我真的有理由

by Shinsuke Yoshitake, 吉竹伸介

◎吉竹伸介亲子解压绘本《我真的有理由》《我真的有意见》，3000位书店店员评选的“MOE绘本书店大奖”第-1-名
◎孩子的所有行为，都是“有理由”的，与其一味地说“不可以”，不如听听他们的想法吧！如果真的有理由，挖鼻孔也没关系吧。
◎在《我真的有理由》中，妈妈没有去否定孩子的各种理由，而是先好好听孩子在说什么。孩子会因为感受到，妈妈在好好听我说话，而更加努力去思考想要表达什么。我也是有孩子的人，能够理解这样的信赖关系，但实际上这样的交流很困难……家长往往忍不住就会生气说“这是借口！”
我和我的孩子相处时也还做不到，如果可以，我希望自己起码在十次里，有一两次会愿意让步。如果读者看了这本书，能开始在日常生活中，设身处地去与孩子对话，我会觉得很开心。如此一来，妈妈与孩子都会变得轻松一些，这样充满弹性的相处模式能让亲子关系更融洽。《我真的有理由》中描绘的是非常好的亲子关系，如果大人有这样的耐心就好了，这就是我想传达的。——吉竹伸介
◎书中描绘的场景真实地发生在儿童的日常生活中——挖鼻孔、咬指甲、抖腿……大概所有的家长都会感同身受地频频点头。与生活中不同的是，作者让书中的孩子说出了行动的原因。当孩子说挖鼻孔是为了发射开心电波时，妈妈说“妈妈现在已经很开心了，请别再发开心电波了”。面对这些稀奇古怪的理由，妈妈非但没拆穿、不发怒，还耐心听完，并且对孩子说：“原来如此，我明白啦。”“原来如此”，是一句多么好的话，包含着理解和承认。简单粗暴的指责会伤害孩子们的自尊心，使他们变得畏缩或是产生抵触情绪。而给孩子们以辩解和发表意见的机会，在理解他们的基础上提出要求，教育才能取得成果。——邢台市第--实验小学校长 王翠芳
我喜欢挖鼻孔，妈妈总是批评我。理由是“这样不文明”。我也要找个理由！这样我就可以挖鼻孔了吧？其实啊，我的鼻子里有一个开关，只要不停地摁，大脑就会发射“开心电波”。这种电波能让大家变开心！
我不是在抖腿，我是在讲鼹鼠语呀，我要把今天发生的事情告诉鼹鼠。把饭撒得到处都是，是因为有一些神秘的小生物对我说：“给我们也分一点儿好吃的饭吧！”
你看，我真的有理由！话说，大人也有一些不经意的小动作吧？妈妈经常玩头发，有什么理由吗？

常听说要多鼓励和夸奖孩子，实际做起来却很难做得到。这本书让我感受到，不要断然地否定孩子的习惯与编造的可爱借口，和孩子站在同一个角度，多给些时间好好沟通，建立好亲子关系比什么都重要。推荐给正在育儿的爸爸妈妈们。——日本读者 吉竹伸介
绘本作家、插画家，1973年出生于日本神奈川县。吉竹伸介小时候是个怕生、内向的孩子，觉得自己做什么都不行，后来因为想当一名制作电影道具或玩偶的手工艺人，学了筑波大学艺术研究科的综合造型专业。毕业后，他进入一家游戏公司，为了缓解压力，常在工作间隙画插画，30岁时出版了自己第--本插画集。
在成为两个孩子的爸爸之后，吉竹伸介出版了第--部绘本《这是苹果吗也许是吧》，孩子能从书中感受到“自由想象”的乐趣，一个人也可以乐呵呵地读下去。这部绘本获得3000位书店店员评选的“MOE绘本书店大奖”第--名、12万日本小学生评选的“我喜欢的童书”总决选第三名、日本产经儿童出版文化奖·美术奖。由此，吉竹伸介成为日本绘本界备受瞩目的作家。
此后，他又陆续出版了《好无聊啊好无聊》《做个机器人假装是我》《脱不下来啦》《只能这样吗不一定吧》《看得见看不见》等作品。其中，《脱不下来啦》获得2017年博洛尼亚国际童书展特别奖，《好无聊啊好无聊》《只能这样吗不一定吧》入选《纽约时报》年度童书。他的绘本已被翻译成中文、英语、法语、西班牙语等，深受世界各国读者喜爱。

Genres: Picture Books, Humor, Childrens, Japanese Literature, Fiction, Japan, Family

33 pages, Kindle Edition

First published March 6, 2015

About the author

Associated Names:
* ヨシタケ シンスケ (Japanese)
* Shinsuke Yoshitake (English)
* 吉竹伸介 (Chinese)
* 요시타케 신스케 (Korean)
* ชินสุเกะ โยชิทาเกะ (Thai)

Shinsuke Yoshitake is the author-illustrator of many award-winning picture books, including New York Times Notable Children's Book of the Year There Must Be More Than That!, New York Times Best Illustrated Children's Book of the Year The Boring Book, I Can Be Anything, I Won't Give Up My Rubber Band, and I Can Explain. His books have been translated into more than 10 languages. He lives in Japan.

Reviews

[Dream.M · Rating 3 out of 5]

بسیار کیوت

[Maede · Rating 3 out of 5]

چرا دست تو دماغت می‌کنی؟
چرا ناخون‌هات رو می‌خوری؟
چرا غذات رو می‌ریزی رو میز؟

ببین راستش می‌تونم برات توضیح بدم. قضیه اینه که....

داستان راجع به پسریه که برای همه‌ی عادت‌های بدش دلیل‌ داره (می‌سازه). چون اگر برای کاری دلیل داشته باشی، انجام دادنش درسته، نه؟

کتاب رو می‌تونید از اینجا دانلود کنید
Maede's Books

۱۴۰۳/۵/۲۹

[Rana Heshmati · Rating 4 out of 5]

توی این کتاب، شینسوکهٔ بامزهٔ عزیزم، برای کارای کوچیکی که ممکنه بره روی اعصاب دیگران، دلیل‌تراشی‌های خرانه می‌کنه. :)))

[Rod Brown · Rating 2 out of 5]

A boy tells his mother increasingly fanciful rationalizations for his bad habits and behavior.

The worst part of reading a bland book like this is to look up the forgettable author and realize that you've read another bland book by them before (see: The I Wonder Bookstore). Tricked again by my own bad memory and willingness to read books with little to no foreknowledge or research.

(Another project! I'm trying to read all the picture books and graphic novels on the kids section of NPR's Books We Love 2022.)

[Essareh · Rating 4 out of 5]

خیلی خیلی خیلی خیلی بامزه‌ست. باید بقیهٔ جلدها رو هم بخونم.
برای یاددادن دلیل‌آوری منطقی و غیرمنطقی به بچه‌ها خیلی خوبه.

ممنون که خوندید.💙

۳۱ شهریور ۱۴۰۴
تخت

[شهرزاد · Rating 3 out of 5]

چرا دست تو دماغت میکنی؟
ببین اجازه بده برات توضیح بدم. من در واقع دست توی دماغم نمیکنم بلکه....
اخه نمک!
چطوری همچین دلایل نمکی برای کارای بدت میاری.

[Narges Shegeft · Rating 3 out of 5]

Cheerful beams =))))

[Farjaneh_ · Rating 2 out of 5]

هو النور
این جلد رو دوست نداشتم

[Neftis · Rating 4 out of 5]

Me ha parecido interesante porque trata el tema de las manías o 'malos hábitos' y de las razones que ponemos para tenerlos.
La madre de este niño es un poco asfixiante con él ya que no le pasa una y de ahí que se invente las razones para todo eso. Pero no solo los niños tienen manías, también los adultos tienen que aprender a controlarlas.
Me ha gustado, sobre todo por la imaginación del niño.

[Rohan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved it, thanks library!

[Cassie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Shinsuke Yoshitake has the marvelous imagination of a child. I've loved his other books and this one is just as clever. For all of the annoying things a child does, he has an explanation for why he must do them. The child picks his nose because there's a button in the back of his nose that releases cheerful beams! He climbs on things to train for when he finds a cat stuck in a tree. Hahaha! And at the end the mom joins in with her own creative explanation which is perfect, reminding us all to connect with our own wild imaginations.

**I also love when the little boy is naked, he is drawn anatomically correct.

[Lisa Johnson · Rating 4 out of 5]

We go about our day fiddling, doing things we aren’t aware of doing, and why? I clench my jaws a lot but don’t realize it until I start to have a headache. I still can’t explain when I do that. I shake my legs when I’m nervous. I twirl my hair when I’m tired and am trying to stay awake. I bite my cuticles when I’m anxious and time is going too slow.

This book made me more aware of all of those things I do and maybe I will start being more aware of other things I do that I didn’t know I did and have an explanation for it.

Really good picture book for kids to read with their adults!

[Paulette · Rating 5 out of 5]

SO adorable, so cute!!

[DonutKnow · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is so clever 😂 Although my mum would probably just call me a smart Alec 😂😂

[Sheila · Rating 5 out of 5]

AHAHAHAHA I LITERALLY LAUGHED OUT LOUD.

[Sha Mohamed · Rating 3 out of 5]

Memang comel sangat watak dalam buku ini.. Memberikan penjelasan untuk setiap tingkah laku beliau..

[Laura · Rating 5 out of 5]

"-què difícil m'ho poses! sembla que tens raons per a tot!
-així és! i tu també m'ho poses difícil!"

[lammy · Rating 5 out of 5]

maybe im overly sentimental but this book is peak and i wish i had a 4 year old child to read this to but maybe i can wait 10 more years actually

[Lisa Boyd · Rating 5 out of 5]

Cute. There is a little nekkid spot but I think we could still read it at storytime

[Emmy · Rating 2 out of 5]

As someone who is a bit of a fidget, I found this book incredibly stressful, but also very funny. I love this author, but this is not one of my favorites.

[Golden Ginkgo · Rating 5 out of 5]

Translated from its original Japanese, 我有理由 (I Have a Reason) by Shinsuke Yoshitake is a hilarious picture book, intended for preschool and younger elementary school children. In this book, a little boy tries to explain away his bad habits with very elaborate and very silly reasons. He has to pick his nose because there is a button inside his head. If he just presses this button endlessly he'll send out happiness beams that will make every person happy! So really, what choice does he have?

For more about 我有理由 check out my post: Mandarin Monday: 我有理由

For more book recommendations, including Mandarin Chinese titles, check out my blog: Golden Ginkgo Books

[Agel · Rating 5 out of 5]

full of imagination 🌈🧚‍♀️🛸

[CallmeJames · Rating 5 out of 5]

𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐇𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐬𝐡 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 "𝐈 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐧", 𝐖𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈𝐥𝐥𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐒𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐮𝐤𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞

👦🏻👩🏻🖍️🛼🎨🩹 "I Can Explain" is a masterful exploration of a child’s boundless imagination, where the mundane transforms into the extraordinary. This book invites readers into a realm where lost socks are not merely misplaced but are part of a grand conspiracy, and vegetables engage in nocturnal dance rehearsals. Yoshitake’s narrative is a delightful blend of whimsy and intellect, challenging readers to view the world through a lens of playful absurdity.

👦🏻👩🏻🖍️🛼🎨🩹 The narrative is both intellectually stimulating and delightfully eccentric. This book is a haven for those who revel in the unconventional, offering a sophisticated yet whimsical escape from reality. Yoshitake’s illustrations and storytelling are a testament to the beauty of embracing one’s inner oddball. For those who find solace in the peculiar, this book is a beacon, guiding you to a community of like-minded individuals who celebrate the weird and wonderful. Together, you will navigate the delightful chaos of Yoshitake’s world, finding joy in the shared experience of being just a little bit weirder. Embrace the eccentricity and let your imagination soar!

[Tompkins County Public Library Youth Services]

Cassie's Thoughts: Shinsuke Yoshitake has the marvelous imagination of a child. I've loved his other books and this one is just as clever. For all of the annoying things a child does, he has an explanation for why he must do them. The child picks his nose because there's a button in the back of his nose that releases cheerful beams! He climbs on things to train for when he finds a cat stuck in a tree. Hahaha! And at the end the mom joins in with her own creative explanation which is perfect, reminding us all to connect with our own wild imaginations. I also love when the little boy is naked, he is drawn anatomically correct.

[Kirsti · Rating 4 out of 5]

From the author of The Boring Book. First line: "I have a habit of picking my nose."

Appealing story (if you don't mind reading about gross habits). Utterly delightful art. I liked the creative kid, but I loved the beleaguered mom who apparently does nothing but complete housework, try to make her kid less of a wild animal, and stand there exhausted while he spins out wild story after wild story. If she ever has any fun—a spouse who loves her, a book club with her friends, a cute outfit, five minutes to herself—this book does not reveal it. Oh, wait, in the endpaper she sings off-key in the car. WHEW.

[Sadie-Jane Huff · Rating 5 out of 5]

Book 027 of 350 ~ 2025

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Yes, yes, I get that it is a kid, but those are some foul bad habits.

What i am impressed by is the imagination to come up with the most incredulous reasons for his bad habits.

Looks like he takes after his mom in that sense, lol

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[Erin · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.5

I really like the sense of humor in Yoshitake's books. In this one, the parent is getting after the child for any number of irritating and questionable habits. Picking his nose, biting his nails, fidgets and spills and running around naked, and the like. Said child decides that these behaviors will not be so frowned upon if there is a reasonable enough explanation for them. Some of the impulses are explained better than others, but my favorite is when the parent is duly accused of twiddly, repetitive behaviors and must come up with her own explanation.

Note: brief child nudity.

[Christie Kaaland · Rating 4 out of 5]

Why, this young lad has an excuse for everything! When his mum asks him to stop picking his nose, he explains the real reason for the act: the happy button in his nose sheds joy to those around him. And other bad habits like chewing his nails, noisy straw sounds, and dirty hand wiping for all he has an excuse, and even his mom, he points out, has some bad manners and habits. Some nudity in his bad habits.

[Indy · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really love Yoshitake's picture books, as they are really fun to read and meaningful. This one is about little bad habits in daily life which the mother would like to correct. Yet, the son came up with so many different creative and hilarious excuses for the bad habits. The way the mother dealt with it was so inspiring. Another great picture book for children and adults.

[Renee MA · Rating 1 out of 5]

As the boy is repeatedly criticized by his caretaker, he creates reasons for his totally normal quirks and habits. But let's be real, wiggling and nail biting aren't 'bad manners', as the caregiver calls them. While I get what the author was going for, the execution was poor. Even the cute art couldn't save it. (The naked kid was actually really funny, so it isn't that)