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From Good Man to Valiant Man - Sexual Integrity in a Sex Crazy World
This book is a call for valiant men to rebuild the moral walls in their hearts, to renew the thought patterns in their minds, and to take responsibility for the emotional and spiritual health of their the kind of men that women and children can depend on.
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318 pages, Kindle Edition
First published January 1, 2008
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August 1, 2023
Perfetkna kniha pre kazdeho muza, ktory chce smerovat k zdravej sexualite, myslim si ze nie len cisto pre krestanov. Niekolko kapitol sa venuje aj sexualite cisto z biologickeho a socialneho pohladu. Za mna osobne co by som dal za taku knihu, alebo tieto vedomosti a znalosti ked som bol teenager. V krajine ako Slovensko, kde absentuje akakolvek diskusia v oblasti sexuality a sexualneho vzdelavania, je tato a jej podobne knihy este o to potrebnejsia. Vnimal som autorovu dlhorocnu snahu v boji proti nezdravemu sexu v podobe ucelenych niekolko krat preskusanych myslienok a myslim si ze aj priklady, ktore autor pouziva su velmi validne a napomocne. Jedna z knih, kde mam naozaj rad, ze to pise autor v neskorsom veku, ktory sa venuje cely zivot hlavne jednej problematike a ma nadhlad. Zaroven to je aj negativom, ze autor asi aj pre svoj vek, kedy uz testosteronu ubuda, nevie alebo ani nemoze vnimat ako sa od cias kedy on bol mlady, cca 60 rokov dozadu, svet este viac zmenil k horsiemu v oblasti pornografie, nahoty, nezavaznemu sexu atd. Viem si predstavit, ze v dnesnej dobe uz mozno vela muzov by pornografiu ani nevnimala za zlu, ale len ako za prirodzenu sucast spestrenia zivota. Odporucam aj muzom, ktory maju synov a buducich teenagerov, kniha dava vela rad ako komunikovat sexualne temy mladym muzom, ako ich sprevadzat v case dospievania a chranit a dbat o to aby z nich vyrastli sexualne zdravi muzi.
August 12, 2016
This is an important book whatever your walk in sexual purity looks like. A large portion of it is dedicated to providing practical tools and insights into breaking free from addictive lifestyles and living free, but it is the background that is set which makes this an important read for all men.
The book gives a fundamental, but in my experience often overlooked discussion of the spirituality and biochemistry behind our sexuality. A basic synopsis of the spirituality side of things: sex is the physical manifestation of the oneness we were created by God for, to ultimately have with God, a oneness demonstrated in the union of the trinity. God built covenant marriage to be a taste of that oneness on earth, "that the two would become one flesh", and sex is both a physical by-product of that emotional and spiritual intimacy with one's spouse, as well as the act that spiritually fuels that intimacy. In terms of biochemistry, Meyer discusses the biology behind one's sex drive. Pretty much every response of our sexuality is founded on our biophysiology.
I think this is a vital read as it gives us a reason to fight for our purity, and knowing that is not just important for us, it is crucial that we give the reason to fight for the generation we are called to father. In this modern culture of eroticism and entitlement sexuality is the most relevant question asked, the rules aren't enough for us to give, or for us to hear. Why is my sexuality worth protecting, among other things this book gives a vision for why sexual purity must be fought for by all men, purity is more than the outward act, it is guarding the heart to have one's intimacy needs fulfilled in the present, real world as God intended.
The book gives a fundamental, but in my experience often overlooked discussion of the spirituality and biochemistry behind our sexuality. A basic synopsis of the spirituality side of things: sex is the physical manifestation of the oneness we were created by God for, to ultimately have with God, a oneness demonstrated in the union of the trinity. God built covenant marriage to be a taste of that oneness on earth, "that the two would become one flesh", and sex is both a physical by-product of that emotional and spiritual intimacy with one's spouse, as well as the act that spiritually fuels that intimacy. In terms of biochemistry, Meyer discusses the biology behind one's sex drive. Pretty much every response of our sexuality is founded on our biophysiology.
I think this is a vital read as it gives us a reason to fight for our purity, and knowing that is not just important for us, it is crucial that we give the reason to fight for the generation we are called to father. In this modern culture of eroticism and entitlement sexuality is the most relevant question asked, the rules aren't enough for us to give, or for us to hear. Why is my sexuality worth protecting, among other things this book gives a vision for why sexual purity must be fought for by all men, purity is more than the outward act, it is guarding the heart to have one's intimacy needs fulfilled in the present, real world as God intended.
October 23, 2009
As a facilitator of the Valiant Man course by Careforce Lifekeys I was unsure whether this would work as well in book form. In short, it doesn't, but for a man looking to get a hold of some help it is a great starting point.
I highly recommend this book for anyone looking to work towards sexual integrity according to Christian ethics.
I highly recommend this book for anyone looking to work towards sexual integrity according to Christian ethics.
February 20, 2013
I decided to read this book after hearing a presentation from the author. It is a confronting book, however I would recommend it.
August 23, 2016
Men need to read this,Our females need to trust us with integrity and with this book,it counts,there are tools and keys in this book for every man
April 21, 2025
Five years ago I undertook the Valiant Man 10 week course with a group of young men from my church who wanted to band together to work towards sexual integrity in our lives. I’ve completed a lot of Christian short courses, and I can honestly say that this one has impacted my life the most. I was engaged at that time, and now as a married man I felt it was time to revisit the content and read the book.
Christianity is one of the few contemporary belief systems that deems porn as immoral and unhealthy. Despite this, the rate of Christian men viewing pornography is not too dissimilar from non-Christians. The way the Church is helping men face this issue is not working.
Allan Meyer has been able to successfully do what very few well-intentioned Christian leaders have been able to, to engage and inspire men in their sexual integrity in a manner that is beyond judgement and shame. His practical approach utilises psychological understandings of addiction, habit-formation, recovery and thriving, and packages it in a way that any man can grasp and grapple with it.
Valiant Man doesn’t fall into the trap of ‘that’s bad so stop it’. It opens men’s eyes to what God-designed sexual integrity can look like throughout all aspects of their lives; to resist the sexuality that permeates our society, to love and uplift one woman wholeheartedly, and to enjoy the fullness and sexual bliss that marriage has to offer.
This book is tailored for husbands, or at least men in committed relationships. Not to say single men wouldn’t get anything out of it, but I wouldn’t specifically recommend it to them.
Many man such as myself have had to learn the hard way that this journey taken alone inevitably leads to failure. This book reiterated to me that firstly, sexual integrity can only be achieved through complete reliance upon God’s strength, and secondly, as men we can’t do this alone. Sexual integrity is a lifelong journey, and you’re going to need a band of brothers to support and encourage you. Reaching out to men you trust who can journey with you takes great courage, but it will be one of the best decisions you ever make.
Christianity is one of the few contemporary belief systems that deems porn as immoral and unhealthy. Despite this, the rate of Christian men viewing pornography is not too dissimilar from non-Christians. The way the Church is helping men face this issue is not working.
Allan Meyer has been able to successfully do what very few well-intentioned Christian leaders have been able to, to engage and inspire men in their sexual integrity in a manner that is beyond judgement and shame. His practical approach utilises psychological understandings of addiction, habit-formation, recovery and thriving, and packages it in a way that any man can grasp and grapple with it.
Valiant Man doesn’t fall into the trap of ‘that’s bad so stop it’. It opens men’s eyes to what God-designed sexual integrity can look like throughout all aspects of their lives; to resist the sexuality that permeates our society, to love and uplift one woman wholeheartedly, and to enjoy the fullness and sexual bliss that marriage has to offer.
This book is tailored for husbands, or at least men in committed relationships. Not to say single men wouldn’t get anything out of it, but I wouldn’t specifically recommend it to them.
Many man such as myself have had to learn the hard way that this journey taken alone inevitably leads to failure. This book reiterated to me that firstly, sexual integrity can only be achieved through complete reliance upon God’s strength, and secondly, as men we can’t do this alone. Sexual integrity is a lifelong journey, and you’re going to need a band of brothers to support and encourage you. Reaching out to men you trust who can journey with you takes great courage, but it will be one of the best decisions you ever make.
August 4, 2014
An interesting read on how men think. I found it a little scary.
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