Re To Love Again - CM continues her Bennett family saga and this one, while it mainly gets average ratings, is truly a ground breaking HP and I put it on the required HP reading list. Not because it is a trainwreck extraordinaire or because there is an OTT situation. In terms of romance this one is pretty straight forward with a May/December trope and the big misunderstanding. In fact this big misunderstanding in TLA has been cause for a lot of criticism. I beg to differ on that statement because when this book was written 30 years ago, it was one of the only books outside of the 'Women's fiction' category that examined the reality of remarriage and blended families.
I am not sure this book gets enough credit for that trope bending plot with modern HP voyagers. But think about it, after the sky rocketing rate of divorce in the 1970's people started moving on in new relationships and often those new relationships included building a life with the offspring of the previous marriage.
Up until now, divorce and kids and parenting had never been a big plot point in HPlandia, H's may have been married before or were still married, but it was always to evil or dead women and any interaction between the h and the former wife was bound to be painful and derogatory. Children were little more than plot moppets there to display how much better the h was in caring for them than anyone else, including the children's actual mother. This one starts out no different. But as the novel progresses and the h and H finally marry and have to contemplate the path of their lives with two stepchildren, new factors take over and the h has to really grow up in a way that isn't usually seen in HPlandia h's.
When the book opens the 22yr old h is bewailing the fact that the h from One Chance at Love has been busy matchmaking and set the h up on a series of dates with eligible older men while the h was on a weekend visit to her best friend, now aunt, and her uncle. She is complaining to the H, who is her next door neighbor and with whom she has been in love with since she moved in right after the sudden death of her archaeologist parents and he comforted her. The H is 15 years older than the h, but she doesn't let that deter her as her best friend married her uncle and there is 14 years between them. (Which was an interesting way of revealing the age difference we did not get in the first book, it was mentioned the H was older, but not how much.)
The H next door has problems of his own of course, and these center around the difficulties between him and his now divorced wife and her manipulation of their children in the relationship between them. The ex wife doesn't openly berate the H as their father, but she does like to use them to punish the H when he doesn't do as she wishes or when she feels she is being unfairly denied material luxuries. The ex is presented as a very mercenary and grasping sort of woman, but CM does point out that she is a good mother, avaristic tendencies aside. The h and H are very close friends and always popping round each other's flat, mainly cause the h is an actress and the H doesn't mind looking after her pets when she has to be places. The h has two cats and a dog and fortunately they all seem to be quite happy in the flat they live in and the H's kids like them.
The h and the ex wife DO NOT get along at all. The ex-wife goes out of her way to be catty and rude and the h is a bit intimidated by how obvious the ex wife can be. There are several instances when the ex wife puts the h down for her unrequited love for the H and the ex even goes so far as to intimate that she and the H are bonging like bonkers when she has the opportunity. The h, who is dealing with a succession of dates that don't seem to be working out for her very well and has to confide in the H how much she isn't feeling the lurve, is getting more and more despondent at the thought of the H with his ex. Until the H goes out of his way in his 'helping the h learn to kiss' lessons and the h thinks he may actually be attracted to her in a non-older brother kinda way.
We also get to meet future H's in the Bennett saga and while it is clear that they will only be friends with this h and her family, we get some good background on them. There is a lot of angst for the h while she is agonizing over her unrequited lurve for the H, until she finds out that the ex-wife is remarrying to another man and the light dawns for the h that the ex-wife was so mean and nasty because she is jealous. In her guise as friend to the H, she spends a lot of time with the H and his children and there are some highly entertaining moments when the h gets her own back over the ex wife. Eventually the H can't contain his punishing roofie kisses passion after seeing the h out with a sequence of men that are his age and the gates of lurve are broken in a transcendent encounter, the outcome being the H proposes and the h enthusiastically says yes.
The h agrees because she is whole-heartedly in love with the H and she tells him that definitively. The H declares that he needs her, but the h is thinking that he needs her as a wife to sue for custody of his kids. The H is not taking the news of a new step-father well at all and it is obviously wearing on him.
The h and H marry and at the wedding we get more insight into the ex wife and what went wrong for the first marriage from her POV. It seems that when the ex and the H married, she had a very high powered career as a fashion editor and the H made her give it up. Then he went off a lot to pursue his mega millions success and it did not seem that he really needed his wife. She had children and those children pretty much became her whole life. She was bitter and resentful of the H and his determination that she do as he dictated and live in the proscribed path he determined, so it is a double blow to the ex when the H announces that he is quite happy to have the h pursuing her acting career, he has no intention of making the same mistakes as he did the first time around.
The ex wife does seem to be really happy with her new love, tho he is short and chubby and nothing like the H, she even lets the kids stay for a month with the H and h while she is off on honeymoon. The h does her best to adapt to the role of stepmum, and it seems to come off fairly well. The h is really concerned about what is going to happen when the H announces he wants full time custody, especially as she suspects she is now preggers herself and thinks that the H doesn't really want anymore kids when he has two of his own to get sorted.
Things come to a head when they are returning the children to the ex wife and her new husband and the ex wife apologizes for the nastiness of the past and seems to genuinely want to create the best environment for the children between the four of them. The h finds herself in deep empathy with the ex as she realizes that taking a child away from a mother who is genuinely devoted to them may not be the best thing and that after the ex lost her career and was put on the back burner by the H while he built his business, her children really were the only thing she had to live for.
The h decides that she has to talk to the H and so in the car on the way back, she asks him when he intends to file for custody. The H has a silent ranty moment and stops the car and walks off in the middle of the street. The h goes home, now really perturbed and waits in agony with the pets milling about for the H to come back a lambaste her. The H returns and apologizes that he has never mentioned that he loved her madly and that was why he married her.
He saw her with all those guys his age, (thus proving the h from the first book a brilliant matchmaker,) and decided the only older guy the h should be boudoir bouncing with was him and he set out to get her. But her age did worry him, he knew he was wrong in confining his wife in his first marriage and he did not want to be that guy again. The H was doing his best to let the h have a lot of life experience and freedom, but in the end he couldn't help himself in his overriding love for the h.
Also, he came to terms with the remarriage and step father in his kids life. The H has no intention of contesting custody, mainly cause he probably wouldn't get it but also because the ex wife is really devoted to her kids even when she behaves badly with adults and since the remarriage, even that behavior has gone by the wayside. Bitterness does tend to make people behave in the worst of ways.
This gives the h hope that the H isn't as adverse to more children as she previously thought, it seems that he wanted to delay kids more for her sake and her career rather than he did not want any or had worries about how his kids would adapt. The h announces her new arrival and the H is delighted, he is also sure that his kids will be happy too, cause they figured you always got babies right after you got married. The story ends in a nice little epilogue with the H and h blissfully in love, a mention of the next H in the series and a new baby girl and the older children all happy at Christmas with the ex wife and her hubby coming to partake in the celebration for a big sweet HP HEA.
So in terms of the romance, this book is pretty average but it is a nice romance and the characters aren't too dramatic, except for the ex at the beginning. Where this one really shines is in the evolution of the ex wife from stereotypical HP evil OW to a working partner in blended families and shared responsibilities for raising children. It is also very notable that the H acknowledges that the typical HP Alpha H kinda way in a marriage may not be the most successful outcome to a lasting relationship. The H for all his Alpha manly HP ways, actually mellows his approach in his desire to have a solid and loving marriage with a fulfilled and loving partner.
We are so used to blended families in this day and age, that CM does seem a little naive and kumbaya in her presentation of the subject, but this really is the very first look at a what a working relationship between former partners and new spouses with children involved should be like in HPlandia. More importantly, it a subject that really hasn't been explored in meaningful depth before this and that makes this book well worth a read and also gets it a place on the must read list for anyone who like to read about the evolution of the HP line as well as getting a believable HEA.