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What Women Don't Know (and Men Don't Tell You): The Unspoken Rules of Finding Lasting Love
What You Don't Know about Yourself Will Hinder You.
What You Don't Know about Men Will Hurt You.
What You Don't Know about Relationships Will Cost You.
Why does the modern-day search for romance so often end in disappointment, especially for women? Is it something we do? Something we don't do? Are we missing important information about the opposite sex—or about ourselves? Is there something wrong with us that we long so desperately for "til death do us part"?
Sadly, many women today see their ongoing singleness as a weakness or lack of worth. In truth, our dreams go unfulfilled not because we do not deserve for them to come true, but often because of wrong assumptions—assumptions that can easily be corrected.
Drawing on both male and female perspectives, this book deals with the hard issues and questions you and other women ponder as you consider how to obtain lasting love. What Women Don't Know (and Men Don't Tell You) will help you adjust your desires, redefine what you are attracted to, set your values in order, and determine your goals—freeing you at last to pursue the loving relationship you desire.
What You Don't Know about Men Will Hurt You.
What You Don't Know about Relationships Will Cost You.
Why does the modern-day search for romance so often end in disappointment, especially for women? Is it something we do? Something we don't do? Are we missing important information about the opposite sex—or about ourselves? Is there something wrong with us that we long so desperately for "til death do us part"?
Sadly, many women today see their ongoing singleness as a weakness or lack of worth. In truth, our dreams go unfulfilled not because we do not deserve for them to come true, but often because of wrong assumptions—assumptions that can easily be corrected.
Drawing on both male and female perspectives, this book deals with the hard issues and questions you and other women ponder as you consider how to obtain lasting love. What Women Don't Know (and Men Don't Tell You) will help you adjust your desires, redefine what you are attracted to, set your values in order, and determine your goals—freeing you at last to pursue the loving relationship you desire.
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208 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2009
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About the author
Michelle McKinney Hammond
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As a bestselling author, speaker, singer and television co-host, Michelle has authored over 30 books (selling over one million copies worldwide), including best-selling titles The Diva Principle, Sassy, Single and Satisfied, 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention, and Secrets of an Irresistible Woman. A gifted vocalist, Michelle has recorded two CD’s, It’s Amazing and Let’s Go In and co-hosted the Emmy Award-winning television talk show Aspiring Women.
She has appeared on countless television shows including Bill Maher’s Politically Incorrect, E Channel’s “Soap Talk,” NBC’s The Other Half, The 700 Club, and BET’s Oh Drama! as well as a regular relationship segment on WGN Morning News. She has graced the cover of magazines such as Today’s Christian Woman Precious Times, The Plain Truth and Gospel Today. She has been a contributing writer for Spirit Led Woman, Discipleship Journal and has been featured in articles in Shine, Essence, Ebony, Jet, Black Enterprise Magazine, The Chicago Tribune, The Associated Press and The New York Times.
Following several successful years in an award-winning advertising career as an art director/writer/producer (her clients included Coca-Cola USA, McDonald’s, Procter and Gamble, GMC and Ford Motor Company), Michelle suffered a devastating leg injury after being hit by a car. For her the accident was a spiritual turning point, a wake up call to embrace her purpose and fulfill her destiny. These bedridden months gave birth to her first bestseller, “What to Do Until Love Finds You.” Since then Michelle has emerged as a highly-respected author, speaker and singer, reaching a diverse audience nationally and internationally. Crossing denominational lines, addressing secular audiences, as well as addressing men and women from every walk of life, Michelle is known for “keeping it real.” She addresses real-life issues with candor and wit, and the hard questions with sensitivity and empathy. This merits her reputation as a relationship and life empowerment coach, crossing the great divide and sharing keys that lead to reconciliation between the sexes.
Michelle’s underlying message is “get yourself in spiritual order and your natural life will come together.” Her passion is to give relevant and workable solutions to people’s questions based in timeless spiritual truths. Sharing solid, effective principles that will help her audience to navigate through the journey of life and reach the ultimate destination of living and loving to their fullest potential.
As a bestselling author, speaker, singer and television co-host, Michelle has authored over 30 books (selling over one million copies worldwide), including best-selling titles The Diva Principle, Sassy, Single and Satisfied, 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention, and Secrets of an Irresistible Woman. A gifted vocalist, Michelle has recorded two CD’s, It’s Amazing and Let’s Go In and co-hosted the Emmy Award-winning television talk show Aspiring Women.
She has appeared on countless television shows including Bill Maher’s Politically Incorrect, E Channel’s “Soap Talk,” NBC’s The Other Half, The 700 Club, and BET’s Oh Drama! as well as a regular relationship segment on WGN Morning News. She has graced the cover of magazines such as Today’s Christian Woman Precious Times, The Plain Truth and Gospel Today. She has been a contributing writer for Spirit Led Woman, Discipleship Journal and has been featured in articles in Shine, Essence, Ebony, Jet, Black Enterprise Magazine, The Chicago Tribune, The Associated Press and The New York Times.
Following several successful years in an award-winning advertising career as an art director/writer/producer (her clients included Coca-Cola USA, McDonald’s, Procter and Gamble, GMC and Ford Motor Company), Michelle suffered a devastating leg injury after being hit by a car. For her the accident was a spiritual turning point, a wake up call to embrace her purpose and fulfill her destiny. These bedridden months gave birth to her first bestseller, “What to Do Until Love Finds You.” Since then Michelle has emerged as a highly-respected author, speaker and singer, reaching a diverse audience nationally and internationally. Crossing denominational lines, addressing secular audiences, as well as addressing men and women from every walk of life, Michelle is known for “keeping it real.” She addresses real-life issues with candor and wit, and the hard questions with sensitivity and empathy. This merits her reputation as a relationship and life empowerment coach, crossing the great divide and sharing keys that lead to reconciliation between the sexes.
Michelle’s underlying message is “get yourself in spiritual order and your natural life will come together.” Her passion is to give relevant and workable solutions to people’s questions based in timeless spiritual truths. Sharing solid, effective principles that will help her audience to navigate through the journey of life and reach the ultimate destination of living and loving to their fullest potential.
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February 15, 2010
I have to confess I was very surprised by the content and quality of this book. For a $6.99 book it was exceptional. It is however geared to a rather specific group though - single women waiting for husbands...which I have to say is a perfect match for me! You should see my copy of this book...it is marked up like crazy. It is definitely a book that I will keep as a reference for quite some time. In this book Michelle and Joel's goal is to help single women be smart about finding a mate. They came up with 14 rules to abide by in relationships with men to insure you marry the right man for you. The book starts off by advising you not to put your life on hold and start to look toward God and toward yourself to find value and discover if your heart and mind are in the right place. They then go into what to look for in a mate. They stress being picky and not settling for the first man that shows an interest in you. I have to admit this was an area I was worried about. I had gotten myself to the point that I was desperate to find a husband that I was afraid I might settle for the wrong man just so I could be married. I have to say I have a whole new (and much better) perspective on finding a mate. They finish with going through steps on how to evaluate serious suitors and how to compliment your man.
This was a great and quick read and I would recommend it to any single women who is at the point of considering marriage. It would also be a great book for a single ladies small group as there are questions at the end of each chapter that would make it an easy to discuss book and at $6.99 you can't beat the price!
This book was provided for review by Waterbrook Multnomah.
This was a great and quick read and I would recommend it to any single women who is at the point of considering marriage. It would also be a great book for a single ladies small group as there are questions at the end of each chapter that would make it an easy to discuss book and at $6.99 you can't beat the price!
This book was provided for review by Waterbrook Multnomah.
July 6, 2014
It's a dating book. While most might feel embarrassed showcasing to the world that they read this book, not in my case. It was surprisingly a good read. Again, this book is in a Christian perspective -- not for everybody. That title "What women don't know" got me apart from it was recommended by one of my churchmates.
To my churchmates, I highly recommend it. I would summarize it this way: don't be stupid in love because God has better plans, don't just settle. In Filipino: 'Wag matigas ang ulo! The introduction even has a title "Use your head girl!", which let's all be honest, ang dami naman na kasi talagang nagpapakatangang babae ngayon. We, girls/ladies/women, are emotional in more ways than one, but we all know that we can't just base love and romance on pure emotions. Ouch right? But it's true! It is also sort of a wake up call that regardless of the modern age we face, the old rules of love still apply. Since it's in a Christian perspective, there were references of the love stories in the Bible which were all enlightening.
Just by the first pages of this book already shouts: Don't settle. Set a standard.
I am rating this book 3 out of 5 stars. More on my blog:
http://merieisms.blogspot.com/2014/07...
To my churchmates, I highly recommend it. I would summarize it this way: don't be stupid in love because God has better plans, don't just settle. In Filipino: 'Wag matigas ang ulo! The introduction even has a title "Use your head girl!", which let's all be honest, ang dami naman na kasi talagang nagpapakatangang babae ngayon. We, girls/ladies/women, are emotional in more ways than one, but we all know that we can't just base love and romance on pure emotions. Ouch right? But it's true! It is also sort of a wake up call that regardless of the modern age we face, the old rules of love still apply. Since it's in a Christian perspective, there were references of the love stories in the Bible which were all enlightening.
Just by the first pages of this book already shouts: Don't settle. Set a standard.
I am rating this book 3 out of 5 stars. More on my blog:
http://merieisms.blogspot.com/2014/07...
July 1, 2023
A wonderful read! I will be purchasing more from this author
December 14, 2014
This is a must-have book. I bought this book because I am so broken and I need a reason to move on. I need an assurance that there is more to life than love, that there is someone for me, that whatever thing I need just to forget a heartbreak. And this book satisfied me.
I could read it over and over again. It is about knowing, accepting, valuing, respecting and loving yourself. There are many Bible verses in this book that will make you ponder and think, 'Yeah. Right.'
You should love yourself, girl. God will lead the right man for you. Just wait. ;)
I could read it over and over again. It is about knowing, accepting, valuing, respecting and loving yourself. There are many Bible verses in this book that will make you ponder and think, 'Yeah. Right.'
You should love yourself, girl. God will lead the right man for you. Just wait. ;)
November 24, 2020
This was such an insightful book. I think its so necessary to read especially when you are in the season of decision over a spouse. I like how practical the writer's were on matters concerning being available and relationships.
It's important to involve GOD every step of the way. HE should guide and lead because HE knows just what is right for us as HIS children. The hardest part is simply letting go of control and patiently waiting. These are things I definitely need to do as a person. This book challenged me.
It's important to involve GOD every step of the way. HE should guide and lead because HE knows just what is right for us as HIS children. The hardest part is simply letting go of control and patiently waiting. These are things I definitely need to do as a person. This book challenged me.
July 27, 2021
After just going through a second divorce this book really helped me to see what I need to be watching for as I date going forward. Overlooking men's words/actions that show their true character is where I messed up! I won't mess up anymore! I am going to be working to become the best version of myself and wait patiently as God brings someone fantastic into my life. I highly recommend this book. I think I will make it an annual read as a refresher!
October 24, 2020
Thought provoking and life changing!
I’ve read the book, it’s inspired me beyond measure. I’m going back over the questions and my answers to review the thoughts of my heart over and over!
I’ve read the book, it’s inspired me beyond measure. I’m going back over the questions and my answers to review the thoughts of my heart over and over!
July 28, 2021
Such a beautiful and a keeper read. To all the beautiful Godly ladies trying to fund the right man, this is a wonderful guide for you. A great re-read and you'll always get something insightful. Highly recommend and this will be my forever keep.
September 16, 2019
Excellent read. Definitely a must read.
May 7, 2010
I looked at other covers of this book and I thought that I had read this book a few years ago. Even so I went ahead and bought it because I wanted to read it again. It is a great book that encourages women to revert back to the old rules of love. Sometimes I think women today have evolved so much professionally that they forget to remain lady-like and feminine. The aggression exhibited by some women when dating is alarming. However, you can't beat a book like this that gives the male perspective on dating, relationships and marriage. I encourage all single women to check this one out.
September 7, 2013
What a great book, which empower women in their lives through Biblical view. It was absolutely incredible quotes and in-depth comments for better understanding of personal growth and inner strength for so many situation in life for every woman. Sometimes, we do not realize that everything starts with ourselves: self-esteem, strength, confidence, belief, etc. We cannot expect somebody come to our lives and "saving" us... If you are not happy with yourself, nobody can make you. The book is worth reading!
March 3, 2016
Overall, I found this book to be enlightening. It has some great points that you can kind of twist to fit your life. I even took things from it that were unrelated to the overall topic- which I always like in books. There were definitely parts that made me roll my eyes with a "don't patronize me" feeling but I can also appreciate that perhaps I'm not quite the ideal audience it was written for. I will say that Chapters 12 made me gawk ("the audacity!") and I'd skip it all together if you're still enjoying the book at that point. It's probably why it lost two stars for me.
January 12, 2011
Yet another embarrassing dating book I will admit to having read. I think it's reasonable and sane. It's very much from a Christian perspective, so it's not for everyone, though if the religious bent of the book and the occasional old-fashioned sounding perspective doesn't offend (e.g. they encourage women to develop "home skills"), a lot of it is fairly original to the genre, reasonable, and helpful.
June 11, 2013
Easy to read. I like Michelle McKinney Hammond's style. I've read her book before but this one was co-written with a man, so it made it more interesting and helpful. The unspoken rules of love is not truly unspoken but it's been lost in the current language of our times. When love was equated with respect and value, it's now some other things.
April 11, 2013
Learn more about what a genuine and real relationship is. It is not just emotion. This book is a must have for those who have experienced broken relationships and for those who are still looking for love in the wrong places!
July 6, 2016
A must read for every single woman. This book is very insightful and has a lot of practical teachings which will help woman know their worth and the power they possess when it comes to relationships. Thanks Michelle and Joel, I did not put this book once I got hold of it.
January 11, 2013
this was a great read! only took me about 3 days to read entirely!
April 25, 2013
AMAZINGGGGGG!!!
January 18, 2014
Love this book and recommend women and men to read it!
August 12, 2015
Awesome book that make me realize a lot of things in relationship. And this book also help me to restart me life all over again. I really thank God for it.
July 19, 2015
I recommend this book to all teens out there. This book will change your perception about love
January 28, 2017
Good read
Excellent read.
I would recommend it to anyone. It's a good read before getting married or engaged. I read while single.
Excellent read.
I would recommend it to anyone. It's a good read before getting married or engaged. I read while single.
August 6, 2015
awesome
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