Solace: Finding Your Way Through Grief and Learning to Live Again

by Roberta Temes

There is no more stressful and traumatic experience than coping with the death of a loved one. There are various stages of grief and loss, which often take months or even years for many people to overcome. But with the right guidance, readers can learn to lessen the pain and live happy lives. "Solace" provides soothing comfort and hope for those who are suffering. As an award-winning bereavement expert, Roberta Temes believe all of us experience and process grief in our own way. Here she helps readers through the stages of grief, tells them when they should worry, helps them consider the pros and cons of bereavement groups and counselors, and shows them how to use visualization to help the healing process. Featuring anecdotes drawn from her bereavement practice so readers may learn from the experiences of others who have also gone through and struggled with loss, "Solace" is also filled with comforting affirmations, quotations and words of encouragement. Dealing with loss is never easy

Genres: Grief

146 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2009

Reviews

[Rev Z · Rating 5 out of 5]

Temes has a remarkably compassionate and caring voice. Early in the introduction, we read, “You are experiencing this death in your unique way. Your experience is valid for you. Your response is right for you. Your way is the right way for you, for now. Don’t let anyone suggest that you are mourning the wrong way. You are your own expert.”
A few pages later, Temes tells us: “Countless survivors of unspeakable tragedies have managed to endure precisely because they refused to speak about their ordeals. … Sometimes, silence gives strength.”
Immediately following, we find these words: “Similarly, if your family is a family of wailers I suspect your mourning cries will be heard by many, and then you, too, will return to your regular routine. Loud volume is part of the bereavement process for you.”
This book is well-organized and well-written. It includes an immense amount of material without being overwhelming. If I could only recommend one book that comforted and offered practical steps for the bereaved, this would definitely be in the running.

[Diane D · Rating 4 out of 5]

If you have lost a loved one, a friend, or a co-worker, or if you've maybe experienced some trauma that has changed your life, grieving that event is perfectly normal and natural.

It is through grief and the grieving process, that we are able to heal, and to find new strength to help us continue on our journey that is life.

In Roberta Teme's new book, Solace: Finding Your Way Through Grief and Learning to Live Again, the author gives the reader practical advice in a compassionate way to help us as individuals cope with our loss.

The author suggests helpful ways to help those who are grieving. Two sections which I found very interesting were: Helping Children Who Are Grieving, and a section on Rituals and Remembering. If you or someone you know has experience a loss, you might want to consider this self-help/grief book. It was very good.