Don't Take the Bait to Escalate: Conflict Is Inevitable. Being a Jerk Is Optional.

by Jay Payleitner

Conflict is inevitable, but how we react to that conflict directly impacts our relationships. In Don’t Take the Bait to Escalate, readers will be given tools to help them understand the types of reactions that can fan the flames of a problem and those that will lead to restoration. Rooted in scripture, the reader will discover the impact conflict has upon relationships with family members, colleagues, friends, neighbors, and social media followers, and what you can do to restore any damage that may already have occurred. This book is a must-read in our cancel culture society, where conflict is the name of the game.

1 pages, Audio CD

Published March 15, 2022

About the author

Jay Payleitner spent a decade in major market advertising. Learning how people think and doing some fun work. Including creating TV spots for Midway Airlines, Kroger, and Corona Beer. And heading up the creative team that named "SunChips."

But God called him into Christian media. And he became an almost-too-busy freelance producer. For more than a decade, Jay scripted and produced Josh McDowell Radio, Today's Father, Jesus Freaks Radio with TobyMac and Michael Tait, Project Angel Tree with Chuck Colson, and thousands of hours of radio that aired across the country and beyond.

Jay is a long-time affiliate with the National Center for Fathering and nationally-known motivational speaker for Iron Sharpens Iron, marriage conferences, men's retreats, women's events, writers' conferences, and weekend services.

Jay has sold more than half million books including the bestselling 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad and What If God Wrote Your Bucket List? His latest -- and perhaps most important release -- is The Jesus Dare.

This June, Waterbrook/Multnomah is releasing the surprising book, The Prayer of Agur.

Jay's books have been translated into French, German, Spanish, Italian, Afrikaans, Indonesian, Slovenian, Polish, and Russian.

He has been a guest multiple times on The Harvest Show, 100 Huntley Street, Moody Radio, Building Relationships with Gary Chapman, Cornerstone TV, and Focus on the Family.

Jay and his high school sweetheart, Rita, live in the Chicago area where they’ve raised five great kids, loved on ten foster babies, and are cherishing grandparenthood.

Reviews

[Carole · Rating 4 out of 5]

One out of every 5 books I read is of the self-help genre, because, you know, I think growth is important. Some of these self-help books can be cumbersome and very theoretical. The message can get lost in the wordiness. Jay Payleitner's books get right to the point and give very specific and straightforward advice. This book continues the tradition. I don't really think of myself as a person with lots of conflict in my life but once I began reading, I saw that there is a broader definition of conflict that works its way in to simple day to day living. Especially helpful were in "Case Studies in Conflict" section. I am quite skilled at reading about someone else's conflict and seeing clearly where the choices to escalate or de-escalate fall. But Payleitner then encourages us to reflect on each case study to a situation in our own life. Trust me, the skills you learn will help in all aspects of your life.