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Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match
How would you like to have a wonderfully well-suited, kind, adoring half-orange who feels like a teammate, a partner in crime, a true other half? “Half-Orange” refers to the Spanish term mi media naranja , which describes one’s sweetheart, that perfect other half. What if you heard he or she would be coming along soon? Would you be relieved? Excited? Happy? Well those are the feelings that dating optimism can give you.
Rather than admonishing readers to make themselves more available, or turn dating into a full-time job, Spencer's program of dating optimism is a fun, results-oriented way to find a healthy happy relationship, based on brain science and psychology that can help you become a more positive dater. She'll guide you through sowing the orange seed of your ideal relationship and growing it to “fruit-ion.” In essence, by focusing positively about dating, you can actually change your brain, which changes everything from your body language to the way you perceive others and what you ultimately attract.
Meeting Your Half-Orange is the pep talk that puts finding true love back into your own hands. It will guide you toward becoming so focused on the relationship you want and so happy in your own skin, the right person will be naturally drawn straight to you. You’ve never read a dating guide like this before. But best of all, it will be the last one you’ll ever need.
Rather than admonishing readers to make themselves more available, or turn dating into a full-time job, Spencer's program of dating optimism is a fun, results-oriented way to find a healthy happy relationship, based on brain science and psychology that can help you become a more positive dater. She'll guide you through sowing the orange seed of your ideal relationship and growing it to “fruit-ion.” In essence, by focusing positively about dating, you can actually change your brain, which changes everything from your body language to the way you perceive others and what you ultimately attract.
Meeting Your Half-Orange is the pep talk that puts finding true love back into your own hands. It will guide you toward becoming so focused on the relationship you want and so happy in your own skin, the right person will be naturally drawn straight to you. You’ve never read a dating guide like this before. But best of all, it will be the last one you’ll ever need.
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First published December 22, 2009
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August 6, 2011
Just realized that one of my favorite books should totally be my own, right? I'm very proud of it. And if you're single and sick of tired of feeling sick and tired about it (as I was), maybe you'll love reading it as much as I loved writing it.
July 1, 2011
The law of attraction and the benefits of positive thought have been discussed and helped millions within the New Thought movement. This book takes the essence of the and translates it in a delightfully upbeat book about dating and positivity. It's also, in my seven years of collecting magazine, was the one book that served as my tipping point in creating a dream board. Nothing generates a grubby glow as much as cutting out photos and phrases that inspire you while drinking champagne and watching "True Blood."
After reading the cute inspiring stories (don't hate, appreciate), I felt better about my life, my single status and the framed dream board on my dresser that I wake up to, daily. Reading this book helped me re-remember that everyone I meet helps me know what I want - and don't want in my next relationship. Plus, every relationship teaches me something more about myself and the world around me.
So, why not be happy? Why not take yourself out on a date, regularly? Why not continue to do exciting and fun stuff as a single person? Why wait until you're paired up with someone to do something that you love? Why put so much pressure on every guy to be "The One" when they can just be the learning experience on the way? It's not the end result that matters most, as life happens after the wedding. It's the fun excitement of the journey that will make meeting your half orange even sweeter.
Favorite quote:
It's all in your perspective. Like Abraham-Hicks states, "Life is supposed to be fun!"
After reading the cute inspiring stories (don't hate, appreciate), I felt better about my life, my single status and the framed dream board on my dresser that I wake up to, daily. Reading this book helped me re-remember that everyone I meet helps me know what I want - and don't want in my next relationship. Plus, every relationship teaches me something more about myself and the world around me.
So, why not be happy? Why not take yourself out on a date, regularly? Why not continue to do exciting and fun stuff as a single person? Why wait until you're paired up with someone to do something that you love? Why put so much pressure on every guy to be "The One" when they can just be the learning experience on the way? It's not the end result that matters most, as life happens after the wedding. It's the fun excitement of the journey that will make meeting your half orange even sweeter.
Favorite quote:
"I don't know what he looks like. But, I'll know him when I see him."
It's all in your perspective. Like Abraham-Hicks states, "Life is supposed to be fun!"
February 10, 2017
LIFE CHANGING! This book helped me so much with my endless single slump. I learned to truly love myself, and sure enough... an amazing guy came along!
October 19, 2022
This is the best optimistic book about dating and relationships I've ever read so far ,it is so uplifting and positive and leave you feeling that Everything is possible ,that Finding true love is So possible,the message of the book is to be optimistic and believe that your half orange (your perfect match) is out there ,your job is not to figure out how to find him but just to want this amazing relationship with every fiber of your being and work on being optimistic about the possibility of it happening and as Amy emphasized you have every right to be picky especially it's a very long commitment and you deserve ,as the author puts it, "A big bad,wonderful love"
The author herself found her husband this way by using the approach of dating optimism which is all about believing that true love is possible ,visualize it and then take action ,it is about attracting the perfect match to you instead of pursuing him
This book is a Must-read for singles ,it just made me hopeful and optimistic more than ever!
Thanks Amy ,your positive and optimistic attitude is contagious and I really enjoyed reading such an awesome book that totally changed my perspective :)
The author herself found her husband this way by using the approach of dating optimism which is all about believing that true love is possible ,visualize it and then take action ,it is about attracting the perfect match to you instead of pursuing him
This book is a Must-read for singles ,it just made me hopeful and optimistic more than ever!
Thanks Amy ,your positive and optimistic attitude is contagious and I really enjoyed reading such an awesome book that totally changed my perspective :)
August 25, 2010
I loved this book. I loved Amy Spencer. I wanted her to be my new best friend. I read this book cover to cover at the bookstore, because I am typically skeptical of dating books and wanted to scan the content before I committed to anything less than upbeat on my bookshelf. As soon as I finished the last page I bought the book and have started it all over again! Her writing style is informative and well researched, highlighting studies from well known experts in the area of positive psychology. In that regard, while targeted towards a mainly single woman audience, benefits can be derived from those in a relationships as well. What I enjoyed the most was her message of hope and fun. I would recommend it to a single friend who needs to be reminded that she is fabulous and that it will all work out ...I know that my Half-Orange is on my way to me. I am almost bold enough to put a date to it :)
October 20, 2018
2 stars for reading experience, 4 stars for impact = 3 stars overall
Okay, so my baseline about dating is not optimism, which means I am both not the target audience for this book but should also absolutely be the target for this book. I say that because Spencer assumes a level of hopefulness in her readers that I didn't have going in. And that's most of what colored my reading experience/reaction to the book.
Reading experience (2 stars): I sometimes found the overly perky language super annoying--to the point where I had to remind myself several times that I was reading a BRIGHT ORANGE book about OPTIMISM. You know, just to get my head back right. There's also a weird bit about feminism in here that was slightly off-putting but also let me know who Spencer's real target audience is (white women of a certain social class). (The class thing is also evident by all her examples. "Make a change in your life" often translated to moving across the country or visiting foreign countries or some other ridiculously expensive thing.) Also, the bit about the "grubby glow" made me roll my eyes, but that's also because I probably need a book specifically about dating as an ugly (or unapproachable, if I'm being kind) woman.
However, I will note again that as a dating pessimist, reading/finishing this book was always likely going to be a chore for me because the level of buy-in I had was in the negative range, so people with more positive attitudes toward the topic probably won't resist as much, which means their mileage may, of course, vary.
Impact (4 stars): All of that said, I journaled a bunch while reading the book and then, after I finished, I wrote about five pages in my journal before going to sleep and then, in the morning, wrote several more. It also made me rethink some people and experiences in my life. So, yeah, it was annoying to read but this will probably go on my end of year list as a book that changed my life. 🤷🏾♀️
Okay, so my baseline about dating is not optimism, which means I am both not the target audience for this book but should also absolutely be the target for this book. I say that because Spencer assumes a level of hopefulness in her readers that I didn't have going in. And that's most of what colored my reading experience/reaction to the book.
Reading experience (2 stars): I sometimes found the overly perky language super annoying--to the point where I had to remind myself several times that I was reading a BRIGHT ORANGE book about OPTIMISM. You know, just to get my head back right. There's also a weird bit about feminism in here that was slightly off-putting but also let me know who Spencer's real target audience is (white women of a certain social class). (The class thing is also evident by all her examples. "Make a change in your life" often translated to moving across the country or visiting foreign countries or some other ridiculously expensive thing.) Also, the bit about the "grubby glow" made me roll my eyes, but that's also because I probably need a book specifically about dating as an ugly (or unapproachable, if I'm being kind) woman.
However, I will note again that as a dating pessimist, reading/finishing this book was always likely going to be a chore for me because the level of buy-in I had was in the negative range, so people with more positive attitudes toward the topic probably won't resist as much, which means their mileage may, of course, vary.
Impact (4 stars): All of that said, I journaled a bunch while reading the book and then, after I finished, I wrote about five pages in my journal before going to sleep and then, in the morning, wrote several more. It also made me rethink some people and experiences in my life. So, yeah, it was annoying to read but this will probably go on my end of year list as a book that changed my life. 🤷🏾♀️
October 6, 2015
I felt very mixed. On one hand I 100% believe in optimism, on the other I just don't believe in magic. I guess that is wrong. What I have issue with is presenting antidotal evidence and the occasional undermining of the readers intelligence. But this is a 200 page book so what can I expect. I am just someone that has a science degree that firmly believes in critical thinking and not blindly trusting antidotal evidence. Correlation does not equal causation. I continuously found myself saying that when I would read and example. It frustrated me.
March 24, 2010
I absolutely loved this book. I loved it so much, I started it over when I finished!
She has a way of writing that is very conversational. But even thought this is meant to find your "half-orange", to the core it's a book about optimism...which I greatly needed. I highly recommend this book!
She has a way of writing that is very conversational. But even thought this is meant to find your "half-orange", to the core it's a book about optimism...which I greatly needed. I highly recommend this book!
August 30, 2010
Optimism is the best medicine. Right behind laughter. And cheese.
February 20, 2023
My therapist bought me this book and I couldn’t be more thankful.
this was great insight, although t predictable and repetitive, I did enjoy reading it.
It took me a while because the type was so small and it was about a 232 page book.
this was great insight, although t predictable and repetitive, I did enjoy reading it.
It took me a while because the type was so small and it was about a 232 page book.
March 8, 2012
*Just want it*
Tired of finding all the lemons in the dating world? Then, you might want to pick this juicy book off the tree of dating self-help books. It's a refreshing pick, for sure, and it'll likely quench your thirst for a satisfying relationship--or in the very least, for an entertaining and uplifting read.
The approach in this book focuses on "dating optimism"--the belief that what you focus on and think about is ultimately what you attract. Changing your thoughts results in changes your brain, body, perceptions of the world, and in what you attract. So, in a nutshell, if you focus on being the best person you can be, you'll ultimately attract the best relationship you can have.
And how exactly will this magical relationship happen? Amy's quick answer to that one is: "It's not your job to figure out how to make it happen. It's your job to want it." But, in case you want a little more guidance, she offers this five-step approach to dating optimism:
1. Believe you can have it.
2. Admit you want it, to yourself and others.
3. Visualize, and imagine feeling yourself in the relationship you want.
4. Openly hope for it like you've never hoped for anything before.
5. Live your happy life.
The fun conversational style of this book is effective: it not only provides easy-to-drink-in inspiration and support for meeting your half-orange, but it also effectively delivers juicy bites from the emerging field of positive psychology.
You can even approach this book as the author recommends you approach your dates: be curious, learn from it, and allow it to help you pinpoint what you really want (and don't!) in a relationship. In the end, you'll be better off than you were in the beginning...whether or not you've found your half-orange (yet).
And, in the worse-case scenario, if you can't figure out how to be with the one you (want to) love, you'll be better able to love the one you're with: yourself. (How's that for dating optimism?)
Tired of finding all the lemons in the dating world? Then, you might want to pick this juicy book off the tree of dating self-help books. It's a refreshing pick, for sure, and it'll likely quench your thirst for a satisfying relationship--or in the very least, for an entertaining and uplifting read.
The approach in this book focuses on "dating optimism"--the belief that what you focus on and think about is ultimately what you attract. Changing your thoughts results in changes your brain, body, perceptions of the world, and in what you attract. So, in a nutshell, if you focus on being the best person you can be, you'll ultimately attract the best relationship you can have.
And how exactly will this magical relationship happen? Amy's quick answer to that one is: "It's not your job to figure out how to make it happen. It's your job to want it." But, in case you want a little more guidance, she offers this five-step approach to dating optimism:
1. Believe you can have it.
2. Admit you want it, to yourself and others.
3. Visualize, and imagine feeling yourself in the relationship you want.
4. Openly hope for it like you've never hoped for anything before.
5. Live your happy life.
The fun conversational style of this book is effective: it not only provides easy-to-drink-in inspiration and support for meeting your half-orange, but it also effectively delivers juicy bites from the emerging field of positive psychology.
You can even approach this book as the author recommends you approach your dates: be curious, learn from it, and allow it to help you pinpoint what you really want (and don't!) in a relationship. In the end, you'll be better off than you were in the beginning...whether or not you've found your half-orange (yet).
And, in the worse-case scenario, if you can't figure out how to be with the one you (want to) love, you'll be better able to love the one you're with: yourself. (How's that for dating optimism?)
March 3, 2012
Jennifer and I were talking about books that we were reading one day, when she mentioned that she was reading this one.
In true Andre fashion, I whipped out my phone and ordered the book before she had a chance to tell me what it was about. I hate watching movie trailers (The Dictator is one of the rare exceptions!) and I hate people telling me ANYTHING about articles or novels that I'm going to read, or movies that I'm going to watch.
"You're allowed to want what you want."
For a guy who doesn't really like romance novels or movies, it's hard to say that this was a good book. It was alright. The point, though, is that if something in your life sucks and you keep getting sucky results, then you really have to evaluate what about you is drawing those results to you (hello: metaphysics!).
If, after thinking about it, you decide that you have to have what you want, then you gotta ride with the consequences of your own desires. On the flip side, if you realize that you've been stupid, then you gotta make the necessary changes.
And then after all of that, you have to announce your decision to others, because people can't read your thoughts.
Is all.
In true Andre fashion, I whipped out my phone and ordered the book before she had a chance to tell me what it was about. I hate watching movie trailers (The Dictator is one of the rare exceptions!) and I hate people telling me ANYTHING about articles or novels that I'm going to read, or movies that I'm going to watch.
"You're allowed to want what you want."
For a guy who doesn't really like romance novels or movies, it's hard to say that this was a good book. It was alright. The point, though, is that if something in your life sucks and you keep getting sucky results, then you really have to evaluate what about you is drawing those results to you (hello: metaphysics!).
If, after thinking about it, you decide that you have to have what you want, then you gotta ride with the consequences of your own desires. On the flip side, if you realize that you've been stupid, then you gotta make the necessary changes.
And then after all of that, you have to announce your decision to others, because people can't read your thoughts.
Is all.
July 31, 2014
I love this book! I'm a pretty optimistic person in general, so it was refreshing to realize how many things I was already doing "right" and some others that I could put into practice to attract my perfect other half. Not only that, but there are so many great practices in the book that one could implement to attract nearly any great thing they desire in life! I'm continuing to "feed the seed " daily and while I can't say I ever expected to actually "feel" the orange buzz just by doing so, one time I did and it was pretty awesome to physically feel the optimism radiating from the inside out! I know, silly, right? But I'm serious! I do wish some readers that weren't part of the book would come back to goodreads to update when they find their half orange, so I'll do my best to remember to do just that when I do, because I will! Very soon! I just know it! ;) One thing I'd love for this book? A workbook or an index or an appendix to go along with it! So many great assignments I'd love to access more easily when need be!
May 9, 2014
This is the best dating book I've read. Most dating books are lists of Do's and Don'ts, but in Meeting Your Half Orange there are no such regulations. Instead, Amy Spencer uses a combination of New Age concepts (the law of attraction, creative visualization) and positive psychology to help you find your other half. There are a number of benefits to adopting these approaches and tossing out the tired The Rules: 1. your perfect match will recognize you as "the one" because you are YOU, and not because you are some expert player of the dating game, and 2. thinking about what you do want puts you in a far better head space than anxiety and cynicism.
For single people, this book is a fresh and freeing approach.
For single people, this book is a fresh and freeing approach.
August 16, 2019
Rating 5 for the book's readability, entertainment, and inspiration. True to its claims, it is the only dating book you'll need; not for dating tips but living out your authentic best positive life. When you're feeling low and starting to doubt yourself, this book is like a bestfriend and a cheerleader. The timing of getting the book outnof the shelf cannot be more perfect, it has helped me to cope, to know and be true to myself and my aspirations, and be optimistic about my big bad wonderful love. A one-liner from the book that never fails to bring out orange buzz is "My half-orange is out there, and I'm excited to meet him". Hope this brings a smile to your face too.
December 28, 2020
It took a year for me to finish this book. It is actually an easy one to read but try to get something out of it surely took some time. The only "downfall" mainly from my side is that I am an Asian so some of the perspectives in the book would suit Caucasian's life more but yeah limitation is from your head and not sometimes form the reality so what the hell I gonna enjoy my life as much as I can. And here is my taken note from the book:
- Firstly Amy used the term half - orange a lot on her book - it would refer to the idea partner, the person you re meant to share your life with, who adores you so much and so on. And she wants everyone who reads the book to believed that the chance to meet a person like that is possible in our life. Our job is never loosing our hope to meet the person. She recommend to use the optimistic magnetism: Believe you can have it/ Admit you want it to yourself and others/ visualize and imagine feeling yourself in the relationship you want/ openly hope for it like you re never hoped for anything before/ and the most important thing is live happy life and the universe will have your own plan for you.
- She wants us to stop looking desperately for that person but focus on yourself and become the happy person now so you can enjoy the relationship later on. You want a partner to enhance your life not to complete you. You are better be your complete self first and I totally agree with her.
- Start to look at what kind of relationship you want, instead of what kind of man you want. Open about type! Also look at how you would be with your partner, think about what you would offer your partner is another way of pinpointing the relationship you want. More important that what you think you want might be different than what you need. I really like one think that she highlighted in the book: You don't want to be rescued. Rescue yourself!
- Smile with your whole heart, whole liver and the world will smile back to you :) Also practice: Positive visualization: practice of creating an image in your mind is eye of a positive result you would like to see happen, then visually walking yourself straight toward. Amy the writer will give us a homework here: picture yourself in 10 years - where, what you do, what you will do and focus on your desire everyday. You can also make a dream board where you cut out images that represent experiences you want to have in the future with the loved one (sounds like an art therapy activity for me but surely it works!).
- Go to the place where you love to be there, do what you want to do for yourself not because of the man or anyone else. Become a lovable woman that even yourself can feel in love with your image. Be your authentic and satisfied self for yourself first! BECOME THE WOMAN YOU WANT TO BECOME IN YOUR DREAM RELATIONSHIP: happy, loving, adventurous, smart, confident - the woman you know you are!
- Look at couple in positive way - that you know that love appears, good man and good woman still exist!
- Amy gave us some scenario so you can plant the seeds of love in your mind like think about the end-of-day situation think about what you and your loved one do after work everyday. Another scenario is the plan - vacation image: where, when, what you do with your other one when you are in vacation. The birthday party/ Valentine day in 5 years and so on.
- Your bumpy path through bad dates and relationships is experience gained. The tough stuff makes us stronger and wiser and gives us empathy and understanding for a partnership, as well as the ability to appreciate the love you get. Believe on YNK speech: YOU NEVER KNOW what surprises lie around the corner for you.
- Remember you live by yourself but you are not alone.
- Pessimistic explanations for setbacks have distinctive qualities about them: pervasive, permanent, personal: so get those words out of your mind and your vocabulary: always, never, ever...
- Most important is believe in the law of attraction. You are positive and you would extra the good vibes and life and vice versa.
- Look at dating like the match game concentration: look at it from a temporary, specific, impersonal point of view.
- Women also tend to ruminate more about stressful or depressing situation not like men seems to distract themselves. At the end when you keep going on about negative thoughts it would stick around you and cant not disappear.
- Don't wait to think about your future love until you 've perfected yourself. The right one should love yourself for your good and bad too.
- Change your life - small/ big. If you are not happy about something why don't make a plan to make it better, excited on your own way. Look into possibilities of your future and relax into your life right now!
- Don't quit when you are facing problem but finding a solution first - you really don't want to be a serial quitter in your life.
- Some tips for your date: Commit to complementing your date on 3 things! Ask interesting questions like best trip?/ scarcest, weirdest thing you have done?... Buy a lottery ticker together and talk about what you would buy if you win it! Take your dates to place you really want to go but cant before so at least you still enjoy the experience if you seem not like a good fit for the other person! The worse the date the funnier story would be so date and learn and enjoy the ride!
At the end, we all have walls. No one wants to be hurt or disappointed. No one wants to say: "I believe it will happen for me! and then be left out there alone, unwanted. You are not so unlovable and broken that no one will want you. Your half is going to love you for exactly who you are.
- Firstly Amy used the term half - orange a lot on her book - it would refer to the idea partner, the person you re meant to share your life with, who adores you so much and so on. And she wants everyone who reads the book to believed that the chance to meet a person like that is possible in our life. Our job is never loosing our hope to meet the person. She recommend to use the optimistic magnetism: Believe you can have it/ Admit you want it to yourself and others/ visualize and imagine feeling yourself in the relationship you want/ openly hope for it like you re never hoped for anything before/ and the most important thing is live happy life and the universe will have your own plan for you.
- She wants us to stop looking desperately for that person but focus on yourself and become the happy person now so you can enjoy the relationship later on. You want a partner to enhance your life not to complete you. You are better be your complete self first and I totally agree with her.
- Start to look at what kind of relationship you want, instead of what kind of man you want. Open about type! Also look at how you would be with your partner, think about what you would offer your partner is another way of pinpointing the relationship you want. More important that what you think you want might be different than what you need. I really like one think that she highlighted in the book: You don't want to be rescued. Rescue yourself!
- Smile with your whole heart, whole liver and the world will smile back to you :) Also practice: Positive visualization: practice of creating an image in your mind is eye of a positive result you would like to see happen, then visually walking yourself straight toward. Amy the writer will give us a homework here: picture yourself in 10 years - where, what you do, what you will do and focus on your desire everyday. You can also make a dream board where you cut out images that represent experiences you want to have in the future with the loved one (sounds like an art therapy activity for me but surely it works!).
- Go to the place where you love to be there, do what you want to do for yourself not because of the man or anyone else. Become a lovable woman that even yourself can feel in love with your image. Be your authentic and satisfied self for yourself first! BECOME THE WOMAN YOU WANT TO BECOME IN YOUR DREAM RELATIONSHIP: happy, loving, adventurous, smart, confident - the woman you know you are!
- Look at couple in positive way - that you know that love appears, good man and good woman still exist!
- Amy gave us some scenario so you can plant the seeds of love in your mind like think about the end-of-day situation think about what you and your loved one do after work everyday. Another scenario is the plan - vacation image: where, when, what you do with your other one when you are in vacation. The birthday party/ Valentine day in 5 years and so on.
- Your bumpy path through bad dates and relationships is experience gained. The tough stuff makes us stronger and wiser and gives us empathy and understanding for a partnership, as well as the ability to appreciate the love you get. Believe on YNK speech: YOU NEVER KNOW what surprises lie around the corner for you.
- Remember you live by yourself but you are not alone.
- Pessimistic explanations for setbacks have distinctive qualities about them: pervasive, permanent, personal: so get those words out of your mind and your vocabulary: always, never, ever...
- Most important is believe in the law of attraction. You are positive and you would extra the good vibes and life and vice versa.
- Look at dating like the match game concentration: look at it from a temporary, specific, impersonal point of view.
- Women also tend to ruminate more about stressful or depressing situation not like men seems to distract themselves. At the end when you keep going on about negative thoughts it would stick around you and cant not disappear.
- Don't wait to think about your future love until you 've perfected yourself. The right one should love yourself for your good and bad too.
- Change your life - small/ big. If you are not happy about something why don't make a plan to make it better, excited on your own way. Look into possibilities of your future and relax into your life right now!
- Don't quit when you are facing problem but finding a solution first - you really don't want to be a serial quitter in your life.
- Some tips for your date: Commit to complementing your date on 3 things! Ask interesting questions like best trip?/ scarcest, weirdest thing you have done?... Buy a lottery ticker together and talk about what you would buy if you win it! Take your dates to place you really want to go but cant before so at least you still enjoy the experience if you seem not like a good fit for the other person! The worse the date the funnier story would be so date and learn and enjoy the ride!
At the end, we all have walls. No one wants to be hurt or disappointed. No one wants to say: "I believe it will happen for me! and then be left out there alone, unwanted. You are not so unlovable and broken that no one will want you. Your half is going to love you for exactly who you are.
October 16, 2010
This is a great "self-help" book for all the single ladies that are burnt out a little from the whole dating/being single thing. This is all about hope and restoring some common sense to your psyche, i own this book and i'm glad that i do because this is a book i want to lend to all my single girlfriends, my sister, anyone !! i highly recommend this book, and i have read my fair share of the kind. Make sure you get through the first half, because the second half of the book is much better. My girlfriends and i even planned a night to make our dream boards together !!
May 16, 2011
I have never seen such a positive, optimistic outlook for a self-help book before! This book is all about how to put a positive, optimistic outlook to work for you in your dating life, but it goes where no one else has gone before - you don't have to force yourself into conversations you don't want, or situations just because there are members of the opposite sex there. The overall message can also apply to other areas of your life as well! In the middle of reading the book I started applying the principles to finding a job, and that worked!!! Highly recommend!
August 26, 2010
This is a dating book and The Secret-based book that doesn't totally suck.
If you know me, you know that this is a glowing endorsement.
Will I use any of its bizarre advice (more about breathing and smiling and imagining and neural pathways than, say, flirting)? Heck no. But it's a pleasant read and--yes--makes one feel better. I will send this to friends as a pick-one-up gift book.
If you know me, you know that this is a glowing endorsement.
Will I use any of its bizarre advice (more about breathing and smiling and imagining and neural pathways than, say, flirting)? Heck no. But it's a pleasant read and--yes--makes one feel better. I will send this to friends as a pick-one-up gift book.
September 16, 2011
This is a truthfully optimistic dating and relationship book that even serious urban women who are much too sophisticated to read dating and relationship books can learn from. Yes, Amy is my friend, but this book came out a long time ago, so I'm hardly doing her any good now! All I can say is, this book turns up on some very unexpected coffee tables in my life and its appearance always precedes some very interesting conversations about life, love and the pursuit of happiness. Brava, Amy.
January 22, 2018
I usually wouldn't admit to reading a dating self-help book on a public forum but I suppose part of dating optimism is admitting that I am doing something about improving my love life...haha. Anyway, this book was somewhat cheesy but it was cheesy in an optimistic sort of way which I like as I'm cheesy in an optimistic sort of way. Looking forward to meeting my half orange who I'm pretty sure will appear very soon! ;)
December 18, 2015
I absolutely love this book. I've read bits and pieces of it over the last few years as I've delved into the dating world.
I truly believe Amy's theory of optimism and putting into the universe what you want back. Honestly, I wish I was friends with her in real life! What a great friend to have, always giving you a pep talk and telling you that you're awesome and beautiful and deserve a big, amazing love.
5 stars!
I truly believe Amy's theory of optimism and putting into the universe what you want back. Honestly, I wish I was friends with her in real life! What a great friend to have, always giving you a pep talk and telling you that you're awesome and beautiful and deserve a big, amazing love.
5 stars!
December 22, 2017
I've read a few dating books out there, but this one I felt like she was talking right to me. Like she knew what I was thinking and feeling, and translated that to her book.
It was great to read about a different way of thinking about dating, and how by thinking positively about your dating life and about yourself, you can help to bring that special 'half orange' to you.
It was great to read about a different way of thinking about dating, and how by thinking positively about your dating life and about yourself, you can help to bring that special 'half orange' to you.
July 6, 2016
Just the thing to give single ladies hope for the future. I liked some of the points, like the one that says no date is ever a waste of time. When Amy says that we're all navigating "Planet Single", it helped shift my mindset from "me vs. the asshole men who like to play games" to "we're all in this together."
November 18, 2016
This book is very anecdotal, but it presents an interesting hypothesis. Basically, when put your thoughts and energy into the things you really want out of life, you begin making small behavioral changes to orient yourself to those things you want and in effect make them happen organically. Worth trying!
March 24, 2010
Something about the examples in this book and her writing style were really motivating for me. The best book on dating advice I've ever read.
A couple excerpts on my blog: http://dogearedandunderlined.blogspot...
A couple excerpts on my blog: http://dogearedandunderlined.blogspot...
February 27, 2012
A little too spiritual - this reminded me of what I've heard "The Secret" is like (haven't read it, so I can't directly compare). However, there were some good hopeful tips in here - so while I won't follow all of it, it did give me a little bit more confidence.
December 30, 2012
Loved this book. It is a different look at how to become more open to a life partner including getting clear on what you want, and focusing on how you want to feel in your relationship. It also talks about not living your life while waiting to meet this other half.
December 12, 2013
Great book! It provides hope to single women like me, who don't want to settle and are waiting for our true companions to come into our lives. It also provides an optimistic and healthy approach to believing and waiting for "the one". Every single woman should read this book!
March 15, 2010
Great lessons in both life and finding love...in everything!
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