Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

by Rian Stone

Rian Stone once called the Red Pill praxeology the Chilton Manual for intersexual dynamics. Chilton Manuals were model and make-specific handbooks that auto mechanics used to identify parts and processes to repair cars. Everything about that car, from the smallest lug nut to the biggest engine block, would be detailed in that manual. The Chilton Manual doesn’t care what you think about the car’s design, nor does it bother debating how best to repair or drive the vehicle. It only details what that car is. The Chilton Manual is a perfect praxeology.
— Rollo Tomassi

Frame is the first in a series, descripting the work of thousands of men over a decade who have learned how to create a positive male identity in a world that not only lacks it, but punishes it. This first volume describes the tetrahedron of frame, and how to use it to calm the chaos in a suboptimal life, and drive towards something better

self actualization

Genres: Relationships, Self Help, Psychology

262 pages, Kindle Edition

Published December 29, 2022

Reviews

[Josh Dzarir · Rating 5 out of 5]

A deep dive into the intricacies of the human mind. One of the highlights is the chapter on 'Modern Challenges and Ancient Solutions', where the author masterfully juxtaposes the struggles of contemporary life with time-tested wisdom. The real-life examples sprinkled throughout make the concepts relatable and actionable. I was particularly struck by the section on 'Building Resilience in a Fast-paced World', which offers readers tangible strategies to not just cope but thrive amidst adversity. The author's narrative style is engaging, making complex ideas easily digestible. This book serves as a comprehensive guide for anyone seeking to understand themselves better and find their path in the modern world.

[Sarah · Rating 4 out of 5]

I enjoyed this book more than I expected. While there were points I didn’t fully agree with, I made a conscious effort to keep an open mind. The author makes broad generalizations rooted in psychology and research about the subconscious differences between men and women. At first this can feel uncomfortable, but by stepping back and looking at it objectively, I was able to reflect on my own behaviors and experiences in a new way.

One section that stood out to me was the discussion on instincts versus behaviors. Stone explains how men may have natural instincts during conflict but must consciously choose how to respond rather than simply follow those impulses. The same idea applies to women. Just because we may have certain tendencies doesn’t mean we’re defined by them—our growth depends on how we choose to act. That perspective helped me avoid taking things personally and instead think critically about the points being made.

Although the book is clearly written with men in mind, I found value in it as a woman. Understanding how men and women’s brains can function differently gives insight into building stronger relationships, both personally and professionally. Regardless of gender, intentional learning and self-awareness are what ultimately drive growth.

[Vincent · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is not an instruction manual that gives you Ten Rules and you are going to be a better man. This is a book that gives you tools how to think and approach life as a male in the human species to be better equipped to deal with the opposite sex and have successful interactions with them. Its a practical book that requires practicum effort on the readers part. If you internalize it and go through an interaction and able to see why you succeed and why you fail, then you got it. It takes a lot of effort to even begin because of the upbringing most young men have today. But if You can take control of yourself and be the man you want to be, then you will have what you want and deserve.

[JM · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the type of book that you should read and reread a few times. I like how Rian separated the different aspects of frame and developing frame into physical, intellectual, and emotional. The book is jam packed with information, models, and ideas on how to think. I am looking forward to volume two.

[Chris · Rating 3 out of 5]

As for content is a 5 star book. It is losing a star because of the typos and grammatical errors, please review and edit the book before you publish it. Also at points it's politically biased, it is more than clear than author has personal issues with Democrats. We are not all Americans and we don't care, it is supposed to be a self help book.

[Jeff Cox · Rating 3 out of 5]

5 stars for the content, but 2 stars for spelling and grammar throughout the book.

[Meredith is a hot mess · Rating 2 out of 5]

2 "it was okay" stars.

I'm obviously not the target audience, but I found this book helpful in understanding a subsection of the male population.

In the realm of manosphere there are books directed towards young men (historically The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists) and then there are healthier books like No More Mr. Nice Guy, which I've read and is source material for much of this book. Both this book and No More Mr. Nice Guy are aimed for married men vs those dating or wanting to hook up with women.

An authentically confident person knows how to create a vision for their life (frame) and set healthy boundaries. They don't read books like this. No More Mr. Nice Guy does a good job at articulating how covert contracts (nice guy behavior) is problematic, while this book takes it a step further and encourages narcisstic manipulation tactics that are rooted in insecurity and encourage (IMhO) codependency and anxious attachment styles.

New words/acronyms I learned in this book:

hamstering
DEER (defend, explain, excuse, rationalize)

I plan on reading book 2 DREAD, later.

[Hooman Madani · Rating 5 out of 5]

هدف کتاب تغییر نحوه تعامل مردان با همسران یا دوستان دخترشان از طریق معرفی و شرح ابزارهایی برای تغییر است. در این کتاب از پکیجهای رفتاری مرسوم خبری نیست و به جای آن به تغییر دیدگاهها میپردازد.
به تعبیر نویسنده این تغییر از طریق تغییر چهار ضلع چهارچوب (فریم) رفتاری و کرداری مردان امکانپذیر است.
شرح این چهار ضلع از ظاهر یا آنچه به زعم نویسنده آنچه مردان باید بنظر برسند شروع میشود و از لباس گرفته تا انواع ادوکلن را با جزییات ضروری توضیح میدهد.
ضلع دوم ابزارهای عقلانی است. مردان با زنان در نحوه پردازش امور عقلانی متفاوتند. آقای استون آنچه که مردان مدرن در این مورد تصور میکنند را غلط میداند و در این مورد توضیح میدهد. علاوه بر شرح تفاوتها ابزارهایی برای تغییر نگرش مردان امروزی ارائه شده است.
ضلع سوم احساسات است. علاوه بر شرح تفاوتهای زن و مرد در مسائل احساسی، نویسنده ابزارهایی را نیز برای مردان علاقمند شرح میدهد.
ضلع چهارم بینش یا ویژن است. برخلاف سه ضلع قبلی که میتوانید به موازات هم آنها را بسط دهید و به سطح خوبی برسانید، ضلع چهارم تنها در صورتی میتواند به سطح قابل قبولی برسد که کارتان را با سه ضلع قبلی تمام کرده باشید.
بنظر نویسنده ضلع چهارم یا بینش است که به مردان آنچه که یک "مرد ایده آل" در جامعه تصور میشود را اعطا میکند.
کنابی است که چشمتان را باز میکند. در طول خواندن کتاب بارها احساس میکنید تاکنون هیچ نمیدانسته اید.
کتابی است که بنظرم خواندنش برای تمامی مردان ایرانی یک "باید" است.
نکته آخر این است که منتظر ترجمه اش نباشید. ترجمه این کتاب منتظر جامعه ای بازتر است.

[T. Laane · Rating 5 out of 5]

A book about having balls with women. It tends to be a book about manipulation - but as the author argues well, everywhere in life we have manipulation. If you don’t manipulate, YOU are being manipulated anyway. Better to know about all the ways. In the same manner the author argues that if You don’t give a message through your physique/clothes, then You STILL are giving a message through them. So better to be aware in everything, and to CHOOSE the message. I personally like that the author thinks very highly of himself and he is correct on a lot of things. So a book about having big balls, from an author with big balls :) A nice amount of masculinity I’d recommend to any man.

[Mr I · Rating 5 out of 5]

perfect manual to shed limiting mental models thrust upon you without even realising

Read the title. Delivers what it says on the tin. Emotional Pillar is what was most thought provoking and beneficial

[Ben · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic book. Top ten most influential book in my life. Really helped me recognize patterns in my life that were preventing me from a successful relationship and authenticity.

[Mr-Mohamed Mohamoud · Rating 5 out of 5]

Must read book for soy boy

[Thehagengnome · Rating 4 out of 5]

There is a lot of value to gain from this book, especially if you are new to the manosphere or masculinity in general.

After reading through the entire thing and making copious amounts of notes in it, I can confidently say that I think almost any man can glean a lot of value from this book.

The biggest issue with this book is its technical problems. Typos, grammatical errors, formatting errors and the like are much more prevalent than they should be and somewhat takes away from the experience of reading through the book.

There should have been some severe proofreading done before this book was put out to get rid of most if not all the errors I saw throughout my read.

On a contents level, I think this book deserves a strong 4/5, but on a technical level, it is a 3/5 at best, maybe even a 2/5 with the number of errors I saw. With some updates to the book on a technical level I think the reading experience can be greatly improved.

Even in its current state, I think it is a worthwhile read with a lot of valuable knowledge you can utilize for your own success and happiness.

[John · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good advice but desperately needs an editor