Facticity offers a new avenue of exploration for how to relax with both the light and dark aspects of our human nature. It is the result of a ten year modeling project which looked into the success and difficulties of those seeking to define their identitiy from a spiritual perspective. Facticity is designed to shift the experience of living from either/or conflict to both/and acceptance and balance. This Neuro-Linguistic model and collection of techniques provides a framework for experiencing opposite dualities as complementary rather than in opposition.