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Limerence Lessons: Fifty Dazzling Secrets From Unrequited Love
As you'll know, limerence is, undeniably, a living nightmare. It plays tricks on your mind, swinging you back and forth between euphoria and the depths of despair. There is no stable endpoint, only borrowing energy that you end up paying back with much higher interest. Any time you try to escape the emotional turmoil, it seemingly doubles down in intensity – tugging at you like crabs in a bucket.
In the active grip of limerence, you'd do just about anything to get some affection from your LO. But whatever you chase can never align with you, so this affection perpetually eludes you - as do seemingly ALL of the positive emotions you used to experience. Until you realise that your bond with your LO has never really existed, and they've never really been the key to positive emotions. And that obsessive love has always been about you, meaning it's your responsibility to conquer the illusion and realign with YOUR personal sense of bliss.
In my first book, The Limerent Mind , I lay out everything you need to know about limerence – the brain science, the psychological factors that make you fall for your LO, and the exact steps to build lasting immunity.
A burst of inspiration compelled me to write this book, Limerent Lessons , to complement it. My job is to help you overcome limerence as swiftly and enjoyably as you possibly can. This book is a precious resource comprising the 50 most life-changing lessons that limerence teaches us, so that you can learn them now.
Why is it important that you assimilate these lessons? Because they will expose you to ideas, beliefs and attitudes that will fast-track your recovery. So far, you have relied on your own ‘best thinking’ to free yourself from the conundrum of unrequited love – but it has not worked. So from now on, bathing your brain in new powerful narratives is absolutely non-negotiable.
This is the third and final book I will be writing about this condition. These 50 lessons make it dramatically easier for you ‘Admit defeat’ and stop chasing your LOJettison emotional baggage that no longer serves youSoothe your heartbreakBe more spontaneous and have a lot more funView reality far more rationally than you have ever doneExperience a much broader, richer array of positive emotionsUnderstand how you must view life to free yourself from limerence (and stay free forever)Create a beautiful vision for your life that doesn’t involve unfulfilling loveCommit to creating a new self-concept who CANNOT be impacted by LOs (the basis of limerence recovery, as explained in The Limerent Mind).
Consider these 50 lessons secrets of nature. Once you fully grasp them, you will be able to waltz with your heart - for you will be its master, rather than the punchline of its jokes. Every single limerent is capable of alignment with their heart, self-compassion, and emotional freedom. You are no exception.
So open your mind, feed it with new ideas, and keep your crystal-clear goal in mind at all times: a long, happy limerence-free life.
It's going to take some work, but you CAN achieve your precise desired outcome!
In the active grip of limerence, you'd do just about anything to get some affection from your LO. But whatever you chase can never align with you, so this affection perpetually eludes you - as do seemingly ALL of the positive emotions you used to experience. Until you realise that your bond with your LO has never really existed, and they've never really been the key to positive emotions. And that obsessive love has always been about you, meaning it's your responsibility to conquer the illusion and realign with YOUR personal sense of bliss.
In my first book, The Limerent Mind , I lay out everything you need to know about limerence – the brain science, the psychological factors that make you fall for your LO, and the exact steps to build lasting immunity.
A burst of inspiration compelled me to write this book, Limerent Lessons , to complement it. My job is to help you overcome limerence as swiftly and enjoyably as you possibly can. This book is a precious resource comprising the 50 most life-changing lessons that limerence teaches us, so that you can learn them now.
Why is it important that you assimilate these lessons? Because they will expose you to ideas, beliefs and attitudes that will fast-track your recovery. So far, you have relied on your own ‘best thinking’ to free yourself from the conundrum of unrequited love – but it has not worked. So from now on, bathing your brain in new powerful narratives is absolutely non-negotiable.
This is the third and final book I will be writing about this condition. These 50 lessons make it dramatically easier for you ‘Admit defeat’ and stop chasing your LOJettison emotional baggage that no longer serves youSoothe your heartbreakBe more spontaneous and have a lot more funView reality far more rationally than you have ever doneExperience a much broader, richer array of positive emotionsUnderstand how you must view life to free yourself from limerence (and stay free forever)Create a beautiful vision for your life that doesn’t involve unfulfilling loveCommit to creating a new self-concept who CANNOT be impacted by LOs (the basis of limerence recovery, as explained in The Limerent Mind).
Consider these 50 lessons secrets of nature. Once you fully grasp them, you will be able to waltz with your heart - for you will be its master, rather than the punchline of its jokes. Every single limerent is capable of alignment with their heart, self-compassion, and emotional freedom. You are no exception.
So open your mind, feed it with new ideas, and keep your crystal-clear goal in mind at all times: a long, happy limerence-free life.
It's going to take some work, but you CAN achieve your precise desired outcome!
204 pages, Kindle Edition
Published December 28, 2022
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May 6, 2023
Digs deeper into limerence recovery
In Book 3, Lucy Bain demonstrates even more clearly the illusion of love that is limerence and the importance of recovery for the sake of our sanity, happiness, and wellbeing. I like how she reviews key recovery concepts from a fresh (and often deeper) perspective as well as offering new recovery tips. As always, she offers plenty of hope that anyone with this condition can conquer it with a serious commitment to recovery.
In Book 3, Lucy Bain demonstrates even more clearly the illusion of love that is limerence and the importance of recovery for the sake of our sanity, happiness, and wellbeing. I like how she reviews key recovery concepts from a fresh (and often deeper) perspective as well as offering new recovery tips. As always, she offers plenty of hope that anyone with this condition can conquer it with a serious commitment to recovery.
October 24, 2024
So Impactful
This book has helped me immensely. I have been healing and recovering from a hopeless limerent episode for most of the year. It’s not enough to know what you’re dealing with, but also important to know the pitfalls and caveats to healing, so that you don’t fall back into stale thinking patterns. This book illuminated where I was making mistakes in my healing and reawakened a new hope in me.
This book has helped me immensely. I have been healing and recovering from a hopeless limerent episode for most of the year. It’s not enough to know what you’re dealing with, but also important to know the pitfalls and caveats to healing, so that you don’t fall back into stale thinking patterns. This book illuminated where I was making mistakes in my healing and reawakened a new hope in me.
August 8, 2024
Lucy makes us Lucid
These lessons will help you stay committed to recovery! Have faith in them! Infinite wisdom can be drawn from limerence and here is proof!
These lessons will help you stay committed to recovery! Have faith in them! Infinite wisdom can be drawn from limerence and here is proof!
January 10, 2026
As someone who has struggled with limerence her whole life, and who is now healing from her most long and intense limerence episode yet, this book is powerful!
It's so inspiring and thought-provoking, offering invaluable keys of wisdom for the path of recovery. As I finish this book, I can deeply feel not only that healing limerence is possible, but that the mechanisms of limerence can be redirected towards healthy and life-affirming pursuits, to actualize a version of self beyond what I could ever imagine and that's more fulfilling than limerence could ever be.
I will be reading this book again, in order to practice applying the concepts now that I've taken in the information, and I will be reading and working with the other books that Lucy Bain has written about limerence.
I'm so grateful for Lucy's devotion to creating these books, as they contain life-changing insights for healing limerence, especially if you're willing to take action on them.
It's so inspiring and thought-provoking, offering invaluable keys of wisdom for the path of recovery. As I finish this book, I can deeply feel not only that healing limerence is possible, but that the mechanisms of limerence can be redirected towards healthy and life-affirming pursuits, to actualize a version of self beyond what I could ever imagine and that's more fulfilling than limerence could ever be.
I will be reading this book again, in order to practice applying the concepts now that I've taken in the information, and I will be reading and working with the other books that Lucy Bain has written about limerence.
I'm so grateful for Lucy's devotion to creating these books, as they contain life-changing insights for healing limerence, especially if you're willing to take action on them.
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