The Forgiveness Formula: How to Let Go of Your Pain and Move On with Life

by Kathleen Griffin

Whether it's a parent or a lover, a friend or a stranger, we all have someone in our past who has done us real wrong. They may be long dead or very much alive, but until we learn to forgive them, the deep pain they caused can sit heavily on our hearts. In The Forgiveness Formula, author Kathleen Griffin offers a practical and innovative approach to confronting and letting go of the pain and anger caused by trauma and betrayal in our lives. Griffin walks readers step-by-step through her highly effective forgiveness process, helping them find the freedom to move on and answering all the questions they will struggle with along the way, including: How are we affected when we don't forgive? Is everything forgivable? Is there a time when it's too late to apologize? And perhaps most importantly, how do we forgive ourselves? Filled with down-to-earth wisdom, the author's personal experience, and gentle encouragement, The Forgiveness Formula helps readers create a more fulfilling, liberated, and empowered way to live and shows them that their past does not have to define their future.

214 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2004

Reviews

[E.H. Nolan · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Forgiveness Formula was a life changing book for me. As is true for most self-help books, you only choose to read it if you are either at the end of your rope or actively wanting to change. This book is extremely heavy, despite the feather—or dandelion—on the cover. It takes weeks, if not months, to go through the exercises, and should new issues develop, you can come back and start all over again.

Basically, the book helps you learn how to forgive, why you should, and why you haven’t been able to up until now. Those are three very difficult, emotional lessons, and as Kathleen Griffin shares her harrowing story, readers can feel comfortable enough to start to tear down their walls. Griffin doesn’t walk you through how to confront someone; instead, this is an internal journey. True forgiveness doesn’t mean you got a rant off your chest or made someone feel as bad as they’ve made you feel in the past. And it doesn’t mean that whatever happened to you was okay, which Griffin stresses often. Even if the person who wronged you is now out of your life, or even deceased, you can still take active steps to forgive them and start a new chapter of your life.

For those with issues of anger, guilt, shame, or justice, this book can help you. You have to be in the right mindset, though. All of the lessons are painful, and some of them you won’t agree with. Open your mind and trust, and your heart will follow.

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[Vivienne Strauss · Rating 4 out of 5]

Finished reading but certainly not finished with the process. Off to a good start but it will take some time and effort.

[Marc Pugh · Rating 3 out of 5]

Perhaps it's just me and my style of enthusiastically starting and finishing a book (it took me like 2 months to finish) but I thought the middle chapters dragged on and on and on. The author speaks about a forgiveness room that I can't quite get my head around. The first and final chapters are the essentials. Forgiveness is not easy but nothing that's worth anything in this world is easy.

[Karen · Rating 3 out of 5]

I didn't think the book was written very well, but I liked the ideas she gave for learning to forgive someone.

[Kim · Rating 3 out of 5]

Focused mostly on mediattaing. Few other tools. Some good views on forgiveness to get you thinking though.

[Patty · Rating 5 out of 5]

EXcellent book. Everyone should read this one....

[Lisa Hubbard · Rating 4 out of 5]

Helped me through dealing with some difficult emotions when I had already forgiven but was still so hurt.

[Moniquehoron · Rating 2 out of 5]

Quit this book part way thru as , in reading The Course Of Miracles, I came to the realization that forgiveness is not helpful by the mere fact that it is an act of control.