A deeper look at an old-fashioned quality. We've all heard the phrase, "Patience is a virtue", and doubtless responded with a sigh, as usually it's spoken with a tone of reproach. But this virtue carries with it a wealth of wisdom that can actually help us find happiness in our day to day. Author Mary Jane Ryan details just what living with patience can bring to our lives and how it can change us for the better.
Slow the rush. Things move at a quick pace in our society, in both our work lives and social lives. Not only are we forced to keep up, but we have been conditioned to expect instant gratification. Because of this, we find ourselves getting flustered by the smallest setbacks or hold ups-whether it's a slow server at a restaurant or rush-hour traffic. Ryan shares how patience is the very antidote to the stress that our fast-paced lifestyle results in.
Reclaim our priorities. By reining in our aggravation when things don't happen instantaneously, we give ourselves time to breathe and think more clearly. We make better use of our days and allow ourselves to make decisions based on how they align with our priorities, instead of focusing on how fast we can get tasks done. With Ryan's help, we can learn to foster a patient outlook and find joy and fulfillment in the present moment.
* Patience is persistence, serenity and acceptance. * The journey is as important as the destination. Where are we hurrying to anyway? * Boredom is often a failure to delay in gratification. See such situations instead of boring as opportunities to tap into our patience. Anytime we declare something boring, we are saying that we do not have the patience to deal with it * Much of our impatience comes from never tuning out: never being off-duty. * He remembered a crucial lesson. Things take as long as they take * Patience is the art of finding something else to do. * Stop. When you feel yourself saying “I don’t have time for this. Pause. Breathe. * Keep your eyes on the prize. Patience with a goal allows you to track progress even if you don’t meet your goal. * We don’t know how, we don’t know when. That’s where patience and faith comes in. * Impatience can be seen as a symptom of perfectionism. * Above all, be merciful with yourself. * Mercy is the virtue of forgiveness.
Yra nemažai knygų apie kantrybę, sąmoningumą ir dėkingumą. Turbūt dėl to šioje neatradau praktiškai nieko naujo. Taip, mes visi dabar esam be galo užimti, todėl kartrybė gali tapti tikru iššūkiu. Taip, jeigu būtume kantresni, tai teigiamai veiktų mūsų sveikatą ir santykius su žmonėmis. Ir taip, dažniausiai nekantrūs esame dėl nerimo, kurį jaučiame dėl gyvenimo tėkmės ir dėl mums tenkančių pareigų ir mus spaudžiančių lūkesčių.
Autorė pateikia visą krūvą būdų, kaip ugdyti kantrybę. Iš visų jų sau pasiimu nebent tai, kad jeigu imu nekantrauti, reikėtų atkreipti dėmesį į fiziologiją - kvėpavimą, savo kūno padėtį, kiekvieną veiksmą atlikti sąmoningai. Visa kita buvo skaityta, girdėta ir nieko naujo.
Listening to this on the way to work made me more calm when I arrived. I would listen to it again just to really soak it in and solidify some of the ideas.