Amándonos: La guía Chapman para la intimidad sexual

by Gary Chapman

“Hagamos el amor.” “Tengamos relaciones sexuales.” ¿Hay alguna diferencia? Por supuesta que sí! Mientras que las relaciones sexuales son la unión de dos cuerpos, el amor es la unión de dos almas. Las relaciones sexuales sin amor nunca producirán una satisfacción completa, pero las relaciones sexuales que se dan a partir del amor llevarán al matrimonio a un nivel de satisfacción completamente nuevo. En su estilo simple y directo, el Dr. Gary Chapman explora las enseñanzas judío-cristianas sobre el amor y las relaciones sexuales, y enseña a las parejas que si desean mayor satisfacción sexual, primero necesitan aprender cómo amar. “Let's make love.” “Let's have sex.” Is there a difference? You bet there is! While sex is the joining of two bodies, love is the joining of two souls. Sex without love will never be ultimately satisfying, but sex that grows out of love will take a marriage to a whole new level of satisfaction. In his trademark simple, straightforward style, Dr. Gary Chapman explores the Judeo-Christian teachings on love and sex and teaches couples that if they desire greater sexual satisfaction, they must first learn how to love.

Genres: Self Help, Marriage, Christian, Audiobook, Nonfiction, Relationships

144 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2008

About the author

Gary Chapman, Ph.D.—author, speaker, and counselor—has a passion for people, and for helping them form lasting relationships.

Chapman is a well-known marriage counselor and director of marriage seminars. The 5 Love Languages® is one of Chapman’s most popular titles, topping various bestseller charts for years, selling over twenty million copies and has been on the New York Times bestsellers list since 2007. Chapman has been directly involved in real-life family counseling since the beginning of his ministry years, and his nationally syndicated radio programs air on Moody Radio Network and over 400 affiliate stations.

Reviews

[Shaimaa شيماء]

إن التحدي الذي يواجه العديد من الأزواج اليوم، هو أنهم تلقوا قدرا ضئيلا من التوجيه أو لم يتلقوا توجيها البتة في كيفية أن يحبوا بعضهم بعضًا. وقد تزوجوا بينما هم في غمرة نشوة "الوقوع في الحب". وكانوا يعتزمون أن يعيشوا في سعادة دائمة.

لقد تصوروا أن الجنس هو أمر مبهج رائع يحدث دون جهد يذكر.

ولكنهم عندما نزلوا من عليائهم العاطفية المتمثلة في "الوقوع في الحب". (متوسط العمر الافتراضي للنشوة هو سنتان)، تحولت رؤاهم نحو السماء إلى كوابيس من الخلافات وصار الجنس ساحة معركة، وبدأوا في تحميل بعضهم مسؤولية تعاستهم.

إن رسالة هذا الكتاب هي أن أحلامكما يمكن أن تتحقق ويؤدي اتحادكما الجنسي إلى حصولكما على الرابطة العميقة التي ترغبان فيها، إذا استطعتما أن تتعلما ممارسة الحب وليس مجرد ممارسة الجنس.


**ليست المغفرة شعورا؛ بل اختيار وقرار. ولأننا نلنا المغفرة من الله، قررنا أن نصفح عن أخطاء بعضنا بعضا.

**لا تزيل المغفرة الألم الذي عانيناه على الفور، ولا تزيل بالضرورة كل ما ترتب على ما حدث من نتائج. غير أن المغفرة تزيل الحاجز الذي يفصل ما بيننا وتسمح لنا بالاستمرار في علاقتنا.

[Glória Hefzibá]

É impressionante como o mesmo autor que teve uma sacada tão boa quanto as "cinco linguagens do amor" pode ser também a pessoa machista, equivocada e retrógrada que escreveu este livro. Os relatos são quase todos masculinos; há grave relativização do abuso físico e do abuso sexual; somente métodos contraceptivos femininos surgem como alternativa ao uso da camisinha (especificamente, o mais danoso de todos, que é a pílula anticoncepcional), não havendo qualquer menção à vasectomia (que tem efeitos colaterais nulos); reforça noções já superadas sobre "diferenças" entre mulheres e homens, principalmente sobre desejo; não questiona a coisificação de mulheres através de vestimentas (sequer ventila a relação desse problema com a pornografia); etc.

Péssimo. Errado e desatualizado, travestido de conselho cristão.

[شيماء فؤاد]

لغات الحب الخمس هو أفضل كتاب للكاتب جاري تشامبان

لم يعجبني هذا الكتاب .. مئة صفحة تدندن حول اصنعا الجنس بدافع الحب وليس بدافع بيولوجي .. وهذا من شأنه تعميق الرابطة العاطفية بينكما .. واذا كان هناك مشكلة في التواصل الجنسي او الشعور بالرضاء الجنسي فعليك التحدث مع شريك حياتك ومناقشة كيفية حلها ..

بس ..

[Angela]

I don't know why but this was not what I thought this book was about.... I guess it's an ok book just not my ...style book!

[Christopher Beran]

More of a pamphlet than a book, but I suppose that that makes it good for a spot check every now and then instead of a deep dive.

[Kule Godwin]

Cool for the Soul

[Cassie Webb]

first 2 chapters about sex but the other chapters are honestly just a short summary of his 5 love language book

[Vincent Paul]

Nice work there ... couldn't have done any better.

In a society that accepts casual sexual relationships, respected marriage expert Chapman reminds us that sex without love is merely physical appetite. In his customary straightforward style, he explores the Judeo-Christian teachings on marital intimacy.

However, as humanity develops from generation to generation, we see a drift more to casual sex than marital intimacy; people nowadays value sex than the companionship relationships bring, and that being the case we see a more casual and careless sexual behaviour gravitating towards orgies in the name of the normal. But what the heck, different societies have different sexual practices, and there is no society that can, and should, claim superiority and the better way to approaching the practice.

[Michelle]

It refers a lot to the 5 love languages which you might expect. I did love the Five Love Languages book written by the same author and I think this book goes hand in hand. Not a lot of additional information but does give an opportunity for a question/answer session at the end of each chapter with your spouse. I liked it and it's a quick read but definitely recommend reading the Five Love Languages first.

[Jonathan]

Not a bad book, but often really simple. If you haven't read a decent book on how sex and love should relate in marriage, and are struggling with such things, then this might be a nice place to start. But if you've already read something more extensive on the topic before, then this little book is probably going to feel a little too obvious and elementary.

[Diane]

Spot on advice. My husband and I have a great love life and don't need any ideas for improving sex but I like to be informed so that when a problem arises, I know how to deal with it. There are lots of great questions to ask yourself and your spouse to improve your sex life. We have the communication going for us in our marriage so I know that what the author is writing about really works.