Shweta is pregnant after years of issues with infertility. Her husband, Rahul, and his parents force her to consult a doctor who will illegally reveal the gender of the child. When Rahul finds out their child’s gender, Shweta faces a harsh choice—should she save her marriage or her child? Meanwhile, the unborn child hears a voice resonate within.She asks—who are you?Child, I am God, comes the reply, and a conversation begins.With elements of magical realism, this poignant novel is an unflinching portrayal of a woman’s innermost struggles in her journey to break free.
Rupangi is an author, editor, and an edupreneur who lives and works in Mumbai. Her debut novel, ‘A Life of My Own’, is about gender-biased sex selection.
She has edited ‘India Alive’, with Malvika Singh and Harsh Sethi, a compelling volume featuring discussions among South Asia’s most influential thinkers like Ramachandra Guha and Shyam Benegal. Her non-fiction contribution has been published in the best-selling ‘Chicken Soup for the Soul’ series. Her collection of poems, ‘A Loving Embrace’, was released by then Delhi Chief Minister, the late Sheila Dikshit.
While she holds undergraduate and postgraduate degrees in media studies, she followed her calling as a creative educationist and writer. She pursued her master’s in education technology and innovation at Harvard Graduate School of Education. She has worked with the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) Media Lab among other leading educational institutions in India and abroad. She is the Founder & CEO of EFG Learning | Education for Growth, a Mumbai-based education consultancy.
Rupangi has spoken at lit fests like Tata Literature Live (The Mumbai LitFest), SheThePeople Women Writers’ Fest, Think Literature Fest, and Think Woman is Power Fest. Visit her website at www.rupangisharma.com.
She has upcoming releases with HarperCollins and Penguin.
Shweta is a financially dependant woman who takes "care" of her husband and inlaws. She finds out she is having a girl child and ofcourse her in-laws want her to abort it.
The story continues to explore sex selective abortion in India and how even till date its rampant. It seems a little shocking to read about it but definitely not something that is far from reality. The book actually reminded me a lot about Thappad which kind of explored another topic in depth and ended up emphasizing on the importance of being independent for a woman
The book could have still been a little longer and could have had better written story plot since it did feel like a documentary in a lot of places. Nevertheless an important book and I'm happy to have read it
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A Life of My Own by Rupangi Sharma is a contemporary fiction set around a sensitive topic of sex-selective abortion. It talks about society’s bias towards a male child. It further elaborates on how a woman finds her wings to bring her baby girl into this unfair world.
Shweta leads a loveless marriage life with her husband, Rahul. However, she feels that having a baby would change things between them. But when she does get pregnant, she is showered love with an expectation of bearing a boy in her womb. However, Shweta knows the truth and she gets reluctant to share it. But the truth does come out and it leads one thing to another, leaving Shweta clueless. Now, she has to figure out how to bring her baby into this world and be on her own.
The story is emotional and heartfelt as it involves a woman fighting against all odds to give birth to her baby. It documents the ups and downs as she maneuvers her way through the maze. Not to mention, the journey is more on the tough side for Shweta, who’d have to deal with society as well as her family. Amidst this, her friend supports her and this gives her enough strength. The book is a journey of Shweta finding her voice, standing on her feet, and eventually finding an identity.
The book proves to be a good read for it touches upon a crucial subject of gender bias. It also highlights how difficult it is for a single mother to raise her child in society. It further chronicles the dynamics of a sound friendship and the generation differences in terms of thinking. I personally found the story lacking depth and effective writing. It sure was good but not exactly impactful. However, the conversation between the expectant mother and her unborn baby girl stood out for me. It gave a fresh touch to this story.
The intent of this book is great, but perhaps, the storyline could have more depth and dimensions.
This book was such a beautiful read. The story revolves around Protagonist Shweta who is a homemaker, She lives with her husband Rahul. Shweta is pregnant after many years of trying and finally she's very happy with her pregnancy. But Her in-laws and her husband keeps on asking her to do gender reveal to know if the baby growing inside her is a boy or girl, As usual they are expecting it to be a boy. So after few days she goes to doctor to know the gender of the baby which happenes to be a girl, she gets really scared at first in the thought how to tell about this to her husband and in-laws. When she comes back home she lies to her husband that the gender reveal results came out to be a boy, her husband becomes so happy with the news. But the happiness doesn't remain for a long time as Rahul gets to know that Shweta had lied to him about the gender reveal and when that news comes out she gets slapped by her husband. (This moment just gave me chills down my spine. Like how can he just do it so easily, that too because she was carrying a baby girl in her womb and she lied about it.) After this news reaches her in-laws they tell her to abort the baby as they were expecting a boy too. Now at this moment she is only left with two option that is either save her child or save her marriage, and she chooses the latter. She runs away to her best friends place. As the story progresses you will find so many more details about her life. This book covers up so many social issues like Domestic Violence, Divorce, Abuse, Abortion. The title of the book is so apt. The book is written beautifully, I loved the creative way of the child in womb talking with God. The book is beginner friendly. The plot is realistic and language is lucid. This book is the debut book of the author and I absolutely loved reading this book. It was really hard to put this book down, it can be easily read in one sitting. I highly recommend this book to everyone. 🌟
A Life of my Own' is a story that will take you on an emotional ride; sympathy, joy, anger, and pride, all wrapped up in this 168 page book.
Shweta is pregnant for the first time post several years of her marriage, but her husband and in-laws force her to consult a doctor for the baby's gender reveal. Things go downhill after that and Shweta has no other choice but to protect her foetus from her torturing in-laws. Her journey is inspiring and written with honesty.
The uniqueness of the plot was the conversation between the baby and God, where the inquisitive former would ask a variety of questions about it's mother and the people around her. Their brief chit-chats are pretty interesting as well. I appreciate the author's way of presenting her characters.
As much I enjoyed reading the book, my heart sank down everytime there was a remark on female foeticide in India and the blind bias for a male child. We usually ignore this fact assuming it's a rural thing and uneducated thing and 'big cities don't have such problems. ' But the illegal and unethical practice is followed almost equally in all the social circles, irrespective of their religion, living standards, caste, economic stature and education. 'What if it's a girl? ' is a question that haunts the people when it comes to welcoming a baby in the family. Unnecessary pressure is thrust upon expecting women and a biased behavior comes their way based on the gender of their child. The sad part is, many women have no other option but to succumb to their family's orders of aborting the female foetus, and the numbers of that happening are horrifying.
The truth of a woman's pain resonates very well throughout the book, and that's what makes it pretty realistic and relatable. The characters are defined well and so is the pace of the story. The only thing which I felt unnecessary in the book was the character of Sahil. His association with Shweta somehow reflected that she would need a man's support immediately after she leaves one. I believe his involvement could have been limited to friendship and not a fling.
We always feel 𝗳𝗲𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗶𝗱𝗲 is more common in a rural area or it is no more possible but according to study, over 2 𝗹𝗮𝗸𝗵 𝗴𝗶𝗿𝗹𝘀 𝗱𝗶𝗲 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗶𝗻 𝗜𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗮. Even the protagonist felt that she is married in a good family and since she is part of a good society, she could never encounter such a problem, but things got worse when her in-laws came to know that she is going to give birth to a baby girl.
The language of the book is quite simple and overall it is a fast-paced book as unnecessary things are not discussed much which is good. The best thing about the book is that on one part the book discusses the protagonist and on another part, it shows the conversation of the unborn child with god.
This is a story of 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻 who stand for the good and fought with everyone to save her unborn baby girl. It takes you in the life of a pregnant woman and her struggle for her baby's life.
Overall it's a good book which teaches you to fight for right. People may oppose you at first but if you'll stay strong everything will eventually turn into your favour.
The book is a 𝗺𝘂𝘀𝘁-𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗿 someone who is going to have a baby or had a baby or even for someone who loves books related to strong women.
•A Life Of My Own by Rupangi Sharma is about very shameful real practice in our society "gender-biased sex selection". This is a story of courageous woman who stand for the good and fought with everyone to save her unborn baby girl.
•The story revolves around Protagonist Shweta who is a homemaker and she lives with her husband Rahul. Shweta is pregnant after many years of trying.
•But the thing is her in-laws and her husband keeps on asking her to do gender reveal to know if the baby growing inside her is a boy or girl, they are expecting it to be a boy.
•After few days she goes for gender revealing test to know the gender of baby which happenes to be a girl.
•When the family got to know about this news. she started going through domestic violence and she had to finally make a choice between her self respect, life of an innocent child and her marriage. Do grab the book to read what happens next with Shweta.
•I loved the addition of magical realism in this book, where we see the unborn baby and her communication with the God. This was very different and unique in it's way. The way the baby questions and learn about the outer world was really a wonderful feeling to read.
•Characters are characterized well.The characters are unique , well developed, strong and impactful. I loved friendship between Shweta and Neha, who helps her throughout her pregnancy.
•The narration style is extremely smooth and convincing. The plot is very intriguing. Author has mentioned every small details effectively which adds a plus to the story.
•The book has a good and unique storyline which has kept my interest throughout the duration of reading. The story is engaging and the readers can easily relate to the emotions.
•Highly recommended!! This book will keep you guessing, makes you empathize with the protagonists, leaving you totally invested in the tale.
The thing I appreciate the most about the book is the honesty with which the entire plot works. There is no cushioning of facts, there is no hiding behind veils, it is a true and honest image. While talking about sex selective abortions, that too from different perspectives, the book touches on various other topics that revolve around gender discrimination. The plot is amazing. I loved the pacing and the chronology. It felt very real and inspired. It ended complete, with a fancy bow at the end. I especially liked how every other element was downsized so as to not abandon the main agenda of the book, and that agenda was carried on till the end. The cover is absolutely gorgeous and fits into the theme of the book. The writing still felt out of touch in some places, but overall it binds the book well. I felt the foetus-God conversations were a good idea and more could’ve been added there for substance. This book was an emotional rollercoaster ride. It kept me hooked to the plot and kept me hoping till the very end. It made my blood boil, it made me cry, and it also made me smile.
Book is based on One of the most important topic of our Society, female foeticide . Written in simple language . The protagonist Shweta is pregnant, but her in laws refused to accept the girl child. Instead of killing her child, Shweta decided to start a new life. But it's not that much easy for a pregnant women to face such consequences. Journey of pregnancy is presented so beautifully by the author. Minor feeling of baby kick or a life in womb made shweta so strong. Themes - Domestic Violence, family, friendship, marriage, motherhood, pregnancy and feminine Sensibility. Book is perfect blend of Magical realism and emotions of a mother. Girl child in shweta's womb have conversations with Almighty God. Anya asked a lot of questions from God. Love is something so hard to find , even marriages are loveless in some cases. Shweta hurted a lot by her decision of divorce but it's for good. She felt feeling of love in the purest form in the ending of book. Gender Inequality is an issues for which we all should raise our voices. I really appreciated the Author to dedicating this book to Women of all generations.
A Life of My Own is a fiction but it revolves around a very shameful real practice in our society.
Here Rupangi Sharm , the author has woven the plot with topics like amniocentesis, female foeticide, post marriage female abuse and the shameful facet of patriarchy or chaovinism.
Here the protagonist is an ordinary married woman. Even after six years of her marriage due to having diagonised with a gynocological disorder like Endometriosis she was not able to conceive. When she finally was, joyous celebrations didnot fill her home. Rather she was intimidated by the possibility of having a girl baby as her mother-in-law's wished for a grandson. When she started going through domestic violence after being forced to check the gender of the unborn child illegally she had to finally make a choice between her self respect, life of an innocent child and her marriage. After all these hardships, suddenly she had an unusual experience and opportunity of having an enlightening conversation of with a voice residing inside. Was it her own soul, God or the child ?
What is more shameful is that even some backward minded females support female foeticide and patriarchy. Such books need to be written more, st is high time to stop these gender based crimes.
A life of my own by @rupangisharma_ published by @vishwakarmapublications01
The most divine feeling of being a mother, giving birth to a child. It's explained so beautifully and perfectly. The connection of a mother and the to-be-born is stated so nicely it feels blessed to read.
The depiction of the male-dominant world through the struggle of a new born child. The question of "What if it's not a boy.." this all showed and laid before you very openly and fearlessly.
Such issues in the so-called modern world has to be brought out loud and clear. This book did complete justice to it.
The storyline goes very smoothly and is never boring. I loved every single part of it. The best part is, it's completely logical. At no place I felt it as a wonder which happened to Shweta.
Will Shweta's new born baby girl able to face this male-dominated world?
The indelible grapple of a woman in her struggle for freedom and recognition, abominated by the existence and practice of gender based fetus elimination brings to us an desolated yet decorated narration.
The element of magical realism is introduced and imbibed flawlessly into the narration, making it veraciously ineluctable.
After her prolonged struggle with interminable infertility, the protagonist is blessed with the impossible, pregnancy. But, the happiness is short-lived, for the barriers of the society and the grotesque molestation of gender based fetus elimination seeps in. It's here that the author has through the protagonist Shweta, rebuked such practices and procedures. The conversation of the mother to be and her unborn child is surely meant to touch our souls. All this, with the perfect blend of magical realism makes it a irresistible read.
An impressive, relevant and difficult theme to write a fictional story. Kudos to the author on choosing the theme of gender based sex selection.
The protagonist’s character is well constructed. The imaginary conversations of the unborn child with God provides a unique perspective. It would have been great to see the complete or a more developed character arc for the mother and the husband too.
"I'm not brave. I’m just a mother who doesn’t care about her child’s gender. I want to love her, irrespective. That is how it should be, isn’t it?"
Shweta is a housewife, dependent on her husband, Rahul, for everything. All she does is make him breakfast, pack his lunch for office, take care of his dinner, like clockwork. The promises he made to her before marriage meant nothing and Shweta feels stuck in a loveless marriage.
When she is pregnant, she finds her in laws controlling her every move, they send her to a doctor of their choice, to illegally know the sex of the unborn child.
Shweta is treated like a queen when she lies that she is having a boy, as soon as Rahul discovers the truth, she is slapped and abused for carrying a girl child.
She is forced to get an abortion by her in laws, and secretly escapes to her best friend's place to protect her baby.
I find it so upsetting that there are still people who do this, who prefer boys to girls, and the genders are still not considered as equal. Women are still treated like 'Paraya Dhan', their in laws control their every action, and their parents force them to listen to their in laws and protect their marriage.
The book deals with some very important social issues, as abortion, divorce, feminism, domestic abuse, the importance of independence of women, and having the courage to stand against wrong.
There are many organizations like 'Jagruti' that are dealing with these issues and helping women all over the world in standing up for themselves and building a life of their own.
I love Shweta, Neha and Vidya's characters, they portray the roles of powerful, and independent women.
The descriptions of pregnancy, and child birth are so realistic and absorbing. Loved the writing style of the author, and the in between conversations of Anya with God, where he guides the child and tells us that his voice is within us, and we can always find it.
The importance of new beginnings, putting your feelings on display and daring to start all over again makes this book an impactful read.
Since ancient times, India has remained a male dominated country and the gender-bias had done a lot of challenges just increasing the probabilities of never ending inequalities for the opposite gender,
‘A Life Of My Own’ by Rupangi Sharma essays on a sensitive topic of sex determination and abortion in a way of contemporary fiction narrative.
It narrates how families though modern and educated still favor having a boy child and how the girl child is either abandoned or killed inside the mother’s womb. The story thrives forwards to express a would-be-mother’s fear, the emotional connection that makes the mother fearless to accept all hurdles to save her unborn child.
Shweta leads an arranged marriage with Rahul with no communication or connection, let alone love and affection. She thinks that the arrival of a baby would make them closer as a family. Being pregnant, Shweta receives all the love and care that she always wanted with the expectation of having a baby boy. But when an ultrasound result declares that Shweta had conceived a girl.
Furthermore, the story delves on how Shweta faces negligence from her in-laws and her own mother but she’s lucky enough to have good friendships. It's the protagonist’s journey from being clueless, dependent to figure out the ways of the world and develop a family- just her girl and herself.
The story is gripping and moving. It is emotional and heartfelt that talks about how much strength lies in a woman. The journey of Shweta through all breakthroughs is noteworthy. The book is about making a mark for oneself. The book is heavy, the book is vocal on gender-biased society, its rules for women. It is a journey of every single mother- raising and building a child’s future single. Though the idea behind the book was effective, the storytelling lacked in areas that made the story less connected. The element of magical realism of the unborn girl conversing with her mother and God were the highlights.
The issues raised - real life problems with fertility, experience of a married woman, who's a daughter in law before she's a wife or a mother, and of course, the issue of carrying and the question of raising a girl child - are all very important. The issues of womanhood, wifehood and motherhood are explored subtly and could have been articulated better. And the way they're brought together, sometimes through inner dialogue, sometimes through dreams and other forms of subconscious thought and specially through the perspective of the unborn child, in conversation with the creator of the world, the one who built humans and didn't worry about their gender - is also quite a fresh take on the topic. I would also like to take out a minute to mention and appreciate the fact that the book also hints at various misogynistic loopholes in our society and what it means to be a woman today, how it's a constant puzzle, and how, in life of a woman, the agency often lies in the hands of a man. An agency Shweta fights to win over for herself to keep, and for her daughter to inherit.
As a story, with writing potential, it could have been woven with more complexity, but the fact that it's simple- both in thought and in expression, is probably an advantage. The more simpler a difficult topic is expressed in, the wider its reach becomes. And today, even today, a lot of people need to reach this level of awareness.
And finally, coming to the title, it highlights both the key words- a life and one's own. And I like that.
A Life Of My Own by Rupangi Sharma is about gender-biased sex selection. We see our main protagonist Shweta who is married to her husband Rahul and is expecting a baby after years and years of trying. With elements of magical realism, this book is an unflinching portrayal of a woman’s innermost struggles in her journey to break free.
Now, I liked the addition of magical realism in this book, where we see the unborn baby and her communication with the God. This was very different and unique in it's way and also became an added element to the story. The way the baby questions and learn about the outer world before hand was really a beautiful feeling to read.
Coming to the gender biased sex selection, it is a very important topic which even today, in the year 2020 has been practiced in various parts of India and even in well reputed families. So, I am glad the author has written about this topic and we also see Shweta taking a stand for the same as moving ahead with her life.
I was totally annoyed with the character of Rahul and her mother for obvious reasons. But the way we see Shweta's mother change over the course of the story was a really positive sign. We also see the theme of friendship between Shweta and her friend Neha, who helps her throughout her pregnancy. And of course, a happy ending for Shweta and the new baby made it all worth it in the end.
A life of my own by Rupangi Sharma is a book based on the shameful practice of gender recognition before birth and female feoticide. The story revolves around the life of the protagonist , Shweta who was diagnosed with some gynaecology related issues due to which she was unable to experience the phase of motherhood . After several years of medication she got the fruit of her patience . But sadly , her happiness for momentary as she was forced by her in-laws to test the gender of the unborn and get the baby aborted if it's a girl . She even lied and tried to hide the truth from her family but couldn't .It was sad to read how much emotional and physical abuse she had to go through . What happens further in her life? Did she abort her baby or not? There are a lot of layers to this book which can be heartbreaking to accept as it's the reality in many parts of our country even today. Kudos to the author for writing about such a henious malpractice that is still prevailing in our society. I absolutely loved the conversation between the unborn kid and god . It was beautiful and emotional at the same time. The language is very easy and the pace of the book is fine. Overall , a much needed book to spread awareness about this under talked issue of gender revealing. Recommended to all .
There are 2 India which I have seen, one where a girl is considered as "Laxmi" and the other where the same girl is considered as "Burden". That's an incredible India 🙏
1) The Protagonist Shweta is an ordinary married woman like every indian girl.
2) Even after 6 years of her marriage she was not able to conceive a child due to having diagnosed with a gynecological disorder like Endometriosis.
3) Finally the day came which she was waiting for, but the joyous celebrations did not lasted long, as she was tortured for getting checked the gender of the unborn child by her mother in laws and her husband Rahul. As they all wished for a son.
4) She lied to his husband about the child & told him that the child was a boy. Everyone became happy. But soon the truth was revealed & the news of girl child came out.
5) Her husband Rahul gave her a tight slap (THAPPAD) for having a girl child in her womb.
6) She was told to abort the child.
7) She started going through domestic violence, she had to finally make a choice between her self respect, life of an innocent child (girl), Societal issues and her marriage.
Read the book to know what she chooses?
This book covers up so many social issues like Domestic Violence, Divorce, Abuse, Abortion & the main of all "Still the same toxic thinking of some people regarding girl child".
Shweta and her husband was trying to have a baby from a long time, and finally the news of her pregnancy after six years of marriage was a joyous turn in their lives. Shweta ignored the mention of male child, coming frequently in conversation of her in-laws and husband; but she was taken aback when she realized the truth of them being strictly against having a girl child. Being a housewife and dependent on them; Shweta courageously escaped those hypocrites to save her child’s life. The bitter truth about her own birth was an addition to her problems, she was clueless about what she will do with her life and that too with a kid. Her determination, support from her best friend & brother and kicks from her child in the womb, kept her going.
The fictional story sadly contains a huge part of reality; it brings us face to face with the hypocrite society. Writer mentioned all the tiniest details, a pregnant woman has to go through. With the touch of magical realism, this book is surely empowering, valiant & surmountable. It’s a disgrace though, to be a part of society which still opts for abortion, foeticide and killing new born; because of their gender.
Sex selected abortion, however, is seen as an instrument and consequence of male dominance. Selection based on sex is clearly sexual, but not necessarily sexist. The analogy is with the contrast between racist and racial choice. It is as objectionable for a decision to be sexist as for it to be racist. A racially based decision may be founded, however, on ethical preference, not unethical attribution of inferior status to non-preferred races.
This book is based on a crucial and sensitive issue pervaded in our society at large. A conversation between the pregnant mother and the unborn is so gratifying. This book illustrates an important subject but writing could be more subtle and effective. Protagonist Shweta who is married to her husband Rahul and is anticipating a baby after years and years of trying. Painting with magic realism, this book is an unflinching portrayal of a woman’s intimate crusades in her journey. Characters are so well written and the language is modest. Mesmerizing.
A striding account of a voyage from brokenness, told with emotion but with a greatdeal of compassion.
This book will take you on an emotional roller coaster ride. The topic chosen by the author is very sensitive but she captured the reality really well. The story follows the life of Shweta who was facing the issue of fertility. After years and years of trying for a baby, she finally got pregnant and was very happy until her in-laws started torturing her to do the gender reveal test.
Mixed with the element of magic realism, the story was really unique. My favourite part of the book is where the baby has a conversation with God and learns about the society’s issues. This book covers up so many social issues like Domestic Violence, Divorce, Abuse, Abortion. The reality strikes hard whenever there’s a mention of female foeticide and the state of females in India.
The book is written beautifully and the characters are well built. The language is easy and understandable. This book is the debut book of the author and I absolutely loved reading this book. I was hooked till the last page.
A Life of My Own, by Rupangi Sharma @rupangisharma_ published by @vishwakarmapublications01 Is a emotional journey for me, that's harsh reality check of the women in India, and our society. Having a kid myself, this book was not an easy read, it made me sad, upset and even though I know these things, it still made me sad.
✨✨✨ The life of a woman after the so called choice of Marriage, in the male-dominated chauvinist society, where still after the right laws, sex determination test and gender reveal are done illegally objectifying woman and the unborn child. There is a reason it's illegal in India, because the mentality and the situation we woman face after that is a nightmare and the author has beautifully and hashly made the reality seen through this heart wrenching book.
The choices Shweta the main protagonist faces, after years of infertility, things are the same. Her husband Rahul and her inlaws make her question her reality. I personally felt the book is a good read, for today's generation girls and understand the reality behind all the so called modernity facade.
A life of my own is a book that revolves around Shweta and her fights against the society norms. I am glad that I could read a book with such a strong female protagonist. . Shweta is a normal Indian housewife but the thing that makes her different was her strength. Married to Rahul but there were things that she felt was not quite normal between them. When she found out she was pregnant she never even in her dreams had thought that her life will be changed forever. . When she finds out it is a girl, at 1st she hides from her family but later on they find out and pressurize her for an abortion but being strong headed she decides to just ran away and she did it. Vidhya, Neha, and her own family and someone special are also important part of the story. What happens after she leaves, how is everything after it, reason behind her mother's behavior. . Short book but a very strong book. Do read it. Pressurized abortion is illegal 🚫 and people have to stand against it
" Mothers and daughters together are a powerful force to be reckoned with"
The togetherness and bond that a mom and daughter share cannot be found in any other relationship.
A life of my own by Rupangi Sharma is about Shwetha who's pregnant after years of dealing with infertility issues. Her happiness is shattered when her in-laws ask her to abort the foetus considering the gender. More devastating is the husband's indifferent attitude to the issue.
Resolved to raise the child independently, she flees from her in-laws place to stand on her own feet. Her fears become questions to be explored, risks that she could take, knowing that she had found the strength to rise and fall. As her daughter is born, she feels reborn too.
The unborn child and mom exchanging dialogues with elements of magical realism is as beautiful as it sounds! The story portrays the backward Soceity we live in albeit masking ourselves with modernisation.
The writing was easy and even beginners can give it a try, the best thing about the book and author's writing is, she handled sensitive topics so well, with so much delicacy, which makes me feel the amount of involvement she had while writing it. . . The elements of magical realism did make a difference because it adds a different layer to the story. Characters could have been built a more better but for sure their roles were very clear and significant. . . I definitely will recommend it, this book will change something in you. Go for it.
A life of my own is a book that should be included in the essential reading list for everyone in India. It tackles important topics that I thought was long abolished. Being in a urban set up, I don't come across such cases of cruelty often. This book was an eye opening experience for me. This book talks about female foeticide. Even though there are laws that forbid doctors from revealing the sex of the child, certain people do find out illegally. After they get to know that the child is a girl, they force the mother to abort the child.
My blood boiled as I read the story of the brave Shwetha who goes through hell and back in order to save her baby girl, Anya. There was an element of magic realism in the book which I adored. There were portions in the book where a conversation between God and the baby occurred in the womb and it was pretty touching. We get to see how difficult it is to say "No" in some families. It actually made me have a deep conversation with my mom about any difficulties she faced as a mother to 2 girls. I was surprised to hear her story too.
If you want to widen your experience of the world and read about a woman who had the courage to fight when it was easier to give up, please pick this up. You won't regret it.
A life of my own by Rupangi Sharma is a book I highly recommend everybody to read ! It is about how the female protagonist goes to the end of the world to save her unborn child !
Shweta’s husband and parents are very keen on having a male child and when the gender of the foetus is illegally (To avoid a situation where women are being pressurized by the family to abort female fetuses, the Indian Parliament in 1994 passed the ‘Prenatal Diagnostic Techniques (Regulation and Prevention of Misuse) Act that bans the determination of the gender of the fetus before birth)determined as female , Shweta’s life changes overnight ! It was so infuriating to see how everybody in the family who were worried that hadn’t conceived for years suddenly want her to abort the baby ! I could not believe that female infanticides are still prevalant
One min I was telling myself I’ll read 50pgs before I sleep and the next minute I realise its dawn and I am done with the book.. I loved how the author chiseled a strong mother character in Shweta. I also loved these tiny conversations that her unborn baby in the womb has with God. It was not only emotional but also very cute and well imagined ! The only thing I did not like about the book was the Bollywood cliche ending. I saw it coming the entire time and still prayed that it shouldn’t happen but boy it did ! Nevertheless I enjoyed the book and once again request both men and women to give this book a try
This book is not just a fictional story of a young women and her struggles to break from societal norms but it highlights the prevalence of female infanticide not just amongst the poor and less educated but in well read and well educated middle class and elite society as well. A well written debut novel by the author.