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Sexual Intelligence: The Groundbreaking Study That Shows You How to Boost Your "Sex IQ" and Gain Greater Sexual Satisfaction
How sexually intelligent are you? This remarkable, groundbreaking book will help you find out.
Although 75 percent of Americans say that a satisfying sex life is important to them, only 25 percent claim to have achieved one. While most people might think that statement is shocking, it doesn't surprise Dr. Sheree Conrad and Dr. Michael Milburn. Both professors of psychology, Conrad and Milburn have discovered that more than thirty years after the so-called sexual revolution, many of us are as confused as ever about how to achieve sexual satisfaction and struggle with sexual dysfunctions that interfere with a happy, healthy sex life.
The sexual revolution of the 1960s and '70s didn't solve everyone's sexual problems, and our teenagers, raised on images of sex in the media from an early age, are not more sophisticated about sex than their parents. Instead, Americans of all ages suffer in silence, unwilling and unable to confront their deepest sexual insecurities and fears. But no one has to live this way — Conrad and Milburn have come up with a way to measure a profound new concept they call "sexual intelligence." Their research has shown that people who score high in sexual intelligence are more sexually satisfied and have fewer sexual dysfunctions. And the best part is, not only can you measure your own sexual intelligence, you can also identify your weakest areas and use the tools provided in the book to boost your "sex IQ."
Does this sound too good to be true? It's not.
The authors embarked on the Sexual Intelligence Research Project, a comprehensive, rigorous study that analyzed the sexual beliefs and behaviors of sexually "average" people. They administered their Sexual Intelligence Test to the research participants and were astonished by the results.
* A startling number of Americans suffer from chronic sexual dysfunctions, including lack of desire, inability to achieve orgasm, and impotence, that interfere with their sex lives.
* It's not just the middle-aged or couples married twenty years who have sexual problems. In fact, some of the highest rates of sexual dysfunction occur among young people.
* People of all ages, of both genders, consistently say that they do not have anyone to talk to about their sexual concerns and will not talk about sex problems with spouses and partners.
For the first time, Conrad and Milburn are sharing the Sexual Intelligence Test with readers, who can take it, get their scores, and find out what the results mean. Filled with moving, heartfelt stories from the men and women who participated in the study, Sexual Intelligence gives people the power to transform their lives by teaching them the crucial components of sexual intelligence and will revolutionize the way we think about sex today.
How sexually intelligent are you?
1. In your current relationship (or in your last long-term relationship), approximately how often do you (or did you) talk with your partner about your sex life?
a) Once a week.
b) Once a month.
c) Once every six months.
d) Never.
2. How would you rate your current sex life, compared to most other people's sex lives?
a) Not nearly as exciting as most people's.
b) About the same as most people's.
c) More exciting than most people's.
d) I'm not currently in a sexual relationship.
3. Have you ever kept a sexual secret from a partner over a long period of time?
a) No, never.
b) Once or twice.
c) Several times.
d) Frequently.
4. How do you feel about the content of the sexual fantasy you have most often or find most arousing?
a) I'd be horrified if anyone knew the content.
b) I'd be embarrassed if my partner knew the kind of fantasies I have.
c) I might be a little hesitant but also find it exciting to share the content with my sexual partner.
d) I talk to my closest friends about my fantasies.
Take the Sexual Intelligence Test and find out how you can boost your "sex IQ," gain greater sexual satisfaction, rid yourself of sexual problems, and have a healthier and happier sex life!
Although 75 percent of Americans say that a satisfying sex life is important to them, only 25 percent claim to have achieved one. While most people might think that statement is shocking, it doesn't surprise Dr. Sheree Conrad and Dr. Michael Milburn. Both professors of psychology, Conrad and Milburn have discovered that more than thirty years after the so-called sexual revolution, many of us are as confused as ever about how to achieve sexual satisfaction and struggle with sexual dysfunctions that interfere with a happy, healthy sex life.
The sexual revolution of the 1960s and '70s didn't solve everyone's sexual problems, and our teenagers, raised on images of sex in the media from an early age, are not more sophisticated about sex than their parents. Instead, Americans of all ages suffer in silence, unwilling and unable to confront their deepest sexual insecurities and fears. But no one has to live this way — Conrad and Milburn have come up with a way to measure a profound new concept they call "sexual intelligence." Their research has shown that people who score high in sexual intelligence are more sexually satisfied and have fewer sexual dysfunctions. And the best part is, not only can you measure your own sexual intelligence, you can also identify your weakest areas and use the tools provided in the book to boost your "sex IQ."
Does this sound too good to be true? It's not.
The authors embarked on the Sexual Intelligence Research Project, a comprehensive, rigorous study that analyzed the sexual beliefs and behaviors of sexually "average" people. They administered their Sexual Intelligence Test to the research participants and were astonished by the results.
* A startling number of Americans suffer from chronic sexual dysfunctions, including lack of desire, inability to achieve orgasm, and impotence, that interfere with their sex lives.
* It's not just the middle-aged or couples married twenty years who have sexual problems. In fact, some of the highest rates of sexual dysfunction occur among young people.
* People of all ages, of both genders, consistently say that they do not have anyone to talk to about their sexual concerns and will not talk about sex problems with spouses and partners.
For the first time, Conrad and Milburn are sharing the Sexual Intelligence Test with readers, who can take it, get their scores, and find out what the results mean. Filled with moving, heartfelt stories from the men and women who participated in the study, Sexual Intelligence gives people the power to transform their lives by teaching them the crucial components of sexual intelligence and will revolutionize the way we think about sex today.
How sexually intelligent are you?
1. In your current relationship (or in your last long-term relationship), approximately how often do you (or did you) talk with your partner about your sex life?
a) Once a week.
b) Once a month.
c) Once every six months.
d) Never.
2. How would you rate your current sex life, compared to most other people's sex lives?
a) Not nearly as exciting as most people's.
b) About the same as most people's.
c) More exciting than most people's.
d) I'm not currently in a sexual relationship.
3. Have you ever kept a sexual secret from a partner over a long period of time?
a) No, never.
b) Once or twice.
c) Several times.
d) Frequently.
4. How do you feel about the content of the sexual fantasy you have most often or find most arousing?
a) I'd be horrified if anyone knew the content.
b) I'd be embarrassed if my partner knew the kind of fantasies I have.
c) I might be a little hesitant but also find it exciting to share the content with my sexual partner.
d) I talk to my closest friends about my fantasies.
Take the Sexual Intelligence Test and find out how you can boost your "sex IQ," gain greater sexual satisfaction, rid yourself of sexual problems, and have a healthier and happier sex life!
352 pages, Hardcover
First published June 19, 2001
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July 25, 2019
Fue la primera vez que supe de este concepto "inteligencia sexual", y entendí que en realidad, sabemos menos de lo que creemos.
February 1, 2009
There's been a spate of "improve your sex life" books recently, most of which fall into the "wink wink, nudge nudge" category. Sexual Intelligence takes a much more sensible approach. It's about understanding your own sexual history and views of sex and how they contribute to your ability to have fulfilling, meaningful intimate relationships. That said, I've got some problems with this book.
The core of the book is a study where the authors correlated people's sexual history and attitudes to their current situation. By naming this correlation "sexual intelligence" they imply that's it's some kind of "sex IQ", when a number of factors that have nothing to do with "intelligence", including your personal history, are taken into account.
Also, as a caveat, the book doesn't have anything to say about what's right or wrong in sexual conduct. This is about factors that correlate with satisfaction. I applaud the fact that intimacy, love, and care are all given their due, however this book isn't a guide in how to conduct your life vis-a-vis sex.
For example, in the section on affairs at work, the book notes that "sexually intelligent" people report they've had intimate relationships with co-workers that turned out great, while for people who did not score high on the sexual intelligence scale, such affairs turned out badly—a rather ambiguous conclusion at best.
Nevertheless, this book is full of useful information and a number of good case studies, without a puerile slant.
The core of the book is a study where the authors correlated people's sexual history and attitudes to their current situation. By naming this correlation "sexual intelligence" they imply that's it's some kind of "sex IQ", when a number of factors that have nothing to do with "intelligence", including your personal history, are taken into account.
Also, as a caveat, the book doesn't have anything to say about what's right or wrong in sexual conduct. This is about factors that correlate with satisfaction. I applaud the fact that intimacy, love, and care are all given their due, however this book isn't a guide in how to conduct your life vis-a-vis sex.
For example, in the section on affairs at work, the book notes that "sexually intelligent" people report they've had intimate relationships with co-workers that turned out great, while for people who did not score high on the sexual intelligence scale, such affairs turned out badly—a rather ambiguous conclusion at best.
Nevertheless, this book is full of useful information and a number of good case studies, without a puerile slant.
December 19, 2012
This book was terrible. When I first considered pursuing an education in human sexuality this is one of the first books that I came across. Besides it being wretchedly formatted, I felt it was a bit insulting to the intelligence of adults and so off the mark that it was actually damaging to people, adults and teens, who were genuinely curious and looking for real answers. I usually put old books I'm not fond of in a free box outside my place...but this one? To the trash, without remorse. It fit right in. I only wish I had it still that I could cite its many atrocities. If it had had, "Attempting," at the start of the title I would have been less dissappointed and significantly less furious about it. What I can say as a positive, however, is that this book provided a perfect example of what sex education can look like and has helped put me on a path of truly rational, scientific pursuit of solutions to what I consider not only a Western challenge, but one that is most surely global. I almost didn't bother checking out Marty Kline's (Klein?) book of the same title thinking it was one in the same. I haven't read his work yet but have listened to interviews and feel its safe to say he has a much more satisfying breadth of knowledge and better methods of presenting it. I wish I could have given this book no stars.
January 25, 2015
I enjoyed the case studies, but the whole concept of sexual intelligence felt incredibly gimmicky and potentially damaging to me and left out people who identify as asexual. Some of the measures of sexual intelligence, such as having sex four times a week, seemed very judgmental and exclusive of factors going on in a person's life (for instance, if someone who is currently single and not in a relationship would be docked on this when at that time in that person's life it might be more healthy for them to be abstinent), not to mention dismissive of the fact that people have different drives. Some couples may be fine with a few times a week, others every day. As long as the couple is satisfied, then it's healthy, striving for a right number isn't.
It also promulgated the idea of sexual addiction without acknowledging that sex addiction is not currently recognized as a disorder and there is a lot of debate over whether or not it is one. Brain studies, for instance, cast doubt on it being an addiction.
There is some good information, but a lot to take with a grain of salt as well.
It also promulgated the idea of sexual addiction without acknowledging that sex addiction is not currently recognized as a disorder and there is a lot of debate over whether or not it is one. Brain studies, for instance, cast doubt on it being an addiction.
There is some good information, but a lot to take with a grain of salt as well.
November 26, 2009
One of those I think I should read, I know there's valuable information in it, but I just dislike it. For example- they share a story of a woman who wanted to have an affair and almost did until she found out the man wasn't interested in her "that way" then they applaud her use of self-control for not sleeping with him. But it wasn't really like she had a choice in the matter. I mean she was planning to and was only prevented from doing so when he introduced her to his own fiance. So it wasn't self control on her part so much as bad luck wasn't it?
I know it's silly but I just got turned off by that.
I know it's silly but I just got turned off by that.
August 1, 2007
Interesting at times, bland at others
Want to read
December 16, 2007Heard about this in an article in NYTimes about teenage sexual behavior. Could be interesting, I'm sad to see other users are giving it only 2 stars. Probably I'll flip through it at a bookstore.
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