A rather difficult and rewarding read. This book is not for the large public, it is closer to the academic style. I had to approach it in small bites as it assumed a lot of background knowledge and understanding. The writing is convoluted and at times difficult to follow, with many digressions and intertwining of various ideas, the reader if often left alone in identifying what the main tenets are, without much help from the author or the editing of the book (as it was put together post-humously from Kohut's various manuscripts).
The main idea of the book was to explore a different approach to therapy, one that focuses on the importance of self-objects (people that played a major role in one's emotional development, usually, but not necessarily, the parents) their role in establishing a nuclear self. The reactions and responses that we receive from self-objects help us build a coherent self which is becomes autonomous in a healthy way. The failure of self-objects to provide not only the necessary support but also the necessary frustrations leaves the self without a coherent structure and without the proper mechanisms to relate to life in adulthood. Seems like most of the ideas are well accepted in modern psychoanalysis, but at the time of the book it flewed in the face of the traditional Freudian theory of drives and the three-partite structure of the self (id-ego-superego).
A worthy and difficult read to which I shall return for further research and inspiration.