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To My Sisters: How to Unlock the Life-Changing Power of Female Friendship
Everyone needs someone to love, support and cherish them unconditionally. Except, it doesn't always take the form of a spouse or a parent. What if the relationship you craved was a good ol' sister?
From the hosts of the hit podcast, To My Sisters, comes this essential guide to sisterhood.
Renee Kapuku and Courtney Daniella Boateng have one goal - to see women win. With their own friendship spanning a decade, their mission to reinvigorate sisterhood and redefine womanhood has turned into a global community of women helping each other to reclaim their power.
Join these 'online big sisters' as they draw from their intimate experiences to teach, guide and show you how to embrace the power of friendship and community in an authentic way. Packed with practical advice, reflective activities and wise words, To My Sisters will teach you how to find, build and nourish lifelong friendships.
Let's glow and grow together.
From the hosts of the hit podcast, To My Sisters, comes this essential guide to sisterhood.
Renee Kapuku and Courtney Daniella Boateng have one goal - to see women win. With their own friendship spanning a decade, their mission to reinvigorate sisterhood and redefine womanhood has turned into a global community of women helping each other to reclaim their power.
Join these 'online big sisters' as they draw from their intimate experiences to teach, guide and show you how to embrace the power of friendship and community in an authentic way. Packed with practical advice, reflective activities and wise words, To My Sisters will teach you how to find, build and nourish lifelong friendships.
Let's glow and grow together.
240 pages, Hardcover
Published September 19, 2023
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July 17, 2025
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Rating: 4 stars
Cover: 🌟🌟🌟🌟
I absolutely adore the soft pastels and warm tones of this cover! These, together with the cute illustration, beautifully reflect the atmosphere and content of the book.
Writing: 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
With their signature maturity and warmth, Courtney and Renee address readers through a conversational writing style that is easy to understand and follow. Their occasional stories are vividly recounted with descriptions that bring each experience and the individuals in them to life.
"you deserve good things and good people in your life."
Content: 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
A solid foundation is laid with explanations for key concepts before the book delves into its message of building and maintaining lifelong friendships. Nicely blended into the chapters are various personal stories, action points and reflections which keep the book engaging and interactive. I also enjoyed the dilemmas, after show and blooper segments in the audiobook, as these were when the authors' personalities shone through.
Narration: 🌟🌟🌟🌟
The alternating narration by the authors Courtney Daniella Boateng and Renee Kapuku was lovely! Their voices were engaging and well-paced, despite being somewhat inexpressive due to the informative content.
Here are a few more quotes I liked:
• "Choose to believe that you are worth love, respect and effort."
• "We cannot be attracted to vulnerability in others and yet be repulsed by our own."
• "failure is normal but it’s not final."
• "Burdens are made to be shared and there is no shame in sharing."
• "How else will we measure if and how we are truly cared about if we do not set and express our wants?"
To sum up, 'To My Sisters' is an easy yet thorough read on the benefits of sisterhood and how to have them. This complex topic is handled with so much warmth and positivity I was encouraged to take immediate actions to improve my friendships!
Rating: 4 stars
Cover: 🌟🌟🌟🌟
I absolutely adore the soft pastels and warm tones of this cover! These, together with the cute illustration, beautifully reflect the atmosphere and content of the book.
Writing: 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
With their signature maturity and warmth, Courtney and Renee address readers through a conversational writing style that is easy to understand and follow. Their occasional stories are vividly recounted with descriptions that bring each experience and the individuals in them to life.
"you deserve good things and good people in your life."
Content: 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
A solid foundation is laid with explanations for key concepts before the book delves into its message of building and maintaining lifelong friendships. Nicely blended into the chapters are various personal stories, action points and reflections which keep the book engaging and interactive. I also enjoyed the dilemmas, after show and blooper segments in the audiobook, as these were when the authors' personalities shone through.
Narration: 🌟🌟🌟🌟
The alternating narration by the authors Courtney Daniella Boateng and Renee Kapuku was lovely! Their voices were engaging and well-paced, despite being somewhat inexpressive due to the informative content.
Here are a few more quotes I liked:
• "Choose to believe that you are worth love, respect and effort."
• "We cannot be attracted to vulnerability in others and yet be repulsed by our own."
• "failure is normal but it’s not final."
• "Burdens are made to be shared and there is no shame in sharing."
• "How else will we measure if and how we are truly cared about if we do not set and express our wants?"
To sum up, 'To My Sisters' is an easy yet thorough read on the benefits of sisterhood and how to have them. This complex topic is handled with so much warmth and positivity I was encouraged to take immediate actions to improve my friendships!
March 10, 2023
Wonderful book from the hosts of the hit podcast To My Sisters. Honestly I was close to tears reading this book, it’s so beautiful, honest and extremely practical!!! I defo will be coming back to complete all the exercises with my friends but I just wanted to finish it before the live show. I absolutely loved the book and it just shows the importance of friendship and how we all have work to do!
March 31, 2025
"We cannot be attracted to vulnerability in others and yet be repulsed by our own."
August 21, 2023
I was excited to read this book, but unfortunately, it fell short of my expectations.
Although it presents itself as a guide for building strong adult female friendships, the book's main focus is on enhancing and maximising the friendships we already have, not cultivating new ones from scratch. I wanted to learn how to make new friends.
To My Sisters touches upon various important topics, such as recognising the types of friends we are, overcoming our own toxicities, being vulnerable, nurturing our friendships across different life stages, and even venturing into business or making financial goals with friends.
However, considering the authors' vast community of over 100K women worldwide, I think there was a missed opportunity to incorporate real-life stories and practical advice from this diverse group. In my opinion, To My Sisters should have been a comprehensive and enlightening series, with each book diving into different subjects relating to friendship.
While I appreciate the authors' openness, and although they made some excellent statements, such as, "Our insecurities are real, our pain is valid, our anger is justified, but our response cannot be to make other people collateral damage to our trauma," overall, this book left me feeling significantly underwhelmed. I had hoped for a more actionable and impactful read.
Although it presents itself as a guide for building strong adult female friendships, the book's main focus is on enhancing and maximising the friendships we already have, not cultivating new ones from scratch. I wanted to learn how to make new friends.
To My Sisters touches upon various important topics, such as recognising the types of friends we are, overcoming our own toxicities, being vulnerable, nurturing our friendships across different life stages, and even venturing into business or making financial goals with friends.
However, considering the authors' vast community of over 100K women worldwide, I think there was a missed opportunity to incorporate real-life stories and practical advice from this diverse group. In my opinion, To My Sisters should have been a comprehensive and enlightening series, with each book diving into different subjects relating to friendship.
While I appreciate the authors' openness, and although they made some excellent statements, such as, "Our insecurities are real, our pain is valid, our anger is justified, but our response cannot be to make other people collateral damage to our trauma," overall, this book left me feeling significantly underwhelmed. I had hoped for a more actionable and impactful read.
January 28, 2024
Much like any self help book it had many things i knew but it was enjoyable for something for me to implement with friends and myself.
August 9, 2023
‘To My Sisters: A Guide To Building Lifelong Friendships’ By Courtney Daniella Boateng & Renee Kapuku
Book review:
Having been a keen listener of their Podcast ‘To My Sisters’ since 2020, I was really excited for the release of this book.
‘To My Sisters’ is written by Courtney Daniella and Renee Kapuku, two women who have known each other since 2008, but became best friends in 2014.
This book is truly sensational and honestly felt like a breath of fresh air to read. One of the first things that drew my attention in this book was the depth of vulnerability shown by both Courtney and Renee as they shared moments and experiences in their lives.
The book is very empowering. Although I’m not a woman, this book has provided me with insights into some of the experiences, emotions and pressures women face (To my fellow brothers, you NEED to read this).
I really like how the book strikes a good balance between holding readers accountable through practical/actionable activities and maintaining a conversational style that makes you feel that involved and appreciated.
Key highlights for me were:
- The breakdown of the 4-5 friendship profile types was really interesting.
- ‘Parentification’ process was very eye-opening and gave me new insights that I was not privy to before.
- Discussion around boundaries - physical, emotional, intellectual and material.
- Culture of comparison and how that can impact how you view your life.
The continued focus on the need and importance of developing a sisterhood and community is very empowering.
I really believe that this book is a timeless read and will be passed down from generation to generation. It is beautifully written and one that I would really recommend that you read very soon.
Book review:
Having been a keen listener of their Podcast ‘To My Sisters’ since 2020, I was really excited for the release of this book.
‘To My Sisters’ is written by Courtney Daniella and Renee Kapuku, two women who have known each other since 2008, but became best friends in 2014.
This book is truly sensational and honestly felt like a breath of fresh air to read. One of the first things that drew my attention in this book was the depth of vulnerability shown by both Courtney and Renee as they shared moments and experiences in their lives.
The book is very empowering. Although I’m not a woman, this book has provided me with insights into some of the experiences, emotions and pressures women face (To my fellow brothers, you NEED to read this).
I really like how the book strikes a good balance between holding readers accountable through practical/actionable activities and maintaining a conversational style that makes you feel that involved and appreciated.
Key highlights for me were:
- The breakdown of the 4-5 friendship profile types was really interesting.
- ‘Parentification’ process was very eye-opening and gave me new insights that I was not privy to before.
- Discussion around boundaries - physical, emotional, intellectual and material.
- Culture of comparison and how that can impact how you view your life.
The continued focus on the need and importance of developing a sisterhood and community is very empowering.
I really believe that this book is a timeless read and will be passed down from generation to generation. It is beautifully written and one that I would really recommend that you read very soon.
April 14, 2023
I think this book is going to be helpful to a lot of people who struggle with their friendships and making friends.
That said, I actually don't think this was targeted for me specifically. I'm quite happy with my friendships and recently I was told I'm good at setting and maintaining healthy boundaries.
My favourite thing about this was near the beginning where they had friend character profiles and you can see which one you are and what you might want to try doing to help improve your friendships.
I know it's difficult making and keeping strong friendships as an adult or post-uni, so this is a book for those who want to work on improving that aspect of their life.
The advice is sound and it's all very clearly written and explaining. I immediately went and recommended this to a few people.
That said, I actually don't think this was targeted for me specifically. I'm quite happy with my friendships and recently I was told I'm good at setting and maintaining healthy boundaries.
My favourite thing about this was near the beginning where they had friend character profiles and you can see which one you are and what you might want to try doing to help improve your friendships.
I know it's difficult making and keeping strong friendships as an adult or post-uni, so this is a book for those who want to work on improving that aspect of their life.
The advice is sound and it's all very clearly written and explaining. I immediately went and recommended this to a few people.
November 28, 2023
A lovely light refreshing read that address some potentially difficult elements of introspection and reflection that we must all do when looking at our friendships and the role we play within them.
This will definitely be a guide I come back to and a reference when trying to understand friendship in adulthood.
A lot of the time we focus on romantic relationships and so it was great to be able to focus on something different.
One of the biggest selling points for me especially was knowing that this book was cowritten from two amazing women who share such a sincere and beautiful sisterhood. It is truly aspirational and something that we should all have the privilege to experience in our lives.
Without a doubt, will be doing the activities and look forward to seeing how I can continue to cultivate my friendships from strength to strength.
This will definitely be a guide I come back to and a reference when trying to understand friendship in adulthood.
A lot of the time we focus on romantic relationships and so it was great to be able to focus on something different.
One of the biggest selling points for me especially was knowing that this book was cowritten from two amazing women who share such a sincere and beautiful sisterhood. It is truly aspirational and something that we should all have the privilege to experience in our lives.
Without a doubt, will be doing the activities and look forward to seeing how I can continue to cultivate my friendships from strength to strength.
April 24, 2023
we were very kindly gifted extra copies of ‘To My Sisters’ by Courtney Daniella Boateng and Renée Kapuku.
as this book celebrates and centres female friendships, sisterhood and growing into your own, we wanted to give two friends the opportunity to read & share in this relatable guide!
Renée and Courtney share their experiences, lessons and learnings from their decade-long friendship, giving readers the tools to be able to not only find and build friendships, but also to be a good friend.
Using their own experience, Renée and Courtney will share skills and practices readers can employ to make their friendships stronger. Whether it’s learning how to be vulnerable, creating and maintaining healthy boundaries, or navigating comparison and competition, To My Sisters has the answers.
as this book celebrates and centres female friendships, sisterhood and growing into your own, we wanted to give two friends the opportunity to read & share in this relatable guide!
Renée and Courtney share their experiences, lessons and learnings from their decade-long friendship, giving readers the tools to be able to not only find and build friendships, but also to be a good friend.
Using their own experience, Renée and Courtney will share skills and practices readers can employ to make their friendships stronger. Whether it’s learning how to be vulnerable, creating and maintaining healthy boundaries, or navigating comparison and competition, To My Sisters has the answers.
May 4, 2023
If you know me you know I value friendship a lot. It is one of the most beautiful and important relationships you will ever have in your life, I am so blessed personally to have such beautiful women in my life that I’m able to share that love and sisterhood with.
This book encompasses friendship from various perspectives, and the realities, the beauty of it and so much more.
Courtney & Renee delve into their own experiences and friendship, and they truly set an example of how to not only be a friend but a sister.
I recommend this to all women no matter where you’re at in life this book is for you! A great read/listen 💕
This book encompasses friendship from various perspectives, and the realities, the beauty of it and so much more.
Courtney & Renee delve into their own experiences and friendship, and they truly set an example of how to not only be a friend but a sister.
I recommend this to all women no matter where you’re at in life this book is for you! A great read/listen 💕
July 19, 2025
Reading this book stirred something in me. It left me reflecting deeply on the kind of friend I am and challenged me to be a better sister. Not just to my biological siblings, but to every woman I have encountered. It posed a question I couldn’t shake: Would I want to be friends with myself? In a world where we are often pushed towards isolation or shallow connections, this book feels like a call back to what matters: love, loyalty, grace, and genuine sisterhood.
The book beautifully emphasizes the importance of kindness, and I wholeheartedly agree. If there is a secret to being a good friend (or simply a good person), it is being kind.
The book beautifully emphasizes the importance of kindness, and I wholeheartedly agree. If there is a secret to being a good friend (or simply a good person), it is being kind.
March 6, 2024
Wasn't really what I was hoping for or expecting. Definitely more geared to single young 20 year olds and focused more on self growth and consolidating existing friendships, rather than making new meaningful relationships.
Lots of sort of Instagram buzz words and issues that I don't relate to.
Would have loved more focus on intergenerational relationships, concrete ideas for creating community and fostering meaningful conversations, and something that spoke to women in a wider array of circumstances.
It wasn't bad, just not for me
Lots of sort of Instagram buzz words and issues that I don't relate to.
Would have loved more focus on intergenerational relationships, concrete ideas for creating community and fostering meaningful conversations, and something that spoke to women in a wider array of circumstances.
It wasn't bad, just not for me
April 22, 2023
Incredible idea for a book! I hope that it reaches as many women as possible! It brings a fresh air of real positivity, real love, real friendship, honesty and compassion. Just brilliant. Very intimate. The book reads like a podcast (which generally I don't like but may attract some people). I really liked these two ladies and I hope we see more of them!
November 25, 2023
I love the TMS podcast and so when I heard they made a book it was automatically added to my TBR.
This is my first read about friendships and it was really insightful to see the perspective of those who put so much effort into cultivating the right ones. If only I read this when I was at school....but looking forward to using their advice in future friendships.
This is my first read about friendships and it was really insightful to see the perspective of those who put so much effort into cultivating the right ones. If only I read this when I was at school....but looking forward to using their advice in future friendships.
July 8, 2023
Never heard of the podcast but definitely found much food for thought in this book to help realise the type of friend I am and how I could possibly improve my relationships and myself. Some hard truths and great stories from the authors lives shared.
July 18, 2023
This book was fine if that's what you need. I accidentally borrowed this thinking it was something else. I listened to the audio book and the extra bit after the book itself... Made me round down to one star.
March 25, 2025
A very useful [work]book on making and keeping good ‘female’ friendships written by two black females that talk about their lived experiences. Useful tips on identifying and working with your attachment type.
March 26, 2023
Wow this was extremely well written and so potent. Had to keep stopping to catch all the quotes. Amazing work, love these girls 💕
April 25, 2023
Fantastic read!
April 23, 2024
PHENOMENAL BOOK!!! Looking forward to the day when I can meet these sisters in person! Truly some Black girl magic ✨✨
February 21, 2025
This was a good and helpful read really,✨
February 5, 2024
To My Sisters is a love letter to friendships and a great introduction on how to build and maintain communities. I recently started listening to the To My Sisters podcast so I had to pick this up as an audiobook. The audiobook was more of an intro to many smaller topics whereas their podcast dives deeper into specific topics. I really enjoyed the introduction to boundaries, attachment styles and the section on vulnerability, and would have loved to hear on those topics. Overall, there's a wide range of topics covered like the importance of growing together, listening skills, jealousy and going on different paths and at different paces to your friends.
The goals setting sections and activities are good as an introduction to these topics. This book reminded me of another nonfiction Conversations on Love by Natasha Lunn which includes a specific section on black female friendships in an interview with writer Candice Carty-Williams, which I thought was so interesting and includes similar themes on platonic relationships.
I liked Courtney's vulnerability and honesty in this book, and Renée's writing style and storytelling. The afterhours was hilarious and I loved the conversation on platonic soulmates, about friends basically being family, for example being included in things like graduation photos and automatic invite to family gatherings. Loved the addition of dilemmas in the book too.
I'll definitely continue to listen to their podcast and interested to see what other topics they discuss on there! Also the book cover is gorgeous.
The goals setting sections and activities are good as an introduction to these topics. This book reminded me of another nonfiction Conversations on Love by Natasha Lunn which includes a specific section on black female friendships in an interview with writer Candice Carty-Williams, which I thought was so interesting and includes similar themes on platonic relationships.
I liked Courtney's vulnerability and honesty in this book, and Renée's writing style and storytelling. The afterhours was hilarious and I loved the conversation on platonic soulmates, about friends basically being family, for example being included in things like graduation photos and automatic invite to family gatherings. Loved the addition of dilemmas in the book too.
I'll definitely continue to listen to their podcast and interested to see what other topics they discuss on there! Also the book cover is gorgeous.
January 2, 2024
This book was given to me, and to be honest, I was a bit skeptical just looking at the cover. I was worried the book would be all self-help girlboss therapyspeak, but wanted to give it a fair shot either way. I found my assumptions corrected as the authors critique our modern hyperindividualism and its negative effects on female friendship.
The authors take the angle of positioning friendship, or rather, sisterhood, as a necessary component of human life, and illustrate this point with concrete examples. While some might be afraid to admit it, 'friendship for friendship's sake' is not generally what 'real' friendships are based on. We do have something to gain from it, but we have to give as well. It's a mutual exchange. The book hits the nail on the head in terms of honestly describing what friendship is.
The activities provided in the book give readers concrete steps towards becoming the kind of person and friend they want to be. This concreteness is something I feel many of the books in this 'sphere' lack, and is much appreciated. I must admit that the activities that the book recommends the readers does with friends, I have not yet completed, but I intend on doing so (and will update this review if I feel it needs to be afterwards.)
I don't often say a book has changed my life, but I think this one certainly has the potential to. It's just up to me to put in the work now.
The authors take the angle of positioning friendship, or rather, sisterhood, as a necessary component of human life, and illustrate this point with concrete examples. While some might be afraid to admit it, 'friendship for friendship's sake' is not generally what 'real' friendships are based on. We do have something to gain from it, but we have to give as well. It's a mutual exchange. The book hits the nail on the head in terms of honestly describing what friendship is.
The activities provided in the book give readers concrete steps towards becoming the kind of person and friend they want to be. This concreteness is something I feel many of the books in this 'sphere' lack, and is much appreciated. I must admit that the activities that the book recommends the readers does with friends, I have not yet completed, but I intend on doing so (and will update this review if I feel it needs to be afterwards.)
I don't often say a book has changed my life, but I think this one certainly has the potential to. It's just up to me to put in the work now.
December 4, 2024
Love the girlies from the podcast. Loved hearing from their POV. Bc I know their voices I didn’t feel the need to play it as an audiobook. Feel my experience was also improved by reading along with a sister and discussing topics brought up in chapters. Feel like it caused me to really look inward and evaluate
December 28, 2023
So fun and inspiring!
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