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Becoming Shameless
Becoming Shameless is one woman's story of making self-love from scratch. Unflinchingly raw and fiercely hopeful, Eden chronicles her experience of breaking free from a narcissistic mother to become her own person. Her healing journey includes coming out as a lesbian at twenty-seven, redefining beauty for herself, and cultivating joy.
Trigger warnings (in order of most to least frequently mentioned): child abuse, binge eating disorder, homophobia, slurs, and sexual assault.
Trigger warnings (in order of most to least frequently mentioned): child abuse, binge eating disorder, homophobia, slurs, and sexual assault.
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132 pages, Kindle Edition
Published February 22, 2023
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May 12, 2023
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If you enjoyed I'm Glad My Mom Died and In The Dream House, you should read this. This is a short but impactful memoir of the author's life.
It reminded me a bit of In The Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado, in that it explores abuse and is written by an author who talks about their experiences as a lesbian woman.
It's very emotional and at times you feel very viscerally the emotions the author felt in these situations both in the abusive ones and the ones where she found great hope and joy.
This hit really hard for me personally when the author was talking about her sexual assault experience because it was very similar to my experience, where i didn't realize i had been assaulted until after the fact. I felt like the author was in my head because that's how relatable it was.
The experiences this author had with her mother reminded me a lot of the experiences of another woman who wrote a memoir, Jennette McCurdy with her book I'm Glad My Mom Died. The introspective nature of it, watching the author try to rationalize why her mother was doing what she was doing, was painful to read but I'm thankful the author chose to be so raw and honest.
It gets a four instead of a five stars because I was hoping that it would do what In The Dream House did where it centralize each part on a particular theme and then really dove into that.
I also feel like this was very hopeful, but almost young in it's narration at parts. It made sense in the beginning when the author was younger, but i was hoping her narration would age with her. Others may not perceive this as an issue, i know that is probably subjective to my tastes.
Other than that, I think this is a great short read for those of us who love deeply introspective memoirs.
(Transparency: This review was commissioned by the author, however this does not at all affect my rating)
If you enjoyed I'm Glad My Mom Died and In The Dream House, you should read this. This is a short but impactful memoir of the author's life.
It reminded me a bit of In The Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado, in that it explores abuse and is written by an author who talks about their experiences as a lesbian woman.
It's very emotional and at times you feel very viscerally the emotions the author felt in these situations both in the abusive ones and the ones where she found great hope and joy.
This hit really hard for me personally when the author was talking about her sexual assault experience because it was very similar to my experience, where i didn't realize i had been assaulted until after the fact. I felt like the author was in my head because that's how relatable it was.
The experiences this author had with her mother reminded me a lot of the experiences of another woman who wrote a memoir, Jennette McCurdy with her book I'm Glad My Mom Died. The introspective nature of it, watching the author try to rationalize why her mother was doing what she was doing, was painful to read but I'm thankful the author chose to be so raw and honest.
It gets a four instead of a five stars because I was hoping that it would do what In The Dream House did where it centralize each part on a particular theme and then really dove into that.
I also feel like this was very hopeful, but almost young in it's narration at parts. It made sense in the beginning when the author was younger, but i was hoping her narration would age with her. Others may not perceive this as an issue, i know that is probably subjective to my tastes.
Other than that, I think this is a great short read for those of us who love deeply introspective memoirs.
(Transparency: This review was commissioned by the author, however this does not at all affect my rating)
February 22, 2023
I've got a lot to unpack with Eden Simchah's memoir, Becoming Shameless - so strap in!
When Simchah explained her memoir as her "experience of surviving childhood abuse and coming out as a lesbian at age 27," with the caveat of, "I promise my story has a happy ending!" I dove in, prepared for this difficult memoir. It was knowing there was a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that kept me going, slogging through the outraged feelings I had while reading.
This book is real, raw, emotional, and heart-breaking while having a miraculous amount of hope. Each reader will connect to a different aspect of Simchah's life, and I know there will be those that hold this book up while shouting just how seen and understood they feel by her words; I truly hope those who need them most get to read them.
If two memoirs could mix and combine, Simchah's story would be a combination of Jennette McCurdy's I'm Glad My Mom Died and Untamed by Glennon Doyle. And yes, there are all the trigger warnings you'd imagine: sexual assault, rape, therapy, eating disorder, homophobia, emotional abuse, parental abuse (inconclusive, as I'm sure I'm missing something).
Somehow, through all the emotionally charged feelings this memoir brought me, there was also such amazing wisdom. So much so that I will be buying a paper copy to re-read, annotate, and place on my shelf.
"Sexism, racism, classism, ableism, fatphobia, transphobia, and homophobia are all different heads of the same hydra beast. For true equality, we need to defeat the whole darn thing."
Thank you Eden Simchah for the complimentary copy to read and review.
When Simchah explained her memoir as her "experience of surviving childhood abuse and coming out as a lesbian at age 27," with the caveat of, "I promise my story has a happy ending!" I dove in, prepared for this difficult memoir. It was knowing there was a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that kept me going, slogging through the outraged feelings I had while reading.
This book is real, raw, emotional, and heart-breaking while having a miraculous amount of hope. Each reader will connect to a different aspect of Simchah's life, and I know there will be those that hold this book up while shouting just how seen and understood they feel by her words; I truly hope those who need them most get to read them.
If two memoirs could mix and combine, Simchah's story would be a combination of Jennette McCurdy's I'm Glad My Mom Died and Untamed by Glennon Doyle. And yes, there are all the trigger warnings you'd imagine: sexual assault, rape, therapy, eating disorder, homophobia, emotional abuse, parental abuse (inconclusive, as I'm sure I'm missing something).
Somehow, through all the emotionally charged feelings this memoir brought me, there was also such amazing wisdom. So much so that I will be buying a paper copy to re-read, annotate, and place on my shelf.
"Sexism, racism, classism, ableism, fatphobia, transphobia, and homophobia are all different heads of the same hydra beast. For true equality, we need to defeat the whole darn thing."
Thank you Eden Simchah for the complimentary copy to read and review.
January 11, 2023
Becoming Shameless is a must read for every human.
I sat down to read this and was done within 2-3 hours because it was impossible to let go of.
Walk through episodes of life with Eden and you will find yourself angry, upset, defensive, bullied, confused, heartbroken, ripped to shreds, cheering and in love. I saw too many of my own traumas in this book and yet, I found myself contemplating how many other readers will feel the same.
If you’ve ever been afraid or uninterested in memoirs, try again and try with this one. If you’ve ever had a hard time knowing how to love someone or yourself, meet these characters and learn what to do and what not to do. I think you may surprise yourself when you find some of your own story here.
Simchah’s storytelling is without the fluff. It’s a course in reality and she brings a calming yet firm voice to her story. She’s a colorful character filled with too much darkness while the color grows itself, exceeds the darkness.
You’ll close the book and find the nearest hug to hold.
I sat down to read this and was done within 2-3 hours because it was impossible to let go of.
Walk through episodes of life with Eden and you will find yourself angry, upset, defensive, bullied, confused, heartbroken, ripped to shreds, cheering and in love. I saw too many of my own traumas in this book and yet, I found myself contemplating how many other readers will feel the same.
If you’ve ever been afraid or uninterested in memoirs, try again and try with this one. If you’ve ever had a hard time knowing how to love someone or yourself, meet these characters and learn what to do and what not to do. I think you may surprise yourself when you find some of your own story here.
Simchah’s storytelling is without the fluff. It’s a course in reality and she brings a calming yet firm voice to her story. She’s a colorful character filled with too much darkness while the color grows itself, exceeds the darkness.
You’ll close the book and find the nearest hug to hold.
January 21, 2023
Thank you to the author for the ARC in exchange for an honest review.
Eden takes the reader through her life in a memoir that unfurls the emotional, verbal, and physical abuse she suffered at the hands of her mother. The consequences of this abuse permeate her life, and greatly affect her sense of self-worth.
The first chapters read like you're right there with her and in the mindset she had at the time. There were many moments where I was willing her to realize the abuse for what it was. It isn't until the later chapters where there is realization and a journey towards healing. In that journey, there is hope. The book also has some very powerful statements about not having to forgive your abusers.
For such a short memoir, it is a rollercoaster of emotions. It is honest and unflinching. It is pretty to-the-point, which made it a quick but compelling read. Please be aware of triggers going into this including sexual assault, eating disorders, and homophobia (external and internal).
I've also never wanted to rip apart the Enneagram more in my life.
I'm grateful I was given the opportunity to read a self-published work especially one where the author bares her soul. If you can handle the subject matter, it is a read I recommend! 4.5 stars rounded up.
Eden takes the reader through her life in a memoir that unfurls the emotional, verbal, and physical abuse she suffered at the hands of her mother. The consequences of this abuse permeate her life, and greatly affect her sense of self-worth.
The first chapters read like you're right there with her and in the mindset she had at the time. There were many moments where I was willing her to realize the abuse for what it was. It isn't until the later chapters where there is realization and a journey towards healing. In that journey, there is hope. The book also has some very powerful statements about not having to forgive your abusers.
For such a short memoir, it is a rollercoaster of emotions. It is honest and unflinching. It is pretty to-the-point, which made it a quick but compelling read. Please be aware of triggers going into this including sexual assault, eating disorders, and homophobia (external and internal).
I've also never wanted to rip apart the Enneagram more in my life.
I'm grateful I was given the opportunity to read a self-published work especially one where the author bares her soul. If you can handle the subject matter, it is a read I recommend! 4.5 stars rounded up.
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January 12, 2023Thank you to the author for the eARC and opportunity to read her memoir ahead of the release date, 2/22/23!
This memoir detailed Eden’s life, initially from the perspective of her young childhood self. She had a complicated relationship with her mother who would berate her for the smallest perceived slights or mistakes, reminiscent of Jennette McCurdy’s account in her memoir, “I’m Glad My Mom Died.” The way Eden’s mother treated her broke my heart, but her storytelling was honest and compelling.
It was lovely to see how Eden progressed from living with her mom to getting out and away and slowly discovering more about her identity, self-worth, and sexuality, including coming out as a lesbian at 27 years old. There are some important perspectives on sexual assault, internalized homophobia, and binge eating disorder, so please be aware of those triggers/content warnings.
I loved to see her growth and takeaways at the end of the book, including finding a healthy relationship, going to therapy, and finding her passion as a body positive and LGBTQIA+ inclusive personal trainer. There are also a lot of fun music references to Jewel, Avril Lavigne, and P!nk :) oh and references to tumblr! I think Eden & I must be close in age (early 30’s).
Some notable quotes:
- “Hating my body hasn’t helped at all. If anything, the more I think about how wrong my body is, the more I want to binge until I can’t feel anything anymore. Maybe learning to like my body will be better.”
- “But no matter how much I empathize with her inner child, I have to honor my own.”
- “We are not things to be fixed. We were never broken.”
- “Sometimes, healing is just letting yourself be.”
This is a quick and honest memoir that I think you’d enjoy! Note: I don’t typically give a star rating to memoirs because they are so personal. But know that I felt honored to read & witness Eden’s story!
This memoir detailed Eden’s life, initially from the perspective of her young childhood self. She had a complicated relationship with her mother who would berate her for the smallest perceived slights or mistakes, reminiscent of Jennette McCurdy’s account in her memoir, “I’m Glad My Mom Died.” The way Eden’s mother treated her broke my heart, but her storytelling was honest and compelling.
It was lovely to see how Eden progressed from living with her mom to getting out and away and slowly discovering more about her identity, self-worth, and sexuality, including coming out as a lesbian at 27 years old. There are some important perspectives on sexual assault, internalized homophobia, and binge eating disorder, so please be aware of those triggers/content warnings.
I loved to see her growth and takeaways at the end of the book, including finding a healthy relationship, going to therapy, and finding her passion as a body positive and LGBTQIA+ inclusive personal trainer. There are also a lot of fun music references to Jewel, Avril Lavigne, and P!nk :) oh and references to tumblr! I think Eden & I must be close in age (early 30’s).
Some notable quotes:
- “Hating my body hasn’t helped at all. If anything, the more I think about how wrong my body is, the more I want to binge until I can’t feel anything anymore. Maybe learning to like my body will be better.”
- “But no matter how much I empathize with her inner child, I have to honor my own.”
- “We are not things to be fixed. We were never broken.”
- “Sometimes, healing is just letting yourself be.”
This is a quick and honest memoir that I think you’d enjoy! Note: I don’t typically give a star rating to memoirs because they are so personal. But know that I felt honored to read & witness Eden’s story!
January 15, 2023
Becoming Shameless is a stunning and emotionally impactful memoir. Fans if I'm Glad My Mom Died and What My Bones Know will resonate deeply with Eden. This is a very brief read, but the messages will stay with me.
Eden bravely tells the story of her childhood with an emotionally abusive mother. Through her eyes, we get to see Eden recognizing that the treatment she perceived to be normal was not okay. Watching her slowly gain courage, self-worth, and confidence to set boundaries, accept her identity, and care for herself was beautiful.
Eden describes important topics of battling internalized homophobia, disordered eating habits, and healing trauma through therapy.
This quick read was powerful and worth every second. I'd like to save the final chapter of Eden's life lessons and continuously learn from them!
Thank you so much to the author for the e-ARC in exchange for this honest review!
Eden bravely tells the story of her childhood with an emotionally abusive mother. Through her eyes, we get to see Eden recognizing that the treatment she perceived to be normal was not okay. Watching her slowly gain courage, self-worth, and confidence to set boundaries, accept her identity, and care for herself was beautiful.
Eden describes important topics of battling internalized homophobia, disordered eating habits, and healing trauma through therapy.
This quick read was powerful and worth every second. I'd like to save the final chapter of Eden's life lessons and continuously learn from them!
Thank you so much to the author for the e-ARC in exchange for this honest review!
February 2, 2023
I’ve been so lucky to receive an ARC from the author in exchange for an honest review.
I’ve been really excited to read this book, and once I started, it was hard to stop again!
The book is a memoir about the author’s own life and experiences. Eden shares her story of a verbally abusive mother, self-hatred, and coming out late in life – finally finding herself and her joy.
It is such a moving book, full of emotions and feelings. It is written in a very straight-forward type of way, that makes it so easy to feel connected to the author and her story.
It did not take me very long before I was angry, sad, and frustrated alongside her.
Her storytelling is so honest and raw it’s hard not to be affected when reading it.
She was inspired to write the book after finding comfort and inspiration in other women sharing their stories. She wanted to reach out and help women as she had helped herself – and let me just say she succeeded! This book is so inspiring and motivating. I personally felt seen, understood and comforted, and especially one chapter really hit home with me.
I think the book covers so many different, very real, and common issues women experiences, and learning how she has overcome so much and still acknowledges everything she has gone through is very helpful and inspiring.
The book is full of good advice and emotional support. At the end of it, I felt valued – that is just amazing when a book can do that!
In relatively few pages, I feel uplifted and hopeful. I also have so much respect for Eden and wish her all the happiness in the world. She deserves that!
I am so grateful to have gotten to read this book and so happy Eden reached out to me. This book is an absolute must-read, and I am sure it will help tons of women feel seen in the future.
I’ve been really excited to read this book, and once I started, it was hard to stop again!
The book is a memoir about the author’s own life and experiences. Eden shares her story of a verbally abusive mother, self-hatred, and coming out late in life – finally finding herself and her joy.
It is such a moving book, full of emotions and feelings. It is written in a very straight-forward type of way, that makes it so easy to feel connected to the author and her story.
It did not take me very long before I was angry, sad, and frustrated alongside her.
Her storytelling is so honest and raw it’s hard not to be affected when reading it.
She was inspired to write the book after finding comfort and inspiration in other women sharing their stories. She wanted to reach out and help women as she had helped herself – and let me just say she succeeded! This book is so inspiring and motivating. I personally felt seen, understood and comforted, and especially one chapter really hit home with me.
I think the book covers so many different, very real, and common issues women experiences, and learning how she has overcome so much and still acknowledges everything she has gone through is very helpful and inspiring.
The book is full of good advice and emotional support. At the end of it, I felt valued – that is just amazing when a book can do that!
In relatively few pages, I feel uplifted and hopeful. I also have so much respect for Eden and wish her all the happiness in the world. She deserves that!
I am so grateful to have gotten to read this book and so happy Eden reached out to me. This book is an absolute must-read, and I am sure it will help tons of women feel seen in the future.
March 11, 2023
I always struggle to rate memoirs because how can anyone rate another person's own life story? So naturally, 5⭐️ for Eden sharing her DEBUT memoir which was so raw and inspiring with the world.
Eden shares with us about her life growing up with an abusive mother, and it reminded me of Jeanette McCurdy's memoir I'm Glad My Mom Died. Obviously both are two totally different experiences, but both shared what it was like growing up in an abusive household.
Eden also told us about how she felt ashamed of herself growing up, be it her thoughts about herself and her actual self. It was so heartbreaking to read about, but it was so inspiring to hear her story of how she overcame that and how she's still working on becoming shameless.
As an ally of the queer community, I appreciated Eden explaining some of the terms (example: internalized homophobia, sapphic beauty) and what they meant to her.
I learned a lot from Eden's memoir, and it is definitely worth picking this one up. Even if you haven't experienced what Eden has experienced, this is still an emotional and inspiring read.
Eden shares with us about her life growing up with an abusive mother, and it reminded me of Jeanette McCurdy's memoir I'm Glad My Mom Died. Obviously both are two totally different experiences, but both shared what it was like growing up in an abusive household.
Eden also told us about how she felt ashamed of herself growing up, be it her thoughts about herself and her actual self. It was so heartbreaking to read about, but it was so inspiring to hear her story of how she overcame that and how she's still working on becoming shameless.
As an ally of the queer community, I appreciated Eden explaining some of the terms (example: internalized homophobia, sapphic beauty) and what they meant to her.
I learned a lot from Eden's memoir, and it is definitely worth picking this one up. Even if you haven't experienced what Eden has experienced, this is still an emotional and inspiring read.
January 14, 2023
Powerful from the opening words! I became absorbed in this memoroir.
Eden's journey is unique yet has a relatability to anyone struggling.
One of the big takeaways I had while reading was the importance of finding happiness in the little moments or experiences in life come what may. Which is such a valuable lesson for us all.
Quote 1:
"Happiness has nothing to do with whistling and definitely not with learning to
whistle, which basically means trying and failing. Happiness is something like when I’m onstage,
right before the curtain goes up, focused and full of energy. Or when Dad takes me to the deer
park, and I get to feed them grapes right out of my hand! Or when it’s raining outside our huge
windows, and I can sit on the couch all day, reading a new book."
The biggest message in this book is to be yourself and LOVE YOURSELF. There's passion in the author's words when she writes about these feelings. The emotions jump off the page and into your soul. You feel what she feels.
Her observations of people are fresh and on point.
Quote 2: "She's so grounded and present,
looking people directly in the eyes, having genuine conversations. She's incredibly witty, making
the hosts giggle at her unnervingly honest quips. She makes herself belly laugh at least once in
almost every interview. And she cares a lot."
On Eden's journey, you see how much she had to overcome to become shameless. And you find yourself cheering her on as you silently read.
The author makes you feel like she's a friend telling you her life story. Being that the author wrote it in such a conversational manner, you can devour this treasure fast.
Ultimately, being true to yourself and who you are is priceless. That is the direct sentiment I got from this book. Thank you to Author Eden for sending me this treasure of an ARC copy.
Eden's journey is unique yet has a relatability to anyone struggling.
One of the big takeaways I had while reading was the importance of finding happiness in the little moments or experiences in life come what may. Which is such a valuable lesson for us all.
Quote 1:
"Happiness has nothing to do with whistling and definitely not with learning to
whistle, which basically means trying and failing. Happiness is something like when I’m onstage,
right before the curtain goes up, focused and full of energy. Or when Dad takes me to the deer
park, and I get to feed them grapes right out of my hand! Or when it’s raining outside our huge
windows, and I can sit on the couch all day, reading a new book."
The biggest message in this book is to be yourself and LOVE YOURSELF. There's passion in the author's words when she writes about these feelings. The emotions jump off the page and into your soul. You feel what she feels.
Her observations of people are fresh and on point.
Quote 2: "She's so grounded and present,
looking people directly in the eyes, having genuine conversations. She's incredibly witty, making
the hosts giggle at her unnervingly honest quips. She makes herself belly laugh at least once in
almost every interview. And she cares a lot."
On Eden's journey, you see how much she had to overcome to become shameless. And you find yourself cheering her on as you silently read.
The author makes you feel like she's a friend telling you her life story. Being that the author wrote it in such a conversational manner, you can devour this treasure fast.
Ultimately, being true to yourself and who you are is priceless. That is the direct sentiment I got from this book. Thank you to Author Eden for sending me this treasure of an ARC copy.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
February 2, 2023
Sneak Peek
Becoming Shameless
By: @writing.Eden
Publish Date: 22 February 2023
My thoughts
Becoming Shameless is a raw and honest memoir of Eden, who is now a body positive personal trainer. It depicts her life growing up with an abusive mother and distant father. It also outlines her coming out of the closet.
I really felt for Eden as I read about her mother’s gaslighting behavior towards her. My heart broke as I read about how things that brought joy to the author were slowly destroyed by her mother sabotaging and belittling her. You really felt, the hurt and confusion. I just wanted to give her a hug.
Her relationship with her father was also fascinating to read about as he struggled with his own internalized homophobia and sexuality and hers. I learned a lot with her own coming out story. I would have like a bit more detail on this. I was so relieved to see Eden move away from her mother and surround herself with good people and start the healing process. I particularly liked how music helped with that process. Eden also included a list of takeaway points that really resonated with me. A solid debut memoir.
Thanks to the author for the eARC
Becoming Shameless
By: @writing.Eden
Publish Date: 22 February 2023
My thoughts
Becoming Shameless is a raw and honest memoir of Eden, who is now a body positive personal trainer. It depicts her life growing up with an abusive mother and distant father. It also outlines her coming out of the closet.
I really felt for Eden as I read about her mother’s gaslighting behavior towards her. My heart broke as I read about how things that brought joy to the author were slowly destroyed by her mother sabotaging and belittling her. You really felt, the hurt and confusion. I just wanted to give her a hug.
Her relationship with her father was also fascinating to read about as he struggled with his own internalized homophobia and sexuality and hers. I learned a lot with her own coming out story. I would have like a bit more detail on this. I was so relieved to see Eden move away from her mother and surround herself with good people and start the healing process. I particularly liked how music helped with that process. Eden also included a list of takeaway points that really resonated with me. A solid debut memoir.
Thanks to the author for the eARC
January 22, 2023
thank you to the author for allowing me to read an eARC, ahead of the release date.
this memoir was beautiful, raw, honest and impactful. the emotional rollercoaster i went through in just a few pages, is something i will forever remember. taking into consideration the difficult topics (trigger warnings) discussed, i highly recommend this to everyone.
this memoir was beautiful, raw, honest and impactful. the emotional rollercoaster i went through in just a few pages, is something i will forever remember. taking into consideration the difficult topics (trigger warnings) discussed, i highly recommend this to everyone.
January 19, 2023
Let me start by saying I do not like memoirs. On a good day, I can appreciate the need to tell your story but usually memoirs are just not my thing. It's hard to get through the usual high & mighty talk and ego of the author to see the potential writing!!
And then along comes Eden Simchah with this beautiful story of her journey... and it is the exact opposite of all my preconceived stereotypes of memoirs.
Simchah has a heartbreakingly beautiful story to tell and she does a magnificent job of keeping the reader enthralled. Don't pass on this book!
And then along comes Eden Simchah with this beautiful story of her journey... and it is the exact opposite of all my preconceived stereotypes of memoirs.
Simchah has a heartbreakingly beautiful story to tell and she does a magnificent job of keeping the reader enthralled. Don't pass on this book!
March 19, 2023
Eden’s story is raw, powerful, and inspiring. It was like a mini therapy session for me and I cannot recommend it enough!
January 11, 2023
I was honored to read the ARC of Becoming Shameless, one woman's story of making self-love from scratch. This unflinchingly raw memoir chronicles the author’s experience of breaking free from a narcissistic mother to become her own person. It reminds me a lot of the memoir, I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jeannette McCurdy the way her mother emotionally abused her throughout her childhood. Her healing journey includes coming out as a lesbian at twenty-seven, redefining beauty for herself, and cultivating joy. If you are looking for a quick and honest read, then this is for you!
January 12, 2023
This book is something new for me since memoirs are not my first or second not even my third choice. But I devoured it in a couple of hours. I shamelessly admit I couldn't put it down. Edens's journey affected me more than I could imagine but her journey to love herself was so pure that I fell for this book.
January 10, 2023
This was such a beautiful memoir. I loved following Edens journey. From her abusive mother, to learning to love herself- she does a wonderful job of telling her story!
February 12, 2023
**Thank you to the author for providing me with an arc in exchange for an honest review!**
**4.5 stars rounded up**
Becoming Shameless is an unflinchingly raw, real, and vulnerable memoir. Reminiscent of "I'm Glad My Mom Died," it doesn't shy away from difficult and 'taboo' topics such as verbal abuse, eating disorders, homophobia, and the experience of living with a narcissistic mother. It is a short and quick read but written in a way that allowed me to connect to the story almost from the first few pages. It was heartbreaking to read about Eden's experiences and abuse but hopeful in the way she portrays her journey of healing. I can only hope more people will become empowered to share their own experiences and efforts to heal and move forward.
I definitely found myself relating to Eden's struggle with internalized homophobia and how the community she found on Tumblr helped her to discover who she truly was and live an authentic life without shame. For all of Tumblr's faults, a significant thing that it has always seemed to provide is a community for those of us who feel "othered," and sometimes don't even know why. It's a safe space for us to explore things that we're afraid of, especially anything related to sexuality and gender. I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who was able to find that for themselves through Tumblr.
If you're looking for some new nonfiction or memoirs to check out, I'd definitely put this one on the list!
**4.5 stars rounded up**
Becoming Shameless is an unflinchingly raw, real, and vulnerable memoir. Reminiscent of "I'm Glad My Mom Died," it doesn't shy away from difficult and 'taboo' topics such as verbal abuse, eating disorders, homophobia, and the experience of living with a narcissistic mother. It is a short and quick read but written in a way that allowed me to connect to the story almost from the first few pages. It was heartbreaking to read about Eden's experiences and abuse but hopeful in the way she portrays her journey of healing. I can only hope more people will become empowered to share their own experiences and efforts to heal and move forward.
I definitely found myself relating to Eden's struggle with internalized homophobia and how the community she found on Tumblr helped her to discover who she truly was and live an authentic life without shame. For all of Tumblr's faults, a significant thing that it has always seemed to provide is a community for those of us who feel "othered," and sometimes don't even know why. It's a safe space for us to explore things that we're afraid of, especially anything related to sexuality and gender. I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who was able to find that for themselves through Tumblr.
If you're looking for some new nonfiction or memoirs to check out, I'd definitely put this one on the list!
February 16, 2023
I read this in one sitting, in my weekly book bath, and am writing to you as the water starts to because more chilly than I personally recommend.
This is a heartfelt, emotional, vulnerable, and joyful memoir about trauma, recognizing you are worth more than what your manipulator wishes on you, self expression, and queer joy. There was so much about this short book that was personally relatable to me, from the theatre kid background, to a parent hurling slurs, to a further recognition of my personal queerness while watching a certain member of the 2016 Ghostbusters just exist.
For everyone who read and raved about "I'm Glad My Mom Died" - and you should have, because that book was brilliant - this deserves to be known as an indie comp title (and was written after that author found the strength to share hee story).
TW include parental abuse (emotional, physical, sexual), sexual assault, talks of disordered eating, internalized (and external) homophobia.
This is a heartfelt, emotional, vulnerable, and joyful memoir about trauma, recognizing you are worth more than what your manipulator wishes on you, self expression, and queer joy. There was so much about this short book that was personally relatable to me, from the theatre kid background, to a parent hurling slurs, to a further recognition of my personal queerness while watching a certain member of the 2016 Ghostbusters just exist.
For everyone who read and raved about "I'm Glad My Mom Died" - and you should have, because that book was brilliant - this deserves to be known as an indie comp title (and was written after that author found the strength to share hee story).
TW include parental abuse (emotional, physical, sexual), sexual assault, talks of disordered eating, internalized (and external) homophobia.
February 10, 2023
“Becoming Shameless” by Eden Simchah is an astonishingly raw memoir. In this book, Simchah takes an unflinching approach to difficult topics such as enmeshed family dynamics, abuse, sexuality, and trauma recovery. As I read this book, I was drawn to the vivid character descriptions and the fantastic dialogue. There were moments during which I went back and re-read paragraphs and just thought about the author’s courage. As a trauma therapist and a writer, I know how rare it is to have the ability to uncover one’s past enough to express the details of it in writing, something Simchah has achieved with refreshing candor. She managed to throw some sharp humor between the lines, wry comments that made me smile as I read. The narrative voice is strong, clear, and likable. This book is an important and powerful read.
January 31, 2023
OMG - I LOVED IT!!!
I enjoyed how the writing started out simple and more adolescent, but then evolved as Eden grew in the story!! I also related to a LOT of things she said in this book. My mother was also toxic… although not nearly as verbally abusive. Jeannette McCurdy’s book hit home for me as well, just like this one!!
While I can’t personally relate to the societal pressures within the LGBT community, the finding and being true to yourself applies to everyone and can brings our own insecurities to light which then fuels our personal fight to overcome these challenges.
Major kudos to Eden for working past her trauma and fighting every day to heal like she deserves.
I enjoyed how the writing started out simple and more adolescent, but then evolved as Eden grew in the story!! I also related to a LOT of things she said in this book. My mother was also toxic… although not nearly as verbally abusive. Jeannette McCurdy’s book hit home for me as well, just like this one!!
While I can’t personally relate to the societal pressures within the LGBT community, the finding and being true to yourself applies to everyone and can brings our own insecurities to light which then fuels our personal fight to overcome these challenges.
Major kudos to Eden for working past her trauma and fighting every day to heal like she deserves.
January 19, 2023
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
I've never read a memoir before, but I'm glad I did.
The first thing I have to say about this memoir is; thank you Eden for sharing your story. I am so sorry you went through all of that, but I am glad you have shared your story with us because I learned a lot of important things that would have been helpful for me when I was a bit younger.
The second thing I have to say is, anyone who is going through body image struggles, has been abu$ed emotionally and mentally, questioning their s3xuality or has been s3xually abu$ed/r@ped needs to read this book. There are important messages that you need to know, listen and learn from. It will help you if you are struggling.
This memoir is beautifully written. You will be heartbroken, shocked, amazed, and grateful. You will be heartbroken about Eden's struggles. You will be shocked about what happened to her. You will be amazed at how she overcame her struggles and what she learnt. You will be grateful that she has told her story to help herself, but to help you too.
To Eden, thank you for a copy of your book before the release date. I am honoured and I am in awe of you. I am glad you learned to overcome your writing block because this is beautiful. I wish you and Jackie all the best in the future. Thank you.
I've never read a memoir before, but I'm glad I did.
The first thing I have to say about this memoir is; thank you Eden for sharing your story. I am so sorry you went through all of that, but I am glad you have shared your story with us because I learned a lot of important things that would have been helpful for me when I was a bit younger.
The second thing I have to say is, anyone who is going through body image struggles, has been abu$ed emotionally and mentally, questioning their s3xuality or has been s3xually abu$ed/r@ped needs to read this book. There are important messages that you need to know, listen and learn from. It will help you if you are struggling.
This memoir is beautifully written. You will be heartbroken, shocked, amazed, and grateful. You will be heartbroken about Eden's struggles. You will be shocked about what happened to her. You will be amazed at how she overcame her struggles and what she learnt. You will be grateful that she has told her story to help herself, but to help you too.
To Eden, thank you for a copy of your book before the release date. I am honoured and I am in awe of you. I am glad you learned to overcome your writing block because this is beautiful. I wish you and Jackie all the best in the future. Thank you.
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January 18, 2023I just want to say that I applaud this author for her honesty and transparency with this book. Opening up and giving us a piece of her life that isn't all butterflies and roses takes a lot of courage!
Within her book, Eden goes through her childhood discussing not only her coming out story which is amazing in itself, but also the abuse she had to endure from her mother through it all. Her mom may not have been physically abusing her all the time, but she made Eden feel so unworthy with how she spoke to her and emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. My heart ached for her in the fact that she was going along with everything her mom was saying about her because why wouldn't you? Why wouldn't you believe your mom? She's supposed to be your rock, your safe space. So now she’s trying to figure out her identity while being knocked down more often than not.
As I do with all memoirs I read, I do not rate other individuals life experiences, but I can touch on the writing as a whole. I really enjoyed starting at the beginning of Eden’s childhood and moving into adulthood! I also love the cover 😍 However, I do feel like it could have been a bit more detailed. Maybe with different small sections.
Thank you so much Eden for giving me a chance to step into your shoes with this memoir. 🖤
Within her book, Eden goes through her childhood discussing not only her coming out story which is amazing in itself, but also the abuse she had to endure from her mother through it all. Her mom may not have been physically abusing her all the time, but she made Eden feel so unworthy with how she spoke to her and emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. My heart ached for her in the fact that she was going along with everything her mom was saying about her because why wouldn't you? Why wouldn't you believe your mom? She's supposed to be your rock, your safe space. So now she’s trying to figure out her identity while being knocked down more often than not.
As I do with all memoirs I read, I do not rate other individuals life experiences, but I can touch on the writing as a whole. I really enjoyed starting at the beginning of Eden’s childhood and moving into adulthood! I also love the cover 😍 However, I do feel like it could have been a bit more detailed. Maybe with different small sections.
Thank you so much Eden for giving me a chance to step into your shoes with this memoir. 🖤
January 11, 2023
Re-posting review from my Bookstagram (the.looted.library):
Wow, ya'll. This short memoir packs a mighty punch. So much of this content resonated deeply with me due to similar childhood traumas, which can make memoirs like this difficult, but the beautiful writing really wraps up/cushions the heaviness of it all and makes it a little easier to digest. In the beginning, Eden writes of her struggles with living with a controlling, abusive, unstable mother with the tone of a young girl that is too innocent to understand why she is being treated this way. This style perfectly captures what it is like to be a kid and not truly understand what abuse is, if you deserve it, or if you should try to justify it. The rest of the book is heartbreaking and raw and tackles so many of the traumas she experienced and how they formed her into the person she is today. It is a memoir that addresses the terrible things that happened to her, but it is also about self-discovery, sexual awakening, and finding the beauty in letting yourself become who you were always meant to be, and love yourself for it. It is about coming out and letting yourself stay out, proudly.
I wanted to share one line she wrote about her mother that really stuck with me:
"No matter how much I empathize with her inner child, I have to honor my own."
This book is about accepting and understanding the WHY in generational trauma, but vocalizing that it doesn't make it okay. This is so important.
I highly recommend this one. It is a memoir that everyone could take something away from. Just be mindful of the content warnings (per the author): "Trigger warnings (in order of most to least frequently mentioned): child abuse, binge eating disorder, homophobia, slurs, and sexual assault."
Thank you for the eARC and for sharing your words, Eden.
Wow, ya'll. This short memoir packs a mighty punch. So much of this content resonated deeply with me due to similar childhood traumas, which can make memoirs like this difficult, but the beautiful writing really wraps up/cushions the heaviness of it all and makes it a little easier to digest. In the beginning, Eden writes of her struggles with living with a controlling, abusive, unstable mother with the tone of a young girl that is too innocent to understand why she is being treated this way. This style perfectly captures what it is like to be a kid and not truly understand what abuse is, if you deserve it, or if you should try to justify it. The rest of the book is heartbreaking and raw and tackles so many of the traumas she experienced and how they formed her into the person she is today. It is a memoir that addresses the terrible things that happened to her, but it is also about self-discovery, sexual awakening, and finding the beauty in letting yourself become who you were always meant to be, and love yourself for it. It is about coming out and letting yourself stay out, proudly.
I wanted to share one line she wrote about her mother that really stuck with me:
"No matter how much I empathize with her inner child, I have to honor my own."
This book is about accepting and understanding the WHY in generational trauma, but vocalizing that it doesn't make it okay. This is so important.
I highly recommend this one. It is a memoir that everyone could take something away from. Just be mindful of the content warnings (per the author): "Trigger warnings (in order of most to least frequently mentioned): child abuse, binge eating disorder, homophobia, slurs, and sexual assault."
Thank you for the eARC and for sharing your words, Eden.
January 25, 2023
Great read with a deeply felt story, humor mixed in. The author appreciates that laughter cam help us explore
And understand certain pains.
Eden’s story of healing from childhood trauma and finding her authentic self is truly beautiful.
And understand certain pains.
Eden’s story of healing from childhood trauma and finding her authentic self is truly beautiful.
January 11, 2023
I congratulate the courage of this author to come up and share her life publicly.
The crucial phase of our life is our childhood to become a good citizen.
In our childhood, we don’t understand the abusive situation, or the domination of others (including parents).
Eden had a very tough childhood with her mother! I was shocked to read about her abusive childhood, especially her mother. We all may have a great mom who is so supportive of us.
But for Eden, her mother kept on yelling and abusing her to correct her whereas there is no mistake in her. Many a time we don’t realise as well as unable to come out of the abusive relationship.
She realised in her twenties that her mother won’t change, that’s her nature. This situation forced her to go for therapy sessions. She is still in the healing process.
She was lucky to have a good father. Music was soothing her. During her difficult times, her godfather was helping and taking care of her.
The author openly talked about her sexuality, her experience with body shaming and her rape.
I felt so sad while reading the book.
In the last chapter, the author mentioned the takeaways from her life lessons which are extremely beneficial for everyone irrespective of their situation.
My good applause for this in
The crucial phase of our life is our childhood to become a good citizen.
In our childhood, we don’t understand the abusive situation, or the domination of others (including parents).
Eden had a very tough childhood with her mother! I was shocked to read about her abusive childhood, especially her mother. We all may have a great mom who is so supportive of us.
But for Eden, her mother kept on yelling and abusing her to correct her whereas there is no mistake in her. Many a time we don’t realise as well as unable to come out of the abusive relationship.
She realised in her twenties that her mother won’t change, that’s her nature. This situation forced her to go for therapy sessions. She is still in the healing process.
She was lucky to have a good father. Music was soothing her. During her difficult times, her godfather was helping and taking care of her.
The author openly talked about her sexuality, her experience with body shaming and her rape.
I felt so sad while reading the book.
In the last chapter, the author mentioned the takeaways from her life lessons which are extremely beneficial for everyone irrespective of their situation.
My good applause for this in
February 3, 2023
First off, thank you to Eden for allowing me to read your Memoir! I usually won’t gravitate towards memoirs. They really are not my go to kind of read.
With that said, this is a beautiful piece of work! Eden’s story transcends territories that so many people are unsure of. You can feel her vulnerability as a child growing up and even into adulthood through her words and experiences. Her memoir will resonate with so many different people. I feel that almost everyone can relate to something within these multifaceted experiences of hers.
With that said, this is a beautiful piece of work! Eden’s story transcends territories that so many people are unsure of. You can feel her vulnerability as a child growing up and even into adulthood through her words and experiences. Her memoir will resonate with so many different people. I feel that almost everyone can relate to something within these multifaceted experiences of hers.
January 12, 2023
It's always an honor to read someone's memoir. This one is beautiful and a must read book. I want to thank the author for her courage in sharing her life through this book. It is just scary to think that anyone, anywhere, will know your life journey. But of course, hers was inspiring and full of life lessons.
Reading her journey, you will feel a lot of emotions; you will relate somewhere here. The writing style is very transparent, raw, and calm.
It was a great experience going along with her journey. This is just over 100 pages and easy to read. If you want a short ride through someone's life, try reading this one.
Reading her journey, you will feel a lot of emotions; you will relate somewhere here. The writing style is very transparent, raw, and calm.
It was a great experience going along with her journey. This is just over 100 pages and easy to read. If you want a short ride through someone's life, try reading this one.
January 11, 2023
I seriously gobbled it up in one day! The writing is so relatable and wonderful. I felt like the author was sharing these stories with me in person. I loved the frankness of sharing these moments from her life and for highlighting the importance of finding a support team on the path to healing and discovering your true self. Overall, an excellent read and one I’d recommend readily! Thank you for sharing your story.
February 15, 2023
Wow. For being such a short read, this book was packed full of such emotion and power. I absolutely adore Eden’s honesty and bravery, as well as her guidance and support to those with similar experiences as hers. I was sincerely moved specifically by chapter 27; a lot of what she said was thought provoking and inspirational, and I think more people need to be reminded of the things she listed!
I think this book will help many, many people feel less alone, and I think it will also allow people to learn to be more comfortable with themselves, to heal, and to embrace their “imperfections”. I know it had that affect on me! :)
I am truly honored to have been given this arc. Thank you so much Eden!
I think this book will help many, many people feel less alone, and I think it will also allow people to learn to be more comfortable with themselves, to heal, and to embrace their “imperfections”. I know it had that affect on me! :)
I am truly honored to have been given this arc. Thank you so much Eden!
March 1, 2023
Full RTC!
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