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Hero: Becoming the Man She Desires
You already know it’s not easy being a single man in this culture today. But it is easy to be overwhelmed, to feel helpless and hopeless about living by God’s high standards for singles. It’s easy to cave in to the pressures of this sex-soaked world and accept defeat–blaming the media, the culture, even girlfriends who don’t know how tough it can be.But many men have read books like Every Young Man’s Battle and Tactics and have committed themselves to stand strong and pure in the power of God, and to go on the offensive against the onslaught of negative stereotypes. Some have suffered. Some have fallen. But many have experienced victory–and you can be among them. What makes those committed men so desirable to women? Be Her Hero is their motto. From best-selling author Fred Stoeker, along with his son Jasen, come the straightforward insight and real-life examples you’re looking for to help you take personal purity to its logical conclusion. Here’s straight truth with irrefutable evidence of what makes an ultimate hero to women who long for men of faith–men who stand by their convictions and make their world a safer and better place. Are you ready to accept the challenge?
243 pages, Kindle Edition
First published April 4, 2009
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January 20, 2023
A father and son together with the soon girlfriend of the son writing their individual stories of relationships and romance.
May 12, 2015
While the Stoekers offer some helpful advice and some helpful illustrations, ultimately Hero seems to fall short of its goal. The advice given seems to boil down to "White-knuckle, will-power your way through avoiding anything vaguely sexual." They offer few practical tips, though some of their anecdotes offer a few tips by way of example. Helping believing men understand the role of community and accountability, as well as other practical tools would have been much better. One walks away from this book with the idea that one should avoid sexual temptation, but with little idea of how to do so. The target audience probably already agrees with this general proposal.
After an attempt at using this book in a study with high school guys, we had to stop, because they found the book unengaging. The Stoekers' way of addressing men as "made for adventure" and using terms like "quest" is very heavy-handed, and reminds one of John Eldredge--in a very negative way. There is an underlying assumption that all men connect with this way of thinking, when the reality is that this is simply not so. If that way of thinking does fit your personality, you may get a little more out of this book. Ultimately, Hero comes across as incomplete at best, and there are better books on this topic, or it might just be better for young men who are seeking clarity in how to address an temptation in an over-sexualized world to simply have a conversation with a trusted mentor.
After an attempt at using this book in a study with high school guys, we had to stop, because they found the book unengaging. The Stoekers' way of addressing men as "made for adventure" and using terms like "quest" is very heavy-handed, and reminds one of John Eldredge--in a very negative way. There is an underlying assumption that all men connect with this way of thinking, when the reality is that this is simply not so. If that way of thinking does fit your personality, you may get a little more out of this book. Ultimately, Hero comes across as incomplete at best, and there are better books on this topic, or it might just be better for young men who are seeking clarity in how to address an temptation in an over-sexualized world to simply have a conversation with a trusted mentor.
May 20, 2009
Hero by Fred & Jasen Stoeker should be required reading for every Christian young man and his parents. Fred, author of Every Man's Battle, faced a battle against the flesh that had been passed down from grandfather to father to son, until one day looking into his two-year old son Jasen's eyes, he decided that the generational curse of adultery and pornography would end with him. Because of Fred's decision, Jasen made his own decision to keep himself pure until marrying the woman God led him to, which didn't exactly make him the most popular guy in high school. Despite temptation and peer pressure, Jasen didn't even kiss his wife Rose until the minister gave them permission during their wedding ceremony. The authors attack the strongholds of deceit that society has instilled in our brains about sex: women want it just as much as men, finding out if you are sexually compatible before marriage is necessary, God gave men a sexual desire so He of course allows them an outlet, and other lies. Jasen talks about his walk through high school and college, facing derision and coming out a strong man of God on the other side. His wife Rose also offers her point of view on what a true hero of God looks like. Their revelations about how society has warped even Christians' view of sex are startling and enlightening. It's a powerful book with a must-read message
March 1, 2013
This is an excellent book. It's a great way to wrap up the Every Young Man's trilogy. It taught me so much about the current state of our culture. more specifically it has also taught me the nine myths that our society teaches us about dating and women. I highly recommend this book, as well as the previous two entries in the trilogy, Every Young Man's Battle and Tactics.
August 23, 2011
If you know a guy, buy him this book.
May 2, 2012
Great book for young men and women. I will be going through this book with my teenage kids this summer. Staying pure can be done!
June 16, 2015
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