In the face of personal and global suffering, is it possible to live with hope rather than despair? Join psychiatrist, speaker, and award-winning author Curt Thompson as he shows us how God transforms our grief into a lasting peace that surpasses all understanding.
Suffering is a defining reality of life. Yet so many of us are so focused on avoiding discomfort that we've never learned how to actually suffer. But what if we could move from anxiety to durable hope?
In The Deepest Place, Thompson invites us to explore how the Apostle Paul's experience of love, secure attachment, and the deeply felt sense of God's abiding presence carried him through the challenges he faced--and how it can help us not just survive, but flourish in the presence of suffering.
Combining scripture with his own professional insight, Thompson helps us discover that:
Suffering can increase our sense of security rather than our fears Hope is something we form in community Faith can grow out of anger, cynicism, and doubt Perseverance changes our brain and reshapes our imagination Listening to our bodies helps us find new hope in loss
As Thompson reminds us, those who have suffered greatly, including the Apostle Paul, are able to see their stories with a new understanding of God's presence and unfailing love. Let The Deepest Place show you how to do the same.
Inspired by deep compassion for others and informed from a Christian perspective, psychiatrist Curt Thompson shares fresh insights and practical applications for developing more authentic relationships and fully experiencing our deepest longing: to be known.
With a considerable dose of warmth (and surprising measure of humor), Curt weaves together an understanding of interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) and a Christian view of what it means to be human — to educate and encourage others as they seek to fulfill their intrinsic desire to feel known, valued and connected. He understands that deep, authentic relationships are essential to experiencing a healthier, more purposeful life — but the only way to realize this is to begin telling our stories more truly.
Curt’s unique insights about how the brain affects and processes relationships help people discover a fresh perspective and practical applications to foster healthy and vibrant lives, allowing them to get unstuck and move toward the next beautiful thing they’re being called to make.
Through his workshops, speaking engagements, books, organizational consulting, private clinical practice and other platforms, he helps people process their longings, grief, identity, purpose, perspective of God and perspective of humanity, inviting them to engage more authentically with their own stories and their relationships. Only then can they can feel truly known and connected and live into the meaningful reality they desire to create.
Curt and his wife, Phyllis, live outside of Washington DC and have two adult children.
So so good. A great summation of a lot of Curt Thompson’s work. He works through Romans 5 on endurance, character and hope and also uses vast knowledge on neuroscience and integration to talk about how we can heal through trauma, shame and pain. Talks a lot about confessional communities and the work of healing that takes place in community.
His work is deeply rooted in the gospel but really writes from real experiences of his own trauma and his clients and their work to pursue healing.
Recommend to anyone wanting to broaden theology of suffering and interested in how the brain works and heals!
There is a lot of overlap in his books - focusing on the interplay of neuroscience and spiritual practices, shame, suffering, and desire.
A huge component in all of them is the necessity of real relationships where we are safe, seen, soothed, and secure. These are conduits of God's grace and healing, which need to come alongside any spiritual practices and counseling or therapy we may receive.
Curt Thompson is a gift in how he combines psychiatry and the Christian faith... and in way that is honest about our heart/soul/mind/body complex. Highly recommend his excellent and accessible work.
So good from beginning to end. Maybe one of his best attempts to tell the Gospel in terms of IPNB. For that and his handling of the rich young ruler and a very grateful. It is a must read IMHO.
Get ready for chaos (aka my unfiltered thoughts) —
This book incorporates everything that I love in books. It was similar to “Good Morning Monster” and “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone” in the way that a primary focus of the book is a glimpse of Curt’s own life and struggles and the stories if others. These stories portray seemingly hopeless recounts of trauma and shame that you already know the enemy rejoices in…. BUT JESUS!
This book was painful to read. Painful because the book quite literally revealed areas in my own life that needed to be encountered by the love of Jesus. But was it really a good book if it didn’t accomplish that very purpose??? I’d say probs not.
“Hope is formed as the result of being loved by Jesus.”
Um yes. Amen.
Curt is clear that this book is not a guide as to how to avoid suffering, but how to suffer differently. Curt presents that suffering that leads to hope occurs in the midst of an ever-increasing secure attachment to our Father in heaven & our relationship with the body of Christ (aka real people). I’ve always been behind the first part of that statement, but the part about our need for others…. I am still offended (in the best way possible).
“God works in the presence of suffering because of its potential to drive us into ever more deeply connected relationship with the Holy Trinity and with our fellow believers.”
Beautiful book on the topic of suffering. The author does not give pat, cliché answers, but provides solid, biblical hope from a neurotheological perspective.
It does get a little technical at times, which can be laborious, but I appreciate the author sharing parts of his own personal story, and the entire book is worth reading for the last part, “Full Circle”. The application of Jesus and the rich young ruler absolutely blew my mind. (But don’t skip ahead-read the whole book!)
I can’t commend this book enough to those that have an interest in the intersection between psychotherapy and the gospel of Christ. Thompson breaks the complexities of human behavior in suffering into their raw parts and extends an invitation to bring those parts to Christ and witness the creation of true hope. Thompson communicates his deep understanding of the human brain and views it through the lens of gospel. Read this book and understand your and you loved ones sufferings in a whole new way. 5/5 stars!
While the concepts in this book were not new to me, my biggest takeaway had to do with just how much healing/formation of hope takes place in safe & vulnerable community. This is something that is very hard to press into, and requires risk and courage. Because of recent years in my own safe community, I can attest to the power of these healing experiences and it made me curious to explore his work on confessional communities more.
Four stars just because his writing style is not my favorite.
I have never read something by him I don’t deeply appreciate. This book brings hope to suffering in ways that point to Christ’s ultimate redemption of the world without skimming over the very real sorrow in life. Read this then read it again! Be sad, be hopeful, be human.
The books get shorter and shorter. And it all starts to feel like it’s driven by publishers or by a money grab (both?). He has less content. It’s still good and some great insights, but maybe more a chapter than a book.
This is the most dramatic review ever, but actually no words could do it justice. Like this book made me love God more and built my faith. Like wow?? In what feels like his millionth #BANGER, Thompson builds out a neurobiological & theology framework for comprehending (and experiencing) Romans 5.
This sums it up: “This sense that Jesus enters into our suffering and honors it--such that the very act of God entering into our suffering redeems the suffering itself, and lets suffering become apart of how God is going to turn us into people of greater love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control...People whose story is brighter and denser than we could imagine. Not because suffering is good, but because there's nothing in the world--no matter how awful it is--that God is not going to redeem and use as a way of redemption itself. Because this is the God that we serve.”
Now, here is the same quote, but I took the creative liberty to re-write it as how I read it in my head: “This sense that Jesus ENTERS INTO our suffering (!!!) AND (!?!!) HONORS it (!!???!!!!)--such that the VERY ACT of God entering into our suffering.....REDEEMS. THE. SUFFERING. ITSELF. (😭!!!!!!!) AND (!!??!!!) lets suffering become apart of how God is going to turn us into people of greater love😭, joy😭, peace😭, patience😭, kindness😭, goodness😭, faithfulness😭, gentleness😭, and self control😭.....People whose story is brighter and denser than we could imagine. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Not because suffering is good, but because there's NOTHING IN THE WORLD--no matter how awful it is--that God is not going to redeem (!!!!!) AND (!!!!) USE (!!!) as a way 😭 of 😭 redemption 😭 itself 😭. (!!!) Because THIS is the God that we serve." 😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😭😭😭😭😭😭 like um..hello romans 8:1,5-6,15,18,28,38, 1 peter 5:10, psalm 56:8, proverbs 18:10, psalm 119:71, 2 corinthians 1:3-4, psalm 34:17-20, isaiah 57:15, 2 corinthians 4:17, psalm 73:26, ephesians 3:19-20, psalm 71, romans 11:36, psalm 13:6, ephesians 1:6-14 are you serious Dr. Curt
Other favorite excerpts (minus my inner dialogue) : “This lament includes: naming what is real about my life and how I feel about God in the process. With all of my longings and griefs, joys and rage, shame and confidence. Lament includes the three part process of complaint, petition, and praise. All of which are core elements of the process of developing earned, secure attachment. This practice of lament allows us to sense God acknowledging our deepest places of alienation, deepest places of lost, deepest pain, and so come to realize God’s love is even deeper than we could expect or experience it to be.”
“Suffering not only nudges us into a place in which we feel and sense God’s love for us, but actually gives us an even more acute awareness of what it is like to be God. And in this way, it forms us more into his image. So that we may start to become more like him. This awareness is the corrective to the lie of the serpent: [that says] becoming more like God means becoming more powerful and protected from pain. When, in fact, it is in our suffering, and in our perseverance in the face of it within vulnerable community, that we actually become more and more like God. In many respects, inherent to the lament of perseverance, is our willing commitment to enter [and re-enter] a cycle of grief. Grief that consists of naming our ancient stories and coping strategies, that we then must release to make room for beauty and goodness.”
And of course......Romans 5❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ "Therefore, since we have been justified [that is, acquitted of sin, declared blameless before God] by faith, [let us grasp the fact that] we have peace with God [and the joy of reconciliation with Him] through our Lord Jesus Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed). Through Him we also have access by faith into this [remarkable state of] grace in which we [firmly and safely and securely] stand. Let us rejoice in our hope and the confident assurance of [experiencing and enjoying] the glory of [our great] God [the manifestation of His excellence and power]. And not only this, but [with joy] let us exult in our sufferings and rejoice in our hardships, knowing that hardship (distress, pressure, trouble) produces patient endurance; and endurance, proven character (spiritual maturity); and proven character, hope and confident assurance [of eternal salvation]. Such hope [in God’s promises] never disappoints us [or puts us to shame], because God’s love has been abundantly poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.”
I'll never get over it! Like yes and amen Dr. Curt!!!!! Thank you Lord!!!!!
This book is a bit dense at times, so I struggled sometimes for the first half, but at about 60% I started to feel like I could really more deeply understand the practical ways in which being seen and loved in community is truly the way we experience God’s love in our suffering and are slowly transformed. Our shame and suffering can be shifted, old trauma patterns in our brains can be slowly rewired through perseverance in vulnerable community, and hope can be created—not hope that we will avoid suffering, but hope (I love his phrase “durable hope”) that we will be loved right in the middle of whatever our suffering is, including suffering that we created ourselves. I love the author’s focus on the real, physically embodied Body of Christ and our actions of love and presence with each other. I definitely will re-read this one again at some point, and I think that central point will shift the way I think of some things.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. Thompson does however talk at a bit higher of an intellectual level than I’m used to reading so it took me a bit to get through.
He uses Paul’s words in Romans 5:1-5 along with his extensive knowledge of neuroscience to talk about how hope is something that one forms. It honestly put words to the journey I have been on as I’ve processed trauma in my life & through reading I’ve seen how perseverance has produced character which has led to hope. I would recommend for any believer struggling to find hope!
There’s plenty of great moments here. Deep, practiced insight into the psychological and human response to suffering and how we can turn that on its head and experience great hope and even glory.
Honestly, I just found that stylistically this didn’t keep me engaged the way I was hoping. That’s a me problem for sure and Thompson has still done a great job laying out the contents in this book in a way that legitimizes his practice and study and makes it accessible for all.
This book took me much longer to read than I initially expected. I think it’s because some of the concepts are counterintuitive and the blending of science and faith requires you read with full attention. That being said this book is amazing and I highly recommend it. I found it became intensely practical and personal a little over half way through, and explained the way I experience the world on a deep, new level.
As a Marriage and Family Therapist I am happy to see a Christian book that uses examples of solid neuroscience and evidence based treatments. I would recommend this to Christian clients particularly struggling with insecure attachments.
While this book had gems throughout, I thought it was very tangential and repetitive. I think you could cut this book down 75% and it would be easiest to follow and more impactful.
We cannot form hope on our own, and suffering is where Jesus meets us, teaches us to tell our stories more truly. Hope forms as a result of being loved by Jesus, in our suffering. In the real, embodied encounters with Him - in the form of His people (His body), those who call ourselves believers. In being known by others.
Another beautiful writing of Curt Thompson. He is consistent throughout all his writing, speaking, and teaching - directing us to practice for Heaven in Confessional Community, and in doing so become Outposts of Eden.
I enjoyed this books focus on suffering with the body of Christ. I really liked the framework shift he talked about of feeling the love of Jesus through those around you from the body of Christ and those who stay in the room with you during suffering. I also liked how the chapters were based off Scripture.
Curt Thompson as a psychologist, writer, podcaster, and speaker offers so many insights about intersection or neurobiology and theology. For the past few years I’ve tried to read and listen and take in as much as I can. This book is about suffering and the formation of hope.
Reading it along with my confessional community was a great experience. We talked about Thompson’s words and our own experiences as individuals and as a group. I learned from both the book and our conversations. And I recommend the book and being a part of a confessional community.
If you were to see my copy of the book you would see marked passages throughout. This is one I will revisit often and pray to apply truths that align with God’s truth - in his Word (Bible) and in his creations (human mind and relationships).
This book released on August 29th of this year. I’ve been anticipating the release of this book since April or May of this year. What I didn’t realize was one of the most beautiful moments of my entire life (the birth of my son Malachi) would be followed by the tragic death of one of my best friends, only three weeks later, in early August.
As I was in shock, beginning to process and grieve this huge loss, while also trying to be a father and getting ready for a major life transition moving from Michigan to Texas, I remembered something: this book would release. And I’m telling you, the timing of this release is nothing short of a God thing.
This book was one I couldn’t begin until after we finished the process of packing and moving. But now that I’ve started it and finished it, I can tell you this: I needed this book. God used Thompson to write this book and share some insightful and transformational truths about how grieving, suffering, and hope all work together in the formation of our souls. It’s based off a text in Romans that’s easy to pass over and miss the theological significance behind it, which Thompson dives into and centers the entire book around. And let me tell you, it was very powerful.
For those who are grieving through loss, this book presents a perspective that will take you deeper into the gracious presence of God and His comfort for us through our losses and sufferings.
One of the best books I read this year. My second favorite book of his behind Soul of Shame.