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Be Angry But Don't Blow It: Maintaining Your Passion Without Losing Your Cool
A woman's guide to coping with anger combines important scriptural insights with prayer and practical, personal examples as it teaches readershow to express anger without hurting one's life, health, or relationships. Original. 20,000 first printing.
196 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2000
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About the author
Lisa Bevere
102 books730 followersLisa Bevere is a Christian author of the books Lioness Arising, Nurture, Fight Like a Girl, Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry, Out of Control and Loving It! Be Angry but Don't Blow It! The True Measure of a Woman, and You Are Not What You Weigh.
In addition to speaking at national and international conferences, she is a frequent guest on Christian television and radio shows. Lisa is also the cohost of the weekly television program The Messenger, which broadcasts to 214 nations. She and her husband, John Bevere, also a best-selling author, make their home in Colorado with their four sons Addison, Austin, Alec, and Arden.
In addition to speaking at national and international conferences, she is a frequent guest on Christian television and radio shows. Lisa is also the cohost of the weekly television program The Messenger, which broadcasts to 214 nations. She and her husband, John Bevere, also a best-selling author, make their home in Colorado with their four sons Addison, Austin, Alec, and Arden.
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August 16, 2021
Wow! Every believer needs to read this! This is not just for those that struggle with a bad temper but also just the rush of passionate emotions when you’ve been wronged! Biblical, great supporting scripture! Simple and EASY read! This is my new fave by Lisa! Lioness arising is bumped down to second! Lol
January 17, 2022
For years, Lisa Bevere‘s, “Be Angry, But Don’t Blow It” was on my bookshelf unread. Oh, I would begin to read it, and then for some reason I couldn’t seem to continue. Don’t get me wrong, it’s an incredible book with a powerful message about how to deal with your anger issues.
But in my case, after growing up in a home filled with dysfunction and lots of rage, I learned to protect myself through anger. Not that this is a particularly productive way to normally protect yourself, but when you live in an environment filled with anger often you become a victim of your own anger or rage. Then you carry this unhealthy weapon into adulthood, even though it is no longer productive in keeping you safe. Unbridled anger resulting in rage destroys relationships, can result in job loss, and certainly affects your physical and emotional health.
Through the years, I pursued wholeness and healing from this issue, learning not to blame others or to justify angry behaviors that were inappropriate.
Sadly though, I sure wish I would have read Lisa Bevere‘s book a couple of decades sooner, as I think it might have saved me a lot of searching on my own. Truthfully, through the years and studying Scripture, I came up with some of the same techniques to deal with rage and anger that this book recommends. Still, I wasted a lot of time searching on my own.
Please don’t be like me and wait until your anger causes you a lot a secondary problems. By the way, even if your anger is hidden from others, it is slowly eating you alive internally.
Read this book slowly, ingest the message into your spirit, and then prayerfully consider how important it is to change before anger changes you. I wish I could buy this book for every angry person I know. Instead I will highly recommend you read it by giving it a well-deserved five stars. This one is a life-changer.
But in my case, after growing up in a home filled with dysfunction and lots of rage, I learned to protect myself through anger. Not that this is a particularly productive way to normally protect yourself, but when you live in an environment filled with anger often you become a victim of your own anger or rage. Then you carry this unhealthy weapon into adulthood, even though it is no longer productive in keeping you safe. Unbridled anger resulting in rage destroys relationships, can result in job loss, and certainly affects your physical and emotional health.
Through the years, I pursued wholeness and healing from this issue, learning not to blame others or to justify angry behaviors that were inappropriate.
Sadly though, I sure wish I would have read Lisa Bevere‘s book a couple of decades sooner, as I think it might have saved me a lot of searching on my own. Truthfully, through the years and studying Scripture, I came up with some of the same techniques to deal with rage and anger that this book recommends. Still, I wasted a lot of time searching on my own.
Please don’t be like me and wait until your anger causes you a lot a secondary problems. By the way, even if your anger is hidden from others, it is slowly eating you alive internally.
Read this book slowly, ingest the message into your spirit, and then prayerfully consider how important it is to change before anger changes you. I wish I could buy this book for every angry person I know. Instead I will highly recommend you read it by giving it a well-deserved five stars. This one is a life-changer.
June 25, 2021
I have been reading Lisa’s books and going to her conferences since my pre-teen years! She has been such a role model for me in my walk with Christ. And now, yearss later.. her words still pop out & speak to me so clearly! I cried with her, laughed with her and left with deep revelations that I will cherish in my heart.
So what I can say about this book is this: Lisa is going to get real. Raw. & Vulnerable. She is going to walk you through her own shameful tantrums and make you feel a little less alone. She is going to point to a bigger-than-us Jesus, who teaches that anger itself is not a sin - if it is His righteous anger. She will cover the women’s role, identity (in Christ), forgiveness, self control and much more. She will challenge you, and put things in perspective.
This book has really blessed my soul!
So what I can say about this book is this: Lisa is going to get real. Raw. & Vulnerable. She is going to walk you through her own shameful tantrums and make you feel a little less alone. She is going to point to a bigger-than-us Jesus, who teaches that anger itself is not a sin - if it is His righteous anger. She will cover the women’s role, identity (in Christ), forgiveness, self control and much more. She will challenge you, and put things in perspective.
This book has really blessed my soul!
March 7, 2023
I cheated, I listened to this as an audiobook. This was extremely helpful for anyone looking to be emotionally and spiritually mature. Lisa Bevere has a funny way of sharing her thoughts behind her actions and stories that help us relate to her challenges. This will help you learn how to break patterns of anger and/or bitterness and walk in mercy and forgiveness (even toward your own self). Truly inspiring, easy to follow along, and practical.
July 15, 2025
You are not defined by what has happened to you. You are defined by what was done for you 👏👏👏
September 22, 2019
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Anger isn't bad. It's good. It CAN be a good catalyst to transformative change!
Our challenge, opportunity, or burden is the manner in which we react to and in our anger.
Are you the one to seek revenge?
Are you the one to discard (the person who angered you)?
Are you one who stops and perceives that that person's action may have been fueled by layers and you were simply (justly or unjustly) the person on whom they felt safe enough (empowered enough) to lash out? You were, in that moment, the easy target.
How will you add fuel or how will you diffuse?
How are you conditioned to respond?
How is that helpful (positively healing) for you?
How is that harmful for you?
How might you transform your response or reaction to remain healthy? To help others see that you don't have to take their mis-directed actions?
Where YOU cause explosive reactions or responses, how can YOU transform how you handle life and interact with others?
I have learned to hear what others say, and rather than beg them to say, "I'm sorry for...." , when they admit they are not sorry, and, in fact continue their behavior that rattled my cage, I reply, "I forgive you. I release you from this incident.". Then, I do. I release them. I free them AND I free ME, so that the sun does not set on my anger. I get to rest as a person who has made her request and respected the response. I move on and live.
It has taken prayer and practice. I don't let things get out of hand. I hold no grudge.
Overlook Offenses. Forgive, just as Christ forgave his brother, Judas, Free others.
#LisaBevere
Anger isn't bad. It's good. It CAN be a good catalyst to transformative change!
Our challenge, opportunity, or burden is the manner in which we react to and in our anger.
Are you the one to seek revenge?
Are you the one to discard (the person who angered you)?
Are you one who stops and perceives that that person's action may have been fueled by layers and you were simply (justly or unjustly) the person on whom they felt safe enough (empowered enough) to lash out? You were, in that moment, the easy target.
How will you add fuel or how will you diffuse?
How are you conditioned to respond?
How is that helpful (positively healing) for you?
How is that harmful for you?
How might you transform your response or reaction to remain healthy? To help others see that you don't have to take their mis-directed actions?
Where YOU cause explosive reactions or responses, how can YOU transform how you handle life and interact with others?
I have learned to hear what others say, and rather than beg them to say, "I'm sorry for...." , when they admit they are not sorry, and, in fact continue their behavior that rattled my cage, I reply, "I forgive you. I release you from this incident.". Then, I do. I release them. I free them AND I free ME, so that the sun does not set on my anger. I get to rest as a person who has made her request and respected the response. I move on and live.
It has taken prayer and practice. I don't let things get out of hand. I hold no grudge.
Overlook Offenses. Forgive, just as Christ forgave his brother, Judas, Free others.
February 22, 2019
Excellent book! I want to buy the book (I read a copy from the library) and re-read with a highlighter. There were so many good and convicting sections. I liked how she explained what anger is and the difference between anger and rage.
January 14, 2022
Loads of practical wisdom in this book. I encourage you to work through the 21-day workbook at the end. It really focused on the practical aspects of this teaching which can be applied to everyday life.
December 20, 2019
Great book to learn about anger and how to manage it in a godly way.
September 12, 2023
There’s a nice sort of devotional section included at the end of the book which I haven’t gone thru yet, but i have finished the rest of the book.
It was exactly what the title and subtitle suggest. I’d definitely read it again if I find myself struggling in this area again in the future 😆
I think my favorite takeaway was when Lisa pointed out that the verse “Don’t let the sun go down on your anger” applies not only one’s anger towards others but one’s anger against one’s self.
It was exactly what the title and subtitle suggest. I’d definitely read it again if I find myself struggling in this area again in the future 😆
I think my favorite takeaway was when Lisa pointed out that the verse “Don’t let the sun go down on your anger” applies not only one’s anger towards others but one’s anger against one’s self.
December 31, 2020
This was a good book with fun real life examples from the author. I like her writing style although the book wasn't what I expected. It was more intense than I thought - I thought this was more about little things and how to handle anger and frustration, but it seemed geared towards those that have big anger issues instead. I liked the writing enough that I will read another book by her.
August 22, 2025
A great quick read, and very relevant to me at the moment. A lot of the advice is very easy to understand and follow, and because I read my Bible daily and am doing a course on anger through my church, I think the book will be better suited for someone starting their journey with God who deals with anger issues as well, so I’ll be gifting it to a friend.
May 29, 2021
All my life I have struggled with anger and frustration. Lisa writes from experience and offers so much wisdom and hope. I took page after page of notes, and underlined so many nuggets. If you or someone you love has a problem in this area, I can highly recommend this book.
June 22, 2024
A great book on anger and learning to let it go, repent, seek forgiveness to those you offend , God and yourself. Scripture 21 day journal pages are included. A terrific way to make controlling anger a habit and lifestyle, not just for a few days but for the rest of your life!
January 11, 2025
Lisa Bevere has written a very insightful and helpful book about how to get your anger and rage under control in a godly manner. I appreciate this book and all that it has to offer. I think I've finally learned how to forgive. Thanks be ultimately to God!
October 5, 2018
I liked the first half and lost interest in the second but overall still a pretty good book. Had a couple good takeaways.
June 5, 2020
Excellent book! I really appreciated Lisa's honesty in sharing her story.
August 28, 2020
This didn't quite meet my expectations but it does have some valuable and extremely honest truth about angry and how to deal with it.
March 30, 2023
Real and forgiving
March 25, 2025
Lisa provides a practical and Biblical action guide on how to deal with anger. This is a must-read!
March 27, 2025
Great book, just wasn’t what I needed , so I didn’t finish it.
April 6, 2025
I appreciate the authentic stories from the author showing her anger and how she overcame it. Really practical books and cause our excuses we make in getting angry.
June 26, 2021
This book helped me take a close look at my anger, the source of my anger, and how to deal with it. I found it to be very helpful. Includes lots of scripture references.
February 2, 2021
I was listening to Jennie Allen’s podcast on anger a few months ago, and she had Lisa Bevere on to talk about her experience with anger. And I resonated so much with it. So, I read the book. I was a bit hesitant because it was published back in 2000, and although some of the content feels a tiny bit dated, it didn’t have an impact on the main message of the book.
If you’re struggling with anger, this would be a good book if you want to learn more about your anger and where it comes from. Lisa also does an amazing job connecting everything she says to what the Bible says about anger. If you are looking for a book that is all practical tools and steps, this might not be for you. That does not come until the very end of the book, although I did like what she had to offer. There’s also a 21-day journaling portion in the back of the book encouraging you to make solid steps towards not letting your anger control life.
If you’re struggling with anger, this would be a good book if you want to learn more about your anger and where it comes from. Lisa also does an amazing job connecting everything she says to what the Bible says about anger. If you are looking for a book that is all practical tools and steps, this might not be for you. That does not come until the very end of the book, although I did like what she had to offer. There’s also a 21-day journaling portion in the back of the book encouraging you to make solid steps towards not letting your anger control life.
May 3, 2016
I appreciated the heartfelt Christian perspective, but I also wish there were more specifics, especially what to do when you feel yourself ramping up. I also thought many of the challenges she discusses didn't really address my needs, where my anger is often directed toward my son rather than my husband or other adults. There is a big difference in handling adult vs. child relationships that I didn't think was satisfactorily addressed. I liked the idea of a 21 day journal/study series, but I didn't end up doing it, as the book was due at the library too soon. The biggest help for me was her discussion of habits, and that it takes around 21 days to make or break a habit. After 5 days without yelling, I lost it completely with my kids, and have yet to get above 2. Dealing with anger is hard work, and I have a long way to go, but this was a good start.
February 8, 2010
Difficult book to review because it was A) very different from what I had expected, and thus B) not very relevant to me.
I had assumed that it was a book on all aspects of being angry, meant both for those who got too angry and for those who didn't get angry enough. It turned out it was only aimed at the former, and as keeping my temper isn't really a problem to me, there wasn't much in the book I could use.
Lisa Bevere has an interesting and captivating way of writing though, and there were some chapters that were spot on - not keeping a grudge for instance, and giving an honest apology if you were in the wrong - so at the end of the day, I'm glad I read it, even if I didn't get as much out of it as I'd originally hoped.
I had assumed that it was a book on all aspects of being angry, meant both for those who got too angry and for those who didn't get angry enough. It turned out it was only aimed at the former, and as keeping my temper isn't really a problem to me, there wasn't much in the book I could use.
Lisa Bevere has an interesting and captivating way of writing though, and there were some chapters that were spot on - not keeping a grudge for instance, and giving an honest apology if you were in the wrong - so at the end of the day, I'm glad I read it, even if I didn't get as much out of it as I'd originally hoped.
July 2, 2020
3.5 stars: Usually, I like a non-fiction book with a healthy mix of anecdotes and personal struggle along with practical application. I almost put this one down because it was so heavy on the personal storytelling (which often felt unrelatable) in the beginning. If you can hang on and make it to the last 25% of the book, it is well worth it in the end. Also, if you listen to the Audio book, be sure to download the accompanying PDF for a 3 week anger cleanse. It is a nice resource to have.
March 9, 2020
This book is fantastic! and honest Christ driven conversation about anger and correct ways to deal with it. Even if you're not an extremely angry person, this is a good book to help deal with anger and see how others are dealing with it.
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This book had 192 pages but for some reason this said 0 pages 🤷
March 10, 2020
Good spiritual advice. Still, sometimes easier said than done. As a Christian I know God grants strength for overcoming anything but it's a process, different in time for each individual. I would still recommend "outside" help, meaning therapy. The combination of spiritual and psychological would assist in breaking bad habits in discovering root problems, trauma and finally confrontations.
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