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Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women
Finally , the answer to why, when it comes to romance, women are coy and men are just clueless--explained from the micro standpoint. Who would have guessed that all of our sexual and social behavior, and even our physical appearance, could be attributed to what our tiny unseen reproductive cells are doing? But that's Quirk's thesis in this highly entertaining book from an Average Guy that's a fun read full of a-ha! moments for scientists and civilians alike. Learn facts about cheating you'll never see on "Jerry Springer," like how unfaithful females actually change the biology of their mates. Discover why most sperm couldn't care less if they never saw an egg, what makes men yell "woo!" in a feminine falsetto--very similar to the mating cry of the Siamang gibbon--and, most important, the surprising answer on what to wear to attract that alpha mate.
272 pages, Hardcover
First published May 19, 2008
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June 4, 2011
What a terrible book. As he says, he's a fiction writer exploring biology without credentials. Some parts are good but just as you're beginning to see where he's coming from, he throws in his own wild ideas. If this is intended to be humorous, bravo. Otherwise, avoid.
October 1, 2012
There is some interesting information in here for those otherwise unexposed to evolutionary psychology ... or, for that matter, stray issues of Scientific American or even Psychology Today. To his credit, Quirk has produced a quickly readable and occasionally amusing book here, but I am not sure that anything really sticks in the memory in terms of cogent support of the title's pithy thesis.
In essence, this is a dilettante's paean to science, which in itself is admirable. However, Mr. Quirk occasionally blurs the lines defining his level of involvement in this enterprise, and there are moments in which it seems as though he feels that producing this book has made him a practicing biologist. This will likely not be a major issue for many readers, but to me it speaks to the end product's general impression of being a book not completely sure of what it wants to be.
In essence, this is a dilettante's paean to science, which in itself is admirable. However, Mr. Quirk occasionally blurs the lines defining his level of involvement in this enterprise, and there are moments in which it seems as though he feels that producing this book has made him a practicing biologist. This will likely not be a major issue for many readers, but to me it speaks to the end product's general impression of being a book not completely sure of what it wants to be.
January 3, 2023
تُظهر الدراسات أن الرجال العائدين إلى منازلهم من رحلة طويلة ينتجون كمية هائلة من الحيوانات المنوية - تصل إلى 300٪ أكثر! - في أول جماع لهم مع شريكاتهم بعد الرحلة. إذا رأى الرجال شريكاتهم كل يوم ، فإنهم ينتجون كمية معتدلة من الحيوانات المنوية. كلما طالت مدة بقاء المرأة بعيدًا عن الأنظار ، كلما زاد حرق الذكر للطاقة بهدف زيادة إنتاج الحيوانات المنوية.
لا تحاول العديد من الحيوانات المنوية الوصول إلى البويضة ، لكنها تنطلق في مناورات منع حتى تتمكن الحيوانات المنوية الرفيقة من الوصول إلى البويضة المرغوبة. يبدو الأمر إلى حد كبير مثل فريق كرة قدم أمريكي يمنع لاعبي الفريق الآخر .
يتطور هذا العمل الجماعي بطبيعته لسبب واحد: التنافس ضد فريق آخر. لكن أين الفريق الآخر؟ يبدو الأمر كما لو أن الحيوانات المنوية تعتقد أن هناك مجموعة أخرى من الحيوانات المنوية الناتجة عن شريك آخر (محتمل) وتحاول أن تمنعها من تلقيح البويضة.
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Joe Quirk
It's Not You It's Biology
Translated By #Maher_Razouk
لا تحاول العديد من الحيوانات المنوية الوصول إلى البويضة ، لكنها تنطلق في مناورات منع حتى تتمكن الحيوانات المنوية الرفيقة من الوصول إلى البويضة المرغوبة. يبدو الأمر إلى حد كبير مثل فريق كرة قدم أمريكي يمنع لاعبي الفريق الآخر .
يتطور هذا العمل الجماعي بطبيعته لسبب واحد: التنافس ضد فريق آخر. لكن أين الفريق الآخر؟ يبدو الأمر كما لو أن الحيوانات المنوية تعتقد أن هناك مجموعة أخرى من الحيوانات المنوية الناتجة عن شريك آخر (محتمل) وتحاول أن تمنعها من تلقيح البويضة.
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Joe Quirk
It's Not You It's Biology
Translated By #Maher_Razouk
March 29, 2024
Lazy Researcher Review
- I haven't laughed out loud for a Bio-Anthropological book in a very long time. Granted it's not a rigorous, peer-reviewed theory and you'd never ever be able to reference it in a thesis or a basic high school essay. PLEASE don't reference this book, it'll be like referencing Wikipedia. But for real this was hilarious. It should have been fiction...alas.
The writing is structured to get you all loosey goosey in la cabeza and willing to hear the alchemical, historical and biological absurdity of human attraction. It reeks of a novelist's flair for the dramatic:
"First we’ll analyze my personal research into what makes het-eros horny.
Then we’ll find out why love turns us into idiots.
Then we’ll find out why idiots in love are the smartest people alive, though they’re too stupid to know it."
Lest we forget that Quirk is the equivalent of a dancer telling a violinist how to play a cello - he has zero credentials for this subject matter but he is a compelling storyteller. 🤷🏻♀️I liked it.
Information Accessibility scale
If you're a novice at the topic. Let's look at it like this:
■1.Bob Ross Ease: don't overthink it, paint it and just enjoy vibe.
■2. CrashCourse Youtube: Phil Plait and team bite-size digestible chunks.
■3.Bill Nye, Neil de Grasse Tyson: mass cable style appeal but very edutaining.
■4.Feynman, Hawking, Einstein, Kaku, Curie: data, concept and theory heavy. Degrees non-negotiable.
■5.Christopher Nolanesque: gloriously mind-bending, time-bending, sanity-bending. Basically - fvck your degree and linear thought.
LEVEL: We're firmly at a 1. This was better than a few fiction books I read this month - looking at all you 2's from that short story collection (bloody draining). Way too many quotable pages. My annotating game came right through for a wee hang.
Rabbit hole Worthy or Nah?:
Strangely enough, this provided so much verifued and untested detail in an uncluttered way that I didn't feel the need to go and do some adhoc research. Instead, I cackled, read and then went to read a Romance book to see if all the insane ideas could be spotted in the one genre that lends weight to this book.
Snore inducing or Willing All-nighter
This book moves fast because it's not bogged down by linguistics for Doctors of the PHD and Doctorate variety. It's purpose is to entertain not really educate and keeping the audience awake seems to be a goal in the choice of prose. I read it overnight instead of sleeping.
Spotlight on Theorists
□"The turn-ons are different. A man is attracted to a woman’s ability to grow a baby inside her. A woman is attracted to a man’s ability to grow a baby outside him. How does he do that? Resources." (Chapter: What Women Want)
□"Psychologist David M. Buss pulled off a monumental study of over 10,000 people in thirty-seven cultures". (Why prestige matters )
□"Motherhood is much older than fatherhood. Fatherhood is the male’s imitation of the ancient female instinct to nurture off-spring.". (Color me beyond interested )
Significant Concept/s
■Apparently reading Cosmopolitan "leads to affairs" for a percentage of women in the US.
■ Kamikaze Blocking Manoeuvre: Sperm Teamwork
■Two-Timing orangutans, loyal Gorillas, slutty chimpanzees
■Male Fashion show: Power Suits😉
■The Ache tribe of Paraguay vs The Bakweri Tribe of Cameroon
■The Jerk Gene vs The Catfight Gene
■Chimpanzee Scientist🤣
OVERALL: If you're trying to navigate this ridiculous world on online dating and rules for texting and all that hogwash, you're gonna need wine and fortitude. But if you have that curious little cat lodged in your spirit and want to understand the insanity that is "courting, wooing, besottering" and all the other fancy words (some made up) have a laugh with this one.
StoryGraph Challenge: 1800 Books by 2025
Challenge Prompt: 150 NonFiction (Sciences) books by 2025
The writing is structured to get you all loosey goosey in la cabeza and willing to hear the alchemical, historical and biological absurdity of human attraction. It reeks of a novelist's flair for the dramatic:
"First we’ll analyze my personal research into what makes het-eros horny.
Then we’ll find out why love turns us into idiots.
Then we’ll find out why idiots in love are the smartest people alive, though they’re too stupid to know it."
Lest we forget that Quirk is the equivalent of a dancer telling a violinist how to play a cello - he has zero credentials for this subject matter but he is a compelling storyteller. 🤷🏻♀️I liked it.
Information Accessibility scale
If you're a novice at the topic. Let's look at it like this:
■1.Bob Ross Ease: don't overthink it, paint it and just enjoy vibe.
■2. CrashCourse Youtube: Phil Plait and team bite-size digestible chunks.
■3.Bill Nye, Neil de Grasse Tyson: mass cable style appeal but very edutaining.
■4.Feynman, Hawking, Einstein, Kaku, Curie: data, concept and theory heavy. Degrees non-negotiable.
■5.Christopher Nolanesque: gloriously mind-bending, time-bending, sanity-bending. Basically - fvck your degree and linear thought.
LEVEL: We're firmly at a 1. This was better than a few fiction books I read this month - looking at all you 2's from that short story collection (bloody draining). Way too many quotable pages. My annotating game came right through for a wee hang.
Rabbit hole Worthy or Nah?:
Strangely enough, this provided so much verifued and untested detail in an uncluttered way that I didn't feel the need to go and do some adhoc research. Instead, I cackled, read and then went to read a Romance book to see if all the insane ideas could be spotted in the one genre that lends weight to this book.
Snore inducing or Willing All-nighter
This book moves fast because it's not bogged down by linguistics for Doctors of the PHD and Doctorate variety. It's purpose is to entertain not really educate and keeping the audience awake seems to be a goal in the choice of prose. I read it overnight instead of sleeping.
Spotlight on Theorists
□"The turn-ons are different. A man is attracted to a woman’s ability to grow a baby inside her. A woman is attracted to a man’s ability to grow a baby outside him. How does he do that? Resources." (Chapter: What Women Want)
□"Psychologist David M. Buss pulled off a monumental study of over 10,000 people in thirty-seven cultures". (Why prestige matters )
□"Motherhood is much older than fatherhood. Fatherhood is the male’s imitation of the ancient female instinct to nurture off-spring.". (Color me beyond interested )
Significant Concept/s
■Apparently reading Cosmopolitan "leads to affairs" for a percentage of women in the US.
■ Kamikaze Blocking Manoeuvre: Sperm Teamwork
■Two-Timing orangutans, loyal Gorillas, slutty chimpanzees
■Male Fashion show: Power Suits😉
■The Ache tribe of Paraguay vs The Bakweri Tribe of Cameroon
■The Jerk Gene vs The Catfight Gene
■Chimpanzee Scientist🤣
OVERALL: If you're trying to navigate this ridiculous world on online dating and rules for texting and all that hogwash, you're gonna need wine and fortitude. But if you have that curious little cat lodged in your spirit and want to understand the insanity that is "courting, wooing, besottering" and all the other fancy words (some made up) have a laugh with this one.
StoryGraph Challenge: 1800 Books by 2025
Challenge Prompt: 150 NonFiction (Sciences) books by 2025
February 7, 2016
It's the best Science book I've read so far!
Yes, I call it 'Science'. The author's claims seem absolutely legitimate in spite of his hilarious script.
I think I now understand Evolution better than ever.
I could give the author 6/5 for his brilliant sense of humour.
I found myself laughing out loud multiple times while reading the book. (Mind you, I listen to George Carlin without much of a snigger. So this is huge.)
True to the Author's surname, it's a quirky book. I highly recommend it.
Yes, I call it 'Science'. The author's claims seem absolutely legitimate in spite of his hilarious script.
I think I now understand Evolution better than ever.
I could give the author 6/5 for his brilliant sense of humour.
I found myself laughing out loud multiple times while reading the book. (Mind you, I listen to George Carlin without much of a snigger. So this is huge.)
True to the Author's surname, it's a quirky book. I highly recommend it.
June 8, 2021
Long story short, this book provides little (if you are not yet familiar with evolutionary biology and psychogenetics) to no value. There are better options out there.
I am not sure whether this book was supposed to be a collection of random stories (which the author was clearly trying to make them sound funny; he did succeed though at couple instances) or as the name suggests, a book about evolutionary biology and psychogenetics.
I generally try and get a rough idea of what a book provides by going through few reviews; for books, as you guys already know take a lot of time and effort. But the title just made dive right in. It was not a pleasant experience.
I am not sure whether this book was supposed to be a collection of random stories (which the author was clearly trying to make them sound funny; he did succeed though at couple instances) or as the name suggests, a book about evolutionary biology and psychogenetics.
I generally try and get a rough idea of what a book provides by going through few reviews; for books, as you guys already know take a lot of time and effort. But the title just made dive right in. It was not a pleasant experience.
November 3, 2018
Absolute bulls-it this book is. First of all, calling this "The SCIENCE of Love, Sex, and Relationships" is an utter disrespect to science and actual scientists. The pseudo "science" in this book is nothing but what the writer believes, bunch of flawed arguments he came up with. Some of which is "supported" by some unreliable studies, as long as it fits into what the writer wants to believe. This is what the writer tells about himself in the book:
"I studied literature and minored in Development of Western Civilization at Providence College, taught partially by Dominican priests who had no sense of humor when it came to my biological observations about celibacy. I graduated at the top bottom tenth of my class. That may not seem like such a big accomplishment to certain Ph.D. scientists, but among my friends, I was the brain.(...)
I'm an independent scholar, a Renaissance man, a free thinker. Okay, fine, I don't have any qualifications. I live in Berkeley, so I can challenge intellectuals to debate and pray they don't ask me if I have any credentials."
So, readers, you need to take Joe Quirk, who is not a scientist, about science seriously because he was "the brain" among his friends. And not only he made observations (read: used confirmation bias, a lot) but also read some studies (the whole book proves he used confirmation bias when he read studies too, and only followed the ones he wanted to believe.)
From beginning to end, Joe Quirk is trying to simplify attraction and want to prove there is some biology-based differences between genders. Now, don't get me wrong, we do have biological differences and these might very well affect our attraction at some level. But the main flaw in Joe Quirk's thinking is that he strips down every other possible and proven factor and makes sweeping generalizations, as well as claiming his hypotheses are facts.
For example, very early in the book he claims (heterosexual) women are pickier when they choose a male mate for sex than (heterosexual) men are because women have limited number of eggs and subconsciously we think we shouldn't "waste" an egg in case we get pregnant. Whereas men are keep producing sperm and would be okay with spreading it as much as they can. This hypothesis is ridiculous in itself. You don't just lose an egg every time you have sex but let's just go with it. The hypothesis, I think, is basically Joe trying to find an answer why not as many women are interested in casual sex as men. Joe doesn't think this might have something (or you know, a lot) to do with safety. Since most men are physically stronger than most women, a woman faces more potential threat of getting attacked. Assault statistics also support this. Joe also doesn't consider the double standards in the society and still to this date unfortunately a woman being sexually active and having casual sex is led to potential names, losing respect in the society...etc In Joe's mind, he came up with a hypothesis, found some logic in there, and that MUST be true!
I could continue but seriously, the whole book is like this. Don't waste your time reading. It's just one man's claims introduced as pseudo-science. He tries to back some of them with couple studies as long as they support his opinion. Evolutionary biology is an on-going series of researches and while evolution most certainly play some factor in our relationships and sexual attraction, there is no evidence the effect is as strong as Joe claims, say, more than cultural influence.
"I studied literature and minored in Development of Western Civilization at Providence College, taught partially by Dominican priests who had no sense of humor when it came to my biological observations about celibacy. I graduated at the top bottom tenth of my class. That may not seem like such a big accomplishment to certain Ph.D. scientists, but among my friends, I was the brain.(...)
I'm an independent scholar, a Renaissance man, a free thinker. Okay, fine, I don't have any qualifications. I live in Berkeley, so I can challenge intellectuals to debate and pray they don't ask me if I have any credentials."
So, readers, you need to take Joe Quirk, who is not a scientist, about science seriously because he was "the brain" among his friends. And not only he made observations (read: used confirmation bias, a lot) but also read some studies (the whole book proves he used confirmation bias when he read studies too, and only followed the ones he wanted to believe.)
From beginning to end, Joe Quirk is trying to simplify attraction and want to prove there is some biology-based differences between genders. Now, don't get me wrong, we do have biological differences and these might very well affect our attraction at some level. But the main flaw in Joe Quirk's thinking is that he strips down every other possible and proven factor and makes sweeping generalizations, as well as claiming his hypotheses are facts.
For example, very early in the book he claims (heterosexual) women are pickier when they choose a male mate for sex than (heterosexual) men are because women have limited number of eggs and subconsciously we think we shouldn't "waste" an egg in case we get pregnant. Whereas men are keep producing sperm and would be okay with spreading it as much as they can. This hypothesis is ridiculous in itself. You don't just lose an egg every time you have sex but let's just go with it. The hypothesis, I think, is basically Joe trying to find an answer why not as many women are interested in casual sex as men. Joe doesn't think this might have something (or you know, a lot) to do with safety. Since most men are physically stronger than most women, a woman faces more potential threat of getting attacked. Assault statistics also support this. Joe also doesn't consider the double standards in the society and still to this date unfortunately a woman being sexually active and having casual sex is led to potential names, losing respect in the society...etc In Joe's mind, he came up with a hypothesis, found some logic in there, and that MUST be true!
I could continue but seriously, the whole book is like this. Don't waste your time reading. It's just one man's claims introduced as pseudo-science. He tries to back some of them with couple studies as long as they support his opinion. Evolutionary biology is an on-going series of researches and while evolution most certainly play some factor in our relationships and sexual attraction, there is no evidence the effect is as strong as Joe claims, say, more than cultural influence.
February 22, 2013
Love this book so much! I have no idea why people in general think that just because someone isn't a 'scientist' that they do not have the basic ability to research and compile scientific information and present it in an entertaining manner (as he has.) I mean, it's not like the author is making the stuff up. As usual, what certain demographics in the population 'want' to believe, is different to what is 'actually' the case.
Ah well, as they say, 'people prefer a lie they like, to the truth they do not.'
I've read this book four times over so far, and not only is it highly educational, it's also hilarious. I've recommended it to friends, and everyone liked it, one even commented that it was one of those books that changes your whole view on life, and I can only agree. Not many books come along like that in a lifetime.
Loved it, loved, loved it, so hard!!
Ah well, as they say, 'people prefer a lie they like, to the truth they do not.'
I've read this book four times over so far, and not only is it highly educational, it's also hilarious. I've recommended it to friends, and everyone liked it, one even commented that it was one of those books that changes your whole view on life, and I can only agree. Not many books come along like that in a lifetime.
Loved it, loved, loved it, so hard!!
January 19, 2008
Joe Quirk dances away from all the problems with self-help books, embraces the good parts of science books, and blends in his own character. The result is a hilarious ride through science with lots of "give me pause" and "change my perspective" that self-help books try to deliver. My favorite part was the "aquatic ape" theory. The best line in the book, Pg 138 "...in order to orgasm, some women need to concentrate, and some men, to put off orgasm, need to think about something else. My method is to list each Yankee baseball player's batting average. The second a man thinks about what he's actually doing, it's over. So the only way a man can enjoy sex is to not think about what he's doing. Can you blame us if we extend this strategy to relationships?"
June 24, 2012
I had a hard time finishing this book because the author's style was really off-putting to me. Altogether it was some questionably presented interpretations of data mixed with Quirk's bawdy, wannabe stand-up routines. Some of the information was solid and a lot of it was interesting, but a lot of it was also not very well-explained. It might have been all worth it for the last chapter, though, where a lot of the poignancy of the data was presented. I wish I could have shaken the feeling that I would strongly dislike the author if I knew him personally. If you want to read this, check it out from the library instead of supporting this guy :-/
November 13, 2012
I'm almost done with this book, which my mother recommended and lent to me. I was skeptical at first, but it is a humorous romp through the world of amateur anthropology/biology while touching on some insights into male and female behavior. A grain of salt is needed at times, but overall, this is and interesting look at motivation and perspective as dictated and designed by our intrinsic goals to either spread our genes or compete for the best genes available.
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July 16, 2010Why do men (and women too) do what they do? This book tells all and with a great deal of humor. My husband read it and convinced me to do the same. What I found is that he had read a lot of it out loud to me already. Why do men do that?
Oh yeah. A disturbing fact I learned from this book. Menopausal women have no waist. NOOOOOOOOOOOO!! I love my waist. Please don't take it!
Oh yeah. A disturbing fact I learned from this book. Menopausal women have no waist. NOOOOOOOOOOOO!! I love my waist. Please don't take it!
January 8, 2009
I love being a Bonobo!
January 20, 2011
Great tone. An easy, fun, and informative read.
April 27, 2024
"The most powerful force in our bodies and brains is the accumulated desire of all our ancestors, refined, concentrated, and made more powerful than any desire we imagine important."
Why won't he commit? Why does she inexhaustibly want to talk about a relationship? Biologists can tell you exactly why. It's Not You, It's Biology, explains how different optimum breeding strategies drive the physical and emotional differences between men and women. It is an extremely wild and mind-opening adventure into a better understanding, a far more accurate and reliable way to see the world and its species.
Every chapter is replete with intriguing stories, with an appropriate data-to-joke ratio. I was enlightened and laughed at the same time. It was a very comedically humorous science book. It's Not You, It's Biology is a recommended book for someone who wants to expand their knowledge, their "reality map", those who care about accuracy, who lies their life on science, and also curious about the underlying reason on why men and women are different.
‼️ Main idea of the book ‼️
Sexual assymetry determines how males and females behave. Men and women have different reproductive agendas. Men have sperm. What would be the optimum breeding strategy for a creature that can produce about 300 million sperm with each ejaculation? Spray them around as generously as possible. Women have eggs. What would be the optimum breeding strategy for a creature that produces one egg a month that, if inseminated, requires a lifetime of labor? Choose wisely.
Behaviors that support these breeding strategies will be passed on and become more dominant. For example: women are picky (wisely choosing her future-child father), and men are afraid of commitment (they tend to have a lot more relationship than women).
Why won't he commit? Why does she inexhaustibly want to talk about a relationship? Biologists can tell you exactly why. It's Not You, It's Biology, explains how different optimum breeding strategies drive the physical and emotional differences between men and women. It is an extremely wild and mind-opening adventure into a better understanding, a far more accurate and reliable way to see the world and its species.
Every chapter is replete with intriguing stories, with an appropriate data-to-joke ratio. I was enlightened and laughed at the same time. It was a very comedically humorous science book. It's Not You, It's Biology is a recommended book for someone who wants to expand their knowledge, their "reality map", those who care about accuracy, who lies their life on science, and also curious about the underlying reason on why men and women are different.
‼️ Main idea of the book ‼️
Sexual assymetry determines how males and females behave. Men and women have different reproductive agendas. Men have sperm. What would be the optimum breeding strategy for a creature that can produce about 300 million sperm with each ejaculation? Spray them around as generously as possible. Women have eggs. What would be the optimum breeding strategy for a creature that produces one egg a month that, if inseminated, requires a lifetime of labor? Choose wisely.
Behaviors that support these breeding strategies will be passed on and become more dominant. For example: women are picky (wisely choosing her future-child father), and men are afraid of commitment (they tend to have a lot more relationship than women).
September 8, 2018
The author justifies love behaviour using human instinct from many aspects. More or less like a religious book, just can't prove it wrong! so it makes a lot of sense.
Again, have to accept that we are the most special animal-Homo Sapiens-who can reason things consciously, but at the same time highly manipulated by chemical and electronic body reactions.
Being an animal has an ultimate goal, that is reproduction, and after that, making the world a better place.
Again, have to accept that we are the most special animal-Homo Sapiens-who can reason things consciously, but at the same time highly manipulated by chemical and electronic body reactions.
Being an animal has an ultimate goal, that is reproduction, and after that, making the world a better place.
May 16, 2021
Une approche très intéressante des relations de couple (de tous types) par sa démarche scientifique et mise en perspective avec l'évolution de l'espèce humaine. Et ce, non sans une certaine dose d'humour, ce qui en rend la lecture plutôt agréable.
April 24, 2020
Science and Humor!
July 3, 2020
Probably there is an answer to all your questions related to sex and relationships in this book!
August 15, 2021
Witty and Funny.
October 14, 2024
Çevirmeni sevdiğim için okudum ama kitabı pek sevmedim.
Herkesin dişi olarak ana rahmine düştüğünü öğrendim bir de ailenin önemi diye yırtınanlarda gay geni olduğunu... gerçi onu biliyorduk :)
Herkesin dişi olarak ana rahmine düştüğünü öğrendim bir de ailenin önemi diye yırtınanlarda gay geni olduğunu... gerçi onu biliyorduk :)
September 9, 2014
The first nonfiction book and the list and was recommended by two of my best friends (who are also sex addicts and took biology). It’s a very quick and easy read, partly because it’s written more in a novel format so that almost anyone could pick it up and understand it (also it has very short chapters), but also partly because it’s just such a fun and interesting book answering questions you’d never really ask or even Google (unless you were really curious and bored) but always wanted to know. And not just the Cosmo answer, but an actual scientific answer.
Embroiled in the science and studies, Quirk also lives up to his name (haha) because I found that I most enjoyed it because of his little sarcastic and wonderfully worded quips and observations or summations about certain concepts or those that have already been introduced then supported in the chapter. He seems to effortlessly weave in humor to what would otherwise be mundane statistics. See the favorite quotes section below if you don’t believe me. The self-deprecating stories also personalizes the facts so it doesn’t read very much like a textbook.
An entertaining and surprisingly informative book that leaves you with a little less cynical view of the dating arena and the opposite sex. It explains everything from weird attraction to infidelity to bitches and douchebags.Plus, it works as a great conversation topic for anyone interested in sex (which, let’s face it, is everyone) and everything it’s connected with. Just be careful when you read it in public - you might be caught reading chapters entitled “How Men Get Sex,” “Why You’re So Horny,” or “Why Your Clitoris is Hard to Find.”
Embroiled in the science and studies, Quirk also lives up to his name (haha) because I found that I most enjoyed it because of his little sarcastic and wonderfully worded quips and observations or summations about certain concepts or those that have already been introduced then supported in the chapter. He seems to effortlessly weave in humor to what would otherwise be mundane statistics. See the favorite quotes section below if you don’t believe me. The self-deprecating stories also personalizes the facts so it doesn’t read very much like a textbook.
An entertaining and surprisingly informative book that leaves you with a little less cynical view of the dating arena and the opposite sex. It explains everything from weird attraction to infidelity to bitches and douchebags.Plus, it works as a great conversation topic for anyone interested in sex (which, let’s face it, is everyone) and everything it’s connected with. Just be careful when you read it in public - you might be caught reading chapters entitled “How Men Get Sex,” “Why You’re So Horny,” or “Why Your Clitoris is Hard to Find.”
December 10, 2020
Yer yer Desmond Morris kitaplarına benzese de, biraz daha esprili bir dille yazılmış bir kitap.
Kitapta ilgimi çeken bir bölümü sizlerle paylaşayım.
Doğmamış bebekler insan gibi görünmeden önce maymuna benzerler. Ondan daha önce hem suda hem karada yaşayabilen amfibik hayvanları andırırlar. Ondan önce, solungaçları ve yüzgeçleri vardır. Ondan da önce, solucana benzerler. Fetal gelişimin en başına gidildiğinde her organizmanın dişi görünümünde olduğu anlaşılır. Bu, erkeklerin dişilerin bir kademe güncellenmiş hali olduğu anlamına gelmez. Bu, dişilerin erkekleri kendi üremelerini kolaylaştırmak için icat ettikleri anlamına gelir. Dişiler ilk cinsiyettir, erkekler ise ikinci. Tanrı dişiyi erkeğin kaburgasından yaratmamıştır.
Herkesin tek hücreli dişi olduğu günlerde, yarıya bölünerek kız evlatlar klonlamışız. Bireyler arasında gen alışverişi yapmak üretimsel bir avantaj haline geldiğinde cinsiyetleri oluşturmuşuz ve bu da çeşitliliği sağlamış. Bazı evlatlar küçük, bazıları büyükmüş. Bu da cinsel rekabeti ilginç hale getirmiş. Dişiler, ribozom fabrikalarına hareket kabiliyeti için gıda feda edecek daha küçük evlatlar yaratmaları için emir vermiş. Bunlar erkeklermiş. Aniden tek hücreli dişiler artık tek başlarına olmak istemediklerine karar vermişler. Erkek genlerini kullanarak evlatlar yapmak istemişler. Dişiler kendileri arasında gen taşıması yapmaları için erkekleri yaratmışlar.
Artık erkeklerin neden meme uçları olduğunu biliyorsunuz. Onlar temelde dişidir;
Kitapta ilgimi çeken bir bölümü sizlerle paylaşayım.
Doğmamış bebekler insan gibi görünmeden önce maymuna benzerler. Ondan daha önce hem suda hem karada yaşayabilen amfibik hayvanları andırırlar. Ondan önce, solungaçları ve yüzgeçleri vardır. Ondan da önce, solucana benzerler. Fetal gelişimin en başına gidildiğinde her organizmanın dişi görünümünde olduğu anlaşılır. Bu, erkeklerin dişilerin bir kademe güncellenmiş hali olduğu anlamına gelmez. Bu, dişilerin erkekleri kendi üremelerini kolaylaştırmak için icat ettikleri anlamına gelir. Dişiler ilk cinsiyettir, erkekler ise ikinci. Tanrı dişiyi erkeğin kaburgasından yaratmamıştır.
Herkesin tek hücreli dişi olduğu günlerde, yarıya bölünerek kız evlatlar klonlamışız. Bireyler arasında gen alışverişi yapmak üretimsel bir avantaj haline geldiğinde cinsiyetleri oluşturmuşuz ve bu da çeşitliliği sağlamış. Bazı evlatlar küçük, bazıları büyükmüş. Bu da cinsel rekabeti ilginç hale getirmiş. Dişiler, ribozom fabrikalarına hareket kabiliyeti için gıda feda edecek daha küçük evlatlar yaratmaları için emir vermiş. Bunlar erkeklermiş. Aniden tek hücreli dişiler artık tek başlarına olmak istemediklerine karar vermişler. Erkek genlerini kullanarak evlatlar yapmak istemişler. Dişiler kendileri arasında gen taşıması yapmaları için erkekleri yaratmışlar.
Artık erkeklerin neden meme uçları olduğunu biliyorsunuz. Onlar temelde dişidir;
May 21, 2011
This book was given to me as a gift by my friend, Eric, whom I had once told that 'Men and women just operate differently.' I was excited to read it and once I got into it I found it just to be a tad more science-based than humor-based and not exactly aligned with my view on love, sex, and relationships. Quirk takes the stance that men are made to spread the seed to as many as possible and women are made to protect the womb from all but a select few. I found the facts about the sexual activity and orientation of various species to be interesting but the whole thing felt very cynical to me until I got to the very last chapter about falling in love from a biological standpoint. I found that chapter to be very insightful. The idea that our genes end up controlling us rather than the other way around is a fascinating idea that I had never thought of before. It was probably this chapter alone that saved this book from a 3 star rating. I'm even looking into Quirk's other book, Tools Are From Men; Talk Is From Women: Why the Other Sex's Brain Is Weird. I recommend this book to anyone who is interested in the hard science concerning human motivation when it comes to the other sex. It was very informative and the humor throughout was refreshing and kept me from feeling like I was in a biology lecture.
February 21, 2023
"The most powerful force in our bodies and brains is the accumulated desire of all our ancestors, refined, concentrated, and made powerful than any desire we imagine important."
Why he won't commit? Why does she inexhaustibly want to talk about a relationship? Biologist can tell you exactly why. It's Not You, It's Biology, explains how different optimum breeding strategies drive the physical and emotional differences between men and women.
It is an extremely wild and mind-opening adventure into a better understanding, a far more accurate and reliable way to see the world and its species.
Every chapter is replete with intriguing stories, with an appropriate data-to-joke ratio. I was enlightened and laughed at the same time. It was a very comedically humorous popular science book.
It's Not You, It's Biology is a recommended book for someone who wants to expand their knowledge, their "reality map", those who care about accuracy, who lies their life on science, and also curious about the underlying reason on why men and women are different.
Why he won't commit? Why does she inexhaustibly want to talk about a relationship? Biologist can tell you exactly why. It's Not You, It's Biology, explains how different optimum breeding strategies drive the physical and emotional differences between men and women.
It is an extremely wild and mind-opening adventure into a better understanding, a far more accurate and reliable way to see the world and its species.
Every chapter is replete with intriguing stories, with an appropriate data-to-joke ratio. I was enlightened and laughed at the same time. It was a very comedically humorous popular science book.
It's Not You, It's Biology is a recommended book for someone who wants to expand their knowledge, their "reality map", those who care about accuracy, who lies their life on science, and also curious about the underlying reason on why men and women are different.
July 3, 2012
Sticking with this book from beginning to end took some effort. Quirk comes off as an arrogant, biased and amateur (evolutionary biologist.) His humor took awhile for me to "get" because the writing seemed like an even mix of using anthropological and scientific words (to sound smart) and off-the-wall humor. I'm not sure if he eased up, or I got used to it.
As far as content, he repeats himself a lot to drive home points he's trying to make. He also goes on tangents and makes wild jumps from one thing to another (some I didn't feel were fully explained.) However, he did bring up some valid points and expanded my views. This book is not for those who are easily embarrassed or offended. As much as Quirk refers to people as homo sapiens, he also refers to men as sperm shooters and spreaders and women as womb bearers and protectors. Not at all what I was expecting.
As far as content, he repeats himself a lot to drive home points he's trying to make. He also goes on tangents and makes wild jumps from one thing to another (some I didn't feel were fully explained.) However, he did bring up some valid points and expanded my views. This book is not for those who are easily embarrassed or offended. As much as Quirk refers to people as homo sapiens, he also refers to men as sperm shooters and spreaders and women as womb bearers and protectors. Not at all what I was expecting.
September 21, 2008
written by an amateur biologist with no PhD (like Aristotle) and one novel under his belt, who, though not gay, has a brain that is more similar to the typical female brain than to the typical male brain, and who has the "manny" (male nanny) credentials to prove it.
would like to follow up on this hilarious, thought-provoking and often outrageous book by reading some of the research it is based on. but if half of it is true, despite some slightly sloppy reasoning in some areas, it definitely is worth the price of admission.
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would like to follow up on this hilarious, thought-provoking and often outrageous book by reading some of the research it is based on. but if half of it is true, despite some slightly sloppy reasoning in some areas, it definitely is worth the price of admission.
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May 13, 2012
i found this book humorous, "science-less" and a tad gross ( all this talk about sperms kinda puts you off, repelling indeed)
im not sure i would want to read a "scientific" subject that hasn't been written by a scientist. it doesn't make sense to do so anyway. i know biology is for everyone, but it doesn't mean that everyone should write about it.
some parts of this book do make sense. but between all the sarcasm and not-so-witty remarks you get impatient trying to get to the point that just wont come!
im not sure i would want to read a "scientific" subject that hasn't been written by a scientist. it doesn't make sense to do so anyway. i know biology is for everyone, but it doesn't mean that everyone should write about it.
some parts of this book do make sense. but between all the sarcasm and not-so-witty remarks you get impatient trying to get to the point that just wont come!
July 5, 2007
What a hoot! Over the years i've probably read 50+ self-help books of one kind or another in hopes of understanding just WTF makes guys act the way they do (and why I act so nuts around them...) In short, pithy chapters, Joe Quirk spells it out: Men are dogs; women nurture, and when the two meet, it's a battle of nature to see who wins out. Can't say it comforted me too much, but it did make me laugh out loud, and that's the best remedy of all.
September 18, 2009
Why do Men have Three Nipples + Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus + He's Just Not That Into You = this book. Thus far, it's been quick, fun, informative...hoping it stays on track!
The author is not a doctor (of any degree) or biologist or archeologist...just did a TON of reasearch.
Stayed quick, informative and fun.
The author is not a doctor (of any degree) or biologist or archeologist...just did a TON of reasearch.
Stayed quick, informative and fun.
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