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Now That I'm Married, Why Isn't Everything Perfect?: The 8 Essential Traits of Couples Who Thrive
Shows how to go beyond unrealistic marital expectations and discover the attitudes, techniques, and simple day-to-day pleasures that characterize an enduring partnership. 65,000 first printing. $75,000 ad/promo. Tour.
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240 pages, Hardcover
First published February 1, 1994
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August 17, 2011
I just could't finnish this book. I got so bored... because its all common sense. Maybe not everyone knows so its not a bad thing... but i have better things to be reading
October 22, 2020
“TV watching is for individual relaxing, like reading. It doesn’t bring us together. It separates us.”
“Men tend to be better at simply retreating into themselves for periods of time to relax and recharge their batteries... women often don’t take this kind of time as easily, but they need it just as much. Women may ‘burn out’ because they haven’t made sure that they get enough ‘down time,’ time when no one is making any demands on them and they can be completely alone.”
“A great marriage gives you a wonderful companion. It solves the problems of loneliness, of unpredictability in your sex life, of uncertainty about your relationship future. It provides you with security in love. But that’s all. Marriage will not provide you with high self-esteem if you don’t have it already. It will not give your life meaning and direction if you are still searching. It cannot relieve your existential isolation if you are a habitual loner. Your marriage partner cannot makes you happy all the time. In short, it is inappropriate to expect your marriage partner to provide you with anything that you should be providing for yourself.”
“Men tend to be better at simply retreating into themselves for periods of time to relax and recharge their batteries... women often don’t take this kind of time as easily, but they need it just as much. Women may ‘burn out’ because they haven’t made sure that they get enough ‘down time,’ time when no one is making any demands on them and they can be completely alone.”
“A great marriage gives you a wonderful companion. It solves the problems of loneliness, of unpredictability in your sex life, of uncertainty about your relationship future. It provides you with security in love. But that’s all. Marriage will not provide you with high self-esteem if you don’t have it already. It will not give your life meaning and direction if you are still searching. It cannot relieve your existential isolation if you are a habitual loner. Your marriage partner cannot makes you happy all the time. In short, it is inappropriate to expect your marriage partner to provide you with anything that you should be providing for yourself.”
December 28, 2022
Read for my contemporary families class. Useful for any type of relationship, not just a romantic relationship.
June 20, 2011
So, I read a lot of books in my quest to figure out what makes some marriages work while others don't. I wanted to find out the "secrets", I guess, and learn from the experts.
This is one of my three favorites. She worked with and interviewed many, many couples from different walks of life and found the common themes that run through their relationships. They are:
Desire, belief, and commitment
Goodwill
Clear values
Boundaries
Perspective
Relationship-enhancing communication
Intimacy
Pleasure
I thought it was interesting to read all the stories of couples who deal with these different issues.
This is one of my three favorites. She worked with and interviewed many, many couples from different walks of life and found the common themes that run through their relationships. They are:
Desire, belief, and commitment
Goodwill
Clear values
Boundaries
Perspective
Relationship-enhancing communication
Intimacy
Pleasure
I thought it was interesting to read all the stories of couples who deal with these different issues.
February 15, 2008
Hahaha,
What a great day to finish this book. Anyway, its a insightful read into relationships period. It also asks of set of questions important to understanding yourself.
I think if you strip away the author's male v female and married vs single paradigms, you have a book that touches deeply upon healthy interactions with the self and others.
What a great day to finish this book. Anyway, its a insightful read into relationships period. It also asks of set of questions important to understanding yourself.
I think if you strip away the author's male v female and married vs single paradigms, you have a book that touches deeply upon healthy interactions with the self and others.
January 26, 2008
Picked this up out of confusion. Not married...
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