How to Feel Confident Simple Tools for Instant Confidence by Lowndes, Leil ( Author ) ON Apr-02-2009, Paperback

by Leil Lowndes

Leil Lowdnes's empowering book will give you the confidence to face any social situation with ease. Lowdnes give you the confidence to shine in the most gruelling of social situations, whether it's mingling at parties, impressing at interviews or going on a hot date.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, Communication, Social Science, Personal Development

Paperback

First published April 1, 2009

About the author

Leil Lowndes is an author and internationally recognized communications expert who specializes in subconscious interactions. She has conducted hundreds of seminars in the US and around the world for major corporations, associations, and the general public, and frequently appears as a guest expert on national television shows and major news networks. She has authored ten bestselling books on communications — most recently, How to Talk to Anyone at Work: 72 Little Tricks for Big Success Communicating on the Job — and is published in over 26 foreign languages. She lives in New York City.

Reviews

[Sean Goh · Rating 2 out of 5]

Classic self-help, with the author, previously crippled by (insert requisite social *disorder*), overcomes it, and is now sharing her prescription with the world at large for others to benefit.

Having said that, this book is very readable, though many of the tips shared are nothing new for readers of Susan Cain.
Some reminders from this book:

Stop looking for rejection. Most of the time, it isn't there.
Live in the first-person.

Know yourself to be a more interesting person.

Make a good first impression, then you can relax a bit.

It's hard to differentiate a snob and a shy.

It's not important you do it now. It is important that you envision it and someday do it.

Temporary anonymity is good training for social situations. (Travelling alone, masquerades)

We imitate our friends. Choose wisely based on the situation. It goes both ways too, people treat you the way you want to be treated.

Nobody expects you to perform, most of the time in social situations.

There are no guarantees in love, so don't be afraid to take risks (so easy to say, but hard to do.

Acting does wonders for confidence. (Improv time!)

[Sha ... · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really liked the book and enjoyed reading it.. It's so useful and easy to follow. It has lots of tips and some shared stories of shys. I loved her book and I'll definitly read more from her works.

[Arrica Lee · Rating 4 out of 5]

I find this book very much similar to Lowndes' previous book: How to Talk to Anyone although the format was different...in a way. In this book, there are a lot of snippets from letters/emails she received from the shys and introverts that I find it enjoyable to read. I understand how they feel as I am more or less a shy person as well. I find the tips very easy to follow. I finished this book in less than 3 days because I just can't put it down!

[mion · Rating 2 out of 5]

socially avoidant personality
stop avoiding, you get high from it, making it harder to resist next time.
gradual exposure: do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain
shy ppl imagine sigs of disapproval or rejection and it is prone to negative distortion/bias/their own imagination. they also recall events more negative than they really are.

[Johan · Rating 3 out of 5]

A nice read with confidence hacks - But how does it stack up to Leil Lowndes other works?

The book 'How to Feel Confident' follows a structure similar to Lowndes' previous works, such as 'How to Talk to Anyone' and 'How to Talk to Anyone at Work.' It offers bite-sized tips aimed at challenging the reader's mindset and helping them break free from old habits to elevate themselves.

While perusing the book, I couldn't help but notice that many of the tips seemed rather obvious and not thoroughly thought out. Additionally, certain scenarios, like 'the letters' contributed by random individuals, gave the impression that they were crafted by the author herself, resembling fiction. That being said, this book could be a valuable resource for individuals struggling with confidence issues who need a solid foundation.

However, for those more experienced within the field of personal development, I would highly recommend exploring her other works. Leil Lowndes is an excellent author, and her structured approach makes her books perfect evening read.

[Phubet Chitapanya · Rating 3 out of 5]

หนังสือชอบเล่าด้วยวิธีการยกเคสตัวอย่าง แล้วก็มีคนอื่นพูดว่า รู้สึกแย่แค่ไหนที ตอนนั้นตัดสินใจไม่ทำแบบนี้ มัวแต่กลัว .... จริงๆ แรกก็สนุกดี แต่หลังๆ เริ่มเดาทางการนำเสนอได้ คิดว่าค่อนข้างน่าเบื่อช่วงหลังๆ

[Hugh Wilson · Rating 2 out of 5]

The book is well enough written, and contains lots of good advice. The title though, is misleading. Not everyone who wants to be more confident suffers from crippling shyness, and that us what the book is entirely about. The title needs to reflect the content of the book and the target audience.

[Abdulrahman Mohammed · Rating 3 out of 5]

In my opinion, the writer's style is not a litlle Incomprehensible.. sometimes i got confused who was talking in conversational contexts.. but overall, it is a good book :)

[Charles Chettiar · Rating 4 out of 5]

nice tips

[Tebessum Tiffany · Rating 2 out of 5]

I find this book really helpful

[Manasviniranganathan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Leil's books are so helpful

[Shibi N · Rating 4 out of 5]

Leil, has some really good confidence booster which is very help full for all the shy's.

[Maryam Alkhalifa · Rating 5 out of 5]

I’ve never been that inspired by a book before. Although I think not many people will benefit from it,it was very useful for me. I just wish I’d known this book a long time ago.

[Noninuna · Rating 4 out of 5]

I start reading it last Nov but get caught in busy situation only get the chance today.
For Shys, the more you read the book the more you're agreeing with the author. She kinda understand Shys since she was a Shys too..
Overall ot is a good self improve book. Lots of tips & shared experience to Shys & for Sures to know more about Shys..
Really recommend it for those who is shy..

[Syafrizal Abu Mansor · Rating 5 out of 5]

A really great book about overcoming shyness and build your confidence around your surroundings. Simple exercises that can be done in our daily activities to Stamping Out Shyness. That's what Leil Lowndes pointed out in this books. A lot of examples reminds me of what happens and I have done in the past. Now I can build my confidence with simple methods by Leil.

[M · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lots and lots of tips. It will take quite a while to run and practice with the number of exercises that have been mentioned in the book.
Sure, some of them are mundane but it is precisely those things we fail to practice. These book acts as an apt reminder that those still matter.

[Adeel Hasan · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not a bad book, but the title is misleading. This is a book that is meant for extremely shy people. If you you're not shy or if you have made reasonable progress with your shyness, then this book does not add value - Better skip on it and read something else instead.

[Suyi Kissxesyou · Rating 5 out of 5]

good for finding what type of shy you are in this book.

[Orjowan Suliman · Rating 5 out of 5]

it's a very good book for people who r shys
very useful and easy
I LIKE THIS BOOK :)

[Nik Aisyah Najwa · Rating 5 out of 5]

A book from a shyness ‘survivor’ to the shys out there. A very practical book and as a shy person myself, I can relate to most of the example of social situations told in the book. It helps you to figure out the source of your shyness and 66 steps on how to stamp out of it. Love this book!