It's a Breakup Not a Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life - for good!

by Lisa Steadman

Every woman's experienced the Big Breakup. You know the one. And even though it's a devastating natural disaster, after all the mind-numbing, soul-stirring, heart-wrenching pain comes the in rediscovering yourself and your amazing life, of relishing in your girlfriends' company, and (eventually) of meeting someone new-someone who would have otherwise gone unmet had you not gone through your breakup in the first place. Enter Lisa Steadman, author and multiple-breakup survivor, who shows you just how to reinvent your breakup-and your life. No more wallowing, no more "woe is me," no more Sex and the City reruns. With Lisa's help, this celebratory survival guide will help you see your Big Breakup not as a breakdown but as an opportunity to break up with a relationship that's no longer working and move on. With Lisa's Movin' On plan, this breakup promises to be the first day of the rest of your relationship life!

Genres: Self Help, Relationships, Nonfiction

256 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2007

Reviews

[Jen · Rating 4 out of 5]

I only read Part 1 of this book which is the "Break Up" part. During my break-up my family would say things like "resist the urge to text him" or "throw away all his stuff." This book would say the same things but in a much funny, healthier, do-it-at-my-own-pace way. My two favorite chapters was the "Exorcise Your Ex Out of Your Life" and the "Breakup Can Be Similar To Natural Disasters." I never made it to Part 2 "Moving On" because I felt ready to move on by the time I finished Part 1.

I recommend this to anyone who is going through a break-up or needs to give advice to someone going through a breakup.

[Maria Calleja · Rating 5 out of 5]

i absolutely loved this book after my first tough break up. lol its totally written on because she allows you to make notes on the book to get to know whats hard about letting go. i like how this lady gives woman the push to change for the better and to learn from their experiences. if you had a bad breakup i really recommend this book. it helped me <3..but u must stick to the rules if not u just wasted ur money lol

[Kelly · Rating 2 out of 5]

It's a good book when you're dealing with the hard feelings after a breakup, but you're not going to learn anything new from it. Useful as the shoulder to cry on when you've just about driven your friends batty discussing your breakup. The author proposes throwing a Moving On party which would be a fun idea. Who doesn't love a party? Don't expect anything Earth-shattering and you won't be disappointed.

[Blue Braun · Rating 5 out of 5]

A little outdated, but extremely helpful. By the end of this book, you will feel hopeful and excited for singlehood and your dating future.

[E · Rating 4 out of 5]

Help on Surviving a Breakup

If you tend to endure a breakup holed up in your room in comfy PJs, then getAbstract recommends that you place this survival guide next to your chick flick DVDs, high-priced chocolates and box of tissues. This girl-power book by Lisa Steadman, nicknamed “The Relationship Journalist,” reads like a long “You go, girl!” exclamation. Steadman explains that you can use the “big breakup” experience to become more fabulous than before you met Mr. Wrong. All it takes is a little fortitude and a lot of self-focused behavior. If you want to indulge in a cryfest, a new pair of boots or a bit of spoiling by mom, Steadman says, “Do it!” The goal, however, is to emerge from your breakup with a better understanding of what you need and want and how to make it happen. Use your breakup as a vehicle to learn about yourself and embrace your single status as an opportunity to make valuable changes. One gentle caution: Steadman’s basic intent is to offer a good laugh, some female bonding and a warm hug, not a serious, therapeutic method of overcoming a trauma.

[Kathleen · Rating 5 out of 5]

OH MY GOD. Best "get over it" book I've ever read. Seriously, this girl knows what she's talking about, and has tons of experience plus great ideas that will help jut about anyone get through the biggest breakup of their lives. NO kidding.

[Elizabeth]

If you've ever read a book on how to get over a breakup, you'll find nothing new here. It also has also the newly single cliches that pop up in movies: lots of stuff about Ben & Jerry's, wearing sweats, followed by a renewed optimism and strappy heels and martinis.

[Colleen Mounts · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was amazing. I highly recommend this book regardless of whether your breakup happened 1 hour or 3 years ago. This is a great guide to help pick up all of the pieces or just identify the few you missed in your own healing process. Always remember to trust yourself.

[Stephanie · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book saved me. It was great and easy to read. I read parts of it again when I am feeling blue.

[Kugemnstr · Rating 1 out of 5]

Ugh--written by my ex-girlfriend . . . say no more . . .

[Jess · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book for divorcees.

[Samar · Rating 5 out of 5]

It has a great girl power vibe! And love the real life stories. It's normal and it happens. I felt like I had my BFF in my hands with this book

[Beatrice · Rating 2 out of 5]

Use this book as a funny distraction only. You won't learn anything from it, nor understand the situation any better- and without these things, there is no true healing.

[Laura · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved it! I will be refering back to it in the future.

[Sania · Rating 5 out of 5]

i dedicated it to pple wit these kinda problems!!