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Sex God Method
The Sex God Method is the world's first and only complete system that focuses on the mental aspects of sexual pleasure combined with physical techniques to take women to new heights of sexual pleasure and be able to give her the female orgasm she always fantasized. These sex secrets are so powerful that even women who never experienced orgasms can finally achieve consistent orgasms every time. Mastering these sexual concepts will literally make your woman sexually addicted to you and only you.
285 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2008
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March 17, 2018
Disgustingly misogynistic. Beware, this is nothing but Red Pill/PUA propaganda.
A sample of the contents....
"Sexually healthy women all want dominant sex; at times they all want to be treated like a piece of meat in the bedroom, to be violated and used like a slut. They all want you to rip their clothes off over their token objections, to talk dirty to them, and to be helpless as you make them cum over and over again. There is nothing wrong with this; in fact, it is a very natural and beautiful thing."
"If she waffles or gives token resistance, override her. Give her the sexual pleasure that she lacks the courage to take on her own initiative. Pay no heed to her bad social conditioning, and get in touch with her deepest desires as a natural woman."
"In the rape fantasy, you sneak up behind her when she is not expecting it, put a hand over her mouth and force her clothes off. She will know that it is you by the sound of your voice. You overcome her struggles and protests and force yourself into her pussy. After you are done with her, you leave her for a few minutes to enhance the negative emotions she feels. You then come back, and are your normal affectionate self again."
"Women are biologically programmed to want to be impregnated by an alpha male. More than anything, this is her evolutionary function in life, to take your cum inside her and bear your offspring. Despite what her logical mind tells her, on a deeper level she will always want this. Telling her that you are going to get her pregnant with your babies while you are having sex will excite her like you would not believe."
A sample of the contents....
"Sexually healthy women all want dominant sex; at times they all want to be treated like a piece of meat in the bedroom, to be violated and used like a slut. They all want you to rip their clothes off over their token objections, to talk dirty to them, and to be helpless as you make them cum over and over again. There is nothing wrong with this; in fact, it is a very natural and beautiful thing."
"If she waffles or gives token resistance, override her. Give her the sexual pleasure that she lacks the courage to take on her own initiative. Pay no heed to her bad social conditioning, and get in touch with her deepest desires as a natural woman."
"In the rape fantasy, you sneak up behind her when she is not expecting it, put a hand over her mouth and force her clothes off. She will know that it is you by the sound of your voice. You overcome her struggles and protests and force yourself into her pussy. After you are done with her, you leave her for a few minutes to enhance the negative emotions she feels. You then come back, and are your normal affectionate self again."
"Women are biologically programmed to want to be impregnated by an alpha male. More than anything, this is her evolutionary function in life, to take your cum inside her and bear your offspring. Despite what her logical mind tells her, on a deeper level she will always want this. Telling her that you are going to get her pregnant with your babies while you are having sex will excite her like you would not believe."
July 29, 2012
Rose has done a great job of revealing the core psychological aspects of masterful sex and his book should rightfully be considered a foundational tome on the subject.
He fails, however, in providing a deeper understanding of the biological aspects of masterful sex, either because he considers the topic too perused or is uninterested in the finer aspects of how the female body works.
Either way, if you, like me, care for maximally good sex lives for yourself and your partners, you will get more than your money's worth with this book, so go ahead and get yourself a copy.
He fails, however, in providing a deeper understanding of the biological aspects of masterful sex, either because he considers the topic too perused or is uninterested in the finer aspects of how the female body works.
Either way, if you, like me, care for maximally good sex lives for yourself and your partners, you will get more than your money's worth with this book, so go ahead and get yourself a copy.
January 6, 2015
read it brahs
November 15, 2018
I will never see things the same way again. This is a wake-up call to all the men out there. GROW A PAIR and realize sex is so much more than just getting off within 10 minutes by "going through the motions". Biggest lesson learnt is that psychological stimulation is so much more important than physical stimulation.
February 2, 2023
Reading a book on becoming better in bed seems intuitively unnecessary … and maybe even counterproductive. Real men intuitively understand all this.
On the majority, we view sex as a way of expressing ourselves, being who we are, and unleashing our true, uninhibited nature. We don't see it as yet another thing to systemize, track progress, evaluate, read, and think about.
But this is wrong because the degree to which you've consciously put deliberate effort into learning an art, the greater you can be spontaneous and express yourself using the art form.
Take the piano as an analogy. You must study notes, practice rigorously and monotonously learn songs other people have written before you can improvise and write songs of your own and genuinely express yourself. The same principle is true with sex.
I read this back when I was a teenager, and it has been lurking in the back of my mind for years. Some of the things I've read have never left me. It had a significant influence on me.
I checked out the book on Goodreads about two years ago, and I read an angry -- top-rated -- review pointing out how misogynistic the book is, quoting the "worst" parts of the book.
When I read the review, a lightbulb flashed over my head, and I thought, "Oh my goodness, I can say that to her?" The value of these books is that you learn to do things you haven't done before, not because you lack courage but because it has never occurred to you.
It's pretty amusing that someone would call a book misogynistic when its objective is to give pleasure to women. Rose isn't advocating slamming women into doors because he's angry at them but because he wants them to come. There is a meaningful difference between aggressiveness and anger.
So, what's good about this book?
This book isn't so much about what to do and what to say but about what kind of beliefs you should have. There are many concrete examples in the book, but the point isn't merely to "do" these things but "become" someone who would. Again, a helpful analogy would be the piano. When you learn songs on the piano that other people have written, you improve your ability to improvise. You get the notes into your bones, combining all that you've learned; you synthesize something new creatively.
I appreciate how Rose points out that you don't have to be coherent or make sense to be erotic. Well, at least by what we men think "making sense" implies. For example, you could say, "Take this you bitch” and then whisper, "I love you so much," the very next second. Or while you're pulling her hair hard (close to the roots, of course), you tell her you would never hurt your baby.
This seems … contradictory. And it might very well be. But for the sake of eroticism, it's actually a plus because a big part of sex is about satisfying the chaotic elements of the mind - eroticism isn't supposed to be logical or coherent.
In the heights of sexual arousal, the emotional intensity is all that matters, and whether it's negative and positive emotion doesn't matter. But you've got to ensure one doesn't outweigh the other too much. So again, variety is essential. If you're sugar-sweet all the time, she'll get sick. If you're cussing her out … and that's all you do, she'll take offense and not enjoy it.
I also like how this is the only sex book I've ever read that says that women do not always have to be warmed up. Everyone says you've got to be down there for at least half an hour before you even dare think about putting it in, mister.
Of course, warming up isn't always a horrible idea, but I like that this is the only sex book that says you don't - always - have to do it. Sometimes going caveman is preferable to the romantic buildup. Doing something suboptimally may be beneficial if it brings variety. For example, while a bed is objectively the best place in the world for intercourse, letting the couch be in on the fun occasionally can be better simply because it adds variety.
If it's one thing you take away from this book, it's this: Sexual pleasure is primarily psychological, not physical, and this is ten times doubly true for women. Don't worry so much about using the proper technique by studying her anatomy like you're her urogynecologist. Sex is about eroticism. The uncertainty, the excitement, the tint of danger, the passion, the love. Or, in Rose's terms: The domination, the emotion, the variety, and the immersion.
Probably the most important one is domination. Biologically, women desire to be dominated and be taken by a confident, aggressive, and wild man … full of testosterone and virile lust for her.
We live in a progressive, egalitarian society. So it's understandably hard to wrap your head around that an emotionally healthy woman gets turned on by being "disrespected" and controlled. But with experience, this becomes undeniable, and you will start appreciating it as natural.
The majority of the manosphere gets the alpha/beta dynamic wrong. We are taught women want an aloof badboy who doesn't give a fuck about anything, who's got plenty of options, and who treats her like just another woman in his harem. If this is how we define alpha, then I think you should be beta if you want great sex.
Women want a man who deeply cares. But not prematurely, as this is a sign of desperation. I sense that a women's dream is to feel that the man loves them because he has found out how special she is, and she feels she is in the process of taming a wild beast. The best sex is when there is genuine affection involved. Women love it when you say words of affection, even if it's so needy that it's literally "I need you." It's ok to tell her that you love her, need her and think about her all the time. But not when gone on one date ... Unless you're being ironic.
It's great to have feelings for a girl, but not more emotional involvement than her because if you do, it's game over, bro.
As alluded to earlier, domination and emotion are not mutually exclusive. A lot of guys struggle with the Madonna-whore complex to a certain degree. They tend to idealize women they love, so they can't objectify them in bed. They become soft, yielding, and undetermined. "Honey, shall we have sex tonight?" They feel it's wrong to "treat her like his whore” when she's his angel. And so the sex suffers.
Another aspect Rose discusses is immersion.
The more you're in the present moment - with her - the more you are attuned to what's going on, and the better the sex will be. When sex gets boring or when we are insecure or uncomfortable, our minds tend to drift.
We don't want to be stuck up in our heads. Sex can be a way to deeply connect our bodies and even experience altered states of consciousness - but it is often reduced to two bodies masturbating for mere ego gratification.
Unfortunately, we tend to be in our mental bubble, and the man and woman playing out their fantasy in their head so that they can come faster - or just stay hard.
I think a lot of people are uncomfortable with sex. It's ironic how people embrace casual sex - but to do it, they must get hammered, barely conscious enough to have sex.
If sex is so trivial to you, why do you need alcohol? Why do you close your eyes, shut off the lights, and play loud music? Why does your mind drift away when having it? I think people are uncomfortable by just how intimate sex is. A key to better sex is to have the courage to embrace the intimacy and the present moment, acutely aware of what's going on and being in touch and therefore deeply emphatic with the other person.
I get that it's tempting to use mental fantasy, such as thinking of other women while you're having sex. Either because you want to please her by being erect or because you can't come at this point otherwise. This is an instance where fantasy retards the development of reality.
Fantasy robs us of the need to make sex more exciting. It robs us of the necessity of using creative imagination to change things up and to take steps toward improving sex. Plus, it adds "stimulation debt," similar to porn. Quitting has withdrawal symptoms. Plain old vanilla reality will become dull in comparison, and suddenly you can't get hard as much as before - especially now that you haven't taken steps to improve reality. You need faith that reality will ultimately be much more rewarding, fulfilling, and meaningful.
Private fantasies in sex are counterproductive. Sharing fantasies - the jury is still out on this one for me. It's exponentially better, for sure. But I suspect that the same principles apply to a degree.
You can draw the line between healthy and destructive fantasy by evaluating if reality would benefit from having it manifested - and that there is a chance of it manifesting - at least towards its direction. I hate to be a moralist on this topic. However, Rose himself - the allegedly anti-moralist sexual freak, warns against using certain fantasies even though they can be very exciting.
I think moralism needs to become cool again - rebranded as "Intelligent hedonism."
The book can be a bit silly at times. For instance, when Rose explains why women want a dominant man, he says that at a certain point in history, all the alpha males decided to beat up the beta males. Therefore women prefer an alpha because her offspring is more secure. This is the pinnacle of bro-evolutionary-science.
It's not the most intellectually stimulating read and perhaps unnecessarily vulgar (The most used words in this book are "pussy” "cock” "fuck” and "cum” in that order), but it gets the message across.
Now, onto the difficulties.
Rose claims that a sexual master does not make any moral judgments on sexual behavior.
I totally get where he's coming from: nobody wants to have sex with someone who feels like they judge them.
Rose tells us to stop shaming sluts - judge women exactly like men in terms of promiscuity, etc. It seems like Rose buys into, or at least advocates pretending to believe in feministic "equality" of sexuality.
Sexual openness, for Rose, is always admirable and is a sign of maturity and self-esteem. He says: "Just make sure that you make it clear that you think being a slut is something commendable."
This is where Rose missed the mark.
Does moral flexibility get us laid?
Sure, if you're looking to increase your body count, it's probably not a good idea to voice any moral judgments on loose women or the consequences of sex. She'll probably wait to have sex with you so you won't judge her as a slut.
Likewise, if you voice moral judgments about women who do anal before marriage - she won't have anal with you before marriage. Again, this isn't rocket science.
Rose is spot on when he says the more morally judgemental you are about sex, the more she will hide her sexual past.
So why does he miss the mark?
Carl Rogers's teachings are a reasonable frame in dealing with these topics: You should have unconditional positive regard, be congruent, and have empathic understanding.
Being congruent implies saying what you think.
Pretending to have no moralistic judgments when you really do is incongruent. It stifles the personal connection, and she'll sense the inauthenticity. There will be less emotion and immersiveness, and dominance. Are you truly dominating her if you're suppressing your own opinions while she's not?
The most important thing is what you actually believe - whether it's your faith, moral intuition, intellectual understanding or hard gained experience, or all combined.
In avoiding a degenerate culture, each individual's responsibility is to speak their mind and not just nod their head to anything and everything in hopes that our moral flexibility will get them prestige, money, and sex.
In the overall picture, I think it's that both sexual conservatives and liberals should appreciate the fact that we're going through incredible rapid technological changes such as reliable birth control, antibiotics, social media, and Tinder. But, unfortunately, on the timeline of humanity, these things happened an hour ago, and we collectively have no idea how to deal with this new sexual reality. Therefore, we should all be humble and open-minded - empathic and understanding - careful, honest, and act in good faith.
At one point or another on your epic quest to get laid more often, you should stop and think about why you're doing this.
Being good at sex is not something you do but something you are.
Personal character trumps sexual experience any day of the week.
What's more fun, having sex with a virgin or a woman with a body count in the triple digits?
It's the wrong question. So let me ask a better one: What's more fun, having sex with a woman with low or high self-esteem?
Sexual techniques are quickly-learned trivialities compared to your core personality.
These things are important to evaluate if you consider promoting deceitful moral flexibility to get laid more because you want to get better at sex.
Look, It's clear that often Rose knows what he's talking about. He's David Deida's vulgar, slightly less articulate naughty little brother. He's legit, but his limits are visible.
The book's limitations show when Rose lays out the do's and don'ts. He gives this advice based on a few personal failures/successes, far too prematurely to put as general rules in a printed book. I understand how these serve as guidelines for a beginner to understand a good mindset - but it is only on a superficial level.
In arranging open relationships, he advocates giving women false expectations for an exclusive relationship so they will stick around longer. "The means justify the ends," he writes, "as it will ultimately lead to the most pleasure for her."
Rose writes that you don't want to tell her that exclusivity isn't an option, so she'll stick around long enough to fall in love and become addicted to you (because you're better in bed than everyone else) and then she'll tolerate that you're banging other women - because, well, leaving you is too painful at this point.
I don't think this is as deceptive as it first sounds. Rose was being more vague than dishonest. And vagueness is a proper response. After all, he ended up in an exclusive relationship when he wrote the second edition. So the expectations he gave were realistic, even if he didn't consciously know it at the time. This is how women think, anyway; even if you tell her directly, "no, I'm not interested in an exclusive relationship with you," she will try her best always because intuitively, she knows that persistence might work… which it can.
In dealing with the "exclusivity" question - Rose points out the importance of the post-sex pillow talk. After sex, especially with orgasms, we are naturally much more emotionally open with each other - we let our guard down and become more suggestible. Pillowtalk is the best time and place to bond emotionally. As Rose points out, it is also the best time and place to tell her that you're not ready to be exclusive.
An unfortunate point Rose makes, which I think is far off, is that he overstates the value of having sex for a man. If you don't have sex for a long time, he says, women will sense your desperation and run away from you. But unfortunately, men already have a needy attitude toward sex, and this mindset based on false premises exacerbates their urgent need to get laid.
On the contrary, you can lack an abundance of options, even any readily available choices. You can have gone without sex for months and not even have a shred of neediness.
If sex is the only thing you care about, then an abundance of sex is the only way to have a frame of abundance.
On a related issue, Rose says that having sex is a muscle you train. Therefore, the more sex you have, the higher your sex drive becomes.
I am in partial agreement.
Here are some facts about having sex and sex drive:
1) If you stop having sex, your libido will build up gradually and peak at around two weeks or so.
2) Prolonged periods of no sex will make you less interested in sex continually.
3) If you start having sex for an extended period and stop, your libido will be higher than before you started having sex.
4) When starting sex again after a prolonged period of celibacy, your libido will be higher in the start phase than if you continually had sex all the time.
So it's evident that libido does not work like cardio. With cardio, you lose it if you don't use it. Married men would have far more libido than single guys if that were the case.
This discussion about sex and libido is not merely about ejaculating but about "sexual expression," which ejaculating is a form of. There's a marked difference between masturbating and having sex in this regard.
The libido seems to go undercover after prolonged periods of no sex. And it might erupt to the surface once in a while like a volcano, as you have latent sexual prowess waiting to be unleashed. It does not go away if you keep exerting your libido in other forms. I think of the pure libidinal energy still circulating the system, but that it is not converted into the carnal desires of reproduction as much as before when doing prolonged semen retention and celibacy, but other acts of libidinal expression.
This is a complex topic - I am a long way from figuring it out.
Rose's book has the unfortunate messages that 1) You must have sex as often as possible. Otherwise, women will be unattracted to you, and 2) You must continually strive to have sex to build up your sex drive so you can have more sex.
He advocates having sex with mediocre women to keep the ball rolling.
This is a false belief and instills an unhealthy mindset in men. It's important to realize that men don't need to constantly blow loads into women to be emotionally healthy, confident, spiritually fulfilled, or have a healthy sex drive.
I'm not saying it's necessarily wrong to do this. But, at the very least, make sure you genuinely want it and enjoy it. Not as a means to an end for sexual mastery, because you think it will make you more attractive, or for your lay count, or so you can feel better about yourself.
Getting good at sex is a fine ambition. This book is a great starting point. I'd recommend it with an asterisk:
* Be careful that you're becoming a sex god instead of letting sex become your god.
On the majority, we view sex as a way of expressing ourselves, being who we are, and unleashing our true, uninhibited nature. We don't see it as yet another thing to systemize, track progress, evaluate, read, and think about.
But this is wrong because the degree to which you've consciously put deliberate effort into learning an art, the greater you can be spontaneous and express yourself using the art form.
Take the piano as an analogy. You must study notes, practice rigorously and monotonously learn songs other people have written before you can improvise and write songs of your own and genuinely express yourself. The same principle is true with sex.
I read this back when I was a teenager, and it has been lurking in the back of my mind for years. Some of the things I've read have never left me. It had a significant influence on me.
I checked out the book on Goodreads about two years ago, and I read an angry -- top-rated -- review pointing out how misogynistic the book is, quoting the "worst" parts of the book.
When I read the review, a lightbulb flashed over my head, and I thought, "Oh my goodness, I can say that to her?" The value of these books is that you learn to do things you haven't done before, not because you lack courage but because it has never occurred to you.
It's pretty amusing that someone would call a book misogynistic when its objective is to give pleasure to women. Rose isn't advocating slamming women into doors because he's angry at them but because he wants them to come. There is a meaningful difference between aggressiveness and anger.
So, what's good about this book?
This book isn't so much about what to do and what to say but about what kind of beliefs you should have. There are many concrete examples in the book, but the point isn't merely to "do" these things but "become" someone who would. Again, a helpful analogy would be the piano. When you learn songs on the piano that other people have written, you improve your ability to improvise. You get the notes into your bones, combining all that you've learned; you synthesize something new creatively.
I appreciate how Rose points out that you don't have to be coherent or make sense to be erotic. Well, at least by what we men think "making sense" implies. For example, you could say, "Take this you bitch” and then whisper, "I love you so much," the very next second. Or while you're pulling her hair hard (close to the roots, of course), you tell her you would never hurt your baby.
This seems … contradictory. And it might very well be. But for the sake of eroticism, it's actually a plus because a big part of sex is about satisfying the chaotic elements of the mind - eroticism isn't supposed to be logical or coherent.
In the heights of sexual arousal, the emotional intensity is all that matters, and whether it's negative and positive emotion doesn't matter. But you've got to ensure one doesn't outweigh the other too much. So again, variety is essential. If you're sugar-sweet all the time, she'll get sick. If you're cussing her out … and that's all you do, she'll take offense and not enjoy it.
I also like how this is the only sex book I've ever read that says that women do not always have to be warmed up. Everyone says you've got to be down there for at least half an hour before you even dare think about putting it in, mister.
Of course, warming up isn't always a horrible idea, but I like that this is the only sex book that says you don't - always - have to do it. Sometimes going caveman is preferable to the romantic buildup. Doing something suboptimally may be beneficial if it brings variety. For example, while a bed is objectively the best place in the world for intercourse, letting the couch be in on the fun occasionally can be better simply because it adds variety.
If it's one thing you take away from this book, it's this: Sexual pleasure is primarily psychological, not physical, and this is ten times doubly true for women. Don't worry so much about using the proper technique by studying her anatomy like you're her urogynecologist. Sex is about eroticism. The uncertainty, the excitement, the tint of danger, the passion, the love. Or, in Rose's terms: The domination, the emotion, the variety, and the immersion.
Probably the most important one is domination. Biologically, women desire to be dominated and be taken by a confident, aggressive, and wild man … full of testosterone and virile lust for her.
We live in a progressive, egalitarian society. So it's understandably hard to wrap your head around that an emotionally healthy woman gets turned on by being "disrespected" and controlled. But with experience, this becomes undeniable, and you will start appreciating it as natural.
The majority of the manosphere gets the alpha/beta dynamic wrong. We are taught women want an aloof badboy who doesn't give a fuck about anything, who's got plenty of options, and who treats her like just another woman in his harem. If this is how we define alpha, then I think you should be beta if you want great sex.
Women want a man who deeply cares. But not prematurely, as this is a sign of desperation. I sense that a women's dream is to feel that the man loves them because he has found out how special she is, and she feels she is in the process of taming a wild beast. The best sex is when there is genuine affection involved. Women love it when you say words of affection, even if it's so needy that it's literally "I need you." It's ok to tell her that you love her, need her and think about her all the time. But not when gone on one date ... Unless you're being ironic.
It's great to have feelings for a girl, but not more emotional involvement than her because if you do, it's game over, bro.
As alluded to earlier, domination and emotion are not mutually exclusive. A lot of guys struggle with the Madonna-whore complex to a certain degree. They tend to idealize women they love, so they can't objectify them in bed. They become soft, yielding, and undetermined. "Honey, shall we have sex tonight?" They feel it's wrong to "treat her like his whore” when she's his angel. And so the sex suffers.
Another aspect Rose discusses is immersion.
The more you're in the present moment - with her - the more you are attuned to what's going on, and the better the sex will be. When sex gets boring or when we are insecure or uncomfortable, our minds tend to drift.
We don't want to be stuck up in our heads. Sex can be a way to deeply connect our bodies and even experience altered states of consciousness - but it is often reduced to two bodies masturbating for mere ego gratification.
Unfortunately, we tend to be in our mental bubble, and the man and woman playing out their fantasy in their head so that they can come faster - or just stay hard.
I think a lot of people are uncomfortable with sex. It's ironic how people embrace casual sex - but to do it, they must get hammered, barely conscious enough to have sex.
If sex is so trivial to you, why do you need alcohol? Why do you close your eyes, shut off the lights, and play loud music? Why does your mind drift away when having it? I think people are uncomfortable by just how intimate sex is. A key to better sex is to have the courage to embrace the intimacy and the present moment, acutely aware of what's going on and being in touch and therefore deeply emphatic with the other person.
I get that it's tempting to use mental fantasy, such as thinking of other women while you're having sex. Either because you want to please her by being erect or because you can't come at this point otherwise. This is an instance where fantasy retards the development of reality.
Fantasy robs us of the need to make sex more exciting. It robs us of the necessity of using creative imagination to change things up and to take steps toward improving sex. Plus, it adds "stimulation debt," similar to porn. Quitting has withdrawal symptoms. Plain old vanilla reality will become dull in comparison, and suddenly you can't get hard as much as before - especially now that you haven't taken steps to improve reality. You need faith that reality will ultimately be much more rewarding, fulfilling, and meaningful.
Private fantasies in sex are counterproductive. Sharing fantasies - the jury is still out on this one for me. It's exponentially better, for sure. But I suspect that the same principles apply to a degree.
You can draw the line between healthy and destructive fantasy by evaluating if reality would benefit from having it manifested - and that there is a chance of it manifesting - at least towards its direction. I hate to be a moralist on this topic. However, Rose himself - the allegedly anti-moralist sexual freak, warns against using certain fantasies even though they can be very exciting.
I think moralism needs to become cool again - rebranded as "Intelligent hedonism."
The book can be a bit silly at times. For instance, when Rose explains why women want a dominant man, he says that at a certain point in history, all the alpha males decided to beat up the beta males. Therefore women prefer an alpha because her offspring is more secure. This is the pinnacle of bro-evolutionary-science.
It's not the most intellectually stimulating read and perhaps unnecessarily vulgar (The most used words in this book are "pussy” "cock” "fuck” and "cum” in that order), but it gets the message across.
Now, onto the difficulties.
Rose claims that a sexual master does not make any moral judgments on sexual behavior.
I totally get where he's coming from: nobody wants to have sex with someone who feels like they judge them.
Rose tells us to stop shaming sluts - judge women exactly like men in terms of promiscuity, etc. It seems like Rose buys into, or at least advocates pretending to believe in feministic "equality" of sexuality.
Sexual openness, for Rose, is always admirable and is a sign of maturity and self-esteem. He says: "Just make sure that you make it clear that you think being a slut is something commendable."
This is where Rose missed the mark.
Does moral flexibility get us laid?
Sure, if you're looking to increase your body count, it's probably not a good idea to voice any moral judgments on loose women or the consequences of sex. She'll probably wait to have sex with you so you won't judge her as a slut.
Likewise, if you voice moral judgments about women who do anal before marriage - she won't have anal with you before marriage. Again, this isn't rocket science.
Rose is spot on when he says the more morally judgemental you are about sex, the more she will hide her sexual past.
So why does he miss the mark?
Carl Rogers's teachings are a reasonable frame in dealing with these topics: You should have unconditional positive regard, be congruent, and have empathic understanding.
Being congruent implies saying what you think.
Pretending to have no moralistic judgments when you really do is incongruent. It stifles the personal connection, and she'll sense the inauthenticity. There will be less emotion and immersiveness, and dominance. Are you truly dominating her if you're suppressing your own opinions while she's not?
The most important thing is what you actually believe - whether it's your faith, moral intuition, intellectual understanding or hard gained experience, or all combined.
In avoiding a degenerate culture, each individual's responsibility is to speak their mind and not just nod their head to anything and everything in hopes that our moral flexibility will get them prestige, money, and sex.
In the overall picture, I think it's that both sexual conservatives and liberals should appreciate the fact that we're going through incredible rapid technological changes such as reliable birth control, antibiotics, social media, and Tinder. But, unfortunately, on the timeline of humanity, these things happened an hour ago, and we collectively have no idea how to deal with this new sexual reality. Therefore, we should all be humble and open-minded - empathic and understanding - careful, honest, and act in good faith.
At one point or another on your epic quest to get laid more often, you should stop and think about why you're doing this.
Being good at sex is not something you do but something you are.
Personal character trumps sexual experience any day of the week.
What's more fun, having sex with a virgin or a woman with a body count in the triple digits?
It's the wrong question. So let me ask a better one: What's more fun, having sex with a woman with low or high self-esteem?
Sexual techniques are quickly-learned trivialities compared to your core personality.
These things are important to evaluate if you consider promoting deceitful moral flexibility to get laid more because you want to get better at sex.
Look, It's clear that often Rose knows what he's talking about. He's David Deida's vulgar, slightly less articulate naughty little brother. He's legit, but his limits are visible.
The book's limitations show when Rose lays out the do's and don'ts. He gives this advice based on a few personal failures/successes, far too prematurely to put as general rules in a printed book. I understand how these serve as guidelines for a beginner to understand a good mindset - but it is only on a superficial level.
In arranging open relationships, he advocates giving women false expectations for an exclusive relationship so they will stick around longer. "The means justify the ends," he writes, "as it will ultimately lead to the most pleasure for her."
Rose writes that you don't want to tell her that exclusivity isn't an option, so she'll stick around long enough to fall in love and become addicted to you (because you're better in bed than everyone else) and then she'll tolerate that you're banging other women - because, well, leaving you is too painful at this point.
I don't think this is as deceptive as it first sounds. Rose was being more vague than dishonest. And vagueness is a proper response. After all, he ended up in an exclusive relationship when he wrote the second edition. So the expectations he gave were realistic, even if he didn't consciously know it at the time. This is how women think, anyway; even if you tell her directly, "no, I'm not interested in an exclusive relationship with you," she will try her best always because intuitively, she knows that persistence might work… which it can.
In dealing with the "exclusivity" question - Rose points out the importance of the post-sex pillow talk. After sex, especially with orgasms, we are naturally much more emotionally open with each other - we let our guard down and become more suggestible. Pillowtalk is the best time and place to bond emotionally. As Rose points out, it is also the best time and place to tell her that you're not ready to be exclusive.
An unfortunate point Rose makes, which I think is far off, is that he overstates the value of having sex for a man. If you don't have sex for a long time, he says, women will sense your desperation and run away from you. But unfortunately, men already have a needy attitude toward sex, and this mindset based on false premises exacerbates their urgent need to get laid.
On the contrary, you can lack an abundance of options, even any readily available choices. You can have gone without sex for months and not even have a shred of neediness.
If sex is the only thing you care about, then an abundance of sex is the only way to have a frame of abundance.
On a related issue, Rose says that having sex is a muscle you train. Therefore, the more sex you have, the higher your sex drive becomes.
I am in partial agreement.
Here are some facts about having sex and sex drive:
1) If you stop having sex, your libido will build up gradually and peak at around two weeks or so.
2) Prolonged periods of no sex will make you less interested in sex continually.
3) If you start having sex for an extended period and stop, your libido will be higher than before you started having sex.
4) When starting sex again after a prolonged period of celibacy, your libido will be higher in the start phase than if you continually had sex all the time.
So it's evident that libido does not work like cardio. With cardio, you lose it if you don't use it. Married men would have far more libido than single guys if that were the case.
This discussion about sex and libido is not merely about ejaculating but about "sexual expression," which ejaculating is a form of. There's a marked difference between masturbating and having sex in this regard.
The libido seems to go undercover after prolonged periods of no sex. And it might erupt to the surface once in a while like a volcano, as you have latent sexual prowess waiting to be unleashed. It does not go away if you keep exerting your libido in other forms. I think of the pure libidinal energy still circulating the system, but that it is not converted into the carnal desires of reproduction as much as before when doing prolonged semen retention and celibacy, but other acts of libidinal expression.
This is a complex topic - I am a long way from figuring it out.
Rose's book has the unfortunate messages that 1) You must have sex as often as possible. Otherwise, women will be unattracted to you, and 2) You must continually strive to have sex to build up your sex drive so you can have more sex.
He advocates having sex with mediocre women to keep the ball rolling.
This is a false belief and instills an unhealthy mindset in men. It's important to realize that men don't need to constantly blow loads into women to be emotionally healthy, confident, spiritually fulfilled, or have a healthy sex drive.
I'm not saying it's necessarily wrong to do this. But, at the very least, make sure you genuinely want it and enjoy it. Not as a means to an end for sexual mastery, because you think it will make you more attractive, or for your lay count, or so you can feel better about yourself.
Getting good at sex is a fine ambition. This book is a great starting point. I'd recommend it with an asterisk:
* Be careful that you're becoming a sex god instead of letting sex become your god.
April 20, 2019
An excellent book for maximizing your sexual potential but some of the concepts are a little abstract which will make it more challenging for beginners to implement.
August 14, 2020
Great book for someone who grew up in Christian purity culture. Helped me to understand that good sex really starts in the mind, and by creating erotic anticipation. I would recommend the book for any guy who feels might struggle with being too timid in bed. Some of his ideas might not work for everyone, but overall, it was a life changing book.
November 30, 2017
کتاب به رابطه بین آدم ها کار نداره زیاد و بیشتر فقط به سکس (کامش؟) و رابطه ی جنسی میپردازه و بیشتر هم راجع به جنبه ی ذهنی و روانی این مسئله می پردازه نه جنبه ی فیزیکیِ سکس. خوبی کتاب این بود که ذهنم رو نسبت به این مسئله خیلی خیلی بازتر کرد و ابعادی رو بهش پرداخته بود که من اصن حتا فکر هم نمی کردم بهشون. در کل بعد از خوندنش خیلی فکر کردن به این مسئله رو برام راحت تر کرد. در آخر هم اینکه کتاب دیدگاهش مردانه ست و زیاد خوندنش برای خانم ها سودی نداره به نظرم.
February 25, 2024
Un libro curioso, desde luego. No dare muchos detalles, jajaja
February 26, 2024
Some time ago, and for no particular reason, I read a book titled The Sex God Method. As the title suggests, the book was full of strategies to use to turn ordinary women into drooling sex slaves. The author describes his life of "spinning plates" in great detail, with a harem of 3-4 women, each of whom he pounds into a state of blissful retardation, typically with multiple orgasms, uninhibited dirty talk, prodigious spurts of fluid, etc. Don't get me wrong: I've filed away a few of the tricks described for future use, but after considering the book carefully, I've concluded that I have no desire to be a "Sex God" as described therein. I like sex as much as the next person, but I wouldn't consider it the focal point of my life; in fact, there is something infantile about the obsession with it. Indeed, self-conscious lotharios like the fellow who wrote this book project a deep-rooted desire to please and be granted approval by women, likely due to Nietzsche's idea of ressentiment stemming from teenage rejection, or mommy issues. The single guys I know IRL who rack up an impressive number of cum dumpsters are practically androgynous both in appearance and character, with hairless bodies and neotenous faces. So-called "slayers" bring to mind the story of Enkidu from The Epic of Gilgamesh, a wild beast coursing with pure testosterone, who is only brought to heel when seduced by the most cunning (and thorough) whore in Uruk. Every ejaculation rids your body of a subtle spiritual essence which—if not restored by proper nutrition, rest, and abstinence—leaves a man vacant and unmotivated. The gluteal emphasis culture imposed upon women is nothing more than inculcation into a sex cult, with thin fabric stretched taut against puffy vulvae acting like the sweet secretions of the Venus fly trap, luring defenseless prey to their doom. The result is an inversion of nature's design, rendering the fertile sterile, and yielding nothing but an enslavement to animal lust. A real "Sex God", therefore, doesn't employ cheap tricks to make girls spurt geysers, but rather, transmutes the awesome power of sexual desire into a creative force, for as Napoleon Hill said, "No man can avail himself of the forces of his creative imagination, while dissipating them." The best sex tip is to keep your cock holstered.
January 11, 2018
I like Daniel's ideas of DEVI (Dominance, Emotion, Variety, and Immersion), but the two-star rating is because: (a) the book is replete with ego and I-fucked-the-shit-out-of-her talks, and I think the message could have been delivered without this style, and (b) there is a lot of interesting claims with no reference at all to any scientific studies that could support these claims.
June 9, 2021
Basics of male heterosexuality. Arrogant author. Written for an audience of thirsty boys
March 15, 2021
A crazy book about giving your woman a great experience.
June 1, 2019
This book has some interesting points that are very true about sexuality and sex in general.
I can't 100% recommend it, because TBH, knowing these things would not help you. they might even make you worse.
For example: one of the things Daniel mentions in his book is immersion, and how important it is (totally agree!) but he than proceeds in telling you about acts that are good to do, which would make your immersion much worse if you'd be thinking to yourself if you're doing the right thing, instead of just enjoying the experience.
I did give it a 4 stars because Daniel mentions that you shouldn't focus on technique, however I imagine that after reading this book, most people would probably still think too much about all the other things in the book, when the underline message is actually - be present.
I can't 100% recommend it, because TBH, knowing these things would not help you. they might even make you worse.
For example: one of the things Daniel mentions in his book is immersion, and how important it is (totally agree!) but he than proceeds in telling you about acts that are good to do, which would make your immersion much worse if you'd be thinking to yourself if you're doing the right thing, instead of just enjoying the experience.
I did give it a 4 stars because Daniel mentions that you shouldn't focus on technique, however I imagine that after reading this book, most people would probably still think too much about all the other things in the book, when the underline message is actually - be present.
January 10, 2013
I was disappointed when I realised, while reading it, that it was going to be almost only about the psychological aspects of sex, but after reading it in its entirety, I can't say that I would've been better off not reading it, even though I haven't found exactly what I was looking for when deciding to read this book. However, I found something else, something as valuable and as important.
The psychological side of sex is neglected by most and, if you think that you don't need to read this book, you most likely do.
The psychological side of sex is neglected by most and, if you think that you don't need to read this book, you most likely do.
March 17, 2020
How to give your woman orgasms SOO intense and became sexually attracted to you and only you? READ THIS BOOK!
Sex God Method = DEVI (Dominance, Emotion, Variety, Immersion)
One of the greatest books in this field, this book gives you not just a solid knowledge about physical and psychological techniques but how to have and build the right mindset in sexual life, also some sex secrets to improve your sexual pleasure.
SO RECOMMENDED!
Sex God Method = DEVI (Dominance, Emotion, Variety, Immersion)
One of the greatest books in this field, this book gives you not just a solid knowledge about physical and psychological techniques but how to have and build the right mindset in sexual life, also some sex secrets to improve your sexual pleasure.
SO RECOMMENDED!
February 2, 2018
It works 100%. The book is mostly about arousing and satisfying the subconscious and deep primal unconscious nature of human beings. Some sections may not be politically correct but the DEVI model is a great way to add new elements to the bedroom.
June 6, 2018
Everything man needs to know about sex, why do yon need to go through trial and error when you can get high value knowledge from this book.
This book is for anyone who wants to improve their sex life
This book is for anyone who wants to improve their sex life
January 26, 2023
Pure magic dust sprinkled with diamonds in a cream pu$zy juice soup. Enjoy it, and put it to practice. I've read, re-read, re-read and re-read and still skim through the book for new ideas and new thing sto try out.
July 8, 2018
Helpful and really changes the field when it comes to sex.
Hope i had found it sooner
Hope i had found it sooner
December 2, 2018
Works as advertised.
December 26, 2018
There are some interesting ideas (mostly regarding domination), but too much emphasis is put on dirty talk and the section on physical technique is very poor.
February 24, 2019
Kinda funny that I'm doing a lot of this stuff naturally
August 24, 2020
A must read for every man.
August 27, 2024
Accommodate her fantasies, and show her that you are not constrained by a straitjacket of hypocritical sexual morals like most men. Realize that your objections are not the divine voice of right and wrong, but inhibitions that are the product of social conditioning.
This book is full of solid, actionable advice that you'll likely pick up anyways as you gain experience. But Rose breaks it down in a way that gives you specific items to think about.
Rose's strategy is primarily psychological, and he breaks the psychology bit down into Dominance, Emotion, Variety, and Immersion. These make good sense and are rather self-explanatory, but the chapters are rife with specific examples that help drive the points home. Part 2 is about some physical techniques and specific issues that men might encounter in bed.
Rose doesn't tiptoe around social expectations. He's explicit and vulgar to an extreme. There are some real bro-science head scratchers included. And he writes at the level of a teenager. But he's effective at getting his point across.
Perhaps the greatest limitation of Rose's strategy is the singular focus and lack of adaptability. This is what women want whether you know it or not. This is what you should do, and don't do anything else or you're going to be a disappointment. This book is a great base of ideas for getting better in the bedroom, but not the game-ender that it's billed as.
This book is full of solid, actionable advice that you'll likely pick up anyways as you gain experience. But Rose breaks it down in a way that gives you specific items to think about.
Rose's strategy is primarily psychological, and he breaks the psychology bit down into Dominance, Emotion, Variety, and Immersion. These make good sense and are rather self-explanatory, but the chapters are rife with specific examples that help drive the points home. Part 2 is about some physical techniques and specific issues that men might encounter in bed.
Rose doesn't tiptoe around social expectations. He's explicit and vulgar to an extreme. There are some real bro-science head scratchers included. And he writes at the level of a teenager. But he's effective at getting his point across.
Perhaps the greatest limitation of Rose's strategy is the singular focus and lack of adaptability. This is what women want whether you know it or not. This is what you should do, and don't do anything else or you're going to be a disappointment. This book is a great base of ideas for getting better in the bedroom, but not the game-ender that it's billed as.
October 14, 2023
This is THE book that takes you from zero to advanced in the bedroom.
The first section of the book focuses on the principles and mindsets of a Sex God, this section alone is enough to reprogram the way you think about sex and what it means to be the ultimate lover for women.
The later sections go into more specific detail, but not so much as to not overwhelm you and cause you to overthink.
The last section goes into advanced techniques that will keep you busy and experimenting for the rest of your life.
Overall, the book gives you a complete guide on sex as a man in a standard heterosexual relationship. One read will already set you above the majority of men on the planet.
The first section of the book focuses on the principles and mindsets of a Sex God, this section alone is enough to reprogram the way you think about sex and what it means to be the ultimate lover for women.
The later sections go into more specific detail, but not so much as to not overwhelm you and cause you to overthink.
The last section goes into advanced techniques that will keep you busy and experimenting for the rest of your life.
Overall, the book gives you a complete guide on sex as a man in a standard heterosexual relationship. One read will already set you above the majority of men on the planet.
November 11, 2018
Very informative book, on the emphasize on psychology part of the mind. And awesome DEVI framework in piecing everything together. However i feel that some part of the thinking, and mindset’s might be up for individual discretion to adopt
February 15, 2025
Liest sich teilweise eher wie ein Porno als ein Guide. Wenig neue Tipps, und teilweise einfach nur respektlos gegenüber Frauen. Der Autor empfindet sich selbst als den größten Alpha, was er immer wieder durchklingen lässt.
January 27, 2018
Best book on the power of sex and how you can improve the psychological and physical things you do to make sex more fun and interesting.
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