Violent behavior. Eating disorders. Drug use and drinking. Self- mutilation. These are just some of the troubling issues arising with increased frequency among teens. As they negotiate adolescence, our children become harder to reach -- and are more at risk. In order to help them, we need to understand what is really behind their problems. The answer lies in the very nature of the quest for identity. "Who am I?" is the central question of growing up, and The Identity Trap gets to the heart of why our teens so easily fall prey to their own worst impulses and to the destructive habits of their peers. Nowinski, a psychologist who has worked with troubled teens for over two decades, demonstrates that traditional methods of discipline (e.g. reward and punishment) will have no lasting effect if the root causes of teens' problems are left unchecked. This eye-opening book offers real solutions for opening the lines of communication and helping children survive the seemingly universal perils of growing up. Filled with inspiring real-life stories, The Identity Trap will resonate with those parents frustrated by their inability to combat their children's problems; with parents looking to prevent problems; and with professionals seeking a better way to help kids find the right path to adulthood.
Joseph Nowinski is a psychologist at the University of Connecticut Health Center. The founder of the Institute of Interpersonal Sensitivity, he also has a private practice in Tolland, Connecticut, where he lives.
Wish my parents got a hold of this book before I did. As a teenager guilty of having the same problems as the teens featured in this book, it could've been really helpful if my parents - perhaps, all parents out there - have this book shed them some light as it did to me about adolescent behavior.