Successful First Dates: A guide for understanding sexual attraction and dating in modern times

by Mario Gudec

One of the most difficult tasks for adult men is to find a compatible person with whom they can start a family and live in a harmonious relationship. In the turbulent world of rapid changes, this is unfortunately becoming an increasingly difficult task. Changing the approach from classic live dating to virtual online dating changes people's perspective and expectations. In order to stay on trend and merge with new technologies, self-education is necessary in all areas of life in which we want to be successful. The purpose of this book is to understand the modern way of meeting people and what to watch out for in order not to be eliminated from the game even before we start. The concept of a "healthy man" stands out in particular and what it implies so that women would perceive us as a good opportunity. The book systematically describes the typical expectations of women and how they can be met from a male perspective. The concept of successful first dates and how to achieve them is the main theme throughout the entire book. Based on personal experiences and general education about human psychology, the writer describes what women look for in romantic relationships, where to find quality women, how to approach them either live or online, and how we should behave on first dates. Through short templates and ideas for the first communication, the importance of the first impression, intelligence and storytelling as the basis for achieving success with women is highlighted. Whether you're a complete newbie getting ready for your first date, or you're afraid to start over because your last relationship didn't work out, this book will give you tips to guide you to make it easier.

100 pages, Kindle Edition

Published December 22, 2022

About the author

I’ve spent a significant chunk of my life glued to a chair, devouring long, complex books that sparked my curiosity. But at 38, I had an epiphany: why not save others from the same fate? So, I switched gears and started writing short, relatable books on topics that fascinate me—designed to inform, inspire, and, most importantly, help people reclaim their precious time on this beautiful planet.

By day, I’m an electrical engineer with a YouTube channel where I explore everything from alternative energy sources to the ever-elusive perpetual motion machine (spoiler: still working on it). I also dabble in other topics that intrigue me, because why not?

In my younger years, I tried my hand (and legs) at sports like Taekwondo and athletics, and let’s just say I’m pretty content with the medals—or lack thereof—that I walked away with. In my twenties, I gave music production a shot, but apparently, the world wasn’t ready for my electronic beats. Or maybe I just wasn’t that talented.

I’m passionate about self-improvement, psychology, and, more recently, lifespan and healthspan research. Because who doesn’t want to live longer and healthier while reading relatable books, right?

Here’s the thing: just reading books won’t change your life. Action will. Set some goals and chase them. And hey, if your only goal is to cozy up with a good book, that’s fine too—just remember there’s a whole world out there waiting for you to explore it (after finishing my book, of course).

If you enjoy my work and want to keep the spark alive, your support means the world. Let’s keep exploring, learning, and laughing together!

Reviews

[Ramzi Najjar · Rating 5 out of 5]

I picked up Successful First Dates hoping for a practical guide to improve my dating life, and it didn’t disappoint. Mario Gudec lays out advice in a way that feels easy to follow and actionable, covering everything from self-improvement to understanding what women are looking for in a partner.

One thing I really appreciated is that it’s a short read—just over 100 pages—but packed with useful insights. The author doesn’t waste time on fluff, instead focusing on clear, practical advice. It’s easy to go through in one or two sittings and start applying the tips right away.

What really stood out to me was the emphasis on being authentic and respectful. It’s not about using cheesy pickup lines or playing games—it’s about showing up as the best version of yourself and building genuine connections. The chapters about women’s fears and expectations were eye-opening, helping me better understand the other side of dating.

The advice on grooming, dressing well, and improving confidence felt practical and achievable, even for someone who’s not naturally outgoing. There’s also a good balance between tips for online dating and in-person interactions, which is great in today’s world.

That said, some parts of the book felt repetitive—ideas like honesty and self-improvement get mentioned a lot. I also would’ve liked to see more personal stories or examples to make the advice feel more relatable. But overall, these are small things compared to how much value the book offers.

If you’re a guy who’s serious about stepping up your dating game without resorting to gimmicks, I’d definitely recommend giving this book a read. It’s short, but it’s packed with practical advice that goes beyond just first dates—it’s about becoming someone worth dating.