Seeing the ugliness, whatever form it takes – malice, misery, aggression, negativity – constantly defeating the happiness of the people around me and seeing how much useless misery is born in the world and how much useful happiness is wasted, I grabbed in my hand the most eager "why" I could find and started writing, in the chance that I can defeat ugliness by explaining it. I wanted to understand how we've become so good at being sad, how we've become so good at, not only abandoning the beauty of our soul, but also asking its ugliness to show the world around us who we are. Every time I struggled with the question of who gives birth to my misery, I stumbled upon my own weaknesses. By writing for others, I learned myself. Nothing is accidental, not even what seems to happen by accident. It is no accident that there is so much sadness in the world. It exists because, by choosing to do what is easy and not what is right, we don't try to learn our weaknesses as well as we should to prevent them from producing misery or magnifying the misery someone else's weaknesses have produced.
The more I wrote, the more I realized the value of the truth we should tell ourselves in achieving our happiness. Maybe it's time to say no to the lies we tell ourselves and finally tell the truth. This way, we will build self–knowledge, become as self–sufficient as needed to disarm our weaknesses and become happy. Every time we tell the truth to ourselves, we create self–knowledge and every time we lie, we tear it down. We all want to be happy, but we aren’t willing to do everything needed to deserve our happiness. Happiness is the disarming of misery. How can we feel happy though, when we aren't willing to defend our happiness from the attacks of the ugliness of the world around us? How do we demand to live a happy life when we keep on filling it with ugliness? That's what we need to change. CALILO. Create a life you can fall in love with. However, the more we praise change, the more we remain the same, because we know that change often has more truth in it than we can bear. That's why we love to hide in routine so much.
Life doesn't come with an instruction manual. We have to write it ourselves, one mistake at a time. Self– knowledge is the universal mother of happiness. When we get to know ourselves, we will feel as strong as we need to be to disarm our weaknesses and therefore free ourselves to create beauty by neutralizing the ugliness within us and the ugliness around us. In this way, we will be able to change our lives for the better. Betterment is the best cure for sadness. When we learn ourselves well enough to disarm our weaknesses, we will allow our strengths to make us as successful and happy as they can. We will therefore create a life that, having so little ugliness, it has so much beauty that we will want to fall in love with.