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Does the swagger of a sure-footed butch make you swoon? Do your knees go weak when you see a femme straighten her stockings? A duet between two sorts of women, butch/femme is a potent sexual dynamic. Tristan Taormino chose her favorite butch/femme stories from the Best Lesbian Erotica series, which has sold over 200,000 copies in the 16 years she was editor. And if you think you know what goes in in the bedroom between femmes and butches, these 22 shorts will delight you with erotic surprises. In Joy Parks's delicious "Sweet Thing," the new femme librarian in town shows a butch baker a new trick in bed. The stud in "Tag!," by D. Alexandria, finds her baby girl after a chase in the woods by scent alone. And the girl in a pleated skirt gets exactly what she wants from her Daddy in Peggy Munson's "The Rock Wall." Sometimes She Lets Me shows that it's all about attitude -- predicting who will wind up on top isn't easy in stories by S. Bear Bergman, Rosalind Christine Lloyd, Samiya A. Bashir, and many more.

233 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2010

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Tristan Taormino

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Tristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of seven books, including her latest, The Feminist Porn Book, 50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM, The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation, The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge and Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, winner of a 2012 Lambda Literary Award. As the head of Smart Ass Productions, she has directed and produced twenty-four adult films. She is the producer and host of Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network.

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178 reviews43 followers
January 31, 2018
the good stories were REALLY good. the bad stories were so fucking bad that i physically cut one out of the book because i hated it so much. usually if i've got mixed feelings about anthologies i'll review em based on the best stories, but the ones i didn't like here were worth knocking it down a star, lmao.

that said, a lot of good, sexy stuff worth reading. favorites were "sometimes she lets me," "sweet thing" (a classic), "fee fie foe femme," and "butches don't." excited to share em with my girl. the one i absolutely loathed with every part of my soul was "angie's daddy." don't bother with it
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279 reviews64 followers
October 17, 2024
HMMM really surprised to see no one here mentioning the overall theme of coercion present in most of the entries in this... sometimes it didn't read that way and other times it would read like literal r*pe fantasies and i had to skip. there's this weird fixation lesbian fiction from the early 2000s has on turning "regressive" stereotypes on it's head (butches get penetrated! femmes top! wah wah!) that isn't really my thing but i don't hate, but so many entries to this were written as literal pre-meditative coercion that it was hard to enjoy. was really weird to read in a butchfemme book specifically, felt like things you'd be much more likely to find in general lesbian collections.

there are a few entries in this that were really good (particularly s. bear bergman's butch4butch piece - i think the marker of a good erotica is when you aren't represented or it's not a kink you're normally into and can find hot in a piece) but they're overshadowed by the amount of .... bad. like the piece about the off duty cop picking up straight girls??? lmao what even
101 reviews16 followers
April 27, 2020
when it was good it was very very good, but when it was bad it was horrid
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Author 78 books40 followers
March 11, 2011
This anthology, edited by the former (and first) series editor of the annual "Best Lesbian Erotica" anthologies from Cleis Press, seems to have been largely picked from past editions. On the one hand, this repackaging (or repacking) of reprint stories looks like a ploy to milk even more profit out of the popular series. On the other hand, seeing the stories together in a themed collection changes their effect. The reader can see how many ways there are to be a "butch" or a "femme" woman, and how these complementary identities work together.

In her introduction, the editor says:

"As both separate, distinct identities and identities in dynamic with each other, butch/femme has endured throughout lesbian history in all sorts of manifestations. but it was not that long ago that writers like Cherrie Moraga, Joan Nestle, Patrick Califia, and Amber Hollibaugh were explaining and defending butch/femme to some feminists who criticized lesbians and bi women for 'mimicking heterosexual roles' and 'reproducing patriarchal constructions.' Thank god for all the queers who stood up to tell their stories, share their truths, and not be bullied into conforming to one certain model."

Well, yes and no. As one who lived through the lesbian "sex wars" (which Taormino places in "the nineties," but which I remember from the 1980s), this reviewer has seen slick, silly, impressive and appalling behavior from "femmes" and "butches" -- all in the name of gender identity. In some cases, the charge of "mimicking [the worst] heterosexual roles" seems fair. It all depends on how "butch" and "femme" are understood, acted out and responded to.

In this book, the roles or identities are often clarified by being contrasted with each other. A lesbian in nondescript clothes enters a queer bar, sees someone tempting (either a muscular woman posing in leather, denim and barely-hidden strap-on, or a babe in lipstick, fishnets and stilettos) and goes into action as the opposite type. In the most endearing stories, both central characters try to live up to each other's desires, and often succeed. In the elegantly simple "Look but Don't Touch" by Sparky, a butch observer ("you") admires the femme performers in a peep show:

"Five women in red-gold light are surrounded by mirrors. Dancing naked with their own lush bodies, with the mirrors reflecting silver and red flashes, girls upon girls, like the room is packed. One comes over to see you, dances before you . . . She shows you her breasts; their skin looks impossibly smooth and clean, with golden-rimmed, small nipples. You see the hollow of her throat, her collarbone, her little belly.

“She is the loveliest being on the planet."

Despite the hypnotic appeal of the dancers' bodies for the observer, it is the mutual appreciation of the dancers for their admirer and vice versa that makes this story both sweet and sexy, despite the cold glass that prevents physical contact.

Lynne Jamneck's "Voodoo and Tattoos" is another story about the eroticism of watching. In this story, a butch bartender identifies with the tattooed butch partner of a Power Femme who invited the observer to a hotel room after-hours to watch them fuck. "Does She Look Like a Boy?" by Tara-Michelle Ziniuk is a postmodern double-whammy of a story about two characters who both wear their gender roles as a disguise.

Several of these stories are about sweet revenge for gender-based exploitation and exclusion. In "Night Crawler" by Kristen Porter, the narrator is a femme avenger whose mission is to teach uncouth butch womanizers a lesson in manners. In "Homecoming Queen" by Anna Watson, a femme reconnects with the outsider in her high school, a lonely butch who was ignored by all the popular girls, including the femme who now finds her hot. In a role-playing scene, both adult women pretend to be teenagers having secretive sex in the butch's family home as she gloats over the eager femme: "Who has you now?"

In the deeply funny and moving "Anonymous" by Amie Evans, a femme decides to pick up a bar dyke for a night of hot, rough, anonymous sex, completely devoid of sucky feminine expectations that this hook-up will turn into a Relationship. Neither of the women is experienced at this kind of scene, but they both like it so much that they shyly exchange names once they have recovered from gasping, heart-pounding orgasms. They agree to meet again to act out another scene, which will probably lead to another. So much for anonymity.

"Roulette" by Shannon Cummings is another comic but more disturbing story about a femme who uses and deceives a butch by pretending she can't possibly be aroused by anyone else. I was present at a reading from Best Lesbian Erotica 2005 in San Francisco at which the author read a passage from this story. She was a charismatic performer, but the general mood of the audience seemed uneasy. Many of those listening seemed unsure of whether the author was actually as sleazy as her narrator.

A few of the stories here are about femme-on-femme action ("Fee Fie Foe Femme" by Elaine Miller) and some are about brotherly sex between butches ("Butches Don't" by D. Alexandria). In these cases, the characters enjoy the thrill of doing something outside the unspoken rules of a gender-based community - but without breaking out of role completely.

Most of these stories will look familiar to fans of the "Best Lesbian Erotica" series. For those who haven’t read the volumes in which these stories first appeared, this book is a second chance to discover them.
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Profile Image for Sassafras Patterdale.
Author 21 books195 followers
July 4, 2014
super hot! super queer! if you are hot for butch/femme dynamics take a look at this!
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May 2, 2023
I personally felt this was worth picking up just for the good stories, and I skipped the ones that didn't intrigue me upon a first read, so I'm not rating-- I feel like, even if I had read everything, I wouldn't know enough about lesbian erotica (or erotica or lesbians) to seriously give this a star quality. Additionally, I'm not a first-person porn fan, so I often missed out on enjoyment solely for an arbitrary prose preference-- when I wasn't skimming lines for prose I thought had issues like show/tell and similar Literary Bullshit. Maybe I'm too up my own ass, and not in a fun way. All I can say is that I recommend the stories that are my favorites.

And here those are! Top 8 of 24, with stars for my absolute favorites.

LESSONS by S. Bear Bergman

I've said it before and I'll say it again: if a story can make me understand a kink I am not remotely into, it's a good one. I'm not into ass stuff, but this was so well written it really didn't matter. The relationship between the leads is so nicely fleshed-out that I could believe there was more to them in other stories.

☆ ANONYMOUS by Amie M. Evans

This has the exact kind of playful d/s situation I personally like; one where both participants can't quite keep up the act and end up giggling about it like they're playing house. I don't know why this is my thing but it is and this did such a good job with it. I do question the description of the femme as having a white ass because why does it matter what does this mean but I accept sometimes one word doesn't do it for me.

COP-OUT by Rosalind Christine Lloyd

The ACAB leaving my body when a stud cop pretends to be a man to pick up straight women at the club... I wish I could say I was above pretending-to-be-a-man storylines (there is something iffy about the consent of the straight women in these scenarios) but apparently I am not!

DOES SHE LOOK LIKE A BOY? by Tara-Michelle Ziniuk

Again: I wish I could say I was above sex-worker-getting-into-the-action stories, or finding-out-someone's-gender-in-a-way-which-is-impossible-IRL stories, but here I am. And good Lord was this a fine butch4butch story with two very different butch aesthetics.

ROULETTE by Shannon Cummings

So I'm above nothing. I will say that the weird mindgame jealousy stuff in this honestly wasn't my thing... but, listen, roulette of butches? Of different kinds of extremely hot butches? I melted. I admit it.

☆ LOOK BUT DON'T TOUCH / Sparky

I just liked the prose style of this one. Second person POV, lovely descriptions, really convincing as something that's just happening to someone and with a lot of emotion towards the end.

BUTCHES DON'T / D. Alexandria

Oops! All Butches. But what can I say! I love butches, and there is possibly nothing hotter than butch4butch "is it gay if" porn. I feel like everybody is sick of me talking about how I just want yaoi to be two girls so let's just say this one was good and move on. Bonus points for watching porn together which is something I personally start sweating at the thought of IRL but find very fun in fiction.

THE DINER ON THE CORNER / Sinclair Sexsmith

OK so maybe I am all aesthetic because this one, honestly, was not sexually speaking my thing at all... but oh my God it's in a diner you guys! They're in a diner! They fuck in a freezer! It's in a diner, and that alone nets cuteness points. I think a lot of smut is just how you're going to make the sex interesting, and this definitely worked.


I will say that I feel like a lot of stories were repetitive in vibe; I don't really know how to explain this other than feeling like I was being sat in a box rather than taken outside of it. When the book does seemingly get adventurous (Angie's Daddy is something so specific I'm not even certain I'm comfortable with it being labeled erotica) it isn't necessarily to its benefit. I would have liked to see more out-of-the-way sexual interests, more polyamory, more trans(esp. fem)ness, more... everything (though there were a lot of Black lesbians!) There isn't even anything, if I recall correctly, that exits the realistic fiction space-- and I did feel a lack there, perhaps because I've been spoiled by Smut Peddler, but also because a collection which includes 'unrealistic' fantasies (e.g. "sex in a public place without getting caught by anybody") seems like it ought to also take advantage of the opportunities posed by genre (e.g. "...because we have antennae that warn us when someone gets too close!")

I guess what I'm trying to say here is that I do question whether this is the absolute best butch&femme erotica out there-- but then, there's been a whole new world of porn since this was published, and I'm sure a new anthology by Taormino would include a totally new lineup.
76 reviews
December 2, 2020
This was my first dip into lesbian erotica. As a result it did take me a couple of stories to start understanding the pronouns and who they were ment for as well as that they're not being used in the traditional manner. After I got hang of the language the rest of the book was easier to understand.

As someone new to the genre I liked the variety of relationship types. It definitely touches on a large amount of stereotypes and everyone who reads this should be able to find at least one story they enjoy.
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August 31, 2023
3 stars. It’s way too damn early in the morning for me to be reading an anthology of smut (seriously, it’s 8am) but here we are and I have no regrets about it. This was a really hot collection of short stories. Not all of them worked for me but there were some good one here. My favorites were ‘Sometimes She Lets Me’ by Alison L. Smith, ‘Cop-Out’ by Rosalind Christine Lloyd, ‘Butches Don’t’ by D. Alexandria, and ‘Becoming Stone’ by Sandra Lee Golvin. Super hot read and I thoroughly enjoyed this anthology.
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May 22, 2023
really interesting view into lesbians and gender! a good chuck of stories were from 2002-03, and it was interesting to read about those times! really liked seeing different lesbian cultures represented too.
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32 reviews
February 23, 2020
this was so fun to read. i did skip the stories where someone refers to their partner exclusionary as daddy LOL. not a fan
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95 reviews1 follower
March 26, 2024
Most of these are straight up awful, two are okay... ish! Disappointing waste of a great title!
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15 reviews
January 15, 2025
Cool to see how varied and specific desire is even in a community as small as butchfemme. Basically my first step on a quest to read lesser known lesbian literature. Some stories (specifically angie's daddy and the rock wall) might be disturbing and weird to read. Easy read, one sitting.
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September 30, 2022
Some stuff in here is really really good! But other stuff...

There's also one story in here that has a transphobic bit in the narration of one story. Expected more from an editor who is a trans ally.
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27 reviews1 follower
March 21, 2012
I think that out of this entire collection, there were about three or four stories that I really enjoyed. It's great that there's so much diversity in Sometimes She Lets Me, but quite a few were just too implausible, and too far-fetched, and the writing just wasn't strong enough to carry my belief. Personally, I think it's thrilling to read something and think to yourself "Wow, that really *could* happen...", rather than something that you know is largely fantasy- and in my opinion, if you're going for fantastic, then go for fucking FANTASTIC, and make it good.

Individual stories aside, when I picked up this book I was expecting butch/femme erotica: as in, a butch and a femme (or more) interacting erotically in some way, together. Some stories are solo, and those I didn't mind. However, a handful of stories are butch/butch and femme/femme, which is cool, but if I pick up a book with BUTCH FEMME in the title, I'm expecting some butch/femme action. These stories themselves were generally well-written (including S. Bear Bergman's), but I wonder if this is the appropriate collection for them.

In a lot of ways, I think Tristan Taormino's job, as the editor, is akin to an art show curator: creating something which is unified and cohesive but that displays unique works, each with their individual voices that highlight one another but don't compete. In that respect, I think Taormino could have done better, but I look forward to the next one.
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166 reviews8 followers
May 11, 2012
Thanks to Tristan Taormino for putting together a sweet collection of toe curling butch/femme tales. I've seen nothing but gorgeous edgy collections of work from her published through Cleis Press.

Favorite stories in this one: Sweet Thing by Joy Parks..."Watching Petey Ginoa knead bread is like watching a thing of beauty. Watching her do it when she doesn't know anyone is watching her is even better." Does She Look Like a Boy? by Tara-Michelle Ziniuk (call girl goes as boy/BDSM/Master), Grand Jete' by Toni Amato..."I can smell you from across the room. It's the scent of metal and blood and deep, secret places. Salt of the ocean and tang of pine needles on an ancient forest floor. My teeth ache with it, my mouth waters, and something old behind my eyes drops down." Lyrical. Primal. Yum.

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218 reviews39 followers
July 26, 2011
Hot! This anthology of supremely well-written stories by very talented writers surprised me because I had no idea that I would find it so incredibly hot! Every story had me wanting to unbutton the blouse of any Femme available and I think even a heterosexual man would enjoy this book just for the subtle hints and tips provided throughout. SWEET THING by Joy Parks got me especially worked up with it's incredible innocence.
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August 28, 2016
I only gave eight of the stories 3 stars or higher. The rest I gave one or two stars. My two favorite stories that I gave four and five stars respectively were "Sweet Thing" by Joy Parks and "Homecoming Queen" by Anna Watson.
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249 reviews9 followers
April 22, 2014
I read some of this but ultimately abandoned it because of the prevalence of strap-ons.

I admire the editor, Tristan Taormino, as a sex educator, but I did not enjoy this book edited by her. That has more to do with personal taste than anything else, though.
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