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L. O. V. E.: Putting Your Love Styles to Work for You
The letters L.O.V.E. represent four personality dimensions that make up your personal "love style." Once you know your own love style and that of your spouse, you will be able to love him or her in a way that will help you get the love you need in return. Relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott stand on a mountain of research to show you how this single insight can draw you closer together. Never before have we had such an easy-to-use and scientifically proven tool for pinpointing each person's approach to love. You'll discover how much these dimensions inform your love The L.O.V.E. online assessment, in combination with this book, will show you how you are designed to approach everything from communication and conflict to sex and intimacy. This is not your typical marriage book. It's a practical tool for learning how to express love to your spouse and feel truly loved in return.
224 pages, Paperback
First published December 8, 2009
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About the author
Les Parrott III
151 books131 followers#1 New York Times best-selling authors, Les and Leslie. A husband-and-wife team who not only share the same name, but the same passion for helping others build healthy relationships. In 1991, the Parrotts founded the Center for Relationship Development on the campus of Seattle Pacific University - a groundbreaking program dedicated to teaching the basics of good relationships.
Married in 1984, the Parrotts bring real-life examples to their speaking platform. Their professional training - Leslie as a marriage and family therapist, and Les as a clinical psychologist - ensures a presentation that is grounded, insightful and cutting-edge.
The Parrotts are New York Times #1 Best Selling Authors. Their books include the award-winning Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts, Love Talk, Real Relationships, The Parent You Want to Be, The Hour That Matters Most and Crazy Good Sex.
Each year Les and Leslie speak in over 40 cities. Their audiences include a wide array of venues, from churches to Fortune 500 company board rooms. Their books have sold over two million copies in more than two dozen languages.
The Parrotts have been guests on many national TV and radio programs such as CNN, Good Morning America, CBS This Morning, The View with Barbara Walters, NBC Nightly News, and Oprah. Their work has been featured in USA Today and The New York Times.
Visit their website for lots of free resources at www.LesandLeslie.com
Married in 1984, the Parrotts bring real-life examples to their speaking platform. Their professional training - Leslie as a marriage and family therapist, and Les as a clinical psychologist - ensures a presentation that is grounded, insightful and cutting-edge.
The Parrotts are New York Times #1 Best Selling Authors. Their books include the award-winning Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts, Love Talk, Real Relationships, The Parent You Want to Be, The Hour That Matters Most and Crazy Good Sex.
Each year Les and Leslie speak in over 40 cities. Their audiences include a wide array of venues, from churches to Fortune 500 company board rooms. Their books have sold over two million copies in more than two dozen languages.
The Parrotts have been guests on many national TV and radio programs such as CNN, Good Morning America, CBS This Morning, The View with Barbara Walters, NBC Nightly News, and Oprah. Their work has been featured in USA Today and The New York Times.
Visit their website for lots of free resources at www.LesandLeslie.com
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May 27, 2025
I didn’t have to take the quiz as we went through Symbis program in our pre-marital counseling.
I have to say the book was kind of a repeat of all of lot of the things you hear in the Love Languages and other relationship reads - however, the last part in how to love someone with certain love styles is really what made this book stand out. And of course, instead of hearing how we prefer to receive love, these styles are how we express it. I would love to have heard more about the styles, but I would guess this could be found in their later materials.
I have to say the book was kind of a repeat of all of lot of the things you hear in the Love Languages and other relationship reads - however, the last part in how to love someone with certain love styles is really what made this book stand out. And of course, instead of hearing how we prefer to receive love, these styles are how we express it. I would love to have heard more about the styles, but I would guess this could be found in their later materials.
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January 19, 2020
Great thoughts on marriage and how to love your spouse!
February 6, 2011
There's no shortage of books on marriage: Amazon currently lists over 14,000 under the search term "marriage help." And there's no shortage of books by the married psychologist couple Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott: they have already written over a dozen.
So what does this book add that is useful? It is a good discussion of personality temperment psychology as it applies to marriage. Originating in ancient Greece, temperment theory poses that there are four basic flavors of personalities that cause people to desire and react differently. In the ancient system, these were known as choleric, melancholic, sanguine, and phlegmatic. Forty years ago then young Christian writer Tim LaHaye repopularized this theory with a series of books including his classic Spirit Controlled Temperment. In the 1990s psychologist Gary Chapman repackaged the four temperments concept in his popular marriage book Making Love Last Forever using the animal word pictures of lion, beaver, otter, & golden retriever.
In L.O.V.E, the same basic breakdown is used, but repackaged as "love styles" with the labels Leader, Optimist,Validator & Evaluator (that spells out L. O. V. E. in case you weren't looking.) There are chapters that explain each of the four types, and then chapters on how to best relate to each of the four types in a relationship.
The material is well written and organized, and provides some useful insights both into yourself and your mate. Reading through L.O.V.E. I had some new "aha!" moments even though I have read other personality typing books in the past.
A few qualms: I didn't appreciate that the four "styles" are presented as original, even though they are obviously based on previous typing systems. Second, I was bugged by the book's repeated references to the extra cost online typing test that the Parrots' have on their website. Lastly, except for a few generic Bible verses, this shouldn't be considered a "Christian" book--- there is no talk of grace, no talk of the role of the Spirit, no talk of God's plan for marriage or the differing roles of husband and wife. Overall, however, L.O.V.E. is a good read that should be useful for any marriage.
So what does this book add that is useful? It is a good discussion of personality temperment psychology as it applies to marriage. Originating in ancient Greece, temperment theory poses that there are four basic flavors of personalities that cause people to desire and react differently. In the ancient system, these were known as choleric, melancholic, sanguine, and phlegmatic. Forty years ago then young Christian writer Tim LaHaye repopularized this theory with a series of books including his classic Spirit Controlled Temperment. In the 1990s psychologist Gary Chapman repackaged the four temperments concept in his popular marriage book Making Love Last Forever using the animal word pictures of lion, beaver, otter, & golden retriever.
In L.O.V.E, the same basic breakdown is used, but repackaged as "love styles" with the labels Leader, Optimist,Validator & Evaluator (that spells out L. O. V. E. in case you weren't looking.) There are chapters that explain each of the four types, and then chapters on how to best relate to each of the four types in a relationship.
The material is well written and organized, and provides some useful insights both into yourself and your mate. Reading through L.O.V.E. I had some new "aha!" moments even though I have read other personality typing books in the past.
A few qualms: I didn't appreciate that the four "styles" are presented as original, even though they are obviously based on previous typing systems. Second, I was bugged by the book's repeated references to the extra cost online typing test that the Parrots' have on their website. Lastly, except for a few generic Bible verses, this shouldn't be considered a "Christian" book--- there is no talk of grace, no talk of the role of the Spirit, no talk of God's plan for marriage or the differing roles of husband and wife. Overall, however, L.O.V.E. is a good read that should be useful for any marriage.
October 7, 2015
An intriguing concept for martial understanding and counseling
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