Relationship Sabotage: Unconscious Factors that Destroy Couples, Marriages, and Families

by William J. Matta

Hidden forces―memories of past poor or hurtful relationships―drive repressed feelings and emotions that are often outside our awareness. Though we want to love and be loved, to nurture and be nurtured, those forces can wreak havoc and cause relationship sabotage, destroying couples and even whole families. The scenario is so common, explains therapist Matta, that often people get divorced without even fully understanding why, or what is was that came between them. In many cases, what it was were the lingering but unconscious memories of lessons learned as far back as childhood. These lessons may have no true bearing or justification in the current relationship, yet they can strongly affect it, fueling marital games, extra-marital affairs, addictions, poor parenting practices and a host of other harmful actions. Matta argues that we can learn to recognize these imprints and move past them to build or keep rewarding relationships. His book makes us aware, and gives us the tools to break the cycle.

Genres: Psychology

162 pages, Hardcover

First published July 30, 2006

About the author

About the Author
Dr. Matta has been recognized by Psychology Today magazine as one of America’s best therapist. He served as a college professor; and consults to various organizations and school districts.
Previous Publications
Dr. Matta’s first book, Relationship Sabotage: unconscious factors that Destroy Couples, Marriages and Family’s has been distributed world wide. It is recommended reading by numerous universities, atop 20 pick on Amazon for Relationships; and is on Natalie Howard’s list of “Good Reads.” It has also been endorsed by the internationally renowned media/radio/TV celebrity Dr. Judy Kurainsky.

Reviews

[Natalie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic book, really great insights into human psychology and clear cut practical advice for people to follow- and helpful tips for avoiding disasters

[Keri Murcray · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really helpful book with many good ideas and suggestions for improving relationships and the ways that we unconsciously damage them.