Are Your Kids Driving You Nuts? How to Avoid Devastating Parent Traps

by James J. Jones

“Are Your Kids Driving You Nuts? – How to Avoid Devastating Parent Traps” is a comprehensive 115 page parenting resource manual that deals with the issue of "control" and the traps parents can fall into when attempting to control their child's behavior. Dr. Jones has a down-to-earth (down right funny!) approach that teaches the principles of correct parenting with humor and common sense. You will find practical, easy to understand solutions to many common parenting problems--and they really work! These 1. Parenting Myths, Falsehoods and Good parents raise good kids; bad parents raise bad kids. 2. Freedom of Must man be free to choose, or should he be forced to do what's right? 3. Mission Can parents always be in control of their children? 4. What is a Parent Trap? The harder you try, the harder you fall. 5. The Control The greatest pitfall and misconception parents have. 6. The Trap of The key to understanding why we get angry. 7. The Trap of What is the Rage Gauge? 8. The Traps of Arguing and How do you stop the contention and arguing in your home? 9. The Traps of Lying and Are you lying to your children? 10.The Traps of Being Critical and Discounting, shaming and rejection. 11. The Teenage Retirement How are you retiring your children? 12. The Rescuing How kids are set up to be at high risk for drug abuse and suicide. 13. The Lecturing and Insight Boring! Don't they already know 99% of what you'll say? 14. The Nagging Kids don't see nagging as counsel or support. 15. The Traps of Conditional Love and I will only love you if you do what I want. 16. The Parental Disunity A house divided against itself cannot stand. 17. The Quick-Fix Trap and Making Avoiding the real problem. 18. The Trap of Misusing Rewards and Without a plan...without a clue. 19. The Trap of Excessive The more you punish, the less effective it becomes. 20. The Trap of The temptation to love the easiest child more than the difficult child. 21. The Surrogate Spouse Emotional incest. 22. The Scapegoat Finding a safe place to vent our negative emotions. 23. The Traps of Guilt, Unrealistic Expectations and The formula for shaming and failure. 24. The Trap of Button-Pushing and Are the kids punching your hot buttons? 25. Toxic Undisciplined Disciplinarians 26. Escaping the Parent Traps 27. The Healthy Parent and Functional Family 28. Peace and Joy in Letting Go 29. The Parables

115 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2001

Reviews

[Lindsey · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book has a lot of good principles in it, but overall I found it too negative and lacking practical application. It is organized into chapters, each one talking about a specific "parent trap" to avoid. The overall tone of the book was very negative and discouraging. I did gain some insight about good parenting and how easy it is to try to control our children. The author points out how damaging anger and controlling behaviors are to children. However, he also talks about using rewards and punishments, which can be very controlling, in my opinion, so it felt like he was talking out of both sides of his mouth. I finished the book feeling confused and not sure how to implement the author's ideas because the focus was more on what not to do than what to do. He has another book that I may skim through and see if it's more useful.

[Lisa (Bookworm Lisa) · Rating 4 out of 5]

James J. Jones has a series of audio tapes that are designed to help adults become better parents. This book is a companion.

He explores different traps that parents fall into, and how to get out of those traps. Even if you have not listened to the tapes this book has some fabulous council for parents who truly want to love, accept, and help their children succeed. The point isn't to change our children, but to improve our parenting to help our children and maybe guide them into making their own changes.

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[Lisa · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great advice for parents!!! All parents should read this and discuss it with their spouse. I loved the principles in this book! I really felt that they were correct and a sound way to raise your kids. It's all about agency.... and then consequences!

[Crystal H · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love James J Jones techniques for parenting! I have to modify it a little for my younger children but it works!