "go deep" into having and living a Christian marriage, this is not the book for you. Ed Young took the material straight from a sermon series that was obviously meant for a large, generic audience.
2 out of 5.
July 31, 2007
I got this book from my sister.
Actually it was a good book, and I got the one with the hardcover.
I got it as a wedding present.
The only thing that kept me from giving five stars was that it was written like a college textbook, so I was feeling like coming in a marriage class instead of reading a book :p
Actually it was a good book, and I got the one with the hardcover.
I got it as a wedding present.
The only thing that kept me from giving five stars was that it was written like a college textbook, so I was feeling like coming in a marriage class instead of reading a book :p
March 10, 2012
Excellent book. It was a spiritual look at marriage. Marriage as god meant it to be. There is a lot of instruction and tips having a successful marriage, such as communicating, having fun together and keeping the fun and passion in your marriage. A good read for anyone engaged or already married. It is a good Christian-based reference.
December 20, 2008
This book is really for engaged couples or newlyweds - most of the advice is pretty basic, and will be something seasoned couples will have already been through.
The author tells many stories in each chapter, which distract from the the point.
The author tells many stories in each chapter, which distract from the the point.
November 7, 2012
Not horrible... but not very culturally relevant. There were some "must do" principles contained within the book... but I never really felt like I could relate to the author. There are still four or five books on marriage that I would recommend above this one.
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January 27, 2008This is the book that the Wive's Club will read a few chapters from. I like the topics and the way they relate in a biblical sense.
May 14, 2008
Love this!!! This book is so down to earth and right to the point. Great Book!!!!
July 27, 2008
While we all know i'm not the most religious I found this book had some really good ideas on the concept of really making your marriage work, would suggest it highly.
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September 2, 2008Marriage
June 10, 2009
Meh. It was ok. Nothing all that new here.
July 15, 2012
Fabulous book! Every married couple should read it and those engaged to get married.
April 15, 2013
The writer is very practical and wise. It's definitely things I hadn't fully thought of before. Really essential to read. I think its mostly for engaged or dating for marriage couples.
July 8, 2013
muy buen y excelente libro. lo recomiendo para todo aquel matrimonio que quiera tener una vida plena
con su pareja...
con su pareja...
September 21, 2013
Very good!
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January 9, 2014Excellent easy to read
July 5, 2024
Recibí este libro como un regalo de bodas, lo leí justo después de casarme y me encantó, ahora 6 años después lo he vuelto a leer y es tan bueno y relevante como la primera vez que lo leí
January 26, 2025
I can't remember who recommended this book to me, but I found it really enjoyable. All of us can use advice sometimes on improving and sustaining our marriages.
July 31, 2011
Great book. A little cheesy at some parts but covers all the basics.
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