1/My Story and Our Brain: She had a stroke and the left brain shut down. She stepped into the present moment (right brain) with no chatter (from left brain). When emotional circuits are triggered, we reflexively respond with fear, anger, or hostility. Once stimulated it takes less than 90 seconds for the chemistry of our brain to be flooded and then flush them completely out of our blood stream. The ‘we’ inside of ‘me:’ right hemisphere is the life-force power at one with all or left brain-single individual who is separate from others. None of the 4 brain characters are more authentic than the other. My passion is for you to master your own 4 characters so you can completely own your power and live your best life.
2/Brain Anatomy and Personality: Patients had the corpus callosum (connective brain tissue) cut and they were observed to have conflicting actions/opinions within themselves! Brain cells dominate and inhibit their counterpart cells, so the brain is not all-on or all-off under any circumstance except death. Our left brain offers us our individuality, while our right brain connects us with the consciousness of not only the collective whole of humanity but the vast expansive consciousness of the universe.
3/Our Brain’s Team: The Four Characters: Ultimate goal is to create more connection and consequently greater health within ourselves and with others. Each of us has a whole brain (all 4 characters), but we may find that one may be dominating and that others rarely show up. Conflict between right (keep current job so kids can stay in familiar school) and left brain (take job new job in city for more pay). Brain huddle: pause where all four characters contemplate best move). Breathe, Recognize (dominate Character), Appreciate (all 4 Characters), Inquire (invite input from all 4), Navigate (this new reality) (spells BRAIN)
4/Character 1 – Left Brain Thinking (Helen): The energetic flow of all mass moves so slowly that it cannot be detected by our left brain. Our two hemispheres process information in these two opposite ways, our overall perception of the world is a blended combination of the big picture (right brain) and the details (left brain). It’s a bit disconcerting to think that who we are is completely manufactured by a small group of cells in our left brain…but that is how fragile our ego identities are. Left brain has awareness of itself and its relationship with the external world. We have the power to voluntarily change the cellular structure underlying our thoughts and feelings (neuroplasticity). Left brain judges one thing more important than another, we manage time such that we can be punctual, and when we make plans, we are organizing our behavior across time. Snapshot: organizes everything, naturally mechanical, neat, plans well, respects authority, critically judges right/wrong, good/bad, detail based, counts everything, protective.
5/Character 2 – Left Brain Emotional (Abby): When the brain stem transfers its well organized data up to the emotional tissue (characters 2&3) it is their job to modify and refine that data by streaming it through the filter of emotion. We are feeling creatures who think. The job of the amygdala is to ask, ‘am I safe?’ When our amygdalae sound the alarm, our hippocampi shut down and we are no longer capable of learning and memorizing new information because we are too busy managing an emergency. When we train ourselves to ignore our emotions, those emotions will seep out one way or another. We are wired to express ourselves emotionally as soon as we arrive in the external world. This is not true for our thinking cells. Primary job of character 2 is to filter out immediate danger and help us focus our attention. Character 2 is the source of our deepest and most profound emotions. I don’t mind if someone is miserable as long as they remember to enjoy it. Having the emotional capacity to experience true suffering is an amazing part of being alive. This part of our brain is emotionally reactive to the external world and does not accept responsibility for its behavior. It is also inclined to sacrifice its future, as it is blinded by the pain from its past. I know my little Abby is full force when I am feeling unappreciated, undervalued, unwanted or unworthy. Character 2 is rarely self-aware. Snapshot: anger/name calling, deceives, feels guilty, internalizes shame, loves conditionally, negative self-judgement, anxious, whines, egocentric, blames.
6/Character 3 – Right Brain Emotional (pig pen): All we have to do to bring our mind to the present moment is to push the pause button on whatever it is that we are doing, thinking, or feeling and consciously bring our attention to our immediate sensory experience of textures, sights, and smells. This is easy when we are willing to step away from the details of our lives and shift our focus to what life feels like. Not how we feel emotionally but how we feel experientially. All of the cells in our body work independently to do their part and then collectively they communicate with one another, making up a healthy you. Our strengths are in our differences. Character 3 experiences emotions in the present moment and has no perception about the past. Right brain is dominant at birth. Snapshot: forgiving, awe-inspired, playful, empathic, creative, joyful, curious, style, hopeful, experiential.
7/Character 4 – Right Brain Thinking (Queen Toad): Our character 4 (spiritual being having a physical experience) is the all-knowing intelligence from which we came, and it is how we incarnate the consciousness of the universe. We have to quiet character 1, settle character 2, and focus away from the sensations of character 3 in order to hear character 4. Scientific method can only measure left brain activity. Right brain requires that we take a leap of faith to wrap our minds around. In utero, our consciousness (character 4) directed the expression of our genes. AT birth, our skeletal muscles and the rest of our motor system would require external stimulation to mature. We perceive ourselves as big as the universe and enveloped in deep inner peace and love, is available to us in life and is what we will return to in death. We have power through our thoughts and emotions to influence this field of energy. The energy that fuels the movements of the planets and stars is the exact same energy that forms the consciousnesses of both the overall universe and our Character 4. I shift out of my left brain’s perceived boundaries, I become the movement of the flow and shift into being hat elusive thing. I am not only the leaf, but I am the energy that moves the leaf. Who are you when you set down your self-doubt, judgement, and criticism? Character 4 is the anchor of the corporate ship (no ego) and can look at all options objectively. Work: 1: wants to make money, 2: squirrel around with details, 3: wants it to be fun, 4: wants to serve the greater good. Snapshot: aware, expansive, connection, accepting, embraces change, authentic, generous of Spirit, clarity, intention, vulnerability. Our society is skewed toward the materialistic value of our left brain; we are rewarded for what we do rather than who we are.
8/The Brain Huddle: Your Power Tool for Peace: The brain huddle is how we own our own power by taking full responsibility for who and how we present ourselves to the world, as well as how we choose to let the world influence our thinking, emotions, feeling, and behavior. We have 50 trillion cells making up own body and brain as beautiful little creatures, each with a consciousness of their own. Advantages to huddle: pause button, all 4 characters can voice their opinion, decisions supported by all characters, see characters playing out in lives around her. B= Breathe for a pause, R=Recognize which 4 characters are there, A=Appreciate all four, I=Inquire what we might do next, N=Navigate our new reality.
9/Connection to Ourself- Our Four Characters and the Body: 1 sees our body as a vehicle (takes care of body on the regular), 2 see our body as a responsibility (very little body awareness & medical things feel overwhelming), 3 sees our body as a toy (it’s amazing and should be used fully), and 4 sees our body as a temple of the soul (employs alternative medicine like yoga & meditation).
10/Connection with Others – Our Four Characters in Romantic Relationships: Character 1: look for long term partner and don’t want to give up/quit relationship. Character 2: prefer stability of character 1s. Character 3: player that is tough to get down the aisle. Every character needs caution to remain with their primary identity to preserve their well-being. If we concede to our secondary character putting the other person above ourselves, we do so at the expense of our own integrity. Once a character 1,3, or 4 has been dragged into the emotional pain of their character 2, they do not stand a chance of happiness until they shift back into their primary character. Two character 2s in dispute will never agree or find long-term peace. A true character 4 is an emotionally stable force that we all have deep inside. Character 4 will ask, ‘Is this a relationship that is life giving or does it energetically drain me?’
11/Disconnection and Reconnection – Our Four Characters in Addiction and Recovery: Characters 1 & 2 have enjoyed dominating my life for a very long time, and they remain well versed in how to live an automated, unconscious life. It is critical that I pay attention o what is going on inside of my brain so that I don’t revert to my old left-brain (1&2) habits that led into drinking in the first place. The biologic of addiction rests not only in the power of choice in the present moment (Character 3) but in the pain, guilt, and shame of our past (Character 2). Our character 1 may come on board because they have a lot to lose. Character 4 lifts us above our illness.
12/The Last 100 Years – Our Four Characters and the Influence of Technology: GI Generation & Silent Generation: Tone of living set by #4 in interpersonal and multigenerational relationships. #2s gained a voice during the 70’s. Male #3’s worked with their hands and joined the service. Baby Boomers: Valued #1 (work over family) more than their parents. The 70’s were about materialism (designer/name brand clothes). Accustomed to left brain learning. Generation X (D&L): kids had no one around when they came home from school and developed a strong #1 character as they cared for themselves. Computers at home helped them develop right brain (fun) learning styles. Millennials (H,I,J): Computers at home and school helped them develop the right and left brains. Lead with #3 character but fit into #1 values. Treatment of everyone as a winner (participation trophy) led to underdeveloped #2 character. Change jobs often due to #3 character (living for the moment). Self-value is determined by ‘friends, likes, clicks.’ Generation Z (K): Blending whole brain into right-brain dominant. First whole brain generation. Spend a lot of time running their fight or flight response. Summation: The go-go mentality that technology encourages us to engage in can wreak havoc on our brain health, as well as the health of our relationships with those around us. Sleep helps us reboot. Engage in Brain Huddle.
13/Perfect, Whole, and Beautiful: We have the power to choose which circuitry we want to run in the good times and in the tough times as well. Author chooses character 4 (over character 2) when her friend dies. A healthy brain is made up of billions of healthy neurons that are in communication with one another. Comparably, a healthy society is made up of billions of healthy people who are in communication with one another. You are the life force power of the 50 trillion beautiful molecular geniuses that make up your form. You can choose to step into the consciousness of your left hemisphere, where you become a single individual, a solid, separate from the flow, and separate from me. I believe that the more time you spend choosing to run the deep inner peace circuitry of your right hemisphere, the more peach you will project into the world and the more peaceful our planet will be.