When Rachel Balducci looks for material for her writing, she doesn't have to look far. Her subject matter can be found climbing through the window, hanging on to the edge of the roof, and always at the refrigerator. Here she chronicles the exuberant, awesome life of boys through conversations overheard, rules she's been forced to make, and the many episodes of boy behavior that continue to mystify mothers worldwide. From the care and feeding of her team, to travels out in public, to their wide-eyed adoration of Walker, Texas Ranger , this laugh-out-loud celebration joyfully explores the sweet and wild side of boyhood.
The concept of this book is a great one, and it is preceded with plenty of glowing reviews. As a mother of a little boy, I was very intrigued to read how one mother does it with five!
I was awed by this woman and actually found myself excited to have multiple children - even if they are all boys. This is a stark difference from my normal fear that I feel when facing this prospect.
The book seems sloppily written however. I understand that the author is a blogger, but I felt as though I were simply reading a series of blog posts. I would much prefer one cohesive story instead of a multitude of mini anecdotes pieced together from previously written blog posts. If I want to read a blog I will visit a blog. I therefore found this book hard to become fully engaged with.
There were some real gems hidden amongst the sloppy writing and if you are a mother of boys, I would suggest reading this book.
Here's the thing about this book - it wasn't really a book. Or it didn't read like one at least. It read like a blog: just random posts and observations on living in a house full of boys. A very clever, heartwarming, easy to relate to blog...but still a blog. While I loved Balducci's stories and "aha moments" that raising boys teaches you, I just wished that she had tied them together better and made it all a bit more cohesive. All that being said, I would still recommend this book to any of my mom friends - a good read and some truly good ideas, too!
The older my superheroes become, the more I appreciate that boys and girls truly are different. Little boys play differently, learn differently and love differently than I did as a little girl. Not only that, one boy can be a polar opposite of his brother and yet still be distinctly different from little girls. I acknowledge that the same spectrum of personality is true of little girls, but there is something foreign about being a woman in charge of raising boys. I grew up with two older brothers, and yet the interests, choices and behaviors of my two boys drive me to explore what apparently doesn’t come naturally to me – how to nurture and nourish the spirits of boys so that they will become self-confident, thoughtful, responsible and successful men. Unfortunately, Balducci’s book taught me nothing new. Instead of being a “how-to” book, as the title led me to believe, it turned out to be a collection of anecdotes about life with five boys. Entertaining, humorous, sweet, life-affirming. Not educational. I finished the book no better equipped to understand and support the development of my boys than before I started. On the other hand, many passages were worth marking simply for their truth: •“My boys don’t always come home from school ready to dish about the day. But if I’m patient, little details will reveal themselves to me. When I check their pockets, I get a peek into my boys’ minds, an idea of what they consider amazing and lovely – what they consider to be a thing of beauty.” Pg. 27 My boys aren’t in school yet, but the cubby at the head of each bunk bed collects an interesting assortment of boyhood treasures. •“Step 1: aim for the toilet. Step 2: aim away from the floor.” Pg. 41 Why does this even need to be addressed?! •“…I sometimes feel like my strong suits go unnoticed. The things I am naturally drawn to do are not always things my boys see as any kind of talent – at this point.” Pg. 80 This, in addition to the fact that nearly everything I do during the day is in some way for their benefit often leaves me feeling greatly unappreciated. •“The shrieks of joy and sadness, I am learning, are only one Indian burn apart.” Pg. 94 What I might find annoying or hurtful is often FUN for them. This makes the “no hitting” rule very difficult to enforce. Should it even exist? •“…I have to guide and mold the nature of these boys without working against it. It is not in my nature to run screaming through the backyard while carrying a large stick. But it in the nature of my boys, and I don’t want to squelch who they are simply because I don’t always understand it.” Pg. 190 My point exactly. •“The old me, the mother I was before I had children, wouldn’t have allowed some of the things I allow now.” Pg. 190 As a former elementary school teacher, I did my fair share of judging the parents of my students. I knew what I would and wouldn’t allow my own children to do when I had them someday. Now that I have kids, I realize that the children themselves bring a lion-share when forming personality. It turns out that I don’t have total control of who they are or how they behave! I have to consider who each child is and what he needs when being parented – and what I once thought was unreasonable might make perfect sense.
Gendered nonsense. Why does any of this have to be about boys vs. girls? It's dangerous and stupid. Even if some of the content is good, it matters NOT because girls are not included. So so so stupid. Lord help you if you have a girl that "acts like a boy" or a boy that "acts like a girl." Yikes, people, get it together. They are children. Even if males and females are biologically different in some ways, these things are on a spectrum and can't necessarily to attributed to gender. Dumb books like this cause people to grow up feeling less than if they don't live up to the stereotypes their parents have decided to foist upon them at birth.
Very cute book, written by a mom of five boys (gasp... how is she even alive to tell the tale???)! I related to many of the stories, and also realized that other tales are foreshadowing of things to come down my parenting-of-boys path :) Looks like no matter how much you try to avoid it, the fascination with weapons, adventure, and exposure to injury-risky situations isn't to be quelled.
This is a super cute book, and I recommend it as a sweet, funny read for anyone who has boys. Even older parents with grown boys would enjoy the trip down memory lane, I think. This one's staying on my bookshelf.
Couple of the many passages I marked:
"The male species seems to have two settings for dealing with sickness: all or nothing. With my boys, it seems they are either in melodramatic agony or in denial. There is no in-between."
"I spend my days trying to find a balance in protecting my boys from the dangers of the world while letting them discover the beauty of it. I want to let them run and jump and climb and build, without crashing and burning in the process. The scary part of being a female raising males, or maybe just being a parent in general, is that I have to guide and mold the nature of these boys without working against it."
ps .. this book was a sweet gift from my mom {thanks, mom!!} :)
While I enjoyed some of the stories, I felt like they were disjointed and not well planned. I almost felt like the author was some fictional character who was just talking about her fictional family. I didn't really feel like I got to know her or her family at all.
I did enjoy some of the stories and antidotes about her rambunctious boys, but almost felt like the author was standing at a distance from her own family when writing about them. I would have liked the book to have had a few more personal touches. Oh, and flowed better.
I have been reading a lot of parenting books lately - and humorous books on parenting - probably because I am now said parent and would like to know what I am doing wrong (haha). But this one just didn't grab my attention like some of the others have. It left me wanting more substance.
I really loved this book. I always like to look at other reviews before I write my own just to see how people view the book. Some of the complaints were valid...it isn't a "how to" book and the writing wasn't entirely cohesive. But, seriously, being a mom of boys... I have learned there is no "how to" books that work and I haven't had enough cohesive thoughts to form a sentence pretty much since I gave birth. I laughed through this whole book, mostly to keep from crying. It was incredibly touching for me and made me feel so glad to be a mom. That is something a lot of these "parenting" books just don't do for me. I 100% recommend this book.
Had I read the whole description (and the fact that she is a blogger), I'm not sure I would have read this book. It was a very quick read and had some fun stories to which I could relate, but I was thinking it was more of a "serious" book. Lots of very short stories about raising boys.
I thought this book was hilarious! Yes, at the time some of the events that happen with the author was not hilarious, but as someone looking in I thought it was hilarious. While I do not have kids, I do have a younger brother and some of things that the author mentioned was definitely on point with my experiences with my brother. Trying to get my brother to cut his nails is pulling teeth. Picking out clothes is a battle and having proper hygiene is a war. It seems I have more conversations with my brother in the car than at home. My brother never dig in the dirt or wanted to do dangerous stunts, but if he goes past any object that is long and skinny then it will turn into a staff for martial arts. (That is why going to a place like Home Depot or Lowe's requires constant vigilance).
After I read her book, I looked up her website and twitter to discover that she has another book, which I really wanted to read. I first discovered this author in the book Style, Sex, and Substance: 10 Catholic Women Consider the Things that Really Matter. I wanted to read more books by these authors and she was one of the few that had a book.
Verdict: This book offers a glimpse into a mother's world of five sons by sharing anecdotes. While the author is Catholic and there are mentions of that life, I saw it as more of a relationship between mother and sons. This is to say I think this book is accessible to every person regardless of their beliefs.
I guess I was expecting more of a book about parenting a boy.. like maybe tricks of the trade, ideas and things I should know, etc. However this is just the authors family stories about raising 5 boys. I have 1 boy and this was completely unrelatable and frankly pretty boring. I will pass it onto a friend who has more boys. Maybe she will think it's cute or something.
I was hoping after reading this that all the secrets of raising a boy would be revealed to me. While that didn’t happen exactly, I enjoyed the memoir nonetheless. As an aside, I don’t remember my 5 brothers being QUITE so high energy…so, not all families with lots of boys will get to the levels of intensity described haha
2.5 stars. This is not a parenting book, but a hilarious collection of stories about raising her sons. So if you want to commiserate or feel like your kids maybe aren't so crazy, read on. If you want any helpful hints (other than chill out), probably pass.
This was a quick, really fun, read. Rachel has such a great outlook on her life. She realizes it's crazy, but she also is able to recognize the blessings of a house full of boys. If you have any boys in your house, I HIGHLY recommend this book!
The stories themselves are funny and poignant. I just didn't like the compilation. There is no overall cohesion. I would have liked a arch with the stories sprinkled in.
How do you Tuck in a Superhero?? One day at a time. I Absolutely loved this book! Loved it. If you are a mother of boy(s) it's a must read. It was so cute and full of good advice of raising boys.
It takes a lot to raise a superhero - you have to teach them about hygiene - yes superheros change their underwear, how to eat healthy meals - that move beyond corn chips and cheese, and, well, you have to learn when the squeals mean pain or laughter.
Just ask Rachel Balducci, the time tested mother of five boys. She's learned to tell the difference between squeal caused by a painful encounter to one induced by a fit of giggles.
She's also learned the difference between Star Wars characters - yes, there is apparently more to collecting them then simply knowing the character's names, as well as the importance of taking care of a Lego castle.
She's even found an appreciation - limited at times - for Chuck Norris and his crime-fighting activities on Walker Texas Ranger.
In all, Balducci has filled her first book with the many different things she's learned from parenting a group of rowdy, fun-loving and somewhat mysterious boys.
I decided to review this book, simply because little boys confuse me. Sometimes I feel as if the boys who inhabit my children's ministry program speak a different language.
This fact that is especially evident right now, as I try to design a mission trip t-shirt that will appeal to the four boys going on the trip, but not "gross out" the 11 girls who will also want to wear the shirt. - Apparently, most of my designs are "too girlie" for most boys - go figure!
Honestly, I have to say, Balducci's stories have truly captured the spirit of living in a house full of testosterone. I laughed out loud at times, as I read about her exploits with dinosaurs, Legos, weapons of mass destruction and a Yahtzee game that almost sent her over the "edge."
While I'm still struggling to understand the best way to minister to little boys, Balducci's book has helped capture the idea of what it means to raise young men in this century - and the courage and strength it takes for the moms who set out to accomplish this task.
I highly recommend this book! It could definitely be subtitled: the care and feeding of an exotic species - the human boy.
You will probably walk away from reading this book with a new understanding of how little boys think and feel about a variety of issues and ideas (especially when it comes to dressing them alike).
If you have a mom friend who is struggling to understand her sons, this book might just provide the answers she's looking for - or at least it might give her some hope for the future! (Or the knowledge that she is not on her own!)
This book will definitely be on my list of books to pass along to parents - in fact, I've already been telling people about it (it's that good)
Author Rachel Balducci is no longer surprised when she has to say things in her house like: "I am not a wrestling mat." "Stay off the roof." "You can try to invent a jet-pack, but I will not buy the fuel for it." Or, "Wear something nice—like a t-shirt with no stains on it."
As the mother of five boys, Balducci has her hands full, which makes for some hilarious stories. She shares more than 50 of those tales--from finding her boys climbing through windows, making traps for catching bad guys or rooting through the refrigerator, ever hungry--in her delightful new book How Do You Tuck in a Superhero?: And Other Delightful Mysteries of Raising Boys.
Readers will laugh out loud at the antics she experiences on a daily basis, as she pulls back the curtain on what a life filled to the brim with boys is like for one woman. From the curious scenes she catches her boys in, to the entertaining conversations she overhears, to the unimaginable rules she's been forced to make, this laugh-out-loud celebration joyfully explores the sweet and wild side of boyhood.
MY REVIEW:
Some books you read to learn more about a subject, and then others you read to gain insight and advice on the problems you are facing. And then there is a book you read for pure enjoyment that keeps you laughing for days and weeks after you have turned the last page. This is one of those books.
How Do You Tuck In A Superhero? will make you laugh whether you have all boys, all girls, or a mix of both. This lighthearted look at parenting will encourage you and remind you to take one day at a time and enjoy each one for what it is. They fly by to fast...just like superheros.
I appreciated Rachel's light approach that packed real life lessons, laughter, and a shot in the arm to any weary mother. This fun book is broken into short stories in short chapters to enable a quick read in the midst of chaos. Even if you don't normally like to read you will love this book! And you will laugh!
This book was given to me at a baby shower when I was 25 weeks pregnant with my first son William. I read it through while my husband was away at Airborne School and I remember laughing at some of the stories inside, but with chapter titles like, "Proper Care and Feeding" and "The Sweet Side" I didn't exactly take it seriously.
Fast Forward three years and we arrive to present day.
I have read and re-read this book four times.
I currently have two rambunctious, full throttle, non-stop boys. The stories and anecdotes in Balducci's book make me feel like she might be a kindred spirit. I have found myself saying no you may not cook (insert legos/shoes/duplos/crayons) in my oven, too! Balducci does a great job of tackling the "are you going to try for a girl" question with grace and humor. My favorite part of the book however, is where she writes, Whenever we are out in public, someone will invariably come up to us and note that we have all these boys and that I have my own team. Yes I will say and I am the team mom and my job is to keep the players fed and clothed and prevent them from fouling out. I love her perspective that they are together and a team. I love that she doesn't shy away from the fact that she has "a lot" of children. I respect that she has taken to being a mom of boys with humor and a biblical perspective. She allows them to be masculine while helping to cultivate their active little hearts and pointing them to Jesus. While I originally thought this book was going to be full of tips and tricks it was actually so much more than just another parenting book. Rachel Balducci manages to be funny, relate-able, and relevant despite the fact that this book is predominately a biography of family life. Her wit and insights help those of us new to being Boy Moms to feel better about the fact that we have melted Legos on the bottom of our ovens. Overall I give How Do You Tuck In a Superhero a solid A+ and I encourage any #BoyMom to read it through and share it with your friends.
Title: HOW DO YOU TUCK IN A SUPERHERO? Author: Rachel Balducci Publisher: Revell April 2010 ISBN: 978-0-8007-3372-8 Genre: Inspirational/parenting
Rachel Balducci knows about raising boys. She has five of them. So she doesn’t have to look very far to find material for her book. I was impressed after reading just the first couple pages how she nailed boyhood on the head. I have two boys, and I could relate to most all the stories she shares.
Such as, the love language of boys is food. Very true. Boys have to eat, and heaven help us if there is no snack food in the house. I counteract this need for junk food by keeping celery and peanut butter on hand. As well as unpeeled carrots. They think that it’s cool to peel them. (Please don’t tell them this stuff is healthy!)
Then there is the phone issue. Am I the only one in the family who can hear the phone? My husband can be sitting right beside it and no answer it. My sons will let it ring. Unless they are expecting a call—from their boss, girlfriend, etc, and then they will kill anyone in their path. I had to laugh when I read Ms. Balducci’s story of her boys and their phone phobia.
Then there’s the rubber snake attack, how boys make plans, and dangerous living, among other tales.
HOW DO YOU TCK IN A SUPERHERO? is stock-full of laugh-out loud moments that mothers of boys will definitely relate to. Mother’s of girls might want to read it just out of curiosity. If you are a parent, grandparent, or just live next door to a parent of boys (and wondering about all the tunnels in the backyard) then you might want to pick up a copy of HOW DO YOU TUCK IN A SUPERHERO? While you won’t be guaranteed a new kid, you will have a new appreciation of the blessings God has given you. $12.99. 203 pages.