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House on Fire
How far would you go to keep a promise?
Bernadette Rogers swore she’d never put her father in a nursing home. Does that include euthanizing him to keep her word? Her mother thinks it does. Bernadette isn’t so sure. And even if she were, it’s not like you can walk into a drug store and buy Nembutal.
As an ICU nurse Bernadette's no stranger to the blunt realities of death, but her mother’s request to help her father—who’s disappearing into the abyss of dementia—go “peacefully” blindsides her. Her mother thinks it’s assisted suicide. Bernadette knows better. Even if they do it for all the right reasons, it would still be murder.
Surrounded by conflicting voices, Bernadette doesn't know which way to turn. Her self-righteous sister insists it's a sin. Her magnanimous ex thinks her mother will try it alone. Then best friend offers to help. What was supposed to be a relaxing two-week break becomes an emotional rollercoaster as Bernadette is forced to make an agonizing decision about her beloved father and figure out just how far she’s willing to go for love.
For fans of Jodi Picoult and Lisa Genova, House on Fire is an unforgettable story of family, friendship, and the promises we aren’t sure anyone should honor.
Bernadette Rogers swore she’d never put her father in a nursing home. Does that include euthanizing him to keep her word? Her mother thinks it does. Bernadette isn’t so sure. And even if she were, it’s not like you can walk into a drug store and buy Nembutal.
As an ICU nurse Bernadette's no stranger to the blunt realities of death, but her mother’s request to help her father—who’s disappearing into the abyss of dementia—go “peacefully” blindsides her. Her mother thinks it’s assisted suicide. Bernadette knows better. Even if they do it for all the right reasons, it would still be murder.
Surrounded by conflicting voices, Bernadette doesn't know which way to turn. Her self-righteous sister insists it's a sin. Her magnanimous ex thinks her mother will try it alone. Then best friend offers to help. What was supposed to be a relaxing two-week break becomes an emotional rollercoaster as Bernadette is forced to make an agonizing decision about her beloved father and figure out just how far she’s willing to go for love.
For fans of Jodi Picoult and Lisa Genova, House on Fire is an unforgettable story of family, friendship, and the promises we aren’t sure anyone should honor.
284 pages, Kindle Edition
Published March 31, 2023
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About the author
D. Liebhart
2 books129 followersD. Liebhart is a nurse and writer. She writes (and sometimes lives) stories about ordinary people in extraordinary circumstances, where they learn that life is rarely predictable and answers to the most complex questions are almost never black and white.
House on Fire, her first novel, won the 2023 Page Turner Award for both fiction and debut. It was long-listed for the 2022 Petrichor Prize and received an honorable mention from Writer’s Digest. Her essay Thalassophobia (a true account of a very out-of-the-ordinary honeymoon) won the 2021 Linda Julian Creative Nonfiction Prize from Emrys Journal.
NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR ABOUT HER BOOK REVIEWS: My reviews don't include storyline summaries because I personally prefer not to know much about a book or film before I dive in. I want to go on the adventure without knowing anything about where things are headed. I also don’t include summaries because excellent ones abound in other reviews. No one needs my very similar (and likely less excellent) attempt.
I have a personal rating system that attempts to acknowledge that a lot of opinions about books are a matter of preference rather than a matter of quality. Something might not be my cup of tea. That doesn’t mean it’s a bad book. It just means I personally didn’t like it. I recently had a conversation with another writer about a very popular novel (nominated for top awards). She loved it and I absolutely hated it. Not every book is for every reader.
The Liebhart Cuppa Tea Rating Scheme:
1 - Not my cup of tea
2 - Tepid but drinkable
3 - A decent cuppa, no frills
4 - A lovely cuppa, no biscuit
5 - A lovely cuppa, with a Biscoff biscuit (or two) on the side
House on Fire, her first novel, won the 2023 Page Turner Award for both fiction and debut. It was long-listed for the 2022 Petrichor Prize and received an honorable mention from Writer’s Digest. Her essay Thalassophobia (a true account of a very out-of-the-ordinary honeymoon) won the 2021 Linda Julian Creative Nonfiction Prize from Emrys Journal.
NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR ABOUT HER BOOK REVIEWS: My reviews don't include storyline summaries because I personally prefer not to know much about a book or film before I dive in. I want to go on the adventure without knowing anything about where things are headed. I also don’t include summaries because excellent ones abound in other reviews. No one needs my very similar (and likely less excellent) attempt.
I have a personal rating system that attempts to acknowledge that a lot of opinions about books are a matter of preference rather than a matter of quality. Something might not be my cup of tea. That doesn’t mean it’s a bad book. It just means I personally didn’t like it. I recently had a conversation with another writer about a very popular novel (nominated for top awards). She loved it and I absolutely hated it. Not every book is for every reader.
The Liebhart Cuppa Tea Rating Scheme:
1 - Not my cup of tea
2 - Tepid but drinkable
3 - A decent cuppa, no frills
4 - A lovely cuppa, no biscuit
5 - A lovely cuppa, with a Biscoff biscuit (or two) on the side
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June 22, 2024
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House on Fire by D. Liebhart
Wow, this is a heavy book. It is well-written and it paints a vivid picture of life in California, from the Pacific coastline to the valley. There are moments of beautiful, insightful writing.
There are also complicated family relationships and really heavy subject matter: dementia, euthanasia, death, and youth mental illness. There is a lot of fighting between Bernadette and her mother and sister, particularly about whether euthanasia is the right solution for their dad, who is suffering from dementia.
I feel so sorry for Bernadette. Her life is so hard, and so much is going wrong.
Thanks to Victory Editing NetGalley Co-op for my ARC. Expected publication is on March 31, 2023
House on Fire by D. Liebhart
Wow, this is a heavy book. It is well-written and it paints a vivid picture of life in California, from the Pacific coastline to the valley. There are moments of beautiful, insightful writing.
There are also complicated family relationships and really heavy subject matter: dementia, euthanasia, death, and youth mental illness. There is a lot of fighting between Bernadette and her mother and sister, particularly about whether euthanasia is the right solution for their dad, who is suffering from dementia.
I feel so sorry for Bernadette. Her life is so hard, and so much is going wrong.
Thanks to Victory Editing NetGalley Co-op for my ARC. Expected publication is on March 31, 2023
March 31, 2023
House on Fire is a touching and thought-provoking novel that explores the challenges of caring for an elderly family member. Liebhart tackles the sensitive issue of humane euthanasia and delves into the question of when a family member can decide to discontinue care or assist in death.
The story follows a family struggling to provide care for their father, who has dementia and has become violent, putting himself and others at risk. He had made his family promise never to put him in a care facility, and they believe he wouldn't have wanted to continue living in this way. When Bernadette's mother asks her to help end her father's life, Bernadette is faced with a difficult decision. Should she assist in euthanizing him, or force her family to put him in a care facility against his wishes?
Liebhart offers a commentary on the complex decisions caregivers must make when an elderly loved one's quality of life has significantly deteriorated. While most families want to care for their aging parents and grandparents themselves, the novel delves deeper into the complexities of caregiving and raises important questions about our responsibilities as caregivers and the difficult decisions we may have to make.
Overall, House on Fire is a powerful and challenging read that opens the dialogue on what care is appropriate now with the medical advances and abilities available to us. As I read, I often found myself in tears or feeling quite distraught, knowing that these are decisions we all will likely face. I highly recommend this novel, especially as it prompts us to consider the difficult choices that may lie ahead.
Thank you NetGalley and Liebhart for this ARC!
The story follows a family struggling to provide care for their father, who has dementia and has become violent, putting himself and others at risk. He had made his family promise never to put him in a care facility, and they believe he wouldn't have wanted to continue living in this way. When Bernadette's mother asks her to help end her father's life, Bernadette is faced with a difficult decision. Should she assist in euthanizing him, or force her family to put him in a care facility against his wishes?
Liebhart offers a commentary on the complex decisions caregivers must make when an elderly loved one's quality of life has significantly deteriorated. While most families want to care for their aging parents and grandparents themselves, the novel delves deeper into the complexities of caregiving and raises important questions about our responsibilities as caregivers and the difficult decisions we may have to make.
Overall, House on Fire is a powerful and challenging read that opens the dialogue on what care is appropriate now with the medical advances and abilities available to us. As I read, I often found myself in tears or feeling quite distraught, knowing that these are decisions we all will likely face. I highly recommend this novel, especially as it prompts us to consider the difficult choices that may lie ahead.
Thank you NetGalley and Liebhart for this ARC!
April 5, 2023
*Thank you to the publishers and to Netgalley for providing a free e-copy in exchange for honest review.*
Actual Rating: 2.2
This book had one of the most intriguing first lines that I’d seen: “My mother asked me to kill my father on Christmas.” Right off the bat, it establishes so much tension into the character dynamics. The tone is immediately serious, and I was curious what kind of mother would request this of her children, even one that recited it as nonchalantly as our narrator did.
House on Fire starts on Christmas Day. Bernadette, an ICU nurse, is pulled aside by her mother and asked a favor: euthanize her dementia-ridden father. Their family is burdened by an age-old promise to never put him in a nursing home, but his condition continues to worsen. What follows over the next two weeks is Bernadette’s emotional turmoil — coupled with a bunch of really really bad things happening.
I think the earlier parts of the book were my favorite. We saw Bernadette’s internal conflict and learned about her dynamic with other characters through flashbacks. The book did a very good job making it feel like the clock was counting down.
Gradually, however, the book introduces more and more side plots and events — Bernadette has to deal with a mentally ill son, a tragedy, relationship issues and more. These are both more interesting tangents but they also feel like random external forces that were used to push the story along.
I honestly would’ve been fine if there was none of that and if the book was instead filled with more conversations between characters with different moral perspectives. That dialogue is really where the book shines.
By the end, everything felt pretty anticlimactic. It’s difficult to feel emotionally invested in everyone’s perspectives on the euthanasia issue when the plot had swerved so far away from it as a source of introspection. When the original plot resurfaced at the end, it felt more like a reminder.
Overall, I just think the novel tried to insert too much drama instead of really digging its claws into the one plot that already had enough moral questions to cover.
January 15, 2023
“House on Fire” resonated with me in some unexpected ways. From the opening paragraph, I found myself drawn into Bernadette’s world, and wondered what I would do were I in her shoes. Considering that so many of us are faced with the realities of aging parents, the subject matter becomes all the more palpable. Ms. Liebhart has skillfully fleshed out Bernadette and the supporting characters into people I found myself empathisizing with. I’m sure many readers may identify with Bernadette’s challenge of helping to keep an eye on her parents while also raising her own child with special needs. Add a full time nursing career to the mix and one can see why her world is rapidly imploding. The book is a real page turner, with some unexpected twists and turns as the story unfolds. Considering the complex subject matter, and the heart wrenching choices the characters are challenged by, this book would be an excellent addition for a book club discussion. I’m still not certain what I would decide to do were I in Bernadette’s shoes. And I hope that I don’t need to make such a difficult decision anytime soon. Highly recommended!
January 30, 2023
“house on fire” is a novel about the bonds of an atypical family as they struggle with the realization that the patriarch of their family has dementia. bernadette has an estranged relationship with her husband and an unruly child, her sister colleen has a slew of children with her roman catholic husband, and her mother helen is contemplating assisted suicide (which is not legal) for her ailing husband.
there were a few wonderful moments where the struggle of dealing with dementia is very powerful and expertly written. however, i did not care to hear so much about bernadette’s best friend. the end was very hastily written and it concludes far too quickly with little resolution. the prose is wonderful, the flashbacks add to the piece rather than detract, but the ending is a huge let down.
thank you to netgalley and the publisher for an arc in exchange for an honest review!
there were a few wonderful moments where the struggle of dealing with dementia is very powerful and expertly written. however, i did not care to hear so much about bernadette’s best friend. the end was very hastily written and it concludes far too quickly with little resolution. the prose is wonderful, the flashbacks add to the piece rather than detract, but the ending is a huge let down.
thank you to netgalley and the publisher for an arc in exchange for an honest review!
April 13, 2023
The premise for this story is How Far Would You Go to Keep a Promise?
The promise is one that a family make to a father that if the time comes he would not be put in a nursing home.
The promise was made when the children were small - and does it stand up when Bernie's father is disappearing into his one Alzheimer's world and his elderly wife - his sole carer - cannot manage any longer.
Would you rather kill your father than break a promise which he clearly cannot remember?
This theme is morally debated between main protagonist Bernie and her sister Colleen. Bernie is an ICU nurse and sees death every day. Sometimes welcoming it for her patients. Colleen has religious views about killing and how its God's decision when someone dies. Brother Adam takes the practical view in that he seems not to have one except in that you cannot beholden to a promise you were asked to make when you were a child and could not decide otherwise.
This debate is big part, but it is only a part of this thoughtful and entertaining family relationship drama. Bernie has her own issues and her own tragedies to deal with. But at the heart of it is what is best for her father - the one person we have no idea what is thinking as we are never told.
Thank you to the publisher and to Netgalley for an advance ARC in return for my honest review.
The promise is one that a family make to a father that if the time comes he would not be put in a nursing home.
The promise was made when the children were small - and does it stand up when Bernie's father is disappearing into his one Alzheimer's world and his elderly wife - his sole carer - cannot manage any longer.
Would you rather kill your father than break a promise which he clearly cannot remember?
This theme is morally debated between main protagonist Bernie and her sister Colleen. Bernie is an ICU nurse and sees death every day. Sometimes welcoming it for her patients. Colleen has religious views about killing and how its God's decision when someone dies. Brother Adam takes the practical view in that he seems not to have one except in that you cannot beholden to a promise you were asked to make when you were a child and could not decide otherwise.
This debate is big part, but it is only a part of this thoughtful and entertaining family relationship drama. Bernie has her own issues and her own tragedies to deal with. But at the heart of it is what is best for her father - the one person we have no idea what is thinking as we are never told.
Thank you to the publisher and to Netgalley for an advance ARC in return for my honest review.
April 3, 2023
Wow! This novel dives deep into family dynamics and the impossible choices we need to make. I don't know anybody that enjoys thinking about their own mortality or that of their family members, but it is in inevitable discussion and ultimate reality. Out main character, Bernadette, is faced with the hardship of caring for an making decisions regarding her father with dementia, all while also caring for her own special needs child. Hot button topics such as assisted suicide and health care in America are covered delicately by the author, and I felt invested in this family from the beginning of the story. I'm still thinking about it after it ended! This book would be perfect for book clubs!
April 10, 2023
I was pulled in on the first page of this book. The premise is interesting and something most of have to face in one form or another. How to help a loved one when they are not able to realize they're impaired. The writing is kind, but direct. The situations are believable and painful to read at time.
The relationship between the main character and her father is well developed and interesting. The other characters felt real and I was intrigued by their situations as well. Again, I felt it was an excellent portrayal of real life.
Did I mention it's funny? Because it is. Even during difficult situations, there are moments of levity that made me laugh out loud in public more than once.
I look forward to reading more by this author.
The relationship between the main character and her father is well developed and interesting. The other characters felt real and I was intrigued by their situations as well. Again, I felt it was an excellent portrayal of real life.
Did I mention it's funny? Because it is. Even during difficult situations, there are moments of levity that made me laugh out loud in public more than once.
I look forward to reading more by this author.
August 25, 2024
Let me start out by saying … I seldom give 5 star reviews. That being said… I’d give it more if allowed.
This novel is poignant and thought provoking. Its subject material is real and many families are living with the issues it talks of… dementia, mental illness, euthanasia and death. It is very heavy material and the novel reads like a true story. It would make a wonderful movie.
I won’t get into the story as it’s pretty easy to see what it addresses.
… Do you break a promise?
… Do you go against your morals and ethics as a nurse and daughter?
… Do you take it upon yourself to take a life?
So many questions. Please grab a copy of this brilliantly written book. It reads like a true story.
Kudos to the author…
This novel is poignant and thought provoking. Its subject material is real and many families are living with the issues it talks of… dementia, mental illness, euthanasia and death. It is very heavy material and the novel reads like a true story. It would make a wonderful movie.
I won’t get into the story as it’s pretty easy to see what it addresses.
… Do you break a promise?
… Do you go against your morals and ethics as a nurse and daughter?
… Do you take it upon yourself to take a life?
So many questions. Please grab a copy of this brilliantly written book. It reads like a true story.
Kudos to the author…
May 14, 2023
*Thank you to the publishers and to NetGalley for providing a free e-copy in exchange for honest review.*
This story was heavy from the get go, the first few lines alone pulled on your heart strings. It is one of those books that make you remember that everyone has a story and everyone is experiencing something different to each other. The book was completely transparent about dementia and its affects on a family — it was truly heartbreaking. It reminded me of my grandfather and the interactions I had with him when he was starting to forget this world. It’s worth the read. Actual rating is 3.5 stars.
This story was heavy from the get go, the first few lines alone pulled on your heart strings. It is one of those books that make you remember that everyone has a story and everyone is experiencing something different to each other. The book was completely transparent about dementia and its affects on a family — it was truly heartbreaking. It reminded me of my grandfather and the interactions I had with him when he was starting to forget this world. It’s worth the read. Actual rating is 3.5 stars.
June 5, 2023
House on Fire by D Liebhart is a poignant and evocative novel that delves into the struggles of dealing with dementia, expertly portraying the challenges faced by both individuals and their families. Through beautiful and insightful writing, Liebhart paints a vivid picture of life in California, capturing the essence of the Pacific coastline and the valley.
At the heart of the story lies an atypical family, bound by the realization that their patriarch has succumbed to dementia and has become violent, endangering himself and those around him. It is a deeply emotional journey as they grapple with the difficult decision of honoring his wishes to never be placed in a care facility, while also acknowledging the need for appropriate care given the available medical advancements.
Liebhart's writing shines in the moments that explore the profound struggle of dealing with dementia. These poignant scenes are powerfully rendered, capturing the raw emotions, confusion, and heartbreak experienced by both the individual with dementia and their loved ones. Through these passages, the author creates an empathetic and compassionate portrayal, shedding light on the realities faced by those living with this condition.
The California setting plays a significant role in the narrative, and Liebhart's descriptive prowess shines as the story unfolds. From the majestic Pacific coastline to the sprawling valleys, the author's vivid prose transports readers to these landscapes, immersing them in the rich tapestry of the characters' lives.
House on Fire also raises important questions about the appropriate care for individuals with dementia in light of medical advancements. The family's internal dialogue and external discussions with professionals open up a challenging dialogue on the complexities and ethical considerations surrounding dementia care. Liebhart skillfully navigates these themes, offering readers an opportunity to reflect on the choices and dilemmas faced by families in similar situations.
While the novel is a powerful and challenging read, there are moments of respite in Liebhart's beautiful and insightful writing. These instances provide glimpses of hope, resilience, and the enduring bonds that unite the family despite the hardships they face.
Thanks to the writer, publisher and Netgalley for the ARC copy.
At the heart of the story lies an atypical family, bound by the realization that their patriarch has succumbed to dementia and has become violent, endangering himself and those around him. It is a deeply emotional journey as they grapple with the difficult decision of honoring his wishes to never be placed in a care facility, while also acknowledging the need for appropriate care given the available medical advancements.
Liebhart's writing shines in the moments that explore the profound struggle of dealing with dementia. These poignant scenes are powerfully rendered, capturing the raw emotions, confusion, and heartbreak experienced by both the individual with dementia and their loved ones. Through these passages, the author creates an empathetic and compassionate portrayal, shedding light on the realities faced by those living with this condition.
The California setting plays a significant role in the narrative, and Liebhart's descriptive prowess shines as the story unfolds. From the majestic Pacific coastline to the sprawling valleys, the author's vivid prose transports readers to these landscapes, immersing them in the rich tapestry of the characters' lives.
House on Fire also raises important questions about the appropriate care for individuals with dementia in light of medical advancements. The family's internal dialogue and external discussions with professionals open up a challenging dialogue on the complexities and ethical considerations surrounding dementia care. Liebhart skillfully navigates these themes, offering readers an opportunity to reflect on the choices and dilemmas faced by families in similar situations.
While the novel is a powerful and challenging read, there are moments of respite in Liebhart's beautiful and insightful writing. These instances provide glimpses of hope, resilience, and the enduring bonds that unite the family despite the hardships they face.
Thanks to the writer, publisher and Netgalley for the ARC copy.
February 7, 2024
Not to be forgotten!
Excellent book,one that hit home to me on so many fronts. As a nurse,I knew that this was written by a nurse. The. Story was so true to the problems that families face. I related to this situation ,it was like someone had written my story.as I was reading the book.the news was reporting the trial of the mother whose son killed four classmates. There is so little help out there for mental health issues in children.
Excellent book,one that hit home to me on so many fronts. As a nurse,I knew that this was written by a nurse. The. Story was so true to the problems that families face. I related to this situation ,it was like someone had written my story.as I was reading the book.the news was reporting the trial of the mother whose son killed four classmates. There is so little help out there for mental health issues in children.
February 8, 2024
Heartbreaking Story
Just finished this book. It is a story of trauma and accidents and misunderstandings. It is a book of how families deal with unforeseen tragedy and work together. It makes you wonder if they did the right things…and leaves you wondering if you would do the same. Highly recommend especially if you are involved in any sort of family trauma.
Just finished this book. It is a story of trauma and accidents and misunderstandings. It is a book of how families deal with unforeseen tragedy and work together. It makes you wonder if they did the right things…and leaves you wondering if you would do the same. Highly recommend especially if you are involved in any sort of family trauma.
March 26, 2023
I absolutely loved this book! From page 1 your ability to connect with the story line will draw you in! Just when you think you have everything figured out, you shortly realize you don’t. Without giving away too many spoilers I was captivated by this book. Triggers dementia, childhood trauma, death. Overall highly recommend. Beautifully written!
May 26, 2023
#HouseonFire is heartbreaking but at the same time a gem, this book was just what I needed right now . It dives into a situation that I'm sure touches every family in America in some way or another & makes u feel like your not alone in this battle .
I can't speak for others but this book spoke to me so deep . I was in tears at times but could understand where every character was coming from. I related to each of these women in one way or another . I wish I could give it more stars . ❤️
The whole Farm thing was also fascinating to read about.
Thank u #Netgalley for this wonderful ArC.
I can't speak for others but this book spoke to me so deep . I was in tears at times but could understand where every character was coming from. I related to each of these women in one way or another . I wish I could give it more stars . ❤️
The whole Farm thing was also fascinating to read about.
Thank u #Netgalley for this wonderful ArC.
February 21, 2024
How Do We Take Control Over Our Lives?
This novel explores the many ways we decide how we will direct and control our lives; that is, when we do have the choice of what we do. The major subtext is what we will do for others. That is the deep decision most of us hope that we will never have to face.
This novel explores the many ways we decide how we will direct and control our lives; that is, when we do have the choice of what we do. The major subtext is what we will do for others. That is the deep decision most of us hope that we will never have to face.
July 5, 2024
This book had me in tears twice! Beautifully written story about a family with tough decisions going on.
February 12, 2023
D Liebhart’s novel “House on fire” portrays the impact of dementia, not only on the patient but for their caregivers, extended family and those who care about them. Heartbreakingly sad, it depicts the everyday life of one family faced with the loss of their father and husband. I loved Bernadette, our main character, her agonizingly difficult decision, all while tending her own special needs child. The author paints a realistic portrait of the impact of dementia in all its cruelties to all members of the family! The author draws you into this family, their everyday lives, their history and into the toll of a promise made. My heart was hooked into this family from the very first line of this novel to the last. The characters in this novel will stay with me for a long time. The dilemma of the promises we make to our family members, the reality of end of life care in the United States and the ethical dilemmas sorrounding end of life care and/or assisted suicide options are all depicted through this remarkable, everyday real life family. Poses the core question of when is ending a life for a terminal family member an “act of love” vs a “ murder.” Book clubs can have a field day discussing the characters, their relationships, the dilemma and let’s not forget that ending! I am grateful to NetGalley, the author and publisher for the opportunity to read this uncorrected proof in exchange for my honest review. #houseonfire
February 15, 2024
Sad but True
It was a very good story, family Love the best kind. Sometimes you have to do something to help others. Colleen Loved her father so much she couldn’t watch him drindle away.
It was a very good story, family Love the best kind. Sometimes you have to do something to help others. Colleen Loved her father so much she couldn’t watch him drindle away.
February 11, 2024
Great and true to life
As a hospice and palliative nurse practitioner I see this struggle everyday. It's truly heartbreakingbut a fact of life. Thanks for bringing it to the forefront.
As a hospice and palliative nurse practitioner I see this struggle everyday. It's truly heartbreakingbut a fact of life. Thanks for bringing it to the forefront.
June 24, 2024
House on Fire
A tough issue looked at through the lens of a family struggling with it. There’s never a good answer, only the answer you live with.
A tough issue looked at through the lens of a family struggling with it. There’s never a good answer, only the answer you live with.
January 15, 2023
I'm so grateful I had the opportunity to read an advance copy of this compelling novel that's filled with gorgeous lines and keen observations. If you're like many who are caught between caring for aging parents and teenagers while working in a demanding career, you'll relate to the challenges Bernadette Rogers faces—all with courage and her trademark wry humor. The will-she-or-won't-she suspense will keep you turning pages quickly even as you want to linger over sentences like this one, "I want to go out in an instant. I don’t want to disappear in little pieces, like God is crushing stars between his fingers until the whole sky is dark."
January 22, 2023
I was drawn into this book from the first line..."My mother asked me to kill my father on Christmas".
This story is told from the point of view of Bernadette, a nurse, whose father has dementia. Her mother asks her to euthanize him because of a promise that the family made many years ago to never put him in a nursing home.
I was interested reading about Bernadette and her family dynamics, the communal living on the Farm, and her relationships with Shane, Jax and Kara. The handfasting ceremony and the coming of age ceremony were both fascinating to me.
I felt that the focus should have been on the hearbreaking choice Bernadette had to make regarding her father. At times, it felt like the main plot shifted and it was about Bernadette's son Jax and the difficulties she had raising him or her friendship with Kara or her career as a nurse. I felt like the main storyline wasn't in the forefront at times and the focus was lost.
I also thought the ending felt very rushed. And honestly, I was a little let down by the ending itself.
All in all, this was a well written book that kept my interest. I would definitely like to read more by this author.
Thank you to Victory Editing and Netgalley for the arc of this book in exchange for my honest review. Publishing Date is March 31, 2023.
This story is told from the point of view of Bernadette, a nurse, whose father has dementia. Her mother asks her to euthanize him because of a promise that the family made many years ago to never put him in a nursing home.
I was interested reading about Bernadette and her family dynamics, the communal living on the Farm, and her relationships with Shane, Jax and Kara. The handfasting ceremony and the coming of age ceremony were both fascinating to me.
I felt that the focus should have been on the hearbreaking choice Bernadette had to make regarding her father. At times, it felt like the main plot shifted and it was about Bernadette's son Jax and the difficulties she had raising him or her friendship with Kara or her career as a nurse. I felt like the main storyline wasn't in the forefront at times and the focus was lost.
I also thought the ending felt very rushed. And honestly, I was a little let down by the ending itself.
All in all, this was a well written book that kept my interest. I would definitely like to read more by this author.
Thank you to Victory Editing and Netgalley for the arc of this book in exchange for my honest review. Publishing Date is March 31, 2023.
April 15, 2023
From the first sentence, "My mother asked me to kill my father on Christmas," to the very last, this book captured my attention completely. Despite being literary fiction, the pace is that of a thriller, not a wasted chapter, page, sentence or even word. The premise is engaging and the characters well developed. Liebhart does a wonderful job exploring the impossible situation of dementia, but there is enough quirkiness and humor that I didn't get bogged down and want to kill myself, despite the heavy subject matter. I found myself both utterly surprised and completely satisfied by the ending--a perfect ending to a wonderful read. This is an incredibly skilled author. I eagerly await her next book.
March 24, 2023
Thank you to the author D. Liebhart, the publisher Victory Editing, and Netgalley for the ARC of this book in exchange for my honest review.
Thank you also for being my FIRST ARC!! <3
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This book is described as ideal for fans of Jodi Picoult and promises a two-week roller coaster of emotional life events. I've read Picoult's "Small Great Things" and enjoyed it, despite the predictability. I came into "House On Fire" with expectations of a similar ride, that I'd be in for a tale about morality and how there's no clear right or wrong path forward, that life is never black or white but is full of shades of gray and that a terrible thing, like murdering/euthanizing your father could be simultaneously terrible and completely logical. I was ready to cry with the main character, Bernadette/Bernie/Bee, as she mourned the gradual loss of her father as he slipped further into dementia. I too have dealt with the loss of a father and maybe I was even hoping to find a friend, of sorts, in Bee.
I did not.
Very mild, but nonspecific, spoilers ahead, covered by a spoiler tag just in case. Spoiler tag also includes 6 quotes from the book that I found relevant to why I did not find a friend in Bee.
Because of this, to me, it often felt defeatist and nihilistic. We've all dealt with shitty periods of our lives, but this felt like an extreme. I feel confident, however, that some readers may find solace or comfort in these pages, and see something relatable.
I did find it interesting that we get glimpses of flashbacks throughout the main storyline, and we visit Bee over different points of her life. I'm not sure what it added to the story, other than getting to know Bee a little better, and her relationship with her partner, Shayne. Shayne is honestly a saint. He's not perfect, by any means, but he genuinely loves Bee in a truly selfless way. Nonetheless, I liked getting snippets of Bee and Shayne's story over the years. I just wish it had been a little happier. Each moment, from their wedding day to their conversation about having kids to Thanksgiving 2013, felt more bitter than sweet.
While this book wasn't for me, it wasn't a bad book. It was just depressing, in my opinion, but sometimes we need that, like sometimes you need to watch The Notebook.
Thank you also for being my FIRST ARC!! <3
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This book is described as ideal for fans of Jodi Picoult and promises a two-week roller coaster of emotional life events. I've read Picoult's "Small Great Things" and enjoyed it, despite the predictability. I came into "House On Fire" with expectations of a similar ride, that I'd be in for a tale about morality and how there's no clear right or wrong path forward, that life is never black or white but is full of shades of gray and that a terrible thing, like murdering/euthanizing your father could be simultaneously terrible and completely logical. I was ready to cry with the main character, Bernadette/Bernie/Bee, as she mourned the gradual loss of her father as he slipped further into dementia. I too have dealt with the loss of a father and maybe I was even hoping to find a friend, of sorts, in Bee.
I did not.
Very mild, but nonspecific, spoilers ahead, covered by a spoiler tag just in case. Spoiler tag also includes 6 quotes from the book that I found relevant to why I did not find a friend in Bee.
Because of this, to me, it often felt defeatist and nihilistic. We've all dealt with shitty periods of our lives, but this felt like an extreme. I feel confident, however, that some readers may find solace or comfort in these pages, and see something relatable.
I did find it interesting that we get glimpses of flashbacks throughout the main storyline, and we visit Bee over different points of her life. I'm not sure what it added to the story, other than getting to know Bee a little better, and her relationship with her partner, Shayne. Shayne is honestly a saint. He's not perfect, by any means, but he genuinely loves Bee in a truly selfless way. Nonetheless, I liked getting snippets of Bee and Shayne's story over the years. I just wish it had been a little happier. Each moment, from their wedding day to their conversation about having kids to Thanksgiving 2013, felt more bitter than sweet.
While this book wasn't for me, it wasn't a bad book. It was just depressing, in my opinion, but sometimes we need that, like sometimes you need to watch The Notebook.
March 31, 2023
House on Fire is a touching and thought-provoking novel that explores the challenges of caring for an elderly family member. Liebhart tackles the sensitive issue of humane euthanasia and delves into the question of when a family member can decide to discontinue care or assist in death.
The story follows a family struggling to provide care for their father, who has dementia and has become violent, putting himself and others at risk. He had made his family promise never to put him in a care facility, and they believe he wouldn't have wanted to continue living in this way. When Bernadette's mother asks her to help end her father's life, Bernadette is faced with a difficult decision. Should she assist in euthanizing him, or force her family to put him in a care facility against his wishes?
Liebhart offers a commentary on the complex decisions caregivers must make when an elderly loved one's quality of life has significantly deteriorated. While most families want to care for their aging parents and grandparents themselves, the novel delves deeper into the complexities of caregiving and raises important questions about our responsibilities as caregivers and the difficult decisions we may have to make.
Overall, House on Fire is a powerful and challenging read that opens the dialogue on what care is appropriate now with the medical advances and abilities available to us. As I read, I often found myself in tears or feeling quite distraught, knowing that these are decisions we all will likely face. I highly recommend this novel, especially as it prompts us to consider the difficult choices that may lie ahead.
Thank you NetGalley and Liebhart for this ARC!
The story follows a family struggling to provide care for their father, who has dementia and has become violent, putting himself and others at risk. He had made his family promise never to put him in a care facility, and they believe he wouldn't have wanted to continue living in this way. When Bernadette's mother asks her to help end her father's life, Bernadette is faced with a difficult decision. Should she assist in euthanizing him, or force her family to put him in a care facility against his wishes?
Liebhart offers a commentary on the complex decisions caregivers must make when an elderly loved one's quality of life has significantly deteriorated. While most families want to care for their aging parents and grandparents themselves, the novel delves deeper into the complexities of caregiving and raises important questions about our responsibilities as caregivers and the difficult decisions we may have to make.
Overall, House on Fire is a powerful and challenging read that opens the dialogue on what care is appropriate now with the medical advances and abilities available to us. As I read, I often found myself in tears or feeling quite distraught, knowing that these are decisions we all will likely face. I highly recommend this novel, especially as it prompts us to consider the difficult choices that may lie ahead.
Thank you NetGalley and Liebhart for this ARC!
March 29, 2023
Thank you to the author, 9:25 Books and NetGalley, for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
I knew going in that this would be heavy - issues addressed include dementia, euthanasia, youth mental illness, death, dysfunctional family relationships - so definitely not a light read. The author writes beautifully, and draws us into this family, their everyday and their history, and squares up to the central question: How far does a promise given in childhood, with no idea of what it actually implies, reach and commit oneself in adulthood? The patriach of the family is suffering from dementia, slowly becoming aggressive with it, and his caregiver wife is in way over her head and beyond her capabilities, but in vehement denial most of the time. Bernadette, the younger daughter and the character from whose POV this story is told, is barely hanging on, working hard as an ICU nurse and trying to stay afloat, but facing challenges on every side and she can't seem to catch a break. At the beginning of the book, Bernadette is asked by her mother to help with an assisted suicide for her father. This is of course illegal, and catapults her into a moral and ethical dilemma. Unfortunately, I found the ending and resolution much too rushed and unsatisfying.
I knew going in that this would be heavy - issues addressed include dementia, euthanasia, youth mental illness, death, dysfunctional family relationships - so definitely not a light read. The author writes beautifully, and draws us into this family, their everyday and their history, and squares up to the central question: How far does a promise given in childhood, with no idea of what it actually implies, reach and commit oneself in adulthood? The patriach of the family is suffering from dementia, slowly becoming aggressive with it, and his caregiver wife is in way over her head and beyond her capabilities, but in vehement denial most of the time. Bernadette, the younger daughter and the character from whose POV this story is told, is barely hanging on, working hard as an ICU nurse and trying to stay afloat, but facing challenges on every side and she can't seem to catch a break. At the beginning of the book, Bernadette is asked by her mother to help with an assisted suicide for her father. This is of course illegal, and catapults her into a moral and ethical dilemma. Unfortunately, I found the ending and resolution much too rushed and unsatisfying.
May 9, 2024
D. Liebert's "House on Fire" is a journey through the intricacies of human emotions faced during life's most testing times. As someone deeply interested in themes of grief, disease, and euthanasia, I found Liebert's integration of medical expertise within the narrative enlightening and incredibly genuine. This authenticity enhances the story’s realism and emotional depth, making each dilemma the characters face feel visceral.
The story unfolds through the life of a nurse, entangled in her roles as a mother to a mentally ill son, an on-again off-again partner to an unconventional pagan, and a daughter to a father with vascular dementia. These relationships set the stage for a poignant exploration of caregiver stress, the burdens of love and impossible promises, and the agonizing guilt stemming from life-altering decisions about care. Liebert infuses each page with compassion, sensitivity, and a wise perspective that only someone with lived experience could offer.
I highly recommend "House on Fire" to anyone looking for a story that addresses serious real-world issues with grace and thoughtfulness. Liebert’s novel is a testament to the strength required to navigate personal duty and inevitable loss.
The story unfolds through the life of a nurse, entangled in her roles as a mother to a mentally ill son, an on-again off-again partner to an unconventional pagan, and a daughter to a father with vascular dementia. These relationships set the stage for a poignant exploration of caregiver stress, the burdens of love and impossible promises, and the agonizing guilt stemming from life-altering decisions about care. Liebert infuses each page with compassion, sensitivity, and a wise perspective that only someone with lived experience could offer.
I highly recommend "House on Fire" to anyone looking for a story that addresses serious real-world issues with grace and thoughtfulness. Liebert’s novel is a testament to the strength required to navigate personal duty and inevitable loss.
February 17, 2023
House on Fire eloquently captures what it is like to love someone with dementia and their caregivers. The disagreements within families regarding their loved one's care, the repetition, and the exhaustion that anyone who has been through this tragedy will recognize are all present and foreboding. Not only does Bernadette Rogers have her ailing father and floundering mother to support, her son's challenging and violent behaviors have her entangled in a court case she can't afford.
The mood and relationships are what makes House on Fire memorable. Bernadette's interactions with her sister and best friend seem genuine and interesting. The book is set up quite strong, but seems to flag a bit midway through. The major plot event with the best friend seems to come from nowhere and go nowhere, and Bernadette and her ex husband are stuck in an unfulfilling cycle. Despite these drawbacks, the capture of a life when you love someone with dementia is impressive.
Note: I received a free ebook copy of House on Fire from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
The mood and relationships are what makes House on Fire memorable. Bernadette's interactions with her sister and best friend seem genuine and interesting. The book is set up quite strong, but seems to flag a bit midway through. The major plot event with the best friend seems to come from nowhere and go nowhere, and Bernadette and her ex husband are stuck in an unfulfilling cycle. Despite these drawbacks, the capture of a life when you love someone with dementia is impressive.
Note: I received a free ebook copy of House on Fire from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
April 8, 2023
This book hooked me from the start--the premise is one that many of us can imagine being in, or are in currently with aging parents and the difficult decisions regarding their care. I disagree with some reviewers who thought there were too many side plots or who wanted the characters to debate the ethics of euthanasia and unfulfilled promises. You can find plenty of writing on these sorts of ethical and moral dilemmas; in the two weeks this book covers we saw real life at work. Yes, the main character (Bernadette/Bee) has a busy work life AND a complicated love relationship AND a troubled son AND a deeply committed friend AND siblings whose formative years still play roles in their current lives. That's how families work. I thought the author deftly dealt with backstory, giving us enough information to understand the relationships and yet still allowing them to grow during the events in the book, giving the reader an investment in their lives despite their flaws. The ending left me wondering what really happened, and yet despite that satisfied. I loved it.
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