When even his friends refer to him as 'a balding, bug-eyed opportunist with the looks of a beach ball, the charisma of a glove-puppet and an ego the size of a Hercules supply plane,' the odds of Toby Young scoring - in any sense - appear to be slim. But then HOW TO LOSE FRIENDS, his memoir about failing to take Manhattan, becomes an international bestseller. Now Tinseltown beckons. After receiving a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity from a Hollywood producer, Toby sets his sights anew on a high-flying career, this time on the West Coast. But it doesn’t take long for Toby’s self-sabotaging instincts to reassert themselves. On the home front, though, things are looking Toby persuades his girlfriend to marry him and move to Los Angeles - but then she decides to abandon her promising legal career in order to become a full-time housewife . . . and mother.Toby’s hapless attempts to pursue a glamorous showbiz career while buried in nappies will strike a chord with all modern fathers struggling to find the right work/life balance . . . and with their exasperated wives. Failure - and fatherhood - have never been funnier.
Toby Daniel Moorsom Young (born 1963) is a British journalist and the author of How to Lose Friends and Alienate People, the tale of his failed five-year attempt to make it in the U.S. as a contributing editor at Vanity Fair magazine, as well as The Sound of No Hands Clapping, a follow-up about his failure to make it as a Hollywood screenwriter. His obnoxious wit has earned him almost as many enemies as admirers and the title of "England's heterosexual Truman Capote". As the son of a baron, he is entitled to use the title the Honourable, but declines to style himself as such.
Toby Young's second, equally brilliantly titled memoir, starts off after How to Lose Friends and Alienate People has got into print. It happens to catch the eye of a Hollywood producer who offers him a crack at adapting a biography about a self-destructive '70s-era record producer into a screenplay for a movie he wants to make, while a a different set of producers comes around to talk about making his first book into a movie. Once again, he's in America going after the Big Time, albeit on the West coast rather than the East.
It would be a mistake to approach this book as Toby's Big Hollywood Adventure, however. No Hands Clapping is really a chronicle of his life after the events of the previous book, with his screenwriting experiences just the connecting thread running through the narrative.
Toby still has ambitions, but the fire's not as hot as when he hopped across the Atlantic to work for Graydon Carter. The tensions and conflicts that did so much to make the original book interesting for me - the contrast between his intelligence and education and his starstruck hunger for glamour, his frustrated lust for the good life, the clash between his rather shallow goals and his parents' accomplishments and values – are far less in evidence here, having largely run their course the last time around. Toby's settling down at the end of the last book is a significant part of that, and as might be guessed, his life as a "whipped" (but mostly content) boyfriend, husband and father coping with domestic and mid-life crises is rather less entertaining than his earlier laddishness. He's still quite good at "losing friends and alienating people," but he seems to be enjoying the role a bit too much.
The result is that this all seems more like an anticlimax to the history that made him an "icon of defeat" rather than a fully satisfactory follow-up. Still, there were some of the funny bits and worthwhile insights that helped make the first book memorable.
Most of us are faced with this kind of dilemma. Some would choose family over career, yet still others would rather give up a successful family life in exchange of a flourishing career – something that is very common in the modern times.
It was my first time to give humor a chance. I was more into serious tones of reads. But having read quite a lot of drama in the past, I wanted to experience something I have never tried before. To my surprise, Toby Young‘s The Sound of No Hands Clapping: A Memoir appeared right in front of me, as if saying, “Hey, pick me up! I am exactly what you are looking for.” The title sounds interesting so I decided to grab it without second thoughts.
The book is about Toby Young’s writing career downfall. It is an account of the tough times he went through as a journalist and screenwriter (well a writer’s life most of the time isn’t smooth), with getting married and having kids in between.
It must have been really tough for someone who is just starting to establish a writing career and also starting to build a family. What Toby Young thought funny was actually something to think about for amateur and veteran writers alike. Career? Family? Or both?
Careerwise, this book gave a picture of how Hollywood is like, including it’s dos and don’ts. It also expressed important things to remember about writing a good literature. And familywise, well, you gotta read this book!
I really, really, really liked how it went until the end. I thought to myself how it is possible to be remembered as a writer and at the same time become the best father that you can be.
This one is definitely a good, good read for writers and aspiring writers, and anyone interested in literature and show business.
After British journalist Toby Young was fired from Vanity Fair in New York for various reasons such as pissing off and alienating everyone on the staff (I doubt the folk at VF took too kindly to Young buying coke (on expenses?) during the 'Cool Britannia' photo shoot - hey he was only giving his pals Damien Hirst and Keith Allen what they wanted) -Young wrote about how much of a loser he was in New York in How to Lose Friends and Alienate People. Now, in the sequel, The Sound of No Hands Clapping, Young writes one of the funniest books ever on trying to get the first book turned into a film and then a play, with not much success. How does he make being a failure so funny? I have no idea, but he pulls it off.
No Hands Clapping starts when the vapid, fame hungry Young takes a phone call from a well-known Hollywood producer. He thinks it's one of his friends taking the piss and nearly blows his chance of a lifetime. The producer has just read How to Lose Friends and wants Young to do a treatment for a book he optioned some time ago.
When the producer arranges to meet Young in the Hotel du Cap, Young almost blows it once again by forgetting his passport and missing the flight. Nothing ever comes of the project, but it's the main event in the book and is simply the funniest account of a fish (Young) out of water in Hollywood I have ever read.
I just could not stop laughing all the way through this.
Really enjoyed this book. Obviously I'd read How to Lose Friends first and that's how I came across this but despite what some people say, this was a great book in it's own right and not just a poor cash in following How to Lose Friends success. There were numerous genuine laugh out loud moments and there were no boring bits at all. It wasn't as original as it's prequel but at times was more interesting as it didn't include lengthy analysis of the class system and democracy in general.
I laughed and laughed and loudly too. A great book if you have time to kill or you are depressed. The writing is superb and the anecdotes splendid. There is Toby trying his hand at screenwriting, playing the role of husband and father, becoming a critic while producing his own play and getting caught up in the most embarrassing and funny situations. The writing turns a bit corny towards the end, but to people who have gone through similar emotions, it is probably right on the money.
I liked "How To Lose Friends and Alienate People," so I disregarded the reviews that said this was not as good. The reviews were right. Being flippant about Graydon Carter is one thing; being flippant about your pregnant wife is not as funny.
I mainly picked this up because I'd read Toby Young's first memoir, How To Lose Friends and Alienate People, and enjoyed that but The Sound Of No Hands Clapping is just awful. I read about a third of it and had to put it down because it's just insufferable crap.
Another good read from Toby Young. His sense of humor is great and the odd situations he gets himself into are very entertaining. He even manages to hit the heart strings at the end. My hands are clapping!
after reading how to lose friends and alienate people, i couldn't wait to read this and was initially surprised by the bad reviews. then i read it myself. ugh, what a disappointment.
Ah, man's timeless quest to be less of an asshat (or cunt, if you're British). As usual any success that can be claimed has something to do with finding someone who will only put up with a limited amount of your shit. This series of misadventures also sort of evidences the value of tenacity. At the very least this book won't waste to much of your time.
I really don't have much to say about this book. It was an interesting read but definitely not overly insightful and at times Young is downright whingey and suffering some major self-importance and entitlement which is probably the main reason for rating it only ok. Being a follow up to his previous book How to Lose Friends and Alienate People it kind of seems like he didn't have a whole lot more to write about, and some of the interesting parts were half glazed over where they probably could have gone into further depth.
Over a year ago back in February 2013 I read and reviewed long-standing English journalist Toby Young's first novel How To Lose Friends and Irritate People as an example of some lightweight non-fiction, offering a few laughs alongside copious amounts of gossip regarding the strange world Young enounters as he desperately tries to make his name writing in the US. Later adapted into a film starring Simon Pegg (which I just can't sum up the enthusiasm to watch), the book became an unexpected best-seller on both sides of the Atlantic, as it documented Young's employment as a contributing editor for Vanity Fair, and his inevitable falling out with absolutely everybody. It's a decent book, written by an author who's very comfortable using his particular languid, conversational prose style, and he does a good job establishing himself as a (mildly) lovable loser who always messes things up for himself. It does, however, lose a lot of steam the more it continues on.
It was really just a bit of obsessive-compulsiveness that led me to read the sequel. I found The Sound of No Hands Clapping in a second-hand bookshop, and it sat on the to-read pile for about a year before I very nearly decided to abandon my plan to read it, and give it back to the charity shop. My expectations weren't high, since the hook of the book didn't seem that interesting, and also because in my experience follow-up memoirs from media-types are usually quick cash-ins lacking the heart and the purpose of the originals. The basis of No Hands Clapping is Toby's immediate future following the release of his last book, and his decision to seek his fortune as a Hollywood screenwriter, following a couple of oppertunities from both the adaptation of his first book, and a random from an offer from an un-named Hollywood bigwig to write a bio-pic.
On the surface this does seem to offer up the potential for some Hollywood insight, but ultimately (spoiler alert), what we get is two-hundred and fifty pages-plus of Toby completely failing to gain any sort of foothold in Tinseltown whatsoever. In hindsight it's almost completely baffling to me how badly planned this book must have been, something that's completely evident in the lack of structure, adventure or character development. I know this is a piece of non-fiction but it's appeal is completely based upon the success and entertainment of Young's first book, which was a much fuller, well-organised narrative that did have some of those things (though not in abundance); but then that book also had the advantage of covering a wider time period in a more interesting set-up. The Sound of No Hands Clapping has none of the advantages of a set-up asinteresting as working for magazine publishing dynasty Condé Nast. Instead it's just Toby Young and his long-suffering wife living back in England, snatching at showbusiness tit-bits, embarressing in a far crueler way than his hi-jinks of the past.
It's almost as if this book was a back-up plan for Young in the event that his screenwriting career might somehow not take-off, and that as a result he didn't have the foresight to apply himself to settings and situations that might make his book more interesting. The meetings with the mysterious Hollywood bigwig are genuinly interesting, as are other conversations with people in that game, but there's just not enough of it. Instead there's plenty of stuff about Toby Young and his wife, the vast majority of it cloaked in that godawful British tabloid sens of humour where acting like a mysogonist is apparantly okay if it's self-aware behaviour. Young goes into great detail about his family, which (really boring spoiler alert) grows by two babies during the course of everything else. That's nie and everything, but it's as boring as hell since by this point Toby Young is nowhere near endearing or established enough as a character for me to possibly care. It felt like I was reading some bizarre mixture of Tony Parsons (probably the most boring, pointless author I've ever read, author of Man and Boy amongst other crap) and Jeremy Clarkson, playing a good-old politically incorrect British urgby club bore. These segments killed the book stone dead for me, and as they became more and more prevailant further on, the less and less interested I became, to the point where I was racing through it just to put it down afterwards.
So yes, The Sound of No Hands Clapping is a worthless book; I gave it one star out of five on Goodreads. But at the same time it did have some potential; Young's style is assured and he seemed to have a gateway into a world that would give him some fantastic content, but instead he completely choked on his opportunities and ended up writing about his wife getting pregnant twice. Good for him, but not something that hasn't happpened to a few other billion people on this planet.
I first read Toby Young's How To Lose Friends And Alienate People in England in 2002. His hilarious true story of leaving London journalism for New York and a prestigious job at Vanity Fair magazine was a gossipy, self-deprecating story of failure after failure. Much like The Devil Wears Prada, How To Lose was a true story of a cut-throat business, complete with high powered players and NY society, but unlike Prada, Toby never 'makes it there' - He just moves down the ladder from one embarrassing event to another, finally getting fired, as he has been from many other jobs. In How To Lose he names the names of the rich and shameless with a big inside scoop of the Conde Nast publishing empire. It eventually found a publisher and some success, and a bidding war began for the film rights. Turning down other offers to go with Film Four, the company immediately folded, leaving him in limbo.
In The Sound Of No Hands Clapping, Toby gets a call from an unnamed Hollywood big-wig, the kind of player with 100 million dollars films to his credit. Based on reading his book, he hires Toby to write a screenplay about a notorious record producer. Turns out it's more like a rewrite, and then just a treatment - or really a polish, but no matter, Toby doesn't get to work on it anyway. He spends his time working on a stage play of How To, tries to complete a draft of How To for the (hopefully) future film, tries to move to LA, and promotes his book in America. One hurdle is trying to figure an entertaining angle for the film, but really, he just farts around on other stuff. Meanwhile, the other half of the book is his relationship with his pregnant wife Caroline, which must have been fascinating to go through, but unless it's my sister, I'm not interested in your pregnancy and childbirth.
Being a "highly anticipated sequel", it's strange that the cover has only praise for How To and not the contents. How To was a slow slide downhill and very funny at times, while this was only slightly amusing, and a curious wait as we watch this opportunity dissolve in his hands. There is some Hollywood and TVland gossip - a little peek into the scams and shams of the moviemaking 'business', but not enough to recommend it - and a memoir of Hollywood and screenwriters is My Thing! I thought when I picked it up (and from the title) it would concentrate more on the flop that was the eventual movie of How To. It starred Simon Pegg and went straight to video here.
How To Lose Friends And Alienate People was great, but the title of this book is it's best part!
A kiss-and-tell book. This book is to the film industry what "The Devil Wears Prada" was to the fashion industry. I don't feel any inclination to read his previous book "How to Lose Friends and Alienate People" after reading this since he referred to that book constantly in this one. The book is amusing at times, but there's a lot of swingers-phone-call-after-meeting uncomfortable scenes as well.
It was pretty easy to read because Toby is a good writer but nothing really happens and it doesn't really go anywhere. It is once again a mostly true story about how Toby blows his opportunities but is learning how to be a good partner and father this time. Would have been good to hear more about this music tycoon mentioned and some of his stories.
How to Lose Friends and Alienate People was funny, and perhaps this book would be interesting to someone who wanted all the details of how that book came about and where the author ended up afterward, but for me, the concept was too self indulgent and the writing was not funny enough to make up for it.
The story of this book is about a guy not writing 2 screenplay ,and childbirth through the father point of view , is vision, maybe I'm the one ,that changed too much in the past 10 years ( the time i read his other book)or mature , but i didn't find this book funny at all. Full of anecdote that often lead to nothing.
As with "How To Lose Friends and Alienate People", this is written in a breezy, easy style.
It definitely has a lot of filler but that's kind of the point: the book is a story about not much actually being achieved at all, which seems to be the Hollywood way.
So not as compelling as "How To Lose..." but still, because of the author's wit, an amusing diversion.
I am still finishing this book. I thought I would give Toby Young another go but I am not loving it. It's not really going anywhere which is ok sometimes but right now I am a bit bored. Now I really know why there is the sound of no hands clapping!
Toby Young congratulates himself for writing the successful How To Lose Friends and Alienate people. And annoying and self-indulgent follow up to a good book that made me think the author was really just a douchebag.
got bored. combination of his writing about how amazing he is/how everyone hates him/how he had trouble/whatever in hollywood conspired to make me just not super into it. so i put it down. sorry toby young. i'm done with you.
I found this book of Young's more realistic and easier to relate to than his first one. Though I didn't find this one as funny as How to Lose. If you're interested in movie making/movie script writing, this book would be an interesting (not not really helpful) read.
A pretty frothy, lightweight read. Nothing challenging or dark, so probably a good holiday read or a break from more intense books. Yes, Toby's writing style is a bit smug and self satisfied, but he's ultimately a likeable sort of bloke - in a 'you're a bit of a dick' kind of way.