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Showing Up for Life: Thoughts on the Gifts of a Lifetime
A heartfelt, deeply personal book that shines a bright light on the values and principles that Bill Gates Sr. has learned over a lifetime of “showing up”: lessons that he learned growing up during the Great Depression, and that he instilled in his children and continues to practice on the world stage as the co-chair of the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation.Through the course of several dozen narratives arranged in roughly chronological fashion, Gates introduces the people and experiences that influenced his thinking and guided his moral compass. Among the scoutmaster who taught him about teamwork and self reliance; and his famous son, Trey, whose curiosity and passion for computers and software led him to ultimately co-found Microsoft. Through revealing stories of his daughters, Kristi and Libby; his late wife, Mary, and his current wife, Mimi; and his work with Nelson Mandela and Jimmy Carter, among others, he discusses the importance of hard work, getting along, honoring a confidence, speaking out, and much more.Showing Up for Life translates one man’s experiences over fourscore years of living into an inspiring road map for readers everywhere.As Bill Gates Sr. puts "I’m 83 years old. Representing the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation and everyone who is a part of it has given me the opportunity to see more of the world and its rich possibilities than most people ever do. I never imagined that I’d be working this late in life, or enjoying it so much."
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First published January 1, 2009
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March 8, 2010
What an amazing book!!!! I have heard about Bill Gates, the boy who founded Microsoft started in his basement and made a huge business. That is all true, but Bill Gates Sr. is the one who raised him and that has made all the difference. Each short chapter is a pearl of wisdom from Gates Sr. ranging from people and experiences throughout his life. He filled his life with important projects to help mankind. He and his wife were busy helping people, introducing their children to amazing, influential people and raising incredibly well rounded children who all have given back to their communities, some more then others. Gates carefully planned traditions, social activities, and service opportunities to teach his children to always be giving, caring, helping, hard working people. Gates gave me several ideas of things I can add to my families life to make us all a little better then we were before.
I am very impressed. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND this book to EVERYONE. Each chapter is very short. You can read just a few pages and be highly inspired or motivated each time. It is no wonder Bill Gates Jr. was able to create a multi billion dollar business with the enriching education carefully planned for him and his siblings. The Gates enriched their lives, the lives of the children, and their community with some careful planning, hard work, and a lot of fun mixed. I want to be more like that when I grow up.
I am very impressed. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND this book to EVERYONE. Each chapter is very short. You can read just a few pages and be highly inspired or motivated each time. It is no wonder Bill Gates Jr. was able to create a multi billion dollar business with the enriching education carefully planned for him and his siblings. The Gates enriched their lives, the lives of the children, and their community with some careful planning, hard work, and a lot of fun mixed. I want to be more like that when I grow up.
July 20, 2019
I would like to come back to this book time and again, such a treasure. This quote sums up this book for me -
"There's nothing in life worth surrendering the right to think of oneself as a good person" ❤️
I highly recommend it to all!
"There's nothing in life worth surrendering the right to think of oneself as a good person" ❤️
I highly recommend it to all!
June 25, 2016
Short books are like a snack, these days. And this one was delicious.
Just finished Showing Up For Life: Thoughts on the Gifts of a Lifetime by Bill Gates, Sr.
This book is like the every-man renaissance grandpa you always wanted, condensing all of his life lessons down into 188 small pages. There's so many delicious bits of wisdom in here.
My one thing: getting involved (in his words, 'showing up') with civic organizations (Rotary, United Way, etc.) is hugely important, something that I've neglected thus far my life. Time to change that!
Just finished Showing Up For Life: Thoughts on the Gifts of a Lifetime by Bill Gates, Sr.
This book is like the every-man renaissance grandpa you always wanted, condensing all of his life lessons down into 188 small pages. There's so many delicious bits of wisdom in here.
My one thing: getting involved (in his words, 'showing up') with civic organizations (Rotary, United Way, etc.) is hugely important, something that I've neglected thus far my life. Time to change that!
October 19, 2014
Mr. Gates and I do not see eye to eye on many things, but I really appreciate what he has to offer here and I highly recommend this work. Here are some of the quotes included that I marked and will use in the future.
-"Thinking matters through before we act is always difficult and often consumes a lot of our time. But it is simply not possible to be a person of integrity without doing it." -Stephen Carter
-One of the nicest compliments I ever received was paid me when I had been invited to speak at a conference on philanthropy in celebration of Rockefeller University's one hundredth anniversary. After the speech they told a friend of mine that it appeared I was "a gracious, intelligent man who hadn't made his mind up about everything yet." I hope they were right.
-"The first job of a citizen is to keep your mouth open." -Gunter Grass
-"Character is a tree. Reputation is its shadow." -Abraham Lincoln
-A commitment doesn't have to be written down in a contract or prefaced with an "I promise" to bear weight. Even social promises must be kept. Many of us make commitments too casually.
-In each of our lives, we have opportunities to do many things when no is watching. And it is under such circumstances that we express and cultivate character. We all make mistakes. But, as the classics attest, there is nothing in life worth surrendering the right to think of oneself as a good person. There are intersections of integrity and temptation in every career and every life. The challenge is to do the right thing no matter what.
-It turns out way back then Trey was recording his impressions on such things as what it's like to go knocking on doors trying to sell a product, what factors influence buying decisions, and to what degree find the right market for your products influences your overall success.
-A ritual that we loved was the "Exchange Dinner". It was intended to give the children the opportunity to dine with parents other than their own mother and father. It began with a drawing in which each child learned the name of the couple that would be hosting him or her for dinner. The system was organized so siblings never ended up at the same dinner table. My children remember it as a great way to learn how to converse with adults other than Mary and me.
-Over time you reach a level of understanding and trust with your closest friends. You know these people, their prejudices and idiosyncrasies. You accept them, and you are even charmed by them. You sense that they in turn accept, uncritically, who and what you are. To share a hearty laugh with friends you don't need jokes. You just need punch lines. A lot goes without saying. And this is part of the inexpressible comfort of having an old friend.
-A question: If our universities are so good, and competition is so paramount to the way they operate, might it follow that competition improves quality? It seems to me it does. So what about pre-university education? Any analysis of our K-12 system shows virtually no competition whatsoever. No competition among teachers, no competition among schools, and no competition among school districts…The challenge is that reform required is so fundamental. The profession of teaching K-12 must be revitalized. Why not provide similar incentives for K-12 education as is accepted in higher education. Teachers and administrators could look forward to rewards for work well done, and, conversely, poor performance would result in job loss or demotion. Another element not to be overlooked as a motivating force is respect from colleagues for doing a quality job.
-Some four letter words can halt polite conversation instantly, but the one I find most destructive seldom causes shock or embarrassment. That word is "mine". As we work and acquire assets of various kinds, there's a tendency to credit ourselves for our successes and achievements. If we're generous by nature, we also may include at least some good luck and timely help from friends. But all of that overlooks the obvious. Those of us who live in a free and open society owe a very large debt to our country as well. One reason our view of life can be pleasant and expansive today is that we stand on the shoulders of generations who invested in the common good and in our future as well as their present. There's no question that we've been given a lot. The question is about what we give back. Which brings me to another, even more powerful four-letter word: Ours.
-There's a tendency to blame government and politicians for everything that goes wrong, and to resent paying taxes. Yet there's little tendency to thank government for the things it does well.
-Doctor Melanie Brown noted that the painter Claude Monet had cataracts that distorted his perception, but suggested that he used that distortion to paint his glorious water lilies. She said the the delicacy, lightness, beauty, and softness of his paintings came not from perfect eyesight, but from perfect insight. Insight into the more subtle characteristics of nature.
-"We all warm ourselves by fires we did not build and drink water from wells we did not dig." -Robert Lawrence Smith
-"Courage is not simply one of the virtues but the form of every virtue as its testing point." -C.S. Lewis
-"Thinking matters through before we act is always difficult and often consumes a lot of our time. But it is simply not possible to be a person of integrity without doing it." -Stephen Carter
-One of the nicest compliments I ever received was paid me when I had been invited to speak at a conference on philanthropy in celebration of Rockefeller University's one hundredth anniversary. After the speech they told a friend of mine that it appeared I was "a gracious, intelligent man who hadn't made his mind up about everything yet." I hope they were right.
-"The first job of a citizen is to keep your mouth open." -Gunter Grass
-"Character is a tree. Reputation is its shadow." -Abraham Lincoln
-A commitment doesn't have to be written down in a contract or prefaced with an "I promise" to bear weight. Even social promises must be kept. Many of us make commitments too casually.
-In each of our lives, we have opportunities to do many things when no is watching. And it is under such circumstances that we express and cultivate character. We all make mistakes. But, as the classics attest, there is nothing in life worth surrendering the right to think of oneself as a good person. There are intersections of integrity and temptation in every career and every life. The challenge is to do the right thing no matter what.
-It turns out way back then Trey was recording his impressions on such things as what it's like to go knocking on doors trying to sell a product, what factors influence buying decisions, and to what degree find the right market for your products influences your overall success.
-A ritual that we loved was the "Exchange Dinner". It was intended to give the children the opportunity to dine with parents other than their own mother and father. It began with a drawing in which each child learned the name of the couple that would be hosting him or her for dinner. The system was organized so siblings never ended up at the same dinner table. My children remember it as a great way to learn how to converse with adults other than Mary and me.
-Over time you reach a level of understanding and trust with your closest friends. You know these people, their prejudices and idiosyncrasies. You accept them, and you are even charmed by them. You sense that they in turn accept, uncritically, who and what you are. To share a hearty laugh with friends you don't need jokes. You just need punch lines. A lot goes without saying. And this is part of the inexpressible comfort of having an old friend.
-A question: If our universities are so good, and competition is so paramount to the way they operate, might it follow that competition improves quality? It seems to me it does. So what about pre-university education? Any analysis of our K-12 system shows virtually no competition whatsoever. No competition among teachers, no competition among schools, and no competition among school districts…The challenge is that reform required is so fundamental. The profession of teaching K-12 must be revitalized. Why not provide similar incentives for K-12 education as is accepted in higher education. Teachers and administrators could look forward to rewards for work well done, and, conversely, poor performance would result in job loss or demotion. Another element not to be overlooked as a motivating force is respect from colleagues for doing a quality job.
-Some four letter words can halt polite conversation instantly, but the one I find most destructive seldom causes shock or embarrassment. That word is "mine". As we work and acquire assets of various kinds, there's a tendency to credit ourselves for our successes and achievements. If we're generous by nature, we also may include at least some good luck and timely help from friends. But all of that overlooks the obvious. Those of us who live in a free and open society owe a very large debt to our country as well. One reason our view of life can be pleasant and expansive today is that we stand on the shoulders of generations who invested in the common good and in our future as well as their present. There's no question that we've been given a lot. The question is about what we give back. Which brings me to another, even more powerful four-letter word: Ours.
-There's a tendency to blame government and politicians for everything that goes wrong, and to resent paying taxes. Yet there's little tendency to thank government for the things it does well.
-Doctor Melanie Brown noted that the painter Claude Monet had cataracts that distorted his perception, but suggested that he used that distortion to paint his glorious water lilies. She said the the delicacy, lightness, beauty, and softness of his paintings came not from perfect eyesight, but from perfect insight. Insight into the more subtle characteristics of nature.
-"We all warm ourselves by fires we did not build and drink water from wells we did not dig." -Robert Lawrence Smith
-"Courage is not simply one of the virtues but the form of every virtue as its testing point." -C.S. Lewis
July 12, 2017
It's hard for me to mention anything negative about the book, given the fact that Bill Gates Sr. is so upbeat and offers so many inspirational ideas. For the most part, his brief entries about how to be a better citizen and add to the world in some way were inspirational. He talked about the achievements of others more than his own too, so he certainly wasn't full of himself.
I enjoyed reading about all his kids and how they'd inspired him, how working for his son and daughter-in-law's Foundation was a humbling experience, and about the various people he'd met all over the world who weren't famous. However, it wasn't necessary to keep mentioning he had so much responsibility with the Foundation.
What holds me back from a three-star review is mostly what I saw as poor ghost writing. Other than that, he has a lot to say and there were some good lessons to take away.
I enjoyed reading about all his kids and how they'd inspired him, how working for his son and daughter-in-law's Foundation was a humbling experience, and about the various people he'd met all over the world who weren't famous. However, it wasn't necessary to keep mentioning he had so much responsibility with the Foundation.
What holds me back from a three-star review is mostly what I saw as poor ghost writing. Other than that, he has a lot to say and there were some good lessons to take away.
January 23, 2020
Most of this book seems to be an ode to Bill Gates senior's family, among them his most famous son of the same name, called Trey by the family. I would even say it's a great reflection on family values and growing kids. So a very short biography would not be incorrect categorization.
Latter part goes more worldwide and more astray than it should. On the other hand it might just be that the man playing golf and thinking about big problems just really likes to talk about these topics. I imagine for most of the people it just goes a bit over the top. Then again, the optimism could be contagious and maybe this short book is exactly what a person needs to be inspired. Although I feel it would be more practical to read something more to the point with concrete advice. Like Stephen Covey's 7 habits or Tim Ferriss' 4 hour books.
Latter part goes more worldwide and more astray than it should. On the other hand it might just be that the man playing golf and thinking about big problems just really likes to talk about these topics. I imagine for most of the people it just goes a bit over the top. Then again, the optimism could be contagious and maybe this short book is exactly what a person needs to be inspired. Although I feel it would be more practical to read something more to the point with concrete advice. Like Stephen Covey's 7 habits or Tim Ferriss' 4 hour books.
May 31, 2025
An ode to his family, friends and the cause of their foundation. If you're familiar with his son's bio such as recent Source Code, there aren't new/different stories. There are some glimpses of wisdom, but there isn't much said to support it anecdotally and even if the book is short, Woody Allen's showing up quote, the central theme of the book, feels repetitive.
January 21, 2021
This was a quick read and really interesting. From the father of THE Bill Gates, it touches on things from their parenting ideas, to their family values, to the work they've done, etc. It has a touch of humor and the audiobook feels pretty personal. It's fascinating to learn about the family, and was worth the read. Probably not life-changing since so much doesn't apply to the average joe, but still had some nice lessons.
December 30, 2020
A quick read, with an interesting view of Bill Gates Sr.'s life. Neat to hear him talk about his son, from a fatherly perspective, and also to hear all of the accomplishments that he had in his life that probably influenced his kids. I especially liked his view on holidays and the importance of traditions. There were a number of good points and ideas.
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August 8, 2011Norman Rockwell meets Oprah Winfey here, but Showing Up for Life is a fascinating, quick read that sheds light on the traditional family structure and old-fashined values--singularly American-- that bred the mega-success and mega-philanthropy of his famous son as well as the rest of their glorious family. Bill Gates, Sr., is humble and outspoken in the manner of the best politicians, without a hint of irony or corruption. You'll find this in the self-help section, but it's really a memoir and a blueprint for how he has lived his life. The title comes from Gates' humble belief that his success in life comes largely from he fact that he's always "showed up" for people, causes, helping a neighbor, always asking himself the question, "What else can I do?" These people obviously don't appreciate the singular bliss of cat naps or navel contemplation. They are an admirable breed completely engaged with the world and committed to being of practical service.
October 15, 2009
Bill Gates Sr.'s book is an interesting intersection with the other book I am working my way through for the 2nd time, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. Covey points out early in his text that our country has moved from a character ethic (shown by integrity, humanity, industry, modesty and fidelity) to a personality ethic (shown by quick fix solutions, influence, attitudes and strategy). Bill Gates Sr. illustrates his character filled life with short touching anecdotes about his family. Although it built my esteem for the man who is giving away his son's riches, I wonder what the motivation was to publish these stories.
February 12, 2010
Having just recently read The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch, I was expecting this book to be quite similar. It was in format, but not so much in content. It is obvious that the author is passionate about being a citizen of the world, as this seemed to dominate the last half of the book. Because the book was something different than I anticipated, I did not enjoy it as much as I could have had I not had any expectations. However, there were several things which I will take away from reading it, and it did cause me to think on certain subjects in a way that challenged my thoughts and feelings.
October 18, 2009
I liked his quote by Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen in "Kitchen Table Wisdom". "Life is the ultimate techer, but it is usually through experience and not scientific research that we discorer its deeper lessons. We are all here for a single purpose: to grow in wisdom and learn to love. We can do this through losing as well as through winning, by having and not by having, by succeeding or by failing. All we need to do is to show up openhearted for class...So fulfilling life's purpose may depend more on how we play than what we are dealt. You have to be present to win."
March 30, 2012
After reading this book I now feel like saving the world, helping other people, starting something that could be come big while also feeling encouraged that there are others out there who plod on even though it may not be showing how much good you are doing. Bill Gates Sr. is very insightful and has a unique outlook on life. I wish more people in my life had his outlook.
August 29, 2020
Gained a lot of insightful and wisdom from value and principles that Bill Gates Sr. learned over his lifetime of showing up. Really recommend this book for someone who love to learn from someone's life / thoughts like me, plus this book is in very light-reading/content-form :)
Ps: really inspired by Mary's enthusiasm for life; celebrating present moments.
Ps: really inspired by Mary's enthusiasm for life; celebrating present moments.
December 22, 2019
Great life advice
This book is a fairly quick read and reads more as a collection of thoughts and axioms. There are powerful life lessons contained within. Indeed, our world can and will be changed by the application of some of the lessons.
This book is a fairly quick read and reads more as a collection of thoughts and axioms. There are powerful life lessons contained within. Indeed, our world can and will be changed by the application of some of the lessons.
May 7, 2009
Quick read. Each chapter is about someone who has infuenced Bill Gates during his lifetime. Great book.
November 7, 2010
Bill Gates Sr. is an impressive person. Smart, reasonable, real. Liked this - motivating.
April 6, 2024
"Showing Up for Life: Thoughts on the Gifts of a Lifetime" is a heartfelt and reflective memoir by Bill Gates Sr., father of Microsoft co-founder Bill Gates. Published in 2009, this book offers readers a compelling meditation on the values, principles, and experiences that have shaped Gates Sr.'s life and legacy.
At its core, "Showing Up for Life" is a celebration of the power of community, service, and generosity. Gates Sr. shares personal anecdotes and reflections on his upbringing, his career as a lawyer and philanthropist, and his role as a father and grandfather, offering readers valuable insights into the importance of giving back and making a difference in the world.
One of the book's greatest strengths is its emphasis on the importance of relationships and connections in living a fulfilling and meaningful life. Gates Sr. reflects on the mentors, friends, and family members who have inspired and supported him along the way, as well as the lessons he has learned from them about the value of integrity, humility, and compassion.
Moreover, "Showing Up for Life" is also a deeply personal book, with Gates Sr. sharing candid reflections on his own successes and failures, as well as the challenges and triumphs he has faced over the years. He offers readers a glimpse into the values and principles that have guided his decision-making and shaped his worldview, providing valuable lessons and inspiration for readers of all ages.
In addition to its insights into personal and family life, "Showing Up for Life" also offers readers a broader perspective on the importance of philanthropy and social responsibility in creating positive change in the world. Gates Sr. shares stories of his involvement in various charitable organizations and causes, offering readers practical advice and encouragement for getting involved in their own communities.
However, while "Showing Up for Life" offers a compelling and inspiring message, it is not without its limitations. Some readers may find Gates Sr.'s writing style somewhat dry or formal, and his focus on personal anecdotes and reflections may not resonate with everyone. Additionally, the book's emphasis on Gates Sr.'s privileged upbringing and connections may limit its relevance for readers from different backgrounds.
In conclusion, "Showing Up for Life" is a thought-provoking and inspiring memoir that offers readers valuable insights into the power of community, service, and generosity. Bill Gates Sr.'s reflections on a lifetime of learning and giving back make this book a must-read for anyone interested in living a meaningful and fulfilling life.
At its core, "Showing Up for Life" is a celebration of the power of community, service, and generosity. Gates Sr. shares personal anecdotes and reflections on his upbringing, his career as a lawyer and philanthropist, and his role as a father and grandfather, offering readers valuable insights into the importance of giving back and making a difference in the world.
One of the book's greatest strengths is its emphasis on the importance of relationships and connections in living a fulfilling and meaningful life. Gates Sr. reflects on the mentors, friends, and family members who have inspired and supported him along the way, as well as the lessons he has learned from them about the value of integrity, humility, and compassion.
Moreover, "Showing Up for Life" is also a deeply personal book, with Gates Sr. sharing candid reflections on his own successes and failures, as well as the challenges and triumphs he has faced over the years. He offers readers a glimpse into the values and principles that have guided his decision-making and shaped his worldview, providing valuable lessons and inspiration for readers of all ages.
In addition to its insights into personal and family life, "Showing Up for Life" also offers readers a broader perspective on the importance of philanthropy and social responsibility in creating positive change in the world. Gates Sr. shares stories of his involvement in various charitable organizations and causes, offering readers practical advice and encouragement for getting involved in their own communities.
However, while "Showing Up for Life" offers a compelling and inspiring message, it is not without its limitations. Some readers may find Gates Sr.'s writing style somewhat dry or formal, and his focus on personal anecdotes and reflections may not resonate with everyone. Additionally, the book's emphasis on Gates Sr.'s privileged upbringing and connections may limit its relevance for readers from different backgrounds.
In conclusion, "Showing Up for Life" is a thought-provoking and inspiring memoir that offers readers valuable insights into the power of community, service, and generosity. Bill Gates Sr.'s reflections on a lifetime of learning and giving back make this book a must-read for anyone interested in living a meaningful and fulfilling life.
December 12, 2023
Wow, I really don't know what to say. I think the biggest thing is, if you have gone through any sort of hardship in your life or have a smidge of a moral compass you should pass on this book. I was hoping to find some insight from his wisdom and life accomplishments but it came across wrong. Obviously he and his family have found success but it was very much the traditional way. I felt as thought there was a lot of name dropping and not enough depth to his anecdotes. Much was grazed over and the lessons were very much like the quotes you would see on posters that are in a doctor's office. I did read the whole thing and was hoping to take something a way. I got one thing, and it had nothing to do with him LOL. Oh and one thing that really got me going was he had a chapter [Four-Letter Words] that honestly was just his own take on something Warren Buffett was preached egregiously.
Overall, I think the main takeaway from this is that the book is of an old man pondering his life but barely scratching the surface. Honestly at the end of my life, if this is all I have to takeaway I will be extremely bummed.
My favorite part of the book is, "They say that in certain traditionally Zulu parts of South Africa, when two people greet each other the first one uses words that mean, 'I see you.'
The other person answers with words that mean 'I am here.'
This reflects their belief that a person is not a person unless he or she is been by others."
Anyways, here are my quotes....
"Over time your reach a level of understanding and trust with your closest friends. You know there people, their prejudices and idiosyncrasies. You accept them, and you are even charmed by them. You sense that they in turn accept, uncritically, who and what you are." This is the one good quote. If you take anything away from this book that comes from his mouth.
"Lately, I've been wondering if any of that thinking is worth passing on to others."
"And maybe sometimes I show up because it irritates me hen other people don't show up." PERIOD
"Achieving anything of real significance in life requires hard work." NO SHIT
"Character is a tree. Reputation is its shadow."--Abraham Lincoln NOT the author. Don't get it twisted.
"Some of life's most enduring lessons can also be among the most painful."
"Many of us make commitments too casually." <--- this is my new year's resolution
"A career seems to unfold at its on pace and in its own direction without always being under the absolute control of its owner."
"What I learned from this is that life sends opportunities and challenges our way. And our futures are shaped by how we respond to them."
"Sometimes it is better to reform one's own expectations." Mary Gates, again not him.
"Give your children roots and wings." His daughter Libby's words.
Overall, I think the main takeaway from this is that the book is of an old man pondering his life but barely scratching the surface. Honestly at the end of my life, if this is all I have to takeaway I will be extremely bummed.
My favorite part of the book is, "They say that in certain traditionally Zulu parts of South Africa, when two people greet each other the first one uses words that mean, 'I see you.'
The other person answers with words that mean 'I am here.'
This reflects their belief that a person is not a person unless he or she is been by others."
Anyways, here are my quotes....
"Over time your reach a level of understanding and trust with your closest friends. You know there people, their prejudices and idiosyncrasies. You accept them, and you are even charmed by them. You sense that they in turn accept, uncritically, who and what you are." This is the one good quote. If you take anything away from this book that comes from his mouth.
"Lately, I've been wondering if any of that thinking is worth passing on to others."
"And maybe sometimes I show up because it irritates me hen other people don't show up." PERIOD
"Achieving anything of real significance in life requires hard work." NO SHIT
"Character is a tree. Reputation is its shadow."--Abraham Lincoln NOT the author. Don't get it twisted.
"Some of life's most enduring lessons can also be among the most painful."
"Many of us make commitments too casually." <--- this is my new year's resolution
"A career seems to unfold at its on pace and in its own direction without always being under the absolute control of its owner."
"What I learned from this is that life sends opportunities and challenges our way. And our futures are shaped by how we respond to them."
"Sometimes it is better to reform one's own expectations." Mary Gates, again not him.
"Give your children roots and wings." His daughter Libby's words.
September 19, 2020
Another quick read I continued while waiting at the bus stop to go to the grocery store. This book is composed of short chapters each depicting an anecdote that results in a life lesson for Bill Gates Sr.. It is fitting that reading this coincided with his death. Well, it sort of precipitated the read, but I have had this on my list for a while because I love the concept of "showing up for life." I think a lot of people have a hard time following through or straight-up showing up to events or sort of menial tasks that make the difference between a well-hearted person and a mediocre one. Bill Gates Sr. (who I am going to refer to as Bill from this point forward) has a well-formed idea of how a family should run, and this is deeply embedded in the book. He believes in forming traditions, showing and receiving love in an outward manner, and using family as a device to teach children about life and acceptable behavior in society. Thank God he didn't talk about Bill Gates III the entire time. He talks about all his children and his wives (he was widowed). It is a very American approach to family, and I cannot say my family is the same way, so it is interesting to see how another side of the world lives. His life is greatly influenced by the church, so that also has some bearing on his choices. You can tell he really values his friends and all of those who have made him who he is. It is also quite interesting to know that he is a passionate lawyer and doesn't view himself as a bloodsucker, but rather one who hopes to arouse change through each case. The reason for my 3 stars is some parts of the book are limp, but it's so quick, you don't notice. Nothing stands out significantly in my eyes, so there is no reason for higher stars.
October 16, 2024
Showing Up for Life by Bill Gates Sr. offers a heartfelt glimpse into the Gates family and the values that shaped them. While the book is interesting and easy to read, it feels a bit oversimplified. The recurring theme of “showing up” is meant to tie the narrative together, but it starts to feel a bit overused—like the concept is stretched to cover too much territory under one umbrella.
Much of the book revolves around how great the family is, which makes it feel more like an “ode to parenthood” than a practical guide to life. Gates Sr. reflects on the joy and importance of parenting, and while it’s touching, it often feels like the focus is more on how fortunate he was to raise such a successful son than offering broader life lessons. This makes it seem like the book is more about family success than actionable advice for readers.
There are also several references to the United Way throughout the book. While charitable work is admirable, the frequency of these mentions starts to feel a bit promotional, as if it’s more of a plug than a natural part of the narrative.
That said, Gates Sr.’s passion and enthusiasm are evident throughout, which makes the book engaging in places. It’s clear that he genuinely believes in the importance of showing up for others and being present in both personal and community life.
Ultimately, Showing Up for Life reads more like a nostalgic reflection on parenting and “how things used to be” than a practical manual for living. It offers some thoughtful moments but doesn’t break new ground. If you’re looking for insights on parenting or enjoy stories about family dynamics, you might appreciate it more. However, as a guide to life in general, it feels a bit lacking.
Much of the book revolves around how great the family is, which makes it feel more like an “ode to parenthood” than a practical guide to life. Gates Sr. reflects on the joy and importance of parenting, and while it’s touching, it often feels like the focus is more on how fortunate he was to raise such a successful son than offering broader life lessons. This makes it seem like the book is more about family success than actionable advice for readers.
There are also several references to the United Way throughout the book. While charitable work is admirable, the frequency of these mentions starts to feel a bit promotional, as if it’s more of a plug than a natural part of the narrative.
That said, Gates Sr.’s passion and enthusiasm are evident throughout, which makes the book engaging in places. It’s clear that he genuinely believes in the importance of showing up for others and being present in both personal and community life.
Ultimately, Showing Up for Life reads more like a nostalgic reflection on parenting and “how things used to be” than a practical manual for living. It offers some thoughtful moments but doesn’t break new ground. If you’re looking for insights on parenting or enjoy stories about family dynamics, you might appreciate it more. However, as a guide to life in general, it feels a bit lacking.
August 20, 2023
This book is a concise but charming compilation of Mr. Gates’ thoughts on life - from marriage, work, parenting, civic responsibility and more. Its brevity in no way diminishes its value - it is a thoroughly enjoyable stroll through some important (and some not so important) life lessons he has learned over the years. The “other” Bill Gates wrote the forward to his father’s book and it is equally brief but very touching: “Dad, the next time somebody asks you if you”re the real Bill Gates, I hope you say, “Yes.” I hope you tell them that you’re all the things the other one strives to be"
Parenting does not come with an instruction book - all of us have to figure it out as we go along, relying on our own parent's methods and our gut instincts. Likewise, children are their own personalities and while they may be cut from the same gene pool they may not be cut from the same cloth. But, while we may be different, everybody is good at something and we should find that thing in ourselves and encourage others to find theirs. Both the author and his late wife, Mary, lived this credo with all three of their children who are different but accomplished in their own way.
We can all show up for life in our own way - say yes to things, step out of our comfort zone and maybe heed the advice of Mr. Gates.
Parenting does not come with an instruction book - all of us have to figure it out as we go along, relying on our own parent's methods and our gut instincts. Likewise, children are their own personalities and while they may be cut from the same gene pool they may not be cut from the same cloth. But, while we may be different, everybody is good at something and we should find that thing in ourselves and encourage others to find theirs. Both the author and his late wife, Mary, lived this credo with all three of their children who are different but accomplished in their own way.
We can all show up for life in our own way - say yes to things, step out of our comfort zone and maybe heed the advice of Mr. Gates.
November 25, 2024
Showing Up for Life by Bill Gates Sr.
Life lessons and stories
Showing Up for Life is a book about life lessons and stories from one of the most well-versed individuals regarding raising successful kids. The book tells about various life lessons and experiences, such as the importance of grandparents and the times when he went on annual camping trips with his family. The main character is Bill Gates Sr., although he goes into depth about his children and childhood role models. This book teaches many life lessons that will be useful now and in the early years of adulthood.
That being said I loved this book, you can truly tell the amount of thought and detail Bill put into every page of this book. This comes through by his great word choice that captures a vivid image and also allows me to picture exactly what he is saying in my head. The amount of thought he put into this book is also shown in the heading which gives a short quote at the top of the page at the start of each chapter. By doing this he creates an organized yet fluent book.
This book is suited for people entering adulthood or those who have young children. Still, almost any reader can enjoy this book because of the life lessons and stories that will make any age reader more knowledgeable than when they first opened the book.
Life lessons and stories
Showing Up for Life is a book about life lessons and stories from one of the most well-versed individuals regarding raising successful kids. The book tells about various life lessons and experiences, such as the importance of grandparents and the times when he went on annual camping trips with his family. The main character is Bill Gates Sr., although he goes into depth about his children and childhood role models. This book teaches many life lessons that will be useful now and in the early years of adulthood.
That being said I loved this book, you can truly tell the amount of thought and detail Bill put into every page of this book. This comes through by his great word choice that captures a vivid image and also allows me to picture exactly what he is saying in my head. The amount of thought he put into this book is also shown in the heading which gives a short quote at the top of the page at the start of each chapter. By doing this he creates an organized yet fluent book.
This book is suited for people entering adulthood or those who have young children. Still, almost any reader can enjoy this book because of the life lessons and stories that will make any age reader more knowledgeable than when they first opened the book.
April 8, 2018
I happened to watch the sci-fi movie Cloud Atlas the same day I read, and while both are very different in style and substsnce they both illustrate how the decisions we each make affect the lives of others. Our lives are entangled with the life choices of others, and we create our shared futures. The question is : what kind of future do you want, and are you willing to make a difference even when you might not personally benefit? The philanthropy of the Bill and Melinda Gates foundation started with a home where his parents modeled civic action and participation in humanitarian concerns including the United Way. You don't have to be a billionaire to make an impact and no matter how insignificant we might think our efforts are in comparison, without any action nothing will change. That is the positive message I took away.
March 10, 2023
Overall good advice for taking action on things that matter or should. The advice was not new but perhaps a good reminder Gates spends much of his book in the role of a very proud parent, grandparent, and husband talking about and elevating all close relatives to something close to sainthood. Most are indeed very good to exceptional but I suspect they all fall a little short of the petals they are placed on in the book. If I discover the real reason of writing the book was to contribute all revenue t.o good causes I will change my review to 5 stars.
I picked this up to find out more about his son, Bill Gates the 3rd or Trey as he is called in the book. My bookclub is reading Bill's book about saving the planet from climate disater. Really know little more about Bill than when I picked up the book but I guess this wasn't the real reason for the book.
I picked this up to find out more about his son, Bill Gates the 3rd or Trey as he is called in the book. My bookclub is reading Bill's book about saving the planet from climate disater. Really know little more about Bill than when I picked up the book but I guess this wasn't the real reason for the book.
June 8, 2022
You are the result of your network and values.
Gates senior educated his family well in building philanthropic intuition. I am impressed by how he gets his family exposed to so many influential and kind people. It seems that it is not their money or status, but their leadership and altruism that draw people to them.
How do you build confidence and leadership? Building from scratch, convincing people for a good cause, speaking up, and showing up for the community. Then the good fortune will come.
The problem is, how does one set his or her career and family straight before having the time and energy, and connection to achieve more in life?
行百里者半九十。成长中也许也有边际效应递减。突破打工人的隔膜，进入社会精英阶层需要的不仅是权势，还有远见，正念和胆识。
Gates senior educated his family well in building philanthropic intuition. I am impressed by how he gets his family exposed to so many influential and kind people. It seems that it is not their money or status, but their leadership and altruism that draw people to them.
How do you build confidence and leadership? Building from scratch, convincing people for a good cause, speaking up, and showing up for the community. Then the good fortune will come.
The problem is, how does one set his or her career and family straight before having the time and energy, and connection to achieve more in life?
行百里者半九十。成长中也许也有边际效应递减。突破打工人的隔膜，进入社会精英阶层需要的不仅是权势，还有远见，正念和胆识。
April 4, 2019
A remarkable walk down memory lane as our family and the Gates family have been friends since 1960's. The life lessons are ones that all of us need reminding of. This easy read is great for a daily does of inspiration and education.
If you've ever wondered about "the real Bill Gates" and how the one the world knows got his view of life and giving, "Showing Up for Life" will give you a glimpse into that upbringing. I am grateful for Bill Sr., his late wife Mary Maxwell Gates, and the fruit their 'showing up' in our lives has produced! ~Bill Pritchard
If you've ever wondered about "the real Bill Gates" and how the one the world knows got his view of life and giving, "Showing Up for Life" will give you a glimpse into that upbringing. I am grateful for Bill Sr., his late wife Mary Maxwell Gates, and the fruit their 'showing up' in our lives has produced! ~Bill Pritchard
October 6, 2019
Lifelong wisdom boiled down and served in bite-sizes
Bill Gates Sr. feels like a grandpa you wish you had to sit down by fireside, listen and ask questions all night long. The next best thing is to read this book. His character and humanity are revealed through lifelong experiences. Simplicity of his message on embracing universal human values helps to see the wood for the trees. His encouragement to embrace life with vitality, be present, show up, get involved, and do something that matters to you is energizing.
Bill Gates Sr. feels like a grandpa you wish you had to sit down by fireside, listen and ask questions all night long. The next best thing is to read this book. His character and humanity are revealed through lifelong experiences. Simplicity of his message on embracing universal human values helps to see the wood for the trees. His encouragement to embrace life with vitality, be present, show up, get involved, and do something that matters to you is energizing.
November 24, 2020
Bill Gates, Sr. recounts his life in interesting vignettes that brim with gratitude for those who gave to him - family, friends, colleagues and neighbors and those who he's met and learned from and served - and shares the lessons he's learned along the way. If you are young and not started a family, this is a good book for you. If you have started a family, this is a good book for you. If you are now successful and your children are on their own and your wondering what's next for you, this is a good book for you.
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