When we become attached, we allow our partners to show us a mirror—the resulting image may be distorted, but we cannot remain unaffected by what we see.
The two partners' emotional relationship is the the heart of couples therapy. It is composed of the partners' feelings about themselves and each other, and it is revealed in the affective tone of their communications.
The goal of the Emotional Safety model is to help couples therapists identify and eliminate threats to emotional safety. Partners can then be more open and vulnerable as they address their issues.
Emotional safety is one of those things you know is important, but maybe never thought systematically about it. Emotional Safety provides that framework. Moreover, this is a practical book that encourages the counselor to put the principles into practice right away without risk to the client. This book needs a second-hand thoughtful reading.