⭐3/5⭐
As much as I loathed some of the issues discussed and explored in this book, I can't deny Danielle Steel is inarguably one of the authors who brings calmness and comfort to me when reading her books. I was smitten when I first read Safe Harbour. Plus this book really did approach the issue of, How do you actually move on from the death of a love one? and whether or not you are allowed to move on and start a new journey after their death? and of friends gatekeeping each other to maintain the normalcy of their friendships.
However, I am particularly irked with two issues in this book, the infidelity and the astonishment men have over juvenility and youthfulness of a woman's appearance as a partner.
What I want to bring to light is (in the specific context regarding to this book and similar issues that comes with it) when a man cheats, it's because what he currently have is not enough for him, suddenly, looking into the new woman's eyes he sees endless possibilities of new adventure, of a new exciting endeavors which he can experience and start a new, he's going against every grain of his usual being to risk his current relationship at that fleeting moment when he cheats. The man might stick around or might not, but when he decided to keep those two women around him, he's just having a safety net he can fall to.
When things gets exciting and he likes how it's looking with the new woman, he can just leave the old one in the dust and start anew, and if the new relationship doesn't actually live up to his expectations he can just simply fall back into his previous stable relationship. And what's infuriatingly normalised in our society is they won't and don't punish a man for cheating, he's applauded for being courageous and he'll receive, "Good for him"s from other men, while the women are heavily scrutinized for her inability to keep a man, and she is being judged by society and being questioned if she did something to provoke his cheating. And it is very unfair and very irritating to read this book which promotes the mentality that, "the cheater is the victim."
Diana, by the end of the book, learn to accept Eric's cheating by justifying it as his, "last grab at his youth" it's very distasteful and I immensely hated how she was the one who suffered the endless persuasions by her friends to forgive Eric and his cheating behavior, he wasn't reprimanded, no one asked him why he did it, he just simply demanded her to put it all behind them and his friends only listen and sided with him and hoped she forgave him. It's very infuriating.
Secondly, I read once where someone argued how, some men glamorise pedophilia mindset, in a way they glamorised the youthfulness (in regards to their appearance) of a partner. They prefer their women to possess the quality of what a child is supposed to be, slim, perky, obedient, meek, wearing childlike attire, innocent, etc etc. And to acquire a partner who possesses this quality is considered a score amongst them. And it's very unnerving to say the least how this book treats this issue the same way. Eric cheated on Diana with a woman who was 20+ years younger than her, and Robert fallen in love with a woman who was 20 years younger than him.
Also, I literally read 6 pages of Diana describing how good they look, and it creates this superficial quality to their relationships, how it makes me feel that as much as she says, they are connecting, it makes it seems like they are talking, but not.
All in all, I regretted buying this book without actually looking up the book description just for the sake of Danielle Steel. If I had known, I would have never picked up a book that talks about Infidelity, because as always, by the end of the book, they are justified, they are forgiven and they are applauded. Literally a huge middle fingers to all the partners who devoted their life and love to their partners.